Stepping Stones: Relationship or Obedience, What Do You Communicate?

Transformational Thought

Yesterday we discussed God’s utmost desire and concern for us…to be in eternal and in daily relationship with Him. Don’t get me wrong, He does want our obedience as well, but relationship is much more important to Him.

A major piece of my transformation occurred when God sent my beautiful wife, Martine, into my life…she embodied this principle perfectly to me. She loved me and loved relating to me, even with all my flaws and wrongful behavior towards her. She was able to forgive, and continually tell me it was ok…just relate to me. The revelation that pursuit of a relationship was valuable to her dramatically changed my life. She didn’t simply say it. Instead she really believed it and she lives it out daily in almost every way she interacts with, toward, or for me.

Fortunately, it dawned on me, (well, I guess it could have come from my wife’s or kid’s frustration with me, or the Holy Spirit convicting me), that I was trapped in a distorted pattern with those close to me. I was definitely communicating that their obedience was more important than their relationship to me. I was acting like Straight-A Jane from yesterday’s devotional instead of Absent-minded Mindy.

Unfortunately, the message that was conveyed at times was that I expected them to be perfect before I could be happy with, accept, or relate to them. It was never my intention. It wasn’t what I truly wanted from those close to me. Talk about false pride… for me it’s a battle that I fight each day, and some days are better than others.

Today, think about and examine the subtle communication you give to those close to you…your spouse, kids, parents, siblings. Are you showing them they are valuable to you just for being themselves? Or do you only have time for them when it fits your agenda, only interested in them when it meets your needs? Do you make efforts to serve them or do you communicate that they need to “serve” you first? It’s a look into our hearts that is difficult to do, but necessary for us to really identify idols and grow.

Prayer
O Father, You are so amazing. Thanks for Your love and thanks for sending Martine, to be Your example to me to open my eyes and show me Your ultimate desire for relationship with me. I pray for wisdom, courage, and humility as I try to embody Your desire to those around me, so I will be less judgmental and more loving and accepting. I pray these things in the name of the one who is pure love, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants."' And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.' But the father said to his servants, 'Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.' And they began to celebrate.
Luke 15:18-24