Transformational Thought
Forgiveness requires that we face the truth. The truth that it was necessary for Christ to die to pay the price tag for our sins. The truth of our own sinful behavior and desperate need. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness. The truth that we need to extend the powerful gift of grace to others and forgive those who have hurt us.
In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment … even when that means forgiving ourselves.
All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But when we confess our sin to Him, God treats us much better than we deserve, and because of Christ Jesus, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins. How can we do less? Are we more powerful than God? Do we have a higher standard than God? Are we more upset about sin than God is?
Forgiven by the Lord, we have both the reason and responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is a choice we make. When we forgive, it really shows that we understand who we are, who God is, and what He really did for us. On the cross.
Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive … on our own. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone. With Him as our model and source of power, and having accepted His forgiveness, we can then forgive others. We can actually enjoy blessing others by forgiving them and freeing ourselves from the power they had over us when we didn’t extend forgiveness.
Our goal should be to glorify God, not to glorify ourselves. But glorifying ourselves is actually what we do when we prioritize our pride, hurt, bitterness, revenge, spite, and other feelings above God.
Today, identify a relationship in which you need to reach out and forgive. If you are struggling to forgive that person, ask Jesus to help You. Then look at whether you really understand and have accepted who you are, the sins you have committed, what you did to deserve God’s forgiveness, and whether you realize the unfair pain and sacrifice Jesus endured for you. Hopefully the gift of forgiveness you received will help empower you to gift the same forgiveness to others. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. I know I didn’t deserve Your forgiveness of me, so help me understand why I shouldn’t wait for someone else to “deserve” my forgiveness before I give it to them. Help me to face the truth. Thank You for Your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One to who paid for all my sins, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Stepping Stones: You Can Triumph Over Fear
Transformational Thought
Fear is a powerful emotion and is often difficult to control. It can freeze us in our tracks and make it hard to protect ourselves. It attacks our ability to trust. It compromises our ability to relax in relationships. It takes over our thought and decision-making processes, interfering with our ability to focus and learn. And those are just some of the effects of the fears we know about.
We often repress intense fears. We push them down and cover up with other emotions like anger, depression, and anxiety, or overcompensate with pride, arrogance, and a laid-back attitude. If we grow up with unrecognized fear as a major organizer of our emotional life, we can have difficulty developing trusting relationships. Even when we do connect with people, we have trouble being natural or genuine with them.
Satan wants us to be afraid of people. He doesn’t want us to be vulnerable in relationships. Instead he wants us to cover up and react in ways that pull us away from relationships for self-preservation. As we practice these responses over and over in those first 15 years of life, we get very good at them. Then when it’s time to start to really open up to God in deep and meaningful ways, those repressed and intense fears put us on guard and we resist giving ourselves to God.
We don’t want to be hurt again, so we find other ways to cover up. Being aloof to God, angry at what He hasn’t given us or our loved ones, feeling bitter about His “unfairness”, blaming Him for all the mistakes we made, and many other ways that distance ourselves from being involved with and dependent on Him. Just where Satan wants us. That’s part of Satan’s battle strategy. We get sucked right into it, hook line, and sinker.
Are you plagued with fear? Today's scripture makes it clear that God is telling us we can triumph over fear. He has given us a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. He also tells us in 1 John 4:18 that perfect love drives away fear. God's love is perfect, and He loves you. As you grasp hold of that truth, you will be able to trust Him more. When you begin to understand how much He loves you, the power of the things you fear will melt in comparison to the omnipotence of God. Just like fear during a thunderstorm melts when your loving parent comes into your darkened room to hold you and give you security.
Today, talk to God about everything. Believe that He loves you … and thank Him for His love. Only then will you be able to walk in peace, not fear. Remember that this is not a one-time event. We need to give all our cares and fears to Him daily, and commit to trusting in His love. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for loving me. Thank You for giving me a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. And please direct me in how to be a better steward of these gifts. Help me to trust You more, to accept Your perfect love. I know that only then can I overcome fear. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One sent to forgive my sins and remove my fear, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
2 Timothy 1:7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Philippians 4:6
Fear is a powerful emotion and is often difficult to control. It can freeze us in our tracks and make it hard to protect ourselves. It attacks our ability to trust. It compromises our ability to relax in relationships. It takes over our thought and decision-making processes, interfering with our ability to focus and learn. And those are just some of the effects of the fears we know about.
We often repress intense fears. We push them down and cover up with other emotions like anger, depression, and anxiety, or overcompensate with pride, arrogance, and a laid-back attitude. If we grow up with unrecognized fear as a major organizer of our emotional life, we can have difficulty developing trusting relationships. Even when we do connect with people, we have trouble being natural or genuine with them.
Satan wants us to be afraid of people. He doesn’t want us to be vulnerable in relationships. Instead he wants us to cover up and react in ways that pull us away from relationships for self-preservation. As we practice these responses over and over in those first 15 years of life, we get very good at them. Then when it’s time to start to really open up to God in deep and meaningful ways, those repressed and intense fears put us on guard and we resist giving ourselves to God.
We don’t want to be hurt again, so we find other ways to cover up. Being aloof to God, angry at what He hasn’t given us or our loved ones, feeling bitter about His “unfairness”, blaming Him for all the mistakes we made, and many other ways that distance ourselves from being involved with and dependent on Him. Just where Satan wants us. That’s part of Satan’s battle strategy. We get sucked right into it, hook line, and sinker.
Are you plagued with fear? Today's scripture makes it clear that God is telling us we can triumph over fear. He has given us a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. He also tells us in 1 John 4:18 that perfect love drives away fear. God's love is perfect, and He loves you. As you grasp hold of that truth, you will be able to trust Him more. When you begin to understand how much He loves you, the power of the things you fear will melt in comparison to the omnipotence of God. Just like fear during a thunderstorm melts when your loving parent comes into your darkened room to hold you and give you security.
Today, talk to God about everything. Believe that He loves you … and thank Him for His love. Only then will you be able to walk in peace, not fear. Remember that this is not a one-time event. We need to give all our cares and fears to Him daily, and commit to trusting in His love. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for loving me. Thank You for giving me a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. And please direct me in how to be a better steward of these gifts. Help me to trust You more, to accept Your perfect love. I know that only then can I overcome fear. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One sent to forgive my sins and remove my fear, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
2 Timothy 1:7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Philippians 4:6
Friday, March 25, 2011
Stepping Stones: A Quick Fix: I Instead of You
Transformational Thought
We all struggle with communicating clearly. Sometimes we have so much in our heads that it’s hard to say it all in a couple sentences. Sometimes it is complicated and we get confused or overwhelmed. Other times, we have so much emotion inside that we have trouble being assertive without being too aggressive and attacking.
As in any area of life, some quick tips and helpful techniques allow a more healthy process occur in uncertain or difficult circumstances. One of these tips is communicating with “I” messages rather than “you” messages. This can be an easy key to facilitate successful communication and eliminate some obstacles when navigating conflict in any relationship.
“You” messages sound like this:You just don't care … You are a problem … Can't you …? You are sooo … Usually “you” messages get the other person on the defensive and often times attribute to them things they didn’t really do and motives they didn’t really have. You don’t know for sure what was going on in them, so you are jumping to conclusions.
“I” messages deal with items you do know. They convey what you feel or what you experienced. Here are some examples: I feel very angry because … I feel rejected when … When I get interrupted, I feel ….
Instead of “When you blew me off and forgot to pick me up on time, you rejected me,” you can say “When I didn’t get picked up on time, I felt unimportant.” You aren’t saying what the other person did or why, you are just stating the situation as you know and experienced it. Hopefully, the other person can do the same and you can share what is in each other’s heart instead of holding a blame and judgment fest.
“I” messages communicate honesty and openness. The Bible teaches us to build up, not tear down. Using “I” messages, we are less likely to harm and break down others, while still allowing ourselves to be open, honest, transparent, and vulnerable.
Today, monitor your speech. How many times do you use “you” statements? Try practicing even in good circumstances. “When I have the door opened for me, I feel special. Thank you for holding the door for me!” Then you will be more apt to use “I” statements in the more difficult times where communication is essential. When in a conflict, you can also ask the other party to use I statements as well to tell you what happened and how they felt in the situation.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to be more gracious in communicating with my spouse and loved ones. The ones I care about the most seem to be the ones I get most upset with and make accusatory statements to. Help me understand myself better and take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth, for my feelings, and most importantly, what is in my heart. Help me to build up and not tear down. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, and not cut them out.
Colossians 4:6
We all struggle with communicating clearly. Sometimes we have so much in our heads that it’s hard to say it all in a couple sentences. Sometimes it is complicated and we get confused or overwhelmed. Other times, we have so much emotion inside that we have trouble being assertive without being too aggressive and attacking.
As in any area of life, some quick tips and helpful techniques allow a more healthy process occur in uncertain or difficult circumstances. One of these tips is communicating with “I” messages rather than “you” messages. This can be an easy key to facilitate successful communication and eliminate some obstacles when navigating conflict in any relationship.
“You” messages sound like this:You just don't care … You are a problem … Can't you …? You are sooo … Usually “you” messages get the other person on the defensive and often times attribute to them things they didn’t really do and motives they didn’t really have. You don’t know for sure what was going on in them, so you are jumping to conclusions.
“I” messages deal with items you do know. They convey what you feel or what you experienced. Here are some examples: I feel very angry because … I feel rejected when … When I get interrupted, I feel ….
Instead of “When you blew me off and forgot to pick me up on time, you rejected me,” you can say “When I didn’t get picked up on time, I felt unimportant.” You aren’t saying what the other person did or why, you are just stating the situation as you know and experienced it. Hopefully, the other person can do the same and you can share what is in each other’s heart instead of holding a blame and judgment fest.
“I” messages communicate honesty and openness. The Bible teaches us to build up, not tear down. Using “I” messages, we are less likely to harm and break down others, while still allowing ourselves to be open, honest, transparent, and vulnerable.
Today, monitor your speech. How many times do you use “you” statements? Try practicing even in good circumstances. “When I have the door opened for me, I feel special. Thank you for holding the door for me!” Then you will be more apt to use “I” statements in the more difficult times where communication is essential. When in a conflict, you can also ask the other party to use I statements as well to tell you what happened and how they felt in the situation.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to be more gracious in communicating with my spouse and loved ones. The ones I care about the most seem to be the ones I get most upset with and make accusatory statements to. Help me understand myself better and take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth, for my feelings, and most importantly, what is in my heart. Help me to build up and not tear down. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, and not cut them out.
Colossians 4:6
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Stepping Stones: Is The Grass Really Greener?
Transformational Thought
When Dominique was in elementary school, she saw a friend come in to school with a cast and a temporary wheelchair, then crutches a few days later. She saw all the attention and special privileges showered on her friend so quickly and dramatically, so … my daughter wished she could have an injured leg so she could have that “greener” life on the other side. Maybe that is what the saying means, “green with envy”.
In a past devotional we talked about coveting being the desire to have something that isn’t ours. Today, I want to look at coveting from a different angle. Coveting is strongly desiring something that someone else possesses … and desiring it for me-centered and selfish reasons.
The flip side of do not covet what others possess … is do be content with what you do have. We often spend so much time at looking over the fence at the other yard and wishing our grass were that green, that we forget to look at and enjoy the yard we do have. So many wonderful things are in our own backyard and, unfortunately, we get obsessed with wanting more instead of maximizing what we already have. Let’s be grateful for what we have!
When we covet, we are also making the statement that God made a mistake. God doesn’t really know me and doesn’t know what is best for my future growth. He forgot to give me what I need and actually withheld what I really deserve and ought to have … that I am worthy of more … that I know my future better than God.
Remember, coveting isn’t just yearning to be a better person, that’s normal and healthy. Coveting is about not being thankful for what you have, not focusing on how to be a great steward of what you have, especially with your most important possession, your relationship with God.
Today, focus on what God has given you, and not on what He gave to someone else. Specifically commit to not paying attention to what other people have. Repeat after me. “God hasn’t given me that now because: 1. I have plenty on my plate, 2. I am not yet equipped to handle it well, 3. it really isn’t good for me ever, or 4. my focus will be on it and not God. My grass really is the best shade of green for me, so let me focus on it, be a great steward of it, and enjoy it.” Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know You know what is best for me. Forgive my disbelief in Your provision and will for me. Help me to submit to Your plan and timeline. I want to focus on what You have blessed me with and resist the temptation to focus on what others have. Thanks for all You have given me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who focused on You alone, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then Moses said to the people, "Remember this day in which you came out from Egypt, out of the house of slavery, for by a strong hand the LORD brought you out from this place. No leavened bread shall be eaten. Today, in the month of Abib, you are going out. And when the LORD brings you into the land of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, which he swore to your fathers to give you, a land flowing with milk and honey, you shall keep this service in this month. When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them by way of the land of the Philistines, although that was near. For God said, "Lest the people change their minds when they see war and return to Egypt." But God led the people around by the way of the wilderness toward the Red Sea. And the people of Israel went up out of the land of Egypt equipped for battle.
Exodus 13:3-5, 17-18
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:2-4
When Dominique was in elementary school, she saw a friend come in to school with a cast and a temporary wheelchair, then crutches a few days later. She saw all the attention and special privileges showered on her friend so quickly and dramatically, so … my daughter wished she could have an injured leg so she could have that “greener” life on the other side. Maybe that is what the saying means, “green with envy”.
In a past devotional we talked about coveting being the desire to have something that isn’t ours. Today, I want to look at coveting from a different angle. Coveting is strongly desiring something that someone else possesses … and desiring it for me-centered and selfish reasons.
The flip side of do not covet what others possess … is do be content with what you do have. We often spend so much time at looking over the fence at the other yard and wishing our grass were that green, that we forget to look at and enjoy the yard we do have. So many wonderful things are in our own backyard and, unfortunately, we get obsessed with wanting more instead of maximizing what we already have. Let’s be grateful for what we have!
When we covet, we are also making the statement that God made a mistake. God doesn’t really know me and doesn’t know what is best for my future growth. He forgot to give me what I need and actually withheld what I really deserve and ought to have … that I am worthy of more … that I know my future better than God.
Remember, coveting isn’t just yearning to be a better person, that’s normal and healthy. Coveting is about not being thankful for what you have, not focusing on how to be a great steward of what you have, especially with your most important possession, your relationship with God.
Today, focus on what God has given you, and not on what He gave to someone else. Specifically commit to not paying attention to what other people have. Repeat after me. “God hasn’t given me that now because: 1. I have plenty on my plate, 2. I am not yet equipped to handle it well, 3. it really isn’t good for me ever, or 4. my focus will be on it and not God. My grass really is the best shade of green for me, so let me focus on it, be a great steward of it, and enjoy it.” Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know You know what is best for me. Forgive my disbelief in Your provision and will for me. Help me to submit to Your plan and timeline. I want to focus on what You have blessed me with and resist the temptation to focus on what others have. Thanks for all You have given me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who focused on You alone, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then Moses said to the people, "Remember this day in which you came out from Egypt, out of the house of slavery, for by a strong hand the LORD brought you out from this place. No leavened bread shall be eaten. Today, in the month of Abib, you are going out. And when the LORD brings you into the land of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, which he swore to your fathers to give you, a land flowing with milk and honey, you shall keep this service in this month. When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them by way of the land of the Philistines, although that was near. For God said, "Lest the people change their minds when they see war and return to Egypt." But God led the people around by the way of the wilderness toward the Red Sea. And the people of Israel went up out of the land of Egypt equipped for battle.
Exodus 13:3-5, 17-18
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:2-4
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Stepping Stones: Maximum Cardiac Output is Undivided Faithfulness
Transformational Thought
The Ten Commandments, the Law, is a powerful tool, but it doesn’t have the power to save us. New life, true heart transformation, comes only through Christ and the Cross. But in order to be saved we need to know the diagnosis, so we need a test to examine our heart. The Law shows us, as we break it frequently, that we aren’t holy. Only Jesus and God are Holy. Going deeper, the 10 commandments of the Law are the main prompts that show us what’s at the center of our hearts and how our hearts are beating, our cardiac output.
The Commandments focus on our relationships with God and others. The bottom line: God and love. The first of the Ten Commandments, “thou shalt have no other gods before me,” calls for an undivided faithfulness to God. Because we have been created in God's image, our relationship with God is at the very core of our human needs and affects everyone we contact.
