Friday, November 26, 2010

Stepping Stones: Commitment Plus Humility Equals Growth

Transformational Thought

Few men and women of God have become extraordinary people of faith without the influence of mentors. A mentor is one who takes responsibility for the care and especially growth…physical, psychological, emotional, relational, academic, or spiritual…of another. For growth to happen, commitment is required from both the mentor and the student.

I have been privileged to have many mentors throughout my spiritual life and walk. In each stage of my progress in maturity from newly born again believer to my present stage of maturity, God brought new, specific mentors with unique gifts that the previous mentor did not have. God has grown in me a hunger to desire a double portion of the positive attributes of my mentors. This desire, I believe, is sorely missing amongst many today.

I fail to see the hunger within many believers. Many who could be greatly used by God in the Kingdom are instead distracted by the cares of this world. It is an attitude of “a la carte” vs. an attitude of choosing the full measure of what God might have for them. To maximize mentoring, you need to be humble, to be all-in.

Today, ask God if there is someone He would have you either mentor or be mentored by. Ask yourself these questions: Who are the people God has placed in my life? Am I learning from them? Am I seeking a double portion of their anointing? What prevents me from gaining from their wisdom and experience? God may have brought them into your life to prepare you to be a man or woman of God. However, there is a time of training and waiting to prove out your own faith.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for the people you have brought into my life as mentors. I pray for wisdom, patience, biblical values and ethics, integrity, and everything spiritual mentors need to be effective and carry out their responsibilities in a manner that is pleasing to You, and beneficial for those being mentored. I pray for Your special touch on Christian mentors, and for their protection from all harm and evil. Thank You, God. In the name of the perfect mentor, Jesus; and all God’s children said – AMEN!

The Truth
...Let us go with you, because we have heard that God is with you.
Zechariah 8:23

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
Titus 2:3-5

The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses,
entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.”
2 Tim. 2:2

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Stepping Stones: The Dark Dungeon of Ungratefulness

Transformational Thought

Bold
Thanksgiving Day is a great holiday and four-day weekend helps. This year my family gets something new as our oldest, Dominique, comes home from college for the first time, just as everyone tries to journey home…to be with those they love. Thanksgiving Day is filled with parades, football, family traditions, memories, and great food. Above all else…and even if none of these other things existed in our lives, Thanksgiving is a time that provides the opportunity for us to be, yes, thankful…to lift ourselves and others out of the dark dungeon of ungratefulness.

We live in an age of entitlement…so it’s often difficult to be thankful when we feel “entitled” to most things. We focus on what we want and don’t have vs. all the blessings we do have and should be so thankful for. We need to work hard to counteract the glut of propaganda proclaiming the mantra, “We deserve more.”

Every Christmas commercial, ad, self-help book, well-meaning friend, and small voice from your flesh will scream to you that you deserve everything that is good or valuable. Really, we are all sinners and, news flash, the wages for sin is death. Everything we have is a tremendous gift of powerful grace that is granted to us by the one we offend, disappoint, reject, deny, and grieve…very regularly.

I hate to be a holiday downer, but you see, unless you know what you really and truly deserve, it is impossible to see how many gifts and how much unbelievable grace you actually have everyday.

Today, when you aren’t full of thanks, ask God to open your eyes and release you from the dark dungeon of ungratefulness. Before you eat, go around the table, holding hands, and tell each other what you are thankful for. Remember, the secret of being thankful is learning to see everything from God’s perspective. Then you will truly thank Him for loving, pursuing, and giving you so much.

The staff at Lighthouse Network wishes the Stepping Stones community a blessed Thanksgiving Day and future.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I come to You, Father, in prayer. I ask, Father, that You set me free from the prison of ingratitude. Release me, Lord, to enjoy the pleasures of having a thankful heart. It’s easy for me, Father, to be grateful when I wake up on the right side of the bed and encounter no major problems. At other times, thankfulness feels totally unreachable. I need a perspective-lift Father; help me see things from Your viewpoint. I pray in the name of the one who is the source and reason for my thankfulness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
To open blind eyes, to bring out prisoners from the prison, those who sit in darkness from the prison house.
Isaiah 42:7

In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
Thessalonians 5:18

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Stepping Stones: Out On A Limb

Transformational Thought

As a young boy, I always had a fascination with climbing trees; especially apple trees. I’d climb up, pick the apples, and then throw them down to my brothers. However, I couldn’t get the really good apples, for they always seemed to be hanging out on a limb. I would never go out on a limb…always played it safe. Fear of falling stole my chance to grab the really choice apples out on the edge of the limb.