"Other gods" usually brings to mind a wooden or stone image … or the proclaimed god of another religion. But there are subtler and more prevalent "other gods." Anything that takes our focus off Christ … anything that we devote more time, attention and allegiance to … can become our other god. It might be food, money, sports, sex or a high. It could be our job, a relationship, or even our kids or involvement in a ministry.
It is so easy to get sidetracked, sometimes even doing good things, and letting our personal relationship with the Lord suffer. A periodic self-evaluation and reality check can be enlightening … because even if you don’t check and correct, God certainly does. He wants your heart to beat well with maximum cardiac output. When He has to show us our “other gods” and take them away life feels more acutely uncomfortable than when we find them ourselves, repent, and draw closer to Him.
Today, ask yourself these questions: Am I asking God for guidance … or doing my own thing? Am I trusting in my job, another person, or my own abilities more than I am trusting in the Lord? In what areas do I have the mindset, “my kingdom come, my will be done,” instead of “Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done?” If you find that you have wandered off the path, confess, repent, and begin to refocus on Jesus. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Forgive me for getting sidetracked and making other things or people a more important part of my life than You are. Thank You for the Law that helps me examine my heart. But also thanks for the grace You continue to extend to me even though I mess up and sadden You by replacing You with other impotent and uncaring pursuits. Help me to refocus on Jesus and on my relationship with You and treasure the wealth in it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One to whom I give my undivided faithfulness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
You must not have any other god but me.
Exodus 20:3
For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
Ephesians 5:5
The Ten Commandments, the Law, is a powerful tool, but it doesn’t have the power to save us. New life, true heart transformation, comes only through Christ and the Cross. But in order to be saved we need to know the diagnosis, so we need a test to examine our heart. The Law shows us, as we break it frequently, that we aren’t holy. Only Jesus and God are Holy. Going deeper, the 10 commandments of the Law are the main prompts that show us what’s at the center of our hearts and how our hearts are beating, our cardiac output.
The Commandments focus on our relationships with God and others. The bottom line: God and love. The first of the Ten Commandments, “thou shalt have no other gods before me,” calls for an undivided faithfulness to God. Because we have been created in God's image, our relationship with God is at the very core of our human needs and affects everyone we contact.
"Other gods" usually brings to mind a wooden or stone image … or the proclaimed god of another religion. But there are subtler and more prevalent "other gods." Anything that takes our focus off Christ … anything that we devote more time, attention and allegiance to … can become our other god. It might be food, money, sports, sex or a high. It could be our job, a relationship, or even our kids or involvement in a ministry.
It is so easy to get sidetracked, sometimes even doing good things, and letting our personal relationship with the Lord suffer. A periodic self-evaluation and reality check can be enlightening … because even if you don’t check and correct, God certainly does. He wants your heart to beat well with maximum cardiac output. When He has to show us our “other gods” and take them away life feels more acutely uncomfortable than when we find them ourselves, repent, and draw closer to Him.
Today, ask yourself these questions: Am I asking God for guidance … or doing my own thing? Am I trusting in my job, another person, or my own abilities more than I am trusting in the Lord? In what areas do I have the mindset, “my kingdom come, my will be done,” instead of “Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done?” If you find that you have wandered off the path, confess, repent, and begin to refocus on Jesus. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Forgive me for getting sidetracked and making other things or people a more important part of my life than You are. Thank You for the Law that helps me examine my heart. But also thanks for the grace You continue to extend to me even though I mess up and sadden You by replacing You with other impotent and uncaring pursuits. Help me to refocus on Jesus and on my relationship with You and treasure the wealth in it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One to whom I give my undivided faithfulness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
You must not have any other god but me.
Exodus 20:3
For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
Ephesians 5:5
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Stepping Stones: Mourn With Those Who Mourn
Transformational Thought
Yesterday, we talked about joy and being able to rejoice in all things. Well, in this world, sad things do happen. So some of you might be wondering, how then do I experience joy with a thankful attitude when sad things happen? Well, it is possible to rejoice and mourn at the same time. When my daughter went off to college, excitement, joy, sadness and fear were part of the complex mix I experienced. Since we are multifaceted beings who wear many hats, every experience will evoke a number of emotions, some being contradictory.
I know that when it is time to give each of my 3 daughters in marriage, a flood of feelings will flow in me. They will run the spectrum from fear, sadness, and jealousy, to happiness, pride, and exuberant expectation.
Over the last few years I have lost three close family members. I am so thankful for the people God placed alongside me at those times to mourn with me. They truly seemed like angels standing with me. They helped me rejoice in the big picture of God’s plan even though that small chapter had a strong dose of sadness.
Perhaps you sense God calling you to minister to people who have suffered the loss of a loved one by death. But how? So often we feel helpless and just don't know what to say. We might even avoid contact with the bereaved person because we are afraid we might say or do the wrong thing.
Before entering this area of ministry, we must recognize that authenticity is essential. We dare not play charades or project false images or unrealistic hopes to the newly bereaved person. We should do some reading; perhaps talk to a pastor about the phases involved in the process of grieving … not to put the grieving person into a mold, but to better understand some of the stages that most people experience.
It is important to remember that ministering to a grieving person involves listening more than helping. We cannot tell them what to do … we cannot fix their problem. But we can be with them. Our presence is more important than words. God calls us to come alongside and mourn with them.
They know we cannot perform miracles and take away their loss or make the pain go away. They are just looking for connection … to not have to walk the path alone … to have someone to show them hope and dignity … to comfort and hold them when they feel they can’t function independently in this season of their life.
Today, reflect on how you handle the loss of a loved one. What would you want? Has God put a grieving person in your life to reveal Himself to them through you? Take action and make that phone call. Invite God to work through you to be Lighthouse to another.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Teach me to help those who have suffered the loss of a loved one. My tendency is to try and "fix" the problem when someone is hurting. Help me remember that I can't fix the problem … can't speak the right words that will make everything better. But I can be there. I can listen. I can pray. I can be your vehicle of love and compassion. I can mourn with them. May the love and compassion of Jesus flow through me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who mourns for and with us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
Romans 12:15
And he said, "Where have you laid him?" They said to him, "Lord, come and see."
Jesus wept. So the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"
John 11:34-36
Yesterday, we talked about joy and being able to rejoice in all things. Well, in this world, sad things do happen. So some of you might be wondering, how then do I experience joy with a thankful attitude when sad things happen? Well, it is possible to rejoice and mourn at the same time. When my daughter went off to college, excitement, joy, sadness and fear were part of the complex mix I experienced. Since we are multifaceted beings who wear many hats, every experience will evoke a number of emotions, some being contradictory.
I know that when it is time to give each of my 3 daughters in marriage, a flood of feelings will flow in me. They will run the spectrum from fear, sadness, and jealousy, to happiness, pride, and exuberant expectation.
Over the last few years I have lost three close family members. I am so thankful for the people God placed alongside me at those times to mourn with me. They truly seemed like angels standing with me. They helped me rejoice in the big picture of God’s plan even though that small chapter had a strong dose of sadness.
Perhaps you sense God calling you to minister to people who have suffered the loss of a loved one by death. But how? So often we feel helpless and just don't know what to say. We might even avoid contact with the bereaved person because we are afraid we might say or do the wrong thing.
Before entering this area of ministry, we must recognize that authenticity is essential. We dare not play charades or project false images or unrealistic hopes to the newly bereaved person. We should do some reading; perhaps talk to a pastor about the phases involved in the process of grieving … not to put the grieving person into a mold, but to better understand some of the stages that most people experience.
It is important to remember that ministering to a grieving person involves listening more than helping. We cannot tell them what to do … we cannot fix their problem. But we can be with them. Our presence is more important than words. God calls us to come alongside and mourn with them.
They know we cannot perform miracles and take away their loss or make the pain go away. They are just looking for connection … to not have to walk the path alone … to have someone to show them hope and dignity … to comfort and hold them when they feel they can’t function independently in this season of their life.
Today, reflect on how you handle the loss of a loved one. What would you want? Has God put a grieving person in your life to reveal Himself to them through you? Take action and make that phone call. Invite God to work through you to be Lighthouse to another.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Teach me to help those who have suffered the loss of a loved one. My tendency is to try and "fix" the problem when someone is hurting. Help me remember that I can't fix the problem … can't speak the right words that will make everything better. But I can be there. I can listen. I can pray. I can be your vehicle of love and compassion. I can mourn with them. May the love and compassion of Jesus flow through me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who mourns for and with us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
Romans 12:15
And he said, "Where have you laid him?" They said to him, "Lord, come and see."
Jesus wept. So the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"
John 11:34-36
Monday, March 21, 2011
Stepping Stones: God Doesn’t Fit in a Doggie-Bag!
Transformational Thought
I am a carb lover. Don’t get me wrong, I love meat too. But give me anything made out of dough and I am in heaven … cake, pasta, perogies, homemade bread, rolls, doughnuts, raw cookie dough, and pie crust.
Not long ago we went to a Brazilian restaurant where they carve the meat straight off the skewer and right onto the plate. All you can eat … and I love it. But before they start parading out the meat, they send you to the salad bar with all kinds of breads, pasta salads, seafood salads … so many distractions from the main attraction. I had to stop and focus myself. What was I really there for … the incredible MEAT … I needed to tell myself ”focus!” and resist the distractions.
In Luke 10:38-42 the Bible describes a woman who gave in to distractions. Jesus was visiting the home of Mary, Martha, and Lazarus. Martha, wanting to be a good hostess, was working herself into a frenzy in the kitchen while Mary remained at Jesus' feet, absorbed in His teaching. When Martha complained to Jesus about her sister not helping, he responded that Mary had chosen the essential thing … time at the feet of Jesus.
Martha was doing good things, but she became so engrossed with these appetizers and cheap fillers, that she neglected what was most important. Then she got stressed and whiney because someone else was eating the ultimate, rich main course … quality time and learning with Jesus.
We are all busy doing stuff, some of it good and some bad. Is your attention and time so focused on the appetizers that you neglect spending time with Jesus? Do you eat some appetizers with the intention of getting to the main course of God and Jesus, but are then too stuffed to take in the spiritual nourishment you crave and need? God is not to be put in a doggie-bag and taken home as a leftover to be re-heated when convenient. Don't let anything interfere with your regular time with God and Jesus … in His Word … in prayer … and in worship.
Today, examine your schedule and priorities. Choose the main course and don’t get distracted with the appetizers or the desserts. Fill up on the nourishment that is meant to sustain you now and forever. Are you making time for God? Are you motivated by your relationship with God? If not, you are filling up on scraps … and your joy and peace will reflect that. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know that I tend to be like Martha. I get so caught up in my "to-do's" that I sometimes neglect spending time with You. Help me to refocus … to choose the main course. Give me discernment regarding the things that so closely mimic the real thing, but lead me astray. Help me build and tune my spiritual radar to Your frequency so I understand how sustaining and valuable Your nourishment is to me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One whom you sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it's the main course, and won't be taken from her.
Luke 10:42
I am a carb lover. Don’t get me wrong, I love meat too. But give me anything made out of dough and I am in heaven … cake, pasta, perogies, homemade bread, rolls, doughnuts, raw cookie dough, and pie crust.
Not long ago we went to a Brazilian restaurant where they carve the meat straight off the skewer and right onto the plate. All you can eat … and I love it. But before they start parading out the meat, they send you to the salad bar with all kinds of breads, pasta salads, seafood salads … so many distractions from the main attraction. I had to stop and focus myself. What was I really there for … the incredible MEAT … I needed to tell myself ”focus!” and resist the distractions.
In Luke 10:38-42 the Bible describes a woman who gave in to distractions. Jesus was visiting the home of Mary, Martha, and Lazarus. Martha, wanting to be a good hostess, was working herself into a frenzy in the kitchen while Mary remained at Jesus' feet, absorbed in His teaching. When Martha complained to Jesus about her sister not helping, he responded that Mary had chosen the essential thing … time at the feet of Jesus.
Martha was doing good things, but she became so engrossed with these appetizers and cheap fillers, that she neglected what was most important. Then she got stressed and whiney because someone else was eating the ultimate, rich main course … quality time and learning with Jesus.
We are all busy doing stuff, some of it good and some bad. Is your attention and time so focused on the appetizers that you neglect spending time with Jesus? Do you eat some appetizers with the intention of getting to the main course of God and Jesus, but are then too stuffed to take in the spiritual nourishment you crave and need? God is not to be put in a doggie-bag and taken home as a leftover to be re-heated when convenient. Don't let anything interfere with your regular time with God and Jesus … in His Word … in prayer … and in worship.
Today, examine your schedule and priorities. Choose the main course and don’t get distracted with the appetizers or the desserts. Fill up on the nourishment that is meant to sustain you now and forever. Are you making time for God? Are you motivated by your relationship with God? If not, you are filling up on scraps … and your joy and peace will reflect that. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know that I tend to be like Martha. I get so caught up in my "to-do's" that I sometimes neglect spending time with You. Help me to refocus … to choose the main course. Give me discernment regarding the things that so closely mimic the real thing, but lead me astray. Help me build and tune my spiritual radar to Your frequency so I understand how sustaining and valuable Your nourishment is to me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One whom you sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it's the main course, and won't be taken from her.
Luke 10:42
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Stepping Stones: Joy: Always At Your Fingertips
Transformational Thought
I am very proud to say today’s devotional was written by my 16-year-old daughter Nicole Joy, who wrote this for me as a birthday present. The Stepping Stone she navigated in her life:
Two summers ago, I was really excited to go with so many of my friends on a mission trip to the Dominican Republic. Being a plan-driven, list-oriented person, I made an excel spreadsheet checklist for what I was going to bring with the exact pants, shorts, and T-shirts for specific days and activities … accessories, and everything.
That’s not even the worst! I color-coded it for where it went in which bag! This might seem extreme but it is the way my brain works. I had everything from scissors to extra pens for people. I am the type of person who never asks anyone for anything because I have it, or even doubles to lend to others. They’re always the ones asking me, which I don’t mind at all.
I wonder if you can predict where this story is going.
Before we left Calvary Church at 3:30 AM, we prayed for everything to be safe & go as God planned. We each had a backpack, carry-on bag, and suitcase. And we also had a large 40 pound duffel filled with clothes we collected for the kids there. When we got to the airport in Santa Domingo, I was just soaking up the different smell in the air as we walked to the luggage check. That was where we were all helping get the 50+ suitcases off.
I was soon to realize … mine wasn’t there. We looked around everywhere for it, even on other people’s luggage carts! Long story short, after talking to an attendant, leaving a description and filing a report, we had to get going on the next leg of our journey. On the hour-long bus ride, I was surprisingly not stressed like I thought I would be. I remembered a verse we had memorized in church from James 1:2-4 (see below). This is when I realized, that with practice in the little things, I had learned from this verse ... and it worked. I was shocked at how I was acting, but then I realized how God helped me think. I am really thankful for this.
Plus, the story ends well; I got my suitcase late the next day. It had been shipped to Denver!
Today, remember God loves you. He is sovereign, all-powerful, and all knowing. He will bring events or opportunities, what we call trials, into our life to grow us. Whatever trial you face today, be thankful and rejoice. Change your attitude … the lenses you wear as you experience this trial … and you will change your stress level and the actual outcome. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You so much for loving me and growing me … through both good times and “trials”. I want to have the mind of Christ and glorify You in all situations, so others can see You through me. Thanks for being willing to let me be part of Your plan as you minister to others through me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who endured the Cross for the joy set before Him, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
James 1:2-4
I am very proud to say today’s devotional was written by my 16-year-old daughter Nicole Joy, who wrote this for me as a birthday present. The Stepping Stone she navigated in her life:
Two summers ago, I was really excited to go with so many of my friends on a mission trip to the Dominican Republic. Being a plan-driven, list-oriented person, I made an excel spreadsheet checklist for what I was going to bring with the exact pants, shorts, and T-shirts for specific days and activities … accessories, and everything.
That’s not even the worst! I color-coded it for where it went in which bag! This might seem extreme but it is the way my brain works. I had everything from scissors to extra pens for people. I am the type of person who never asks anyone for anything because I have it, or even doubles to lend to others. They’re always the ones asking me, which I don’t mind at all.
I wonder if you can predict where this story is going.
Before we left Calvary Church at 3:30 AM, we prayed for everything to be safe & go as God planned. We each had a backpack, carry-on bag, and suitcase. And we also had a large 40 pound duffel filled with clothes we collected for the kids there. When we got to the airport in Santa Domingo, I was just soaking up the different smell in the air as we walked to the luggage check. That was where we were all helping get the 50+ suitcases off.