I think sometimes God asks us to go out on that limb. Just like on the apple tree, the juiciest rewards in life are on the end of the limb. Playing it “safe,” not going out on a limb, is sometimes how Satan wants you to engage with life. So keep your eyes on your Lord as you step out in faith. Grab His hand tightly as you edge your way, following Him out onto that limb.

Since He goes before you, you can keep your eyes on Him as you step out in faith. Soon you will arrive at a resting place. While gripping His hand, look toward the horizon. Enjoy the view from this tree-top perspective. You are actually safer here…out on this limb with your Lord…than you would be hugging the trunk or even standing on the ground.

Overly familiar surroundings feel safer, but they also may lull you into a kind of sleepy self-reliance; and that’s when we tend to forget about the need for our Father.

Just remember the story of Abraham, waiting over 20 years for God to give him a son. Then God asks Abraham to go out on a limb and sacrifice his son, to actually kill Isaac. The juicy living Abraham was rewarded with…..truly amazing, and would never have happened without Abraham following God out to the very edge of the limb.

Today, when doing the right thing feels risky or uncomfortable, envision the scenario you just read, and enjoy the activity and view it in a new way. In this new and challenging situation (out on a limb), you will be more alert and not so quick to let go of His hand.

Prayer
Dear Father God, You are the author and finisher of my faith. I want to follow You wherever You lead me…even if it’s out on a limb. I pray, Father, that You will help me follow You with confidence rather than with fear; for I know, Father, that wherever You lead me is the safest place I could be. I bring all my fears to You, Father, for I now know that fears not dealt with tend to grow and magnify themselves. I pray in the name of my Ultimate Life Guide and Protector, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
You shall hide them in the secret place of Your presence from the plots of man; You shall keep them secretly in a pavilion from the strife of tongues.
Psalm 31:20

The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, And He delights in his way.
Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; For the LORD upholds him with His hand.
Psalm 37:23-24

Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Hebrews 12:2

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Stepping Stones: Man’s Idiots are Jesus’ “Sons of Thunder”

Transformational Thought

There was a time in my life when I was so quick to judge others. If anyone was outspoken, had a controversial point of view, or an opinion that was somewhat different from mine…I thought or said under my breath, “Idiot”.

I’m not proud of this terrible behavior and have been working hard on taking that word out of my vocabulary. I read something about Jesus’ disciples, James and John, that was very helpful in changing this behavior.

These were the guys who tried to talk Jesus into giving them the esteemed seats to the immediate right and left of His throne in Heaven. They were the same two guys who wanted Jesus to call down fire from heaven and destroy a village that wouldn’t give them a place to sleep. Their buddies called them Idiots…Jesus called them “Sons of Thunder.”

Jesus saw who they really were. They looked like crazy fisherman out of work…they were actually “Sons of Thunder.” God has uniquely and incredibly created all of us with gifts, passions, and personalities that are different on purpose. Others don’t always wisely utilize how God designs them…but neither do you.

Maybe part of your design and purpose is to help others grow, and by judging them…calling them an idiot and blowing them off…you are the one being the idiot.

Today, as you encounter people that annoy you…see them as they really are. Look beyond the behavior and see the person God has created. God must have you in their life for a reason. Think and pray about how you can be God’s instrument and serve them as a positive influence for their lenses and spiritual growth.