I was soon to realize … mine wasn’t there. We looked around everywhere for it, even on other people’s luggage carts! Long story short, after talking to an attendant, leaving a description and filing a report, we had to get going on the next leg of our journey. On the hour-long bus ride, I was surprisingly not stressed like I thought I would be. I remembered a verse we had memorized in church from James 1:2-4 (see below). This is when I realized, that with practice in the little things, I had learned from this verse ... and it worked. I was shocked at how I was acting, but then I realized how God helped me think. I am really thankful for this.
Plus, the story ends well; I got my suitcase late the next day. It had been shipped to Denver!
Today, remember God loves you. He is sovereign, all-powerful, and all knowing. He will bring events or opportunities, what we call trials, into our life to grow us. Whatever trial you face today, be thankful and rejoice. Change your attitude … the lenses you wear as you experience this trial … and you will change your stress level and the actual outcome. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You so much for loving me and growing me … through both good times and “trials”. I want to have the mind of Christ and glorify You in all situations, so others can see You through me. Thanks for being willing to let me be part of Your plan as you minister to others through me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who endured the Cross for the joy set before Him, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
James 1:2-4
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Stepping Stones: In Song…In Prayer…In Action
Transformational Thought
Overcoming distractions and focusing on God become easier when we make worshiping and praising Him our highest priority. So how do we worship God?
In song, in prayer, and in action. People worship in different ways, but the essence of worship is perceiving God accurately and responding appropriately to what we see. Perceive and Respond are 2 of the 6 essential steps in all decisions.
When we perceive God accurately, for who He really is as all-powerful ruler and Creator of everything, and recognize who we are, our response should naturally be praising, loving, thanking, and adoring Him. This adoration can be expressed in many ways. Some people honor Him with words. Some sing. Some raise their hands or kneel before Him. Some remain quiet before Him, just basking in His presence. Some dance or play instruments.
More importantly, worship is how you respond to God in all the other areas of your life outside the “worship time” in the church service or when you here a “praise and worship song”. Anybody can sing in church. But are you putting God first in all the activities and all the areas of temptation in your life? Some will really perform the ultimate act of worship and lay down their lifves for proclaiming Jesus as the only way. Are you ready to worship your Savior that faithfully?
Worship, that is perceiving and responding, is the key to experiencing an encounter with God and growing in the knowledge of God. It is the key to a closer and deepening personal relationship with Him. Praise is a declaration of who God is. Worship is an encounter with who God is. God makes Himself known to worshiping people. He calls us to worship Him alone. For only He is holy and can restore us from being broken to being cured in Him.
Today, learn to seek Him and to worship Him … with passion. Just as you express your love to your spouse or parents or children in many different ways, be determined to discover the freedom of worshiping and loving God in different ways. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. There is no right or wrong method … it is the love in your heart and your willingness to respond in all areas of your life that is true worship.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I do love You and adore You. I praise You for who You are and for all that You have done for me. You are my Father, Daddy, Savior and Deliverer. You are my Comforter, Teacher, Guide, and Protector. I praise You for Your love, Your power, Your goodness and Your grace. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is my everything, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
If you obey the commandments of the LORD your God that I command you today, by loving the LORD your God, by walking in his ways, and by keeping his commandments and his statutes and his rules, then you shall live and multiply, and the LORD your God will bless you in the land that you are entering to take possession of it. But if your heart turns away, and you will not hear, but are drawn away to worship other gods and serve them, I declare to you today, that you shall surely perish. You shall not live long in the land that you are going over the Jordan to enter and possess.
Deuteronomy 30:16-18
That's the kind of people the Father is out looking for: those who are simply and honestly themselves before him in their worship. God is sheer being itself—Spirit. Those who worship him must do it out of their very being, their spirits, their true selves, in adoration.
John 4:23-24
Overcoming distractions and focusing on God become easier when we make worshiping and praising Him our highest priority. So how do we worship God?
In song, in prayer, and in action. People worship in different ways, but the essence of worship is perceiving God accurately and responding appropriately to what we see. Perceive and Respond are 2 of the 6 essential steps in all decisions.
When we perceive God accurately, for who He really is as all-powerful ruler and Creator of everything, and recognize who we are, our response should naturally be praising, loving, thanking, and adoring Him. This adoration can be expressed in many ways. Some people honor Him with words. Some sing. Some raise their hands or kneel before Him. Some remain quiet before Him, just basking in His presence. Some dance or play instruments.
More importantly, worship is how you respond to God in all the other areas of your life outside the “worship time” in the church service or when you here a “praise and worship song”. Anybody can sing in church. But are you putting God first in all the activities and all the areas of temptation in your life? Some will really perform the ultimate act of worship and lay down their lifves for proclaiming Jesus as the only way. Are you ready to worship your Savior that faithfully?
Worship, that is perceiving and responding, is the key to experiencing an encounter with God and growing in the knowledge of God. It is the key to a closer and deepening personal relationship with Him. Praise is a declaration of who God is. Worship is an encounter with who God is. God makes Himself known to worshiping people. He calls us to worship Him alone. For only He is holy and can restore us from being broken to being cured in Him.
Today, learn to seek Him and to worship Him … with passion. Just as you express your love to your spouse or parents or children in many different ways, be determined to discover the freedom of worshiping and loving God in different ways. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. There is no right or wrong method … it is the love in your heart and your willingness to respond in all areas of your life that is true worship.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I do love You and adore You. I praise You for who You are and for all that You have done for me. You are my Father, Daddy, Savior and Deliverer. You are my Comforter, Teacher, Guide, and Protector. I praise You for Your love, Your power, Your goodness and Your grace. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is my everything, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
If you obey the commandments of the LORD your God that I command you today, by loving the LORD your God, by walking in his ways, and by keeping his commandments and his statutes and his rules, then you shall live and multiply, and the LORD your God will bless you in the land that you are entering to take possession of it. But if your heart turns away, and you will not hear, but are drawn away to worship other gods and serve them, I declare to you today, that you shall surely perish. You shall not live long in the land that you are going over the Jordan to enter and possess.
Deuteronomy 30:16-18
That's the kind of people the Father is out looking for: those who are simply and honestly themselves before him in their worship. God is sheer being itself—Spirit. Those who worship him must do it out of their very being, their spirits, their true selves, in adoration.
John 4:23-24
Friday, March 18, 2011
Stepping Stones: A Tug-of-War You Need to Lose
Transformational Thought
Spring is approaching … what a fun and exciting time of year. So many activities in so many areas of life: school events, spring sports, house projects, yard work, gardening, outdoor sports and activities, church events, small group socials, retreats, work projects, ministry opportunities, usual activities with extended family, movies, plays, family night, or just hanging out. Then there is the planning for summer vacations, camps, mission trips, day trips, relaxation and catching up with what we are behind in. Wow!
We have five people in our family, so multiply the above list by five. Most of the time we have different likes and interests. Often our choices are in conflict because we have competing agendas … you know, 2 teenagers and a 10 yo. As the father and leader, sometimes I feel like I am in the middle of a 4-way tug-of-war.
How about you? Are you in a tug of war between your own agenda and God's plan for you?
Life can slowly separate us from intimacy with God. Today, there seem to be more options than ever to distract us from pursuing a close, personal relationship with Him. We often find ourselves torn between our agenda and His desires for us. Guarding the inner fire, passion for Christ, is a great challenge in the twenty-first century. That has been Satan’s strategic plan from the get-go ... distract us from God … make God look like the enemy in a tug-of-war.
Think about it. What are some things in your life that prevent you from drawing closer to God? All-consuming distractions like being overloaded with e-mails, cell phones, and hours on the freeway? Pleasing bosses, shuttling kids, trying out new gadgets? Hours on the golf course or in front of the TV? Perhaps even serving in the church? There is nothing inherently wrong with any of these activities … unless we allow them to distract us from a personal and growing relationship with God. If you are involved in something addicting or sinful, drop the rope now, surrender, and get help.
Today, take an honest look at your priorities. I mean, really look with the intention of taking action on your findings. Make a pro/con list for better prioritization. Admit to God that you have allowed busyness or other distractions to take your eyes off Him. Ask for His forgiveness and His help in making Him first in your life. You will be amazed at how nicely the rest of your life will play out. Your decision, choose well. WITHIN REACH can help you identify and overcome this struggle.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I sometimes let the busyness of the day interfere in my relationship with you. Sometimes I find time for everything else except my quiet time with you. Sometimes I get so focused on other things throughout the day that I forget you are right there with me. Please forgive me. Please help me make you first in my life each day. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Come near to God and he will come near to you.
James 4:8
Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4
Spring is approaching … what a fun and exciting time of year. So many activities in so many areas of life: school events, spring sports, house projects, yard work, gardening, outdoor sports and activities, church events, small group socials, retreats, work projects, ministry opportunities, usual activities with extended family, movies, plays, family night, or just hanging out. Then there is the planning for summer vacations, camps, mission trips, day trips, relaxation and catching up with what we are behind in. Wow!
We have five people in our family, so multiply the above list by five. Most of the time we have different likes and interests. Often our choices are in conflict because we have competing agendas … you know, 2 teenagers and a 10 yo. As the father and leader, sometimes I feel like I am in the middle of a 4-way tug-of-war.
How about you? Are you in a tug of war between your own agenda and God's plan for you?
Life can slowly separate us from intimacy with God. Today, there seem to be more options than ever to distract us from pursuing a close, personal relationship with Him. We often find ourselves torn between our agenda and His desires for us. Guarding the inner fire, passion for Christ, is a great challenge in the twenty-first century. That has been Satan’s strategic plan from the get-go ... distract us from God … make God look like the enemy in a tug-of-war.
Think about it. What are some things in your life that prevent you from drawing closer to God? All-consuming distractions like being overloaded with e-mails, cell phones, and hours on the freeway? Pleasing bosses, shuttling kids, trying out new gadgets? Hours on the golf course or in front of the TV? Perhaps even serving in the church? There is nothing inherently wrong with any of these activities … unless we allow them to distract us from a personal and growing relationship with God. If you are involved in something addicting or sinful, drop the rope now, surrender, and get help.
Today, take an honest look at your priorities. I mean, really look with the intention of taking action on your findings. Make a pro/con list for better prioritization. Admit to God that you have allowed busyness or other distractions to take your eyes off Him. Ask for His forgiveness and His help in making Him first in your life. You will be amazed at how nicely the rest of your life will play out. Your decision, choose well. WITHIN REACH can help you identify and overcome this struggle.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I sometimes let the busyness of the day interfere in my relationship with you. Sometimes I find time for everything else except my quiet time with you. Sometimes I get so focused on other things throughout the day that I forget you are right there with me. Please forgive me. Please help me make you first in my life each day. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Come near to God and he will come near to you.
James 4:8
Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Stepping Stones: Leaning Is Powerful
Transformational Thought
A few years back I found myself in a very bad and difficult place. My world was crumbling around me. God brought two mature Christian men into my life, one new friend and one old, and they taught me how to lean on them. I was able to prop myself up with the strength God gave me through them in my time of extreme weakness.
Maturing Christians, those growing in their relationship with the Father, gradually mature in their ability to lean. Leaning is not something that comes easily to many of us, especially guys. Our stubborn independence causes us to view leaning as a sign of weakness. However, the Bible makes it clear that leaning is one of the marks of a real Christian.
In our growing up years, we started to learn to lean, but we made an almost fatal mistake. We leaned on the wrong support. We leaned on a fellow 9 yo, or another teenager, or a parent that didn’t give our leaning the serious attention it needed, or on a job, a college, a sport, a drug, sex, food, a “you fill in the blank.” When we got hurt, let down or ignored we learned, “I can’t lean on any one else but myself for my needs to really be met.”
So breaking that pattern and willing to be vulnerable again, growing Christians lean away from the conventional wisdom of self-reliance and learn to lean on God and trust in His wisdom and goodness. As we begin to lean on God instead of ourselves, we soon realize that His way is always the best way. Christians lean into God's divine purpose. As Christians, our greatest desire should be to accomplish God's purpose in our lives, as this is what truly glorifies Him.
Christians also lean on each other. Independence is not always admirable. However, interdependence is a biblical principle that carries the idea of mutually healthy dependence. Christians understand the value of community … engage in it … and contribute to it. This is what the term “Christian Fellowship” is all about. Showing God to each other and helping each other grow to become more Christ-like.
Today, identify an area of your life where you are leaning on the wrong support. Why? Is it really supporting you now, and for the long run? Analyze what is keeping you from leaning on God. Begin leaning on God. Be willing to accept help from other people that God has placed into your life. Stop carrying the "I can do it myself" mentality to an extreme. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You for placing people in my life, safe people that I can lean on. I pray, Father, that You will help me to listen to Your voice in everything I do. Teach me to accept help from You and from other people You send to me. I pray that pride won't get in my way and I'll be willing to ask for help, and more importantly follow Godly wisdom as I get it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who depended on You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don't try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he's the one who will keep you on track. Don't assume that you know it all. Run to God!
Proverbs 3:5-7
A few years back I found myself in a very bad and difficult place. My world was crumbling around me. God brought two mature Christian men into my life, one new friend and one old, and they taught me how to lean on them. I was able to prop myself up with the strength God gave me through them in my time of extreme weakness.
Maturing Christians, those growing in their relationship with the Father, gradually mature in their ability to lean. Leaning is not something that comes easily to many of us, especially guys. Our stubborn independence causes us to view leaning as a sign of weakness. However, the Bible makes it clear that leaning is one of the marks of a real Christian.
In our growing up years, we started to learn to lean, but we made an almost fatal mistake. We leaned on the wrong support. We leaned on a fellow 9 yo, or another teenager, or a parent that didn’t give our leaning the serious attention it needed, or on a job, a college, a sport, a drug, sex, food, a “you fill in the blank.” When we got hurt, let down or ignored we learned, “I can’t lean on any one else but myself for my needs to really be met.”
So breaking that pattern and willing to be vulnerable again, growing Christians lean away from the conventional wisdom of self-reliance and learn to lean on God and trust in His wisdom and goodness. As we begin to lean on God instead of ourselves, we soon realize that His way is always the best way. Christians lean into God's divine purpose. As Christians, our greatest desire should be to accomplish God's purpose in our lives, as this is what truly glorifies Him.
Christians also lean on each other. Independence is not always admirable. However, interdependence is a biblical principle that carries the idea of mutually healthy dependence. Christians understand the value of community … engage in it … and contribute to it. This is what the term “Christian Fellowship” is all about. Showing God to each other and helping each other grow to become more Christ-like.
Today, identify an area of your life where you are leaning on the wrong support. Why? Is it really supporting you now, and for the long run? Analyze what is keeping you from leaning on God. Begin leaning on God. Be willing to accept help from other people that God has placed into your life. Stop carrying the "I can do it myself" mentality to an extreme. Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You for placing people in my life, safe people that I can lean on. I pray, Father, that You will help me to listen to Your voice in everything I do. Teach me to accept help from You and from other people You send to me. I pray that pride won't get in my way and I'll be willing to ask for help, and more importantly follow Godly wisdom as I get it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who depended on You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don't try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he's the one who will keep you on track. Don't assume that you know it all. Run to God!
Proverbs 3:5-7
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Stepping Stones: Truth Is Bliss
Transformational Thought
I once heard a simple definition of intelligence as the “ability to learn.” Regardless of whether you have the “ability” to learn, we should all strive to develop this specific trait in our lives … having a desire to learn. Contrary to the old saying, ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance of God's Word can bring about serious mistakes and heartache. Learning the Word of God provides us with power, peace, and principles to live by. When we do, we glorify God and that is our purpose in life. Bonus: following the Word of God improves our life.
Today, make a commitment to learn more from the Bible. You could begin by setting up a plan of regular reading if you don't already have one. Even if you are already reading the Word regularly, perhaps some of these suggestions will help:
Read reflectively. It's true that we gain valuable information from the Bible, but the key is for the information to become a part of us and bring about transformation in our lives. Read while specifically focusing on the content and what it reveals about what is going on inside you and how or why you are making your daily decisions.
Read for power transformation. Be more concerned about quality of reading than quantity. Take time to think about what you are reading and let the Holy Spirit speak to you. After your reading, ask yourself how will you see God, yourself, or your life differently. Then ask how will you use that in some of your areas of struggle. Then plan, yes, plan to use it. Then practice it. Application of the Bible is paramount for transformation.
Learning from God's Word should be our priority, but we can also learn from books, Bible study groups, Sunday school, small group discussions and one on one discussion with Christians God has placed on our pathway. Ask God to guide you on your exciting path of transformation.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to truly turn my heart to wisdom and apply my heart to understanding and learning. I don’t just want to be a cool spiritual library, filled with more knowledge. Help me be open to the Holy Spirit’s prompting and teaching of how to apply this knowledge towards Godly living. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One whom You sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God.
Proverbs 2:1-5
Then you will again obey the Lord and keep all his commands that I am giving you today. “The Lord your God will then make you successful in everything you do. He will give you many children and numerous livestock, and he will cause your fields to produce abundant harvests, for the Lord will again delight in being good to you as he was to your ancestors. The Lord your God will delight in you if you obey his voice and keep the commands and decrees written in this Book of Instruction, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your heart and soul. This command I am giving you today is not too difficult for you to understand, and it is within your reach.
Deuteronomy 30:8-11
I once heard a simple definition of intelligence as the “ability to learn.” Regardless of whether you have the “ability” to learn, we should all strive to develop this specific trait in our lives … having a desire to learn. Contrary to the old saying, ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance of God's Word can bring about serious mistakes and heartache. Learning the Word of God provides us with power, peace, and principles to live by. When we do, we glorify God and that is our purpose in life. Bonus: following the Word of God improves our life.
Today, make a commitment to learn more from the Bible. You could begin by setting up a plan of regular reading if you don't already have one. Even if you are already reading the Word regularly, perhaps some of these suggestions will help:
Read reflectively. It's true that we gain valuable information from the Bible, but the key is for the information to become a part of us and bring about transformation in our lives. Read while specifically focusing on the content and what it reveals about what is going on inside you and how or why you are making your daily decisions.
Read for power transformation. Be more concerned about quality of reading than quantity. Take time to think about what you are reading and let the Holy Spirit speak to you. After your reading, ask yourself how will you see God, yourself, or your life differently. Then ask how will you use that in some of your areas of struggle. Then plan, yes, plan to use it. Then practice it. Application of the Bible is paramount for transformation.
Learning from God's Word should be our priority, but we can also learn from books, Bible study groups, Sunday school, small group discussions and one on one discussion with Christians God has placed on our pathway. Ask God to guide you on your exciting path of transformation.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to truly turn my heart to wisdom and apply my heart to understanding and learning. I don’t just want to be a cool spiritual library, filled with more knowledge. Help me be open to the Holy Spirit’s prompting and teaching of how to apply this knowledge towards Godly living. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One whom You sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God.
Proverbs 2:1-5
Then you will again obey the Lord and keep all his commands that I am giving you today. “The Lord your God will then make you successful in everything you do. He will give you many children and numerous livestock, and he will cause your fields to produce abundant harvests, for the Lord will again delight in being good to you as he was to your ancestors. The Lord your God will delight in you if you obey his voice and keep the commands and decrees written in this Book of Instruction, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your heart and soul. This command I am giving you today is not too difficult for you to understand, and it is within your reach.
Deuteronomy 30:8-11
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Stepping Stones: Who is Your Rollercoaster Operator?
Transformational Thought
After all that snow and cold we’ve had some great days of 60+ degree weather. What a refreshing break. Tells me Spring must be right around the corner; can’t wait … so many great changes … life … energy … color … activity. And one of the best things about Spring: it means Summer is right around the corner. Summer is my favorite time of year ... hot weather, the beach, and the family trip to Dorney Park, which is our local adventure and water park. My girls and I love the roller coasters but each one of them had to make the transition from fear to amazement and joy.
As we pursue our relationship with God and draw closer to Him there are some characteristics that should be evident. Joy is one of those characteristics. Christianity is joyful. And joy is good for your health … physically, psychologically, relationally, emotionally, and spiritually. During difficult times, we might not always have laughter, but God provides joy in all of our circumstances. The Bible describes practical steps to joy and ways to laugh more.
Try to stop taking yourself so seriously! Take time for laughter, for fellowship. Learn to enjoy yourself. Start each day out by rejoicing. Thank God for another day. Thank Him for the opportunities ahead of you. Thank Him for his love and abundant grace. Involve happy people in your life. Smiling faces make you feel happy. Laughter is contagious.
You see, just like the rollercoaster, once we get past out fears, joy is abundant. Once we realize the designer and operator is in control and that we will be fine, we can enjoy the ride and it is exhilarating. God is the ultimate rollercoaster operator. He’s designed ups and downs in the ride, but it is planned for our growth and joy. Your fear comes when you believe you designed or are in charge of the rollercoaster. Paul realized who designed and operated his life’s rollercoaster. So Paul was joyful in all circumstances. He knew how the ride would end and enjoyed it … at all times.
Today, simplify your life in order to enjoy God's goodness. Examine what you fear and why. Identify the circumstances you think you are in charge of. When you can trust God, you will be free of fear, and joy will be abundant in all circumstances. Sometimes we all get so involved in our "to-do" lists and worrying about tomorrow that we miss enjoying the moment. Remember the old adage: Take time to smell the roses! Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
O Master Designer, thank You for providing joy in every circumstance. Help me to experience a cheerful heart in every situation You designed especially for me. Help me to walk in Your freedom and to laugh often. Build my trust in You so I can live free of fear and embrace all You sovereignly bring into my life for my growth. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is the true source of all joy, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's strength.
Proverbs 17:22
Is not this what we said to you in Egypt: 'Leave us alone that we may serve the Egyptians'? For it would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the wilderness. And Moses said to the people, "Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will work for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again.
Exodus 14:12,13
After all that snow and cold we’ve had some great days of 60+ degree weather. What a refreshing break. Tells me Spring must be right around the corner; can’t wait … so many great changes … life … energy … color … activity. And one of the best things about Spring: it means Summer is right around the corner. Summer is my favorite time of year ... hot weather, the beach, and the family trip to Dorney Park, which is our local adventure and water park. My girls and I love the roller coasters but each one of them had to make the transition from fear to amazement and joy.
As we pursue our relationship with God and draw closer to Him there are some characteristics that should be evident. Joy is one of those characteristics. Christianity is joyful. And joy is good for your health … physically, psychologically, relationally, emotionally, and spiritually. During difficult times, we might not always have laughter, but God provides joy in all of our circumstances. The Bible describes practical steps to joy and ways to laugh more.
Try to stop taking yourself so seriously! Take time for laughter, for fellowship. Learn to enjoy yourself. Start each day out by rejoicing. Thank God for another day. Thank Him for the opportunities ahead of you. Thank Him for his love and abundant grace. Involve happy people in your life. Smiling faces make you feel happy. Laughter is contagious.
You see, just like the rollercoaster, once we get past out fears, joy is abundant. Once we realize the designer and operator is in control and that we will be fine, we can enjoy the ride and it is exhilarating. God is the ultimate rollercoaster operator. He’s designed ups and downs in the ride, but it is planned for our growth and joy. Your fear comes when you believe you designed or are in charge of the rollercoaster. Paul realized who designed and operated his life’s rollercoaster. So Paul was joyful in all circumstances. He knew how the ride would end and enjoyed it … at all times.
Today, simplify your life in order to enjoy God's goodness. Examine what you fear and why. Identify the circumstances you think you are in charge of. When you can trust God, you will be free of fear, and joy will be abundant in all circumstances. Sometimes we all get so involved in our "to-do" lists and worrying about tomorrow that we miss enjoying the moment. Remember the old adage: Take time to smell the roses! Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
O Master Designer, thank You for providing joy in every circumstance. Help me to experience a cheerful heart in every situation You designed especially for me. Help me to walk in Your freedom and to laugh often. Build my trust in You so I can live free of fear and embrace all You sovereignly bring into my life for my growth. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is the true source of all joy, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's strength.
Proverbs 17:22
Is not this what we said to you in Egypt: 'Leave us alone that we may serve the Egyptians'? For it would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the wilderness. And Moses said to the people, "Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will work for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again.
Exodus 14:12,13
Monday, March 14, 2011
Stepping Stones: Dealing With Loss: It Really is a Choice
Transformational Thought
Aging may bring the loss of mobility, hearing, sight, sex, independence, cognitive ability, friends, loved ones, and other cherished abilities and treasures. Each of us has a choice how we will react to these losses.
We might choose depression, becoming overwhelmed with a sense of being useless, but even worse, being a burden to others. We might choose anger and resentment because of the loss of control and independence. However, if we choose to dwell on what we no longer have or no longer can do, then we will miss the great opportunities still open to us.
Although it is normal to grieve our losses, it is easy to have this grief become the main lenses we use to see ourselves, our future, and especially God, through. This distorted viewpoint will dramatically affect our functioning and decision-making. Instead, we need to choose to concentrate on the relationships, abilities, and opportunities that are still ours. To view life and God through truthful lenses, and not emotionally distorted lenses.
These words from Paul can be an encouragement to us as we go through the aging process ourselves or care for our parents: "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength." Philippians 4:12-13
You might think, I’m not old, so this doesn’t apply to me, but I’ll pass it to an old person I know. Well, the way you handle getting older will be determined by how you “practiced” handling loss during your age 10-55.
Today, identify some losses, or more often, something you wish you had but you don’t. How does this “loss” affect your lenses of you, God, and life? Try not to llow those feelings or distortions affect your present or view of your future…that’s an entitled mind set. Focus on thankfulness for what you do have, concentrate on Jesus, knowing that He will enable us (or our aging parents) to still serve Him in and through the adversity…and to bless others.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to dwell on the positive in this season of my life…the good, not the bad, what I can do…not what I am unable to do. Guide all aging parents to focus on the positives in their lives, and guide us younger ones to practice these skills now. I thank You that we can pray in the name of and do all things through Jesus; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8
Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life.
Deuteronomy 30:19,20
Aging may bring the loss of mobility, hearing, sight, sex, independence, cognitive ability, friends, loved ones, and other cherished abilities and treasures. Each of us has a choice how we will react to these losses.
We might choose depression, becoming overwhelmed with a sense of being useless, but even worse, being a burden to others. We might choose anger and resentment because of the loss of control and independence. However, if we choose to dwell on what we no longer have or no longer can do, then we will miss the great opportunities still open to us.
Although it is normal to grieve our losses, it is easy to have this grief become the main lenses we use to see ourselves, our future, and especially God, through. This distorted viewpoint will dramatically affect our functioning and decision-making. Instead, we need to choose to concentrate on the relationships, abilities, and opportunities that are still ours. To view life and God through truthful lenses, and not emotionally distorted lenses.
These words from Paul can be an encouragement to us as we go through the aging process ourselves or care for our parents: "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength." Philippians 4:12-13
You might think, I’m not old, so this doesn’t apply to me, but I’ll pass it to an old person I know. Well, the way you handle getting older will be determined by how you “practiced” handling loss during your age 10-55.
Today, identify some losses, or more often, something you wish you had but you don’t. How does this “loss” affect your lenses of you, God, and life? Try not to llow those feelings or distortions affect your present or view of your future…that’s an entitled mind set. Focus on thankfulness for what you do have, concentrate on Jesus, knowing that He will enable us (or our aging parents) to still serve Him in and through the adversity…and to bless others.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to dwell on the positive in this season of my life…the good, not the bad, what I can do…not what I am unable to do. Guide all aging parents to focus on the positives in their lives, and guide us younger ones to practice these skills now. I thank You that we can pray in the name of and do all things through Jesus; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8
Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life.
Deuteronomy 30:19,20
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Stepping Stones: For What Is Seen Is Temporary…
Transformational Thought
Like most people, I love this time of year. Daylight Savings is here! Springtime is awesome … longer days … warmer weather … more sun … outdoor activities … more energy … more color … and life abounding everywhere. All this is even grander when contrasted to the elements of winter. I am continually amazed at (but don’t necessarily like) the cycle and uniqueness of the seasons God designed.
Human life has a natural cycle that has existed since the time of Adam and Eve. It is wise to recognize the seasons of life … including aging and death … and to gracefully accept their effect on us. During our lives, circumstances are always changing. When these changes are beyond our control, we must graciously accept what comes our way. Whether the season is pleasant or painful, it is good to remember that only one season is permanent … the one that comes after we die and leave this temporary earthly residence.
The true person we are, the inner person, can grow stronger even while our physical person is wasting away. God is completing the work He started in us, and that completed, ultimate state is for eternity. This is the role of all the seasons we experience: to grow our spiritual radar so we can sense God and connect to Him in joyous and powerful ways.
Today, identify whether you are in a good season or a rough one. Enjoy the good one. But if you are in a rough one, ask yourself how God is growing you on the inside. Then let this season draw you closer to Him. Remember the that the time we and our loved ones spend in physical, emotional, psychological, and relational discomfort in these bodies is nothing compared to the eternity we will spend in perfect wholeness in God's presence. Also, understand that discomfort is one of the necessary seasons we need to pass through to get to the final, completed, season of perfect relationship with God in eternity. Thank You God!
Prayer
Dear Father God, guide me through the seasons of life and help me trust You through each one. Help all those with physical sufferings … and me … to have an eternal perspective. Help me submit to Your perfect knowledge in bringing my present season and the difficult seasons into my life. Help me maximize my growth in those seasons to glorify You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me about eternity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.
Philippians 1:6
Like most people, I love this time of year. Daylight Savings is here! Springtime is awesome … longer days … warmer weather … more sun … outdoor activities … more energy … more color … and life abounding everywhere. All this is even grander when contrasted to the elements of winter. I am continually amazed at (but don’t necessarily like) the cycle and uniqueness of the seasons God designed.
Human life has a natural cycle that has existed since the time of Adam and Eve. It is wise to recognize the seasons of life … including aging and death … and to gracefully accept their effect on us. During our lives, circumstances are always changing. When these changes are beyond our control, we must graciously accept what comes our way. Whether the season is pleasant or painful, it is good to remember that only one season is permanent … the one that comes after we die and leave this temporary earthly residence.
The true person we are, the inner person, can grow stronger even while our physical person is wasting away. God is completing the work He started in us, and that completed, ultimate state is for eternity. This is the role of all the seasons we experience: to grow our spiritual radar so we can sense God and connect to Him in joyous and powerful ways.
Today, identify whether you are in a good season or a rough one. Enjoy the good one. But if you are in a rough one, ask yourself how God is growing you on the inside. Then let this season draw you closer to Him. Remember the that the time we and our loved ones spend in physical, emotional, psychological, and relational discomfort in these bodies is nothing compared to the eternity we will spend in perfect wholeness in God's presence. Also, understand that discomfort is one of the necessary seasons we need to pass through to get to the final, completed, season of perfect relationship with God in eternity. Thank You God!
Prayer
Dear Father God, guide me through the seasons of life and help me trust You through each one. Help all those with physical sufferings … and me … to have an eternal perspective. Help me submit to Your perfect knowledge in bringing my present season and the difficult seasons into my life. Help me maximize my growth in those seasons to glorify You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me about eternity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.
Philippians 1:6
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Stepping Stones: Good News! Somebody Does Listen and Understand
Transformational Thought
Seems like my whole teen era was filled with me screaming inside, “Nobody understands me!” Do you sometimes feel as though nobody is listening or understands what you are going through or experiencing?
I was a visiting preacher at a small church a few weeks ago. It was different. What do you expect when you have a psychiatrist preaching? Before prayer, people were sharing praises and requests. An older lady offered praise for an incident a week earlier when we had some terrible storms and lots of damage in the area. She had a big old tree very close to her house that wasn’t going to survive the storm. The group prayed that nobody would be hurt and that no damage would be done to the house. Sure enough, she woke up the next day, and the tree, despite the way it was leaning, fell away from the house, damaging nothing. She was happy God heard her prayers.
It is great that God prevented damage. But the dangerous assumption is: “Good” outcome means God hears our prayers; “Bad” outcome means God doesn’t hear our prayers.
Well, Good News! Someone is listening and does understand. God hears all our prayers and knows exactly what we are going through and what we need. The Bible tells us that God is compassionate. He has a sympathetic understanding of your situation and He wants to ease your burden and free you from the load you carry. He is dependable. He is always there for you. He will never leave you alone. God's love has no limits or conditions and never fails, no matter what your circumstances.
You have many challenges to face, but you don't have to face them alone. Just because we don’t get what we prayed for doesn’t mean He wasn’t listening. Remember all the things you asked for as a kid. Aren’t you glad you didn’t get some of them? In fact, you now say “No” to your kids when they ask for the same thing.