Prayer
O Father God, I come to You, my Lord, with a humble and thankful heart. I confess, Father, that I am too judgmental of others…too intolerant of opinions that differ from mine. I thank You, Lord, for Your Word that once again provides wisdom and guidance to improve my thinking and behavior, and ultimately, transform my heart. Help me see all people as You have made them. Help me see the potential “thunder” in those with an outspoken point of view. I pray in the name of the one whose ultimate humility empowers me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
James the son of Zebedee and John the brother of James, to whom He (Jesus) gave the name Boanerges, that is, “Sons of Thunder”
Mark 3:17

And James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came up to him and said to him, "Grant us to sit, one at your right hand and one at your left, in your glory." And when the ten heard it, they began to be indignant at James and John. And Jesus called them to him and said to them, "You know that those who are considered rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.
Mark 10:35a,37,41-45

Monday, November 22, 2010

Stepping Stones: Special Lens Cleaners: Please and Thank You

Transformational Thought

When we were kids, there was a great greasy hamburger joint that we all loved to visit called the Rainbow Inn. The owner, Oliver, ran the place and he took our orders at the front window. Oliver had an annoying habit: he always made the children say “Please” and “Thank You”. No “please”, no “thank you”…no hamburger. It was a quick and easy lesson, pretty straightforward with lots of incentive to learn quickly.

I always thought it was strange…having to say please and thank you to get something I actually had to pay for. But in retrospect, it really was positive reinforcement for the lessons my mother was teaching at home. It showed me that I am not entitled to anything, am dependent on others for the items I need and want, and should always be thankful for everything I get, all accurate and valuable lenses to develop. We could use some more Olivers in the world to reinforce these principles today.

Our prayers should always include “please” and “thank you”. You see, we often view life through very entitled lenses. We deserve no traffic on the way to work, a good job, a nice house, good health, well-behaved kids. No one close to us should be dying. These lenses just propagate the “I am King” and “My kingdom come, my will be done” mentality which virally spreads, infecting all areas of our lives. If we just keep repeating our concerns, we will live in a state of tension.

However, when you follow-up your request by thanking Him for how he is already answering your prayer, your mindset becomes much more positive and in line with His sovereignty and agenda…because you are aware of the reality of His action for you. Thankful prayers keep your focus on Him as the ultimate Authority.

Today, when you bring your prayer requests to God, say “please” and speak clearly and candidly…lay out your concerns…pour out your heart. Then immediately thank Him for the answers that He has already set in motion. When those same requests come to mind again, continue thanking God for the answers that are on their way.

Prayer
Dear Father God, This is Your world, Father. You made it and control it. I relinquish all control into Your hands…I trust You completely. I thank You, Father, for the gift of receptivity that You have planted in my heart. I thank You for the answers to my prayers that are already on their way. I pray in the name of the one in whose name we are called to pray, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Continue earnestly in prayer, being vigilant in it with thanksgiving.
Colossians 4:2

As His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.
2 Peter 1:3-4

Offer to God a sacrifice of thanksgiving, and perform your vows to the Most High, and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me."
Psalm 50:14,15

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Stepping Stones: You Steer, God’s Traction Control

Transformational Thought

There was an amazing breakthrough about 10 years ago in automotive technology. Generically, it’s called traction control. A computer onboard your car measures the amount of grip or traction of each wheel over a thousand times a second, and based on that measurement, applies more or less power to that particular wheel to make sure the car moves forward under control…in the desired direction. Amazing! This guidance and power is automatic…we do nothing extra to get this.

Our only responsibility…steer in the correct direction. I believe this is the same way God blesses us with His power: the more challenging your day, the more of His power He places at your disposal, with no need to ask…it’s automatic. But you need to steer towards God. Just like a car, the power is wasted if you don’t steer in His direction.

Don’t fall prey to the false roads, detours, counterfeit dead ends and destinations Satan and your old self want you to steer toward. You have free will. That means it is your responsibility to control the steering wheel. God then does all the rest. As you are challenged, so shall you be strengthened. Amazing!

Today when you struggle and don’t sense His power, check your steering. You are probably steering in the wrong direction. Know that a simple glance in the right direction, made in faith, to follow your Lord, is enough to connect you to the ultimate source of guidance, power…and traction control. Your decision, choose well. WITHIN REACH will help your steering, check it out.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I look to You, Father, with faith and thankfulness. Today my strength seems so insufficient for the demands I am facing. I look to You, Lord, for the strength sufficient to handle the challenges of this day. Thank You, Lord. All glory be to You! I also ask for wisdom as I steer. Give me courage