Today, talk to God about your feelings and your fears. As you spend time in the Bible, you will be comforted. You will learn that God is your refuge in your trouble. He offers strength and help. He is ever-present. He cares for you. He wants to carry your anxiety. He will give you peace.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your promise to be with me, no matter what. Thank You for understanding and caring. Because circumstances don’t work out the way I want them to, I mistakenly interpret that You don’t love me, don’t care, or are just too busy with more important people and issues. Help me resist this me-centered thinking and lie, and open my eyes to Your truth. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to deliver the good news, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
God is good, a hiding place in tough times. He recognizes and welcomes anyone looking for help, No matter how desperate the trouble.
Nahum 1:7
But as for me, I will sing about your power. Each morning I will sing with joy about your unfailing love. For you have been my refuge, a place of safety when I am in distress.
Psalm 59:16
There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
1 Corinthians 10:13
Seems like my whole teen era was filled with me screaming inside, “Nobody understands me!” Do you sometimes feel as though nobody is listening or understands what you are going through or experiencing?
I was a visiting preacher at a small church a few weeks ago. It was different. What do you expect when you have a psychiatrist preaching? Before prayer, people were sharing praises and requests. An older lady offered praise for an incident a week earlier when we had some terrible storms and lots of damage in the area. She had a big old tree very close to her house that wasn’t going to survive the storm. The group prayed that nobody would be hurt and that no damage would be done to the house. Sure enough, she woke up the next day, and the tree, despite the way it was leaning, fell away from the house, damaging nothing. She was happy God heard her prayers.
It is great that God prevented damage. But the dangerous assumption is: “Good” outcome means God hears our prayers; “Bad” outcome means God doesn’t hear our prayers.
Well, Good News! Someone is listening and does understand. God hears all our prayers and knows exactly what we are going through and what we need. The Bible tells us that God is compassionate. He has a sympathetic understanding of your situation and He wants to ease your burden and free you from the load you carry. He is dependable. He is always there for you. He will never leave you alone. God's love has no limits or conditions and never fails, no matter what your circumstances.
You have many challenges to face, but you don't have to face them alone. Just because we don’t get what we prayed for doesn’t mean He wasn’t listening. Remember all the things you asked for as a kid. Aren’t you glad you didn’t get some of them? In fact, you now say “No” to your kids when they ask for the same thing.
Today, talk to God about your feelings and your fears. As you spend time in the Bible, you will be comforted. You will learn that God is your refuge in your trouble. He offers strength and help. He is ever-present. He cares for you. He wants to carry your anxiety. He will give you peace.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your promise to be with me, no matter what. Thank You for understanding and caring. Because circumstances don’t work out the way I want them to, I mistakenly interpret that You don’t love me, don’t care, or are just too busy with more important people and issues. Help me resist this me-centered thinking and lie, and open my eyes to Your truth. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to deliver the good news, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
God is good, a hiding place in tough times. He recognizes and welcomes anyone looking for help, No matter how desperate the trouble.
Nahum 1:7
But as for me, I will sing about your power. Each morning I will sing with joy about your unfailing love. For you have been my refuge, a place of safety when I am in distress.
Psalm 59:16
There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
1 Corinthians 10:13
Friday, March 11, 2011
Stepping Stones: Brainwashed, Lobotomy, or New Creation in Christ
Transformational Thought
Our childhood experiences, our biology and our spiritual history all contribute to our present makeup. In our struggle to overcome negative feelings like depression, we need to remember that while our psychological and biogenetic past cannot be changed, the way we view it can be changed as we use the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives to change our spiritual condition. Then our psychological and biological present can also be renewed. Thank You God!
If we draw our identity from the cluster of negativity around us … feelings of anger, helplessness, hopelessness, isolation, being overwhelmed, and perhaps even suicidal thoughts … rather than from our true identity as a "new creation in Christ Jesus," then indeed, we are continually being sucked into a black hole of despair. We are easily trapped in a self-reinforcing belief system about ourselves: I'm worthless … there is no hope. And by the way, this is exactly where Satan would like us to be.
Healing can start when we recognize that our problem is not anger or childhood abuse or even "depression." Our problem is really that the lenses we use to view ourselves are based on misinterpretations and distortions we’ve developed from our past experiences and the world’s system. This just re-enforces a self-identity of a worthless, inadequate, disconnected, incompetent person.
Just like en enemy trying to brainwash a POW, Satan’s plot as the Great Deceiver is to brainwash us. And he starts the day we are born. His goal is to establish strongholds of lies in our heart, and being very gullible kids, we walk easily into most of his traps. Maturity is being able to undo these lies, and insert the truth and act on it. As we all know, we all are works in progress, because the lies start early and go deep. It would be nice if we received a lobotomy or brain transplant when we were saved. But God has a “slower, but richer” process than we would like.
Only when we let the power of the Christmas and Easter stories form our lenses will we learn our new identity based on the truth of God's Word. When our lives begin to revolve around an understanding of God, life, and our own self-identity that is based on faith and guided by the Bible, we can begin to overcome depression and all the feeling states that interfere with our perspective and functioning.
Today, identify a couple lies about yourself from the old brainwashing tapes that play in your head. Instead of seeing yourself as worthless, begin to view yourself as a child of God, a shining star, His chosen and beloved. The characteristics of that new self-identity are based on faith in Christ, and can include surrendering to God's purposes ... kindness ... pure love ... goodness ... reaching for truth ... courage … fortitude ... and determination to keep going based on who God is, not on who we are.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to stop focusing on the swirling symptoms of depression that surround me like debris around a black hole. Help me instead to focus on Jesus and what He has done for me. Help me to remember that I am a new creation in Him. Please help me break this narcissism of a me-centered view instead of a God-centered view of my life. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to give me hope, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17
Our childhood experiences, our biology and our spiritual history all contribute to our present makeup. In our struggle to overcome negative feelings like depression, we need to remember that while our psychological and biogenetic past cannot be changed, the way we view it can be changed as we use the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives to change our spiritual condition. Then our psychological and biological present can also be renewed. Thank You God!
If we draw our identity from the cluster of negativity around us … feelings of anger, helplessness, hopelessness, isolation, being overwhelmed, and perhaps even suicidal thoughts … rather than from our true identity as a "new creation in Christ Jesus," then indeed, we are continually being sucked into a black hole of despair. We are easily trapped in a self-reinforcing belief system about ourselves: I'm worthless … there is no hope. And by the way, this is exactly where Satan would like us to be.
Healing can start when we recognize that our problem is not anger or childhood abuse or even "depression." Our problem is really that the lenses we use to view ourselves are based on misinterpretations and distortions we’ve developed from our past experiences and the world’s system. This just re-enforces a self-identity of a worthless, inadequate, disconnected, incompetent person.
Just like en enemy trying to brainwash a POW, Satan’s plot as the Great Deceiver is to brainwash us. And he starts the day we are born. His goal is to establish strongholds of lies in our heart, and being very gullible kids, we walk easily into most of his traps. Maturity is being able to undo these lies, and insert the truth and act on it. As we all know, we all are works in progress, because the lies start early and go deep. It would be nice if we received a lobotomy or brain transplant when we were saved. But God has a “slower, but richer” process than we would like.
Only when we let the power of the Christmas and Easter stories form our lenses will we learn our new identity based on the truth of God's Word. When our lives begin to revolve around an understanding of God, life, and our own self-identity that is based on faith and guided by the Bible, we can begin to overcome depression and all the feeling states that interfere with our perspective and functioning.
Today, identify a couple lies about yourself from the old brainwashing tapes that play in your head. Instead of seeing yourself as worthless, begin to view yourself as a child of God, a shining star, His chosen and beloved. The characteristics of that new self-identity are based on faith in Christ, and can include surrendering to God's purposes ... kindness ... pure love ... goodness ... reaching for truth ... courage … fortitude ... and determination to keep going based on who God is, not on who we are.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to stop focusing on the swirling symptoms of depression that surround me like debris around a black hole. Help me instead to focus on Jesus and what He has done for me. Help me to remember that I am a new creation in Him. Please help me break this narcissism of a me-centered view instead of a God-centered view of my life. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to give me hope, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Stepping Stones: “You Did It, Why Can’t I”
Transformational Thought
Some mothers prepare their teenage daughters for premarital sexual activities by helping them with birth control plans. They may feel guilty asking their teenage daughters to abstain from sex outside of marriage, especially if they, as teenagers themselves, did not. Likewise, some fathers may allow their teenage sons to drink alcohol … after all, they did when they were teens … how can they say "no" now?
No matter what mistakes we may have made, that is history. If we have received Jesus' forgiveness, the past is past. This is today … and God is calling us today to train our children in the way they should go. The way that is pleasing to Him.
Because you broke rules and made mistakes does not mean that your children should follow the same pattern. It is vital that you learn from your wrongdoing and receive Christ's forgiveness. Then God calls you to love your children enough to teach them the right way … God's way.
But for your message to have real impact on them you need to do 3 things:
1. Don’t just tell them the right decision to make, but live it, role model it.
2. Understand the reasons that those behaviors aren’t good and explain them to your child. Your explanations need to go deeper than “the bible says so” or “because you’ll get in trouble”.
3. Start equipping them with a concrete strategy so they can become better decision-makers. Teach them decision-making skills and the rewards and consequences they will experience physiologically (their brain chemistry), psychologically (their personality), and spiritually (their connection to and relationship with God). Knowing the benefits of doing the right thing will help motivate them to do the right thing.
Today, remember you don't have to do it alone. Ask God for the courage, the strength, and the wisdom to train your children in the way they should go. Today, do some self-assessment and see how you disciple those God gave to you to mentor with decision-making skills. WITHIN REACH is a unique and valuable resource to teach the detriments and process of poor decision-making and how to move toward great decision-making skills.
Prayer
Dear God, help me to guide and disciple my children so that they won't make the same mistakes that I did. Help me to train them in the way they should go. Help me understand how You designed me and why I make the decisions I make. Help me learn how to make Godly decisions and teach these principles and motivations to my children. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to train me in the way I should go, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Proverbs 22:6
The Lord your God will delight in you if you obey his voice and keep the commands and decrees written in this Book of Instruction, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your heart and soul. This command I am giving you today is not too difficult for you to understand, and it is within your reach. Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life. And if you love and obey the Lord, you will live long in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
Deuteronomy 30:10-11, 19-20
Some mothers prepare their teenage daughters for premarital sexual activities by helping them with birth control plans. They may feel guilty asking their teenage daughters to abstain from sex outside of marriage, especially if they, as teenagers themselves, did not. Likewise, some fathers may allow their teenage sons to drink alcohol … after all, they did when they were teens … how can they say "no" now?
No matter what mistakes we may have made, that is history. If we have received Jesus' forgiveness, the past is past. This is today … and God is calling us today to train our children in the way they should go. The way that is pleasing to Him.
Because you broke rules and made mistakes does not mean that your children should follow the same pattern. It is vital that you learn from your wrongdoing and receive Christ's forgiveness. Then God calls you to love your children enough to teach them the right way … God's way.
But for your message to have real impact on them you need to do 3 things:
1. Don’t just tell them the right decision to make, but live it, role model it.
2. Understand the reasons that those behaviors aren’t good and explain them to your child. Your explanations need to go deeper than “the bible says so” or “because you’ll get in trouble”.
3. Start equipping them with a concrete strategy so they can become better decision-makers. Teach them decision-making skills and the rewards and consequences they will experience physiologically (their brain chemistry), psychologically (their personality), and spiritually (their connection to and relationship with God). Knowing the benefits of doing the right thing will help motivate them to do the right thing.
Today, remember you don't have to do it alone. Ask God for the courage, the strength, and the wisdom to train your children in the way they should go. Today, do some self-assessment and see how you disciple those God gave to you to mentor with decision-making skills. WITHIN REACH is a unique and valuable resource to teach the detriments and process of poor decision-making and how to move toward great decision-making skills.
Prayer
Dear God, help me to guide and disciple my children so that they won't make the same mistakes that I did. Help me to train them in the way they should go. Help me understand how You designed me and why I make the decisions I make. Help me learn how to make Godly decisions and teach these principles and motivations to my children. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to train me in the way I should go, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Proverbs 22:6
The Lord your God will delight in you if you obey his voice and keep the commands and decrees written in this Book of Instruction, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your heart and soul. This command I am giving you today is not too difficult for you to understand, and it is within your reach. Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life. And if you love and obey the Lord, you will live long in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
Deuteronomy 30:10-11, 19-20
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Stepping Stones: What You Hiding From?
Transformational Thought
Today's Scripture is much more lengthy than usual, but it expresses so beautifully the despair that so many of us experience … the despair that comes with hiding our sins from God. But it also reveals the great freedom we experience when we finally stop trying to hide our guilt, confess our sinful decisions to the Lord, and receive His loving forgiveness.
Even though painful feelings are unpleasant to experience, facing them honestly and dealing with their cause is essential. If we want to be the person God has called us to be … if we want to stop hurting others and ourselves … if we want to experience the freedom and peace in our lives that Christ died for … we must face the truth and ask God for His forgiveness and His help. Then we need to be good stewards of His help and instructions through Godly decision-making.
Jesus understands the damage that can be done when unpleasant feelings resulting from sins are ignored and pushed below the surface. He encourages us to approach Him like a little child … quick to be vulnerable … willing to share our feelings with Him … trusting that He will heal and not rub salt in our wound or take advantage of our vulnerability.
In childhood there were times when we opened up, trusted, made ourselves vulnerable, and then were hurt. We weren’t stupid, so we figured the only way to avoid hurt or let down anymore was to hold it all in, not open up, be skeptical of others, and not share our mistakes, questions, or insecurities. Satan wants us to keep our wrongs in the dark because He knows the Light will allow truth, letting healing prevail.
Today, think about sin in your life that you may be hiding … especially from yourself. God loves you, and is waiting for you to come to Him. He is your loving Father. Come to Him as the psalmist did. Then you can join the psalmist in rejoicing: "Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, 'I will confess my rebellion to the LORD.' And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone." Develop the Spiritual Discipline of confession. It reconnects you to God and allows God to enter your heart for healing to begin.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I confess my rebellion and my sins. Forgive me for trying to hide it for so long. Thank You for Your unconditional love, for Your forgiveness, and for the peace that only You can give. Empower me with trust to come to you and be vulnerable when I am fearful. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me about unconditional love, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight! Yes, what joy for those whose record the LORD has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty! When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My Strength evaporated like water in the heat. Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, "I will confess my rebellion to the LORD." Therefore, let all the godly pray to you while there is still time, that they may not drown in the floodwaters of judgment. For you are my hiding place; you protect me from trouble. You surround me with songs of victory.
Psalm 32:1-7
Today's Scripture is much more lengthy than usual, but it expresses so beautifully the despair that so many of us experience … the despair that comes with hiding our sins from God. But it also reveals the great freedom we experience when we finally stop trying to hide our guilt, confess our sinful decisions to the Lord, and receive His loving forgiveness.
Even though painful feelings are unpleasant to experience, facing them honestly and dealing with their cause is essential. If we want to be the person God has called us to be … if we want to stop hurting others and ourselves … if we want to experience the freedom and peace in our lives that Christ died for … we must face the truth and ask God for His forgiveness and His help. Then we need to be good stewards of His help and instructions through Godly decision-making.
Jesus understands the damage that can be done when unpleasant feelings resulting from sins are ignored and pushed below the surface. He encourages us to approach Him like a little child … quick to be vulnerable … willing to share our feelings with Him … trusting that He will heal and not rub salt in our wound or take advantage of our vulnerability.
In childhood there were times when we opened up, trusted, made ourselves vulnerable, and then were hurt. We weren’t stupid, so we figured the only way to avoid hurt or let down anymore was to hold it all in, not open up, be skeptical of others, and not share our mistakes, questions, or insecurities. Satan wants us to keep our wrongs in the dark because He knows the Light will allow truth, letting healing prevail.
Today, think about sin in your life that you may be hiding … especially from yourself. God loves you, and is waiting for you to come to Him. He is your loving Father. Come to Him as the psalmist did. Then you can join the psalmist in rejoicing: "Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, 'I will confess my rebellion to the LORD.' And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone." Develop the Spiritual Discipline of confession. It reconnects you to God and allows God to enter your heart for healing to begin.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I confess my rebellion and my sins. Forgive me for trying to hide it for so long. Thank You for Your unconditional love, for Your forgiveness, and for the peace that only You can give. Empower me with trust to come to you and be vulnerable when I am fearful. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me about unconditional love, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight! Yes, what joy for those whose record the LORD has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty! When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My Strength evaporated like water in the heat. Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, "I will confess my rebellion to the LORD." Therefore, let all the godly pray to you while there is still time, that they may not drown in the floodwaters of judgment. For you are my hiding place; you protect me from trouble. You surround me with songs of victory.
Psalm 32:1-7
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Stepping Stones: Why Are You In My Life?
Transformational Thought
Do you ever wonder about the people who come into your life? All kinds … the person at the store you talk to in line … an acquaintance from some social circle … a friend from school … family members you share many experiences with … a colleague at work. The number of people is amazing, even for someone who’s avoiding relationships.
Sometimes, if you are lucky … truly blessed … you have someone enter your life who will change it forever. A special person delivering God’s, mercy, grace, and unconditional love … right to the doorstep of your heart.
Well, I was one of those lucky people. 22 years ago, when I was stuck at some significant crossroads in many areas of my life, God showed up when I least expected it. Today is Fat Tuesday, and on Fat Tuesday of 1989, right in the middle of New Orleans, at a Mardi Gras party, I met and fell in love with the most beautiful person. Love at first sight!
She was, and is, incredibly beautiful on the outside. But the amazing part is who she is on the inside. When I was in such personal and spiritual need for God to show up, He showed up through my wife, Martine. Her unconditional love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, and sacrifice have been so powerful to me … freeing me from my personal demons and allowing me to see God’s majesty in her and through her.
Since then, my engagement and growth with God has been unbelievable and He has transformed my life. I wish I could say I am the perfect husband … or even a good husband, but unfortunately, that is the area where I still need the most growth. So, thank you so much, God, and thank you, Martine, so much for what you have done for me. Happy Birthday as well!
Today, think about those God has put in YOUR life. Are you there to influence them? Then do it. Have they been a profound influence on you? Then thank God for them and thank them … a lot. Do something special for them ASAP. God does show up and speak to us, and often it’s in the form of circumstances and the other people in those circumstances.
Prayer
Oh God, Thank You so much for not giving up on me even though I strayed and tried life my own way. All the grace and protection You provided still astound and humble me. Then to bring me an incredible gift, my Martine, I am speechless. Please strengthen me and help me have the courage to resist my selfish desires and really love and serve her … for that will honor You, her, and me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who loved perfectly and fully, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.
2 Corinthians 5:20
Jesus said to them again, "Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, even so I am sending you."
John 20:21
And he said to them, "Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation.
Mark 16:15
Do you ever wonder about the people who come into your life? All kinds … the person at the store you talk to in line … an acquaintance from some social circle … a friend from school … family members you share many experiences with … a colleague at work. The number of people is amazing, even for someone who’s avoiding relationships.
Sometimes, if you are lucky … truly blessed … you have someone enter your life who will change it forever. A special person delivering God’s, mercy, grace, and unconditional love … right to the doorstep of your heart.
Well, I was one of those lucky people. 22 years ago, when I was stuck at some significant crossroads in many areas of my life, God showed up when I least expected it. Today is Fat Tuesday, and on Fat Tuesday of 1989, right in the middle of New Orleans, at a Mardi Gras party, I met and fell in love with the most beautiful person. Love at first sight!
She was, and is, incredibly beautiful on the outside. But the amazing part is who she is on the inside. When I was in such personal and spiritual need for God to show up, He showed up through my wife, Martine. Her unconditional love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, and sacrifice have been so powerful to me … freeing me from my personal demons and allowing me to see God’s majesty in her and through her.
Since then, my engagement and growth with God has been unbelievable and He has transformed my life. I wish I could say I am the perfect husband … or even a good husband, but unfortunately, that is the area where I still need the most growth. So, thank you so much, God, and thank you, Martine, so much for what you have done for me. Happy Birthday as well!
Today, think about those God has put in YOUR life. Are you there to influence them? Then do it. Have they been a profound influence on you? Then thank God for them and thank them … a lot. Do something special for them ASAP. God does show up and speak to us, and often it’s in the form of circumstances and the other people in those circumstances.
Prayer
Oh God, Thank You so much for not giving up on me even though I strayed and tried life my own way. All the grace and protection You provided still astound and humble me. Then to bring me an incredible gift, my Martine, I am speechless. Please strengthen me and help me have the courage to resist my selfish desires and really love and serve her … for that will honor You, her, and me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who loved perfectly and fully, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.
2 Corinthians 5:20
Jesus said to them again, "Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, even so I am sending you."
John 20:21
And he said to them, "Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation.
Mark 16:15
Monday, March 7, 2011
Stepping Stones: The Invisible Walls of Prejudice
Transformational Thought
Yesterday, we opened up the topic of prejudice and discussed some of the whys and harmful effects of prejudicial thinking and decisions. Most of us tend to pre-judge people on the basis of how they look or dress, what their family members are like, how they talk, stereotypes built by the media of particular social, economic or ethnic groups, and on many other superficial and erroneous characteristics.
There is a danger in rejecting or misjudging someone because they are different from us. First of all, the Bible tells us that prejudice is a sin, one that blocks our ability to love others as we should. We could even miss blessings from God, both in this world and in the eternal, by rejecting strangers due to prejudice. This was the mistake that people made when they rejected Jesus as the promised Messiah and King. Because Jesus did not come in the way they expected a king to come, they erroneously judged Him as a liar and they crucified Him.
We can also miss an opportunity to bless others, or to be blessed by them and God when we allow walls of prejudice, even subtle ones, to build. We may overlook an opportunity to help someone find Jesus. We may lose an opportunity to find Jesus more clearly or to know Him on a deeper level. Don’t put the other person, yourself, and especially God in a box, limiting capabilities and impact.
These walls are made with our bricks of ignorance, insecurity, and lack of trust in God … in His power and sovereignty. Allowing God into these areas will clean our lenses of prejudice allowing us to see people as God sees them.
Today, ask God to help you see the walls you have built around yourself and recognize how they interfere with your ability to see and engage with people the way God wants you to. Examine yourself and your heart. What are some of the wounds and fears that smudge your lenses as God brings different people into your life? You can begin removing those barriers between yourself and others. Ask Him to help you begin to look on the inside and see people as He does. Only then can the love of Jesus flow freely through you to everyone He brings your way. WITHIN REACH will help you search yourself and your past to identify and heal those wounds and distortions.
Prayer
O Gracious God, I do want the love of Jesus to flow freely through me to every person You place in my life. Forgive me for sometimes blocking this flow by judging others by outward appearances. I know I have wounds and distorted lenses. Give me courage to overcome my fears and insecurities. Help me see myself through Your lenses so I don’t need to look down on others to feel important in this world. Help me clear my vision so I can see each individual as You do and respond to them with Your love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who sees all the best in me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Yes indeed, it is good when you obey the royal law as found in the Scriptures: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you favor some people over others, you are committing a sin. You are guilty of breaking the law.
James 2:8-9
Yesterday, we opened up the topic of prejudice and discussed some of the whys and harmful effects of prejudicial thinking and decisions. Most of us tend to pre-judge people on the basis of how they look or dress, what their family members are like, how they talk, stereotypes built by the media of particular social, economic or ethnic groups, and on many other superficial and erroneous characteristics.
There is a danger in rejecting or misjudging someone because they are different from us. First of all, the Bible tells us that prejudice is a sin, one that blocks our ability to love others as we should. We could even miss blessings from God, both in this world and in the eternal, by rejecting strangers due to prejudice. This was the mistake that people made when they rejected Jesus as the promised Messiah and King. Because Jesus did not come in the way they expected a king to come, they erroneously judged Him as a liar and they crucified Him.
We can also miss an opportunity to bless others, or to be blessed by them and God when we allow walls of prejudice, even subtle ones, to build. We may overlook an opportunity to help someone find Jesus. We may lose an opportunity to find Jesus more clearly or to know Him on a deeper level. Don’t put the other person, yourself, and especially God in a box, limiting capabilities and impact.
These walls are made with our bricks of ignorance, insecurity, and lack of trust in God … in His power and sovereignty. Allowing God into these areas will clean our lenses of prejudice allowing us to see people as God sees them.
Today, ask God to help you see the walls you have built around yourself and recognize how they interfere with your ability to see and engage with people the way God wants you to. Examine yourself and your heart. What are some of the wounds and fears that smudge your lenses as God brings different people into your life? You can begin removing those barriers between yourself and others. Ask Him to help you begin to look on the inside and see people as He does. Only then can the love of Jesus flow freely through you to everyone He brings your way. WITHIN REACH will help you search yourself and your past to identify and heal those wounds and distortions.
Prayer
O Gracious God, I do want the love of Jesus to flow freely through me to every person You place in my life. Forgive me for sometimes blocking this flow by judging others by outward appearances. I know I have wounds and distorted lenses. Give me courage to overcome my fears and insecurities. Help me see myself through Your lenses so I don’t need to look down on others to feel important in this world. Help me clear my vision so I can see each individual as You do and respond to them with Your love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who sees all the best in me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Yes indeed, it is good when you obey the royal law as found in the Scriptures: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you favor some people over others, you are committing a sin. You are guilty of breaking the law.
James 2:8-9
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Stepping Stones: Prejudice Means to “Pre-Judge”
Transformational Thought
My father was a wonderful man, who unfortunately suffered from extreme prejudice. I believe most of it came from his own father. Thank God that my siblings and I had a mother who worked hard at eliminating prejudice in her children.
Prejudice can creep into our lives without our awareness of what is happening. Sometimes it's such a subtle thing that we don't think anything of it. We might choose one cashier's line over another because of race, a tattoo, clothes, or general appearance. In church or any public gathering, we may select seats next to people who "look like us." The flip side can also happen, like we might assume that people with power or wealth are unapproachable to anyone not in their league. But this too, is judgment based on prejudice, not on fact.
Prejudice shows a lack of respect to another person. Based on one general characteristic, you are saying you know a person without ever hearing their unique story. You are rejecting them based on that one attribute. It is lazy and disrespectful to yourself as well, but mostly it is disrespectful to God and His sovereignty. Pre-judging puts others in a box, limiting who they are … who they can become. It also puts you in a box, limiting what you are able to be, to learn, or imagine about yourself. And most importantly, pre-judging really limits God and puts Him in a box … denying His power to fully transform hearts and individuals. You are telling God you can predict the other person’s future … saying God has no plan for them.
People are people … no matter what our skin color, economic status, education, style, nationality or neighborhood. We all want to be loved and respected by other people. We all experience painful times and good times. We all want to be understood. But because of our insecurities … our need to be important … we put others down to give the perception that we are better than we really are. Instead, we need to look to God to grow and promote us in His kingdom.
Have you ever experienced the brunt of prejudice? If so, you understand the hurt it can bring. Ask God to use that experience to teach you to lay aside all prejudice toward others and, when possible, take time getting to know the real person. Let’s ask God to teach us to look at the heart.
Today, stop and notice why you think or relate to someone the way you do. Is it because you pre-judged, or is it based on data this person actually revealed to you? One of the biggest reasons we don’t witness to others very much is our prejudicial ideas about that person. Don’t prejudge. Enjoy the experience of asking questions and getting to know someone God loves, someone He put into your life for a reason.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me remember that people are people. Help me not to look down on anyone … or to be intimidated by anyone. You are the great equalizer. Jesus died for every person. Every person needs forgiveness. Every person needs Jesus. In my relationships with others, help me move past the outward appearance and see the heart. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to save everyone, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart
1 Samuel 16:7
And a lawyer stood up and put Him to the test, saying, “Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?” And He said to him, “What is written in the Law? How does it read to you?” And he answered, “YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH, AND ALL YOUR MIND; AND YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” And He said to him, “You have answered correctly; DO THIS AND YOU WILL LIVE.” But wishing to justify himself, he said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” Jesus replied and said, “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among robbers, and they stripped him and beat him, and went away leaving him half dead. “And by chance a priest was going down on that road, and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side. “Likewise a Levite also, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. “But a Samaritan, who was on a journey, came upon him; and when he saw him, he felt compassion, and came to him and bandaged up his wounds, pouring oil and wine on them; and he put him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn and took care of him. “On the next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper and said, ‘Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I return I will repay you.’ “Which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell into the robbers’ hands?” And he said, “The one who showed mercy toward him.” Then Jesus said to him, “Go and do the same.”
Luke 25-37
(I love this story so I put the whole passage!)
My father was a wonderful man, who unfortunately suffered from extreme prejudice. I believe most of it came from his own father. Thank God that my siblings and I had a mother who worked hard at eliminating prejudice in her children.
Prejudice can creep into our lives without our awareness of what is happening. Sometimes it's such a subtle thing that we don't think anything of it. We might choose one cashier's line over another because of race, a tattoo, clothes, or general appearance. In church or any public gathering, we may select seats next to people who "look like us." The flip side can also happen, like we might assume that people with power or wealth are unapproachable to anyone not in their league. But this too, is judgment based on prejudice, not on fact.
Prejudice shows a lack of respect to another person. Based on one general characteristic, you are saying you know a person without ever hearing their unique story. You are rejecting them based on that one attribute. It is lazy and disrespectful to yourself as well, but mostly it is disrespectful to God and His sovereignty. Pre-judging puts others in a box, limiting who they are … who they can become. It also puts you in a box, limiting what you are able to be, to learn, or imagine about yourself. And most importantly, pre-judging really limits God and puts Him in a box … denying His power to fully transform hearts and individuals. You are telling God you can predict the other person’s future … saying God has no plan for them.
People are people … no matter what our skin color, economic status, education, style, nationality or neighborhood. We all want to be loved and respected by other people. We all experience painful times and good times. We all want to be understood. But because of our insecurities … our need to be important … we put others down to give the perception that we are better than we really are. Instead, we need to look to God to grow and promote us in His kingdom.
Have you ever experienced the brunt of prejudice? If so, you understand the hurt it can bring. Ask God to use that experience to teach you to lay aside all prejudice toward others and, when possible, take time getting to know the real person. Let’s ask God to teach us to look at the heart.
Today, stop and notice why you think or relate to someone the way you do. Is it because you pre-judged, or is it based on data this person actually revealed to you? One of the biggest reasons we don’t witness to others very much is our prejudicial ideas about that person. Don’t prejudge. Enjoy the experience of asking questions and getting to know someone God loves, someone He put into your life for a reason.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me remember that people are people. Help me not to look down on anyone … or to be intimidated by anyone. You are the great equalizer. Jesus died for every person. Every person needs forgiveness. Every person needs Jesus. In my relationships with others, help me move past the outward appearance and see the heart. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to save everyone, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart
1 Samuel 16:7
And a lawyer stood up and put Him to the test, saying, “Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?” And He said to him, “What is written in the Law? How does it read to you?” And he answered, “YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH, AND ALL YOUR MIND; AND YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” And He said to him, “You have answered correctly; DO THIS AND YOU WILL LIVE.” But wishing to justify himself, he said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” Jesus replied and said, “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among robbers, and they stripped him and beat him, and went away leaving him half dead. “And by chance a priest was going down on that road, and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side. “Likewise a Levite also, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. “But a Samaritan, who was on a journey, came upon him; and when he saw him, he felt compassion, and came to him and bandaged up his wounds, pouring oil and wine on them; and he put him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn and took care of him. “On the next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper and said, ‘Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I return I will repay you.’ “Which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell into the robbers’ hands?” And he said, “The one who showed mercy toward him.” Then Jesus said to him, “Go and do the same.”
Luke 25-37
(I love this story so I put the whole passage!)
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Stepping Stones: The Sin Before the Sin
Transformational Thought
Before we make a sinful decision, a series of circumstances occurs beforehand that makes temptation harder to resist. It is in our power to change situations in which fertile circumstances influence us to sin. When we choose to stick with those circumstances, we are guilty of the sin before the sin … of getting too close. Think of it as the sin of nearness.
The sin before the sin involves the little decisions that set us up for temptation plus the “final step”, which is the decision to commit the sinful act itself. If we are to overcome the strongholds in our lives that constantly pull us in the wrong direction, we have to come to a place of obedience. We need to do everything possible to eliminate occasions that are in our control, that precede our sin. We all know what these occasions look like.
If Satan has a stronghold in your heart regarding food, then be aware of how you are feeding the supply lines of that stronghold. When you make the decision to stop at the fast food place, or walk into the kitchen, or open the pantry or refrigerator door, you are making it easier to be tempted to sin. Resisting these earlier steps before sin will cut off the supply lines and the stronghold of Satan will weaken over time. That is why it gets easier each time you resist temptation.
Failing to eliminate stumbling blocks that lead to sin is a serious issue for many of us. Sexual temptation has presented itself to most of us at some time in our lives. Today's scripture advises us to run from sexual sin. The closer you get to sexual temptation the better it looks. With sexual sin, the longer we are in the presence of temptation the less likely we are to escape without sinning. It is so much better to avoid the sin before the sin … to run from the sin of nearness. Don’t turn on the computer in an isolated place; don’t touch yourself; move that sexual image out of your head as soon as it appears. Jesus warns that when you lust, you are committing adultery.
The closer we get to the good sensations of the sinful act, the harder it is to resist, especially when we are feeling down, lonely, bored, sad, overwhelmed, out of control, powerless, fill-in-the-blank for the feeling that cripples your ability to run from the sin of nearness.
Today, take notice of the small decisions that lead up to your actual wrong decision. Draw a little map or timeline, so you can see the options you had to take a different course before you made the sinful decision itself. Resist the sin of nearness to cut off the supply lines and strangle those strongholds Satan has in your life. Stay in fellowship with Jesus. Turn to Him for the strength and discernment you need. With Him, you can do all things.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me notice the many warnings and opportunities you give me to turn away as I walk down the path to sin. Help me recognize stumbling blocks and be a better steward in the “little” decisions that lead up to the “bigger” decisions. I can only do this through submission to Your Holy Spirit guiding me in Your wisdom and empowering my action. Especially, help me to run from all temptation that may be involved in sexual sin. Help me to run away from this sin and toward You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach me how to resist temptation, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Before we make a sinful decision, a series of circumstances occurs beforehand that makes temptation harder to resist. It is in our power to change situations in which fertile circumstances influence us to sin. When we choose to stick with those circumstances, we are guilty of the sin before the sin … of getting too close. Think of it as the sin of nearness.
The sin before the sin involves the little decisions that set us up for temptation plus the “final step”, which is the decision to commit the sinful act itself. If we are to overcome the strongholds in our lives that constantly pull us in the wrong direction, we have to come to a place of obedience. We need to do everything possible to eliminate occasions that are in our control, that precede our sin. We all know what these occasions look like.
If Satan has a stronghold in your heart regarding food, then be aware of how you are feeding the supply lines of that stronghold. When you make the decision to stop at the fast food place, or walk into the kitchen, or open the pantry or refrigerator door, you are making it easier to be tempted to sin. Resisting these earlier steps before sin will cut off the supply lines and the stronghold of Satan will weaken over time. That is why it gets easier each time you resist temptation.
Failing to eliminate stumbling blocks that lead to sin is a serious issue for many of us. Sexual temptation has presented itself to most of us at some time in our lives. Today's scripture advises us to run from sexual sin. The closer you get to sexual temptation the better it looks. With sexual sin, the longer we are in the presence of temptation the less likely we are to escape without sinning. It is so much better to avoid the sin before the sin … to run from the sin of nearness. Don’t turn on the computer in an isolated place; don’t touch yourself; move that sexual image out of your head as soon as it appears. Jesus warns that when you lust, you are committing adultery.
The closer we get to the good sensations of the sinful act, the harder it is to resist, especially when we are feeling down, lonely, bored, sad, overwhelmed, out of control, powerless, fill-in-the-blank for the feeling that cripples your ability to run from the sin of nearness.
Today, take notice of the small decisions that lead up to your actual wrong decision. Draw a little map or timeline, so you can see the options you had to take a different course before you made the sinful decision itself. Resist the sin of nearness to cut off the supply lines and strangle those strongholds Satan has in your life. Stay in fellowship with Jesus. Turn to Him for the strength and discernment you need. With Him, you can do all things.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me notice the many warnings and opportunities you give me to turn away as I walk down the path to sin. Help me recognize stumbling blocks and be a better steward in the “little” decisions that lead up to the “bigger” decisions. I can only do this through submission to Your Holy Spirit guiding me in Your wisdom and empowering my action. Especially, help me to run from all temptation that may be involved in sexual sin. Help me to run away from this sin and toward You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach me how to resist temptation, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Friday, March 4, 2011
Stepping Stones: I Just Don’t Have What It Takes…
Transformational Thought
When we are dealing with a life-controlling problem … whether it is a behavior, thought pattern, or feeling … we may begin to think, "What's the use? I'll never overcome this. I've tried … and failed … again and again. I just don't have what it takes to get things right." Or “I’ve tried so many times and never get anywhere.” “I guess this is the way God made me and I am stuck like this.” “This is the way I was born and there is no escaping it.”
And you know what? We would be right. We probably don't have what it takes. But we know someone who does: Jesus. And the Bible promises us that we can do all things … through Christ. If we are willing to commit our lives to Him, He will give us the wisdom, strength, and most of all, the courage we need to do what is right. He will guide us on the right path. And He will often send other people to help us.
Change doesn’t just happen overnight or randomly. Satan certainly has a strategy to defeat you. So in order to experience change, you need a strategy to fight back and make change happen.
To receive this strength from Christ, we first need to admit that we need help. We need to be honest with ourselves, with Him, and with others. We need to take off our masks of self-sufficiency and get real with ourselves. Quit using our own instruction manual and start using His for all of life’s situations. Start seeing life through the Godly lenses of His Holy Bible. That is what transformed my life, and it can certainly transform yours also.
Today, if you’re dealing with a problem that seems hopeless … take the first step. Admit you need help. Then, ask God for His plan. Ask him for strength through Christ. Admit to safe and caring people that you need help. WITHIN REACH: Disciplines for Real Life Change is a great resource giving you a concrete strategy to apply the Bible (Best Instruction Book for Living Everyday) to your daily living.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been trying everything I know to overcome my problem, but nothing seems to work for the long run. I need … and desire Your strength and guidance. Help me to be honest about my need for help by sharing with those You send to help me. Help me remember that I can succeed … through Christ. But I need to know how to apply that. Help me learn to apply Your word to my life, minute by minute, instead of using my own understanding. I pray this and all prayers through the One whom You sent to compensate for all my shortcomings, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
Proverbs 3:5-8
When we are dealing with a life-controlling problem … whether it is a behavior, thought pattern, or feeling … we may begin to think, "What's the use? I'll never overcome this. I've tried … and failed … again and again. I just don't have what it takes to get things right." Or “I’ve tried so many times and never get anywhere.” “I guess this is the way God made me and I am stuck like this.” “This is the way I was born and there is no escaping it.”
And you know what? We would be right. We probably don't have what it takes. But we know someone who does: Jesus. And the Bible promises us that we can do all things … through Christ. If we are willing to commit our lives to Him, He will give us the wisdom, strength, and most of all, the courage we need to do what is right. He will guide us on the right path. And He will often send other people to help us.
Change doesn’t just happen overnight or randomly. Satan certainly has a strategy to defeat you. So in order to experience change, you need a strategy to fight back and make change happen.
To receive this strength from Christ, we first need to admit that we need help. We need to be honest with ourselves, with Him, and with others. We need to take off our masks of self-sufficiency and get real with ourselves. Quit using our own instruction manual and start using His for all of life’s situations. Start seeing life through the Godly lenses of His Holy Bible. That is what transformed my life, and it can certainly transform yours also.
Today, if you’re dealing with a problem that seems hopeless … take the first step. Admit you need help. Then, ask God for His plan. Ask him for strength through Christ. Admit to safe and caring people that you need help. WITHIN REACH: Disciplines for Real Life Change is a great resource giving you a concrete strategy to apply the Bible (Best Instruction Book for Living Everyday) to your daily living.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been trying everything I know to overcome my problem, but nothing seems to work for the long run. I need … and desire Your strength and guidance. Help me to be honest about my need for help by sharing with those You send to help me. Help me remember that I can succeed … through Christ. But I need to know how to apply that. Help me learn to apply Your word to my life, minute by minute, instead of using my own understanding. I pray this and all prayers through the One whom You sent to compensate for all my shortcomings, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
Proverbs 3:5-8
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Stepping Stones: Time to Take Down the Walls!
Transformational Thought
Have you ever tried to hold a large inflated toy under water? It’s hard work. When we stuff our feelings, it is like trying to holding an inflatable under water. And yet, we often work even harder to keep our true feelings out of view. And by doing this, we build walls around our real selves and around any problems we may be struggling with.
We often think of walls as protective, but these walls can be destructive to the psychological and spiritual growth we are striving for. These self-constructed walls cause us to isolate ourselves from other people … and even from God. They often hide us from the truth about a problem that has a hold on us. The walls we build are called coping skills or defense mechanisms. Defenses can take many forms: rationalization, humor, blame, denial. Have you said something like "What I did isn't so bad," or "You don't understand the pressure I'm under," or “It isn’t so bad,” or “It’s in the past, let’s move on.” Sound familiar?
We've all used defenses like these to cover the truth. Understanding where and how our feelings play into our decision-making system is usually a mystery to most of us. God and Jesus expressed many emotions, ranging from joy to jealousy. So they must serve a purpose and should not be pushed down. Because we are afraid and uneducated about our emotions, we find many ways to hide from them.
When we hide behind defenses, we are attempting to hide the truth about ourselves and our situation from God … other people … and even from ourselves. We are also blinding ourselves from the truth of God's Word. And yet, our only answer is in the truth … because the truth will set us free.
Today, stop and assess whether you have built any walls around yourself … walls that you hoped would defend you ... walls that in reality are blocking your road to freedom. It is important to recognize those walls and begin to tear them down. But remember, you can't tear them down all at once. Building them was a process, and so is tearing them down. It's done by being honest with God, with yourself, and with others (but in a Godly way). It's done by learning to trust the truth of the Bible more than your feelings. WITHIN REACH will help you understand and utilize your emotions wisely.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize I've been trying to hide the truth by building walls around myself. I've rationalized. I've pointed the finger at others. I've denied. But the truth is that I need Your help. Help me to be honest with You, with others … and with myself. Help me to depend on the truth of Your Word more than on my feelings. Help me to tear down the walls. I pray this and all prayers through the One You sent to help me remove my defenses, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without protection.
Proverbs 25:28
Have you ever tried to hold a large inflated toy under water? It’s hard work. When we stuff our feelings, it is like trying to holding an inflatable under water. And yet, we often work even harder to keep our true feelings out of view. And by doing this, we build walls around our real selves and around any problems we may be struggling with.
We often think of walls as protective, but these walls can be destructive to the psychological and spiritual growth we are striving for. These self-constructed walls cause us to isolate ourselves from other people … and even from God. They often hide us from the truth about a problem that has a hold on us. The walls we build are called coping skills or defense mechanisms. Defenses can take many forms: rationalization, humor, blame, denial. Have you said something like "What I did isn't so bad," or "You don't understand the pressure I'm under," or “It isn’t so bad,” or “It’s in the past, let’s move on.” Sound familiar?
We've all used defenses like these to cover the truth. Understanding where and how our feelings play into our decision-making system is usually a mystery to most of us. God and Jesus expressed many emotions, ranging from joy to jealousy. So they must serve a purpose and should not be pushed down. Because we are afraid and uneducated about our emotions, we find many ways to hide from them.
When we hide behind defenses, we are attempting to hide the truth about ourselves and our situation from God … other people … and even from ourselves. We are also blinding ourselves from the truth of God's Word. And yet, our only answer is in the truth … because the truth will set us free.
Today, stop and assess whether you have built any walls around yourself … walls that you hoped would defend you ... walls that in reality are blocking your road to freedom. It is important to recognize those walls and begin to tear them down. But remember, you can't tear them down all at once. Building them was a process, and so is tearing them down. It's done by being honest with God, with yourself, and with others (but in a Godly way). It's done by learning to trust the truth of the Bible more than your feelings. WITHIN REACH will help you understand and utilize your emotions wisely.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize I've been trying to hide the truth by building walls around myself. I've rationalized. I've pointed the finger at others. I've denied. But the truth is that I need Your help. Help me to be honest with You, with others … and with myself. Help me to depend on the truth of Your Word more than on my feelings. Help me to tear down the walls. I pray this and all prayers through the One You sent to help me remove my defenses, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without protection.
Proverbs 25:28
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Stepping Stones: Do You Know Who You Are?
Transformational Thought
An amazing turning point in my life occurred when I learned I had spent 25 years of my life building and hiding behind defenses. These defenses gave me an illusion of control, but in reality, I was just getting farther and farther out of control.
When we hide behind self-built defenses, we may have a sense that we are in control. We tell ourselves that we're holding our feelings under control. But in reality we are not in control at all … our problems are at the wheel. We've pushed away the people who really care about us, the ones who could help us. And we've allowed our problem, our situation, to take control. It’s the proverbial “slippery slope.”
This is exactly where Satan wants us. His lie is that these “self-protective” defenses are really self-destructive, both now and down the road. In this spiritual battle, when we try to defend ourselves from our own strength, our defenses become allies of the enemy. Only when we allow our defensive walls to crumble and start living can we begin to practice true self-control … choosing and acting on the basis of who we are in Christ and relying on all the strength, guidance, and wisdom God has promised and will provide.
Because of Christ…
You are redeemed; paid for at a great price. (Ephesians 1:7) You are forgiven; your sin as far as condemnation, has been forgotten. (Psalm 103:12) You are strong and capable; and can do everything through Christ. (Philippians 4:13) You are a conqueror: an overcomer. (Romans 8:37)
Today, examine your areas of stress. Do you let your circumstances or your feelings control you? Do your defenses, that is, your coping mechanisms, help you or do they just act as knee-jerk bridges to the next stressor? Build your defenses on Biblical principles not just to escape your stressor, but to shine and be strengthened by it. Know yourself and be seen as God sees you … the Bible makes it clear who you are as a Christian. Why, when under pressure, do you have trouble believing it and turn to worldly answers for your spiritual yearnings? Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to stop hiding behind my self-built, self-destructive defenses. Help me to see myself as You do because of Christ: redeemed, forgiven, strong, capable, and an overcomer. Help me remember always what a great price was paid at the cross so that I could have this new identity. I pray this and all prayers through the One whom You sent to pay for my new identity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In everything we have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves us.
Romans 8:37
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:20
An amazing turning point in my life occurred when I learned I had spent 25 years of my life building and hiding behind defenses. These defenses gave me an illusion of control, but in reality, I was just getting farther and farther out of control.
When we hide behind self-built defenses, we may have a sense that we are in control. We tell ourselves that we're holding our feelings under control. But in reality we are not in control at all … our problems are at the wheel. We've pushed away the people who really care about us, the ones who could help us. And we've allowed our problem, our situation, to take control. It’s the proverbial “slippery slope.”
This is exactly where Satan wants us. His lie is that these “self-protective” defenses are really self-destructive, both now and down the road. In this spiritual battle, when we try to defend ourselves from our own strength, our defenses become allies of the enemy. Only when we allow our defensive walls to crumble and start living can we begin to practice true self-control … choosing and acting on the basis of who we are in Christ and relying on all the strength, guidance, and wisdom God has promised and will provide.
Because of Christ…
You are redeemed; paid for at a great price. (Ephesians 1:7) You are forgiven; your sin as far as condemnation, has been forgotten. (Psalm 103:12) You are strong and capable; and can do everything through Christ. (Philippians 4:13) You are a conqueror: an overcomer. (Romans 8:37)
Today, examine your areas of stress. Do you let your circumstances or your feelings control you? Do your defenses, that is, your coping mechanisms, help you or do they just act as knee-jerk bridges to the next stressor? Build your defenses on Biblical principles not just to escape your stressor, but to shine and be strengthened by it. Know yourself and be seen as God sees you … the Bible makes it clear who you are as a Christian. Why, when under pressure, do you have trouble believing it and turn to worldly answers for your spiritual yearnings? Your decision, choose well.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to stop hiding behind my self-built, self-destructive defenses. Help me to see myself as You do because of Christ: redeemed, forgiven, strong, capable, and an overcomer. Help me remember always what a great price was paid at the cross so that I could have this new identity. I pray this and all prayers through the One whom You sent to pay for my new identity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In everything we have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves us.
Romans 8:37
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:20
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Stepping Stones: What Does Your T-Shirt Say?
Transformational Thought
“No Fear” printed across t-shirts. Bumper stickers that question authority. Television programs encouraging disrespect and rebellion. Movies that trivialize God. More drastic indicators of rebellion … abortion, physician-assisted suicide, euthanasia, child abuse, and domestic violence. Sadly, these are all signs of our times.
Because of our me-centered nature we have become so caught up in our need to be in charge, to be the all-knowing one, to protect our needs and comfort above all else, that we have lost sight of the only real authority that is worthy of our respect and reverence. Satan certainly wants to push this mentality and we easily get sucked into his strategies and traps.
Respect, reverence, and fear have become offensive words in our society. A lack of concern or respect for each other or for anyone in authority has led to disorganization, relativism, rebellion, immorality, hatred, and even bloodshed. This lack of respect for mankind and other distorted attitudes about people and living can be traced to a lack of knowledge about God and lack of reverence for Him. To reverence the Lord means to treat God and his message with awe.
What are some ways we can show our respect and reverence to God? Noah did it by persevering in obedience for 100 years building an ark, even during very difficult circumstances. The lives of Joseph and Daniel are great testimonies of reverence and respect for God when it would have been “easier” to cave in to another master.
Today, begin to put God first in your life … to have regular devotional times with Him … to live your day-to-day life in a way that honors Him. In the activities of your day, today, are you respecting and honoring God’s provision, authority, and instruction for your life? People who don't know Jesus often judge Him by what they see in His followers. What do they learn about Jesus from your life? What’s on your t-shirt? Your decision today, choose well.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, It is my desire and goal to please You in everything I do. I know I have fallen short of this goal. Please help me to consistently live in such a way that others will sense Your love, and will honor You and want to know You. Help them see me honoring Your way and experiencing the blessings and fruit it brings me so that they yearn for You. I pray this and all prayers through your Son and my savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.
Matthew 5:16
Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for his wrong, and there is no favoritism.
Colossians 3:22-25
I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live, loving the LORD your God, obeying his voice and holding fast to him, for he is your life and length of days, that you may dwell in the land that the LORD swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.”
Deuteronomy 30:19-20
“No Fear” printed across t-shirts. Bumper stickers that question authority. Television programs encouraging disrespect and rebellion. Movies that trivialize God. More drastic indicators of rebellion … abortion, physician-assisted suicide, euthanasia, child abuse, and domestic violence. Sadly, these are all signs of our times.
Because of our me-centered nature we have become so caught up in our need to be in charge, to be the all-knowing one, to protect our needs and comfort above all else, that we have lost sight of the only real authority that is worthy of our respect and reverence. Satan certainly wants to push this mentality and we easily get sucked into his strategies and traps.
Respect, reverence, and fear have become offensive words in our society. A lack of concern or respect for each other or for anyone in authority has led to disorganization, relativism, rebellion, immorality, hatred, and even bloodshed. This lack of respect for mankind and other distorted attitudes about people and living can be traced to a lack of knowledge about God and lack of reverence for Him. To reverence the Lord means to treat God and his message with awe.
What are some ways we can show our respect and reverence to God? Noah did it by persevering in obedience for 100 years building an ark, even during very difficult circumstances. The lives of Joseph and Daniel are great testimonies of reverence and respect for God when it would have been “easier” to cave in to another master.
Today, begin to put God first in your life … to have regular devotional times with Him … to live your day-to-day life in a way that honors Him. In the activities of your day, today, are you respecting and honoring God’s provision, authority, and instruction for your life? People who don't know Jesus often judge Him by what they see in His followers. What do they learn about Jesus from your life? What’s on your t-shirt? Your decision today, choose well.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, It is my desire and goal to please You in everything I do. I know I have fallen short of this goal. Please help me to consistently live in such a way that others will sense Your love, and will honor You and want to know You. Help them see me honoring Your way and experiencing the blessings and fruit it brings me so that they yearn for You. I pray this and all prayers through your Son and my savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.
Matthew 5:16
Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for his wrong, and there is no favoritism.
Colossians 3:22-25
I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live, loving the LORD your God, obeying his voice and holding fast to him, for he is your life and length of days, that you may dwell in the land that the LORD swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.”
Deuteronomy 30:19-20
Monday, February 28, 2011
Stepping Stones: Who Are You Building a Tower With?
Transformational Thought
Yesterday we talked about unity. Where there is unity, there is much strength … even if people are unified for the wrong reason.
After the flood in Genesis, the world had only one language. The people decided to build a great city with a tower that would go to the heavens. Why? Not to honor God, but to make a name for themselves, and to prevent being scattered over the face of the whole earth. Knowing that this would be an ongoing temptation for man, God confused the language of the people and scattered them all over the earth.
Unity in and of itself is not necessarily good ... it’s the object or cause that unifies the people that is important. So, we need to make sure we are pursuing Godly causes with Godly motives. The oneness we should seek must be in Christ and through Christ, which reunites us with the Father and honors our Savior, Jesus Christ.
These people of Genesis truly were powerfully united. But their purpose was prideful and offensive to the holiness of God. They were not seeking to reunite with God. They were pursuing equality with God, actually trying to be like God with divine acceptance and status, but through their own human effort.
It sounds ridiculous to say, “I would never do that,” right? But we act and think a number of times each day with that same “my kingdom come” mentality. We idolize or focus on ourselves first, and don’t bring God into the picture until we become desperate or until someone else reminds us that God is part of our lives.
If we unite to seek power or success, focusing solely on human effort, for human rewards, from human motivations, we displease God … and are destined to ultimately fail. This especially holds true for the church; we must be focused on Christ, not on the building, organization, or denomination.
Today, take a look at those you are uniting with … for what goal … and with what motivation. Where is Jesus and the gospel in this pursuit? Be focused on honoring God, not yourself. Always recognize your total dependence on Him. Let us stand together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Forgive me for the times that I've united with others to accomplish something, focusing on selfish ambition and desires rather than honoring You and accomplishing Your will. Help me to always focus on You more than any organization or ambition. It is my desire and goal to honor You in all I do. I pray this and all prayers for the One who teaches about true unity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Philippians 1:27
For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: ‘Til we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
Ephesians 4:12,13
Yesterday we talked about unity. Where there is unity, there is much strength … even if people are unified for the wrong reason.
After the flood in Genesis, the world had only one language. The people decided to build a great city with a tower that would go to the heavens. Why? Not to honor God, but to make a name for themselves, and to prevent being scattered over the face of the whole earth. Knowing that this would be an ongoing temptation for man, God confused the language of the people and scattered them all over the earth.
Unity in and of itself is not necessarily good ... it’s the object or cause that unifies the people that is important. So, we need to make sure we are pursuing Godly causes with Godly motives. The oneness we should seek must be in Christ and through Christ, which reunites us with the Father and honors our Savior, Jesus Christ.
These people of Genesis truly were powerfully united. But their purpose was prideful and offensive to the holiness of God. They were not seeking to reunite with God. They were pursuing equality with God, actually trying to be like God with divine acceptance and status, but through their own human effort.
It sounds ridiculous to say, “I would never do that,” right? But we act and think a number of times each day with that same “my kingdom come” mentality. We idolize or focus on ourselves first, and don’t bring God into the picture until we become desperate or until someone else reminds us that God is part of our lives.
If we unite to seek power or success, focusing solely on human effort, for human rewards, from human motivations, we displease God … and are destined to ultimately fail. This especially holds true for the church; we must be focused on Christ, not on the building, organization, or denomination.
Today, take a look at those you are uniting with … for what goal … and with what motivation. Where is Jesus and the gospel in this pursuit? Be focused on honoring God, not yourself. Always recognize your total dependence on Him. Let us stand together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Forgive me for the times that I've united with others to accomplish something, focusing on selfish ambition and desires rather than honoring You and accomplishing Your will. Help me to always focus on You more than any organization or ambition. It is my desire and goal to honor You in all I do. I pray this and all prayers for the One who teaches about true unity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Philippians 1:27
For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: ‘Til we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
Ephesians 4:12,13
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Stepping Stones: How Selective is Your Club?
Transformational Thought
So many clubs exist that have very specific criteria for membership … the Italian Club … civic clubs like Rotary, Lions, and Kiwanis … Masons … country clubs … labor unions … political parties. Different companies are selective, as are the Pittsburgh Steelers or the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. Colleges, med schools, the military … even families have criteria and selection processes for membership.
In today's world, harmony and tolerance have become goals within themselves. Peace at any cost … All ways lead to God … Live and let live. Such "tolerant" attitudes actually lead to intolerance of anyone who claims to have the answer or truth. Religions or moral “clubs,” or groups with a certain belief, seem to be treated differently. Having criteria, or a selection process seems to be intolerable.
Jesus made it clear that He is the only way to God, the only way to real peace. In Isaiah 9:6 He is called the Prince of Peace. God calls us to love all people, but agreeing that other faiths can lead to God just so we can seek unity and “peace” is to deny our own faith … the teachings of God, the existence and work of Jesus, and the Holy Bible. And in doing so, we deny Jesus as our Savior.
As Christians, we are not expressing Christ-like love when we are willing to accept as OK the beliefs of those who deny Christ or who live sinful lifestyles … all for the sake of unity and peace. The Bible is clear about God, Jesus, and moral issues.
The double standard for “clubs” really shows me the existence, power, and agenda of Satan, who wants people to believe being nice is all you need to do to be Holy, thus engaging with God by avoiding Christ. Satan wants to push the idea that we can connect with God on our own power, through our efforts. This is why we get stuck on the law, legalism, and have difficulty absorbing God’s gracious gift of forgiveness.
Today, begin expressing Jesus' love by loving people where they are, by building relationships with them and, as the Holy Spirit leads, by sharing the truths of the Gospel with them. Jesus is the only answer. Don’t let anybody guilt you into thinking Christianity is the only club with intolerant selection criteria. Show them how compassion and rigidity can coexist.
Prayer
My Father, Help me never to deny my faith by accepting the unscriptural beliefs of others for the sake of unity and peace. Help me love others, no matter what their faith. Help me love them enough to build relationships with them and, as the Holy Spirit leads, to share the truth of the Gospel with them … and to do so with love. Help me communicate in a manner that lets all understand that Jesus is the only way. I pray this and all prayers through the One you sent to show us the way, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me."
John 14:6
So many clubs exist that have very specific criteria for membership … the Italian Club … civic clubs like Rotary, Lions, and Kiwanis … Masons … country clubs … labor unions … political parties. Different companies are selective, as are the Pittsburgh Steelers or the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. Colleges, med schools, the military … even families have criteria and selection processes for membership.
In today's world, harmony and tolerance have become goals within themselves. Peace at any cost … All ways lead to God … Live and let live. Such "tolerant" attitudes actually lead to intolerance of anyone who claims to have the answer or truth. Religions or moral “clubs,” or groups with a certain belief, seem to be treated differently. Having criteria, or a selection process seems to be intolerable.
Jesus made it clear that He is the only way to God, the only way to real peace. In Isaiah 9:6 He is called the Prince of Peace. God calls us to love all people, but agreeing that other faiths can lead to God just so we can seek unity and “peace” is to deny our own faith … the teachings of God, the existence and work of Jesus, and the Holy Bible. And in doing so, we deny Jesus as our Savior.
As Christians, we are not expressing Christ-like love when we are willing to accept as OK the beliefs of those who deny Christ or who live sinful lifestyles … all for the sake of unity and peace. The Bible is clear about God, Jesus, and moral issues.
The double standard for “clubs” really shows me the existence, power, and agenda of Satan, who wants people to believe being nice is all you need to do to be Holy, thus engaging with God by avoiding Christ. Satan wants to push the idea that we can connect with God on our own power, through our efforts. This is why we get stuck on the law, legalism, and have difficulty absorbing God’s gracious gift of forgiveness.
Today, begin expressing Jesus' love by loving people where they are, by building relationships with them and, as the Holy Spirit leads, by sharing the truths of the Gospel with them. Jesus is the only answer. Don’t let anybody guilt you into thinking Christianity is the only club with intolerant selection criteria. Show them how compassion and rigidity can coexist.
Prayer
My Father, Help me never to deny my faith by accepting the unscriptural beliefs of others for the sake of unity and peace. Help me love others, no matter what their faith. Help me love them enough to build relationships with them and, as the Holy Spirit leads, to share the truth of the Gospel with them … and to do so with love. Help me communicate in a manner that lets all understand that Jesus is the only way. I pray this and all prayers through the One you sent to show us the way, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me."
John 14:6
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Stepping Stones: One Step at a Time…It’s a Journey
Transformational Thought
Some days are so busy, hectic … actually, even crazy. The world keeps on coming at me … phone calls, requests, glitches in the plan, mail, extra bills, problems, new opportunities … these never seem to slow down. In fact, as I get older, the demands on me come faster. Feelings and perspective of being so far behind easily wrap their fingers around my neck … slowly choking me.
For some people, there are occasionally days when the grip is so tight, things seem hopeless. For others, there’s an endless string of helpless or hopeless days. It is hard to visualize and experience that the hopeless feelings or days will ever end.
Some of the problem is how we measure “behind” or “ahead.” We often get sucked into the world’s standard or metrics. We have limited control over some of the demands coming our way. So how can we actually measure something we can’t control to determine progress? What we do control is how we respond to what comes our way … and that’s how we should measure progress.
The answer? Measure how well your response to the demands and twists of life is rooted in being focused on God. He will bring peace, comfort, and answers, and walk with you through the busyness and demands. He promises to be our guide along the journey, so measure how well you follow your guide, not how many paths you have to choose from.
Ask God to clear your thinking and remove any obstacles that may exist in your relationship with Him. Perhaps you have made some poor decisions or used bad judgment. God is there to forgive you and help you get back on track. Your past always wants to interfere with your present decisions, but it doesn’t have to. Whether it gets in the way or not is determined by how intentional you are to examine it and do something about it.
Today and every day, remind yourself that life is a journey … a series of steps. Identify 2 paths you take that cause you problems. Remember that you can create the environment for change, but God does the changing. You don’t have to keep going down the same paths that lead to trouble. And the Bible assures us that with Him, all things are possible. Let Him be your guide. WITHIN REACH helps you apply His guidance to every decision you make today.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank You for being my constant guide. Help me be sensitive … and obedient … to Your guidance. Give me eyes that see and ears that hear Your leading … Your nudging … Your encouragement. Also, when I am off course and on dangerous detours, let me be open to Your will to redirect me back on track even if You need to forcibly push me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For that is what God is like. He is our God forever and ever, and he will guide us until we die."
Psalm 48:14
Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Matthew 19:26
Some days are so busy, hectic … actually, even crazy. The world keeps on coming at me … phone calls, requests, glitches in the plan, mail, extra bills, problems, new opportunities … these never seem to slow down. In fact, as I get older, the demands on me come faster. Feelings and perspective of being so far behind easily wrap their fingers around my neck … slowly choking me.
For some people, there are occasionally days when the grip is so tight, things seem hopeless. For others, there’s an endless string of helpless or hopeless days. It is hard to visualize and experience that the hopeless feelings or days will ever end.
Some of the problem is how we measure “behind” or “ahead.” We often get sucked into the world’s standard or metrics. We have limited control over some of the demands coming our way. So how can we actually measure something we can’t control to determine progress? What we do control is how we respond to what comes our way … and that’s how we should measure progress.
The answer? Measure how well your response to the demands and twists of life is rooted in being focused on God. He will bring peace, comfort, and answers, and walk with you through the busyness and demands. He promises to be our guide along the journey, so measure how well you follow your guide, not how many paths you have to choose from.
Ask God to clear your thinking and remove any obstacles that may exist in your relationship with Him. Perhaps you have made some poor decisions or used bad judgment. God is there to forgive you and help you get back on track. Your past always wants to interfere with your present decisions, but it doesn’t have to. Whether it gets in the way or not is determined by how intentional you are to examine it and do something about it.
Today and every day, remind yourself that life is a journey … a series of steps. Identify 2 paths you take that cause you problems. Remember that you can create the environment for change, but God does the changing. You don’t have to keep going down the same paths that lead to trouble. And the Bible assures us that with Him, all things are possible. Let Him be your guide. WITHIN REACH helps you apply His guidance to every decision you make today.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank You for being my constant guide. Help me be sensitive … and obedient … to Your guidance. Give me eyes that see and ears that hear Your leading … Your nudging … Your encouragement. Also, when I am off course and on dangerous detours, let me be open to Your will to redirect me back on track even if You need to forcibly push me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For that is what God is like. He is our God forever and ever, and he will guide us until we die."
Psalm 48:14
Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Matthew 19:26
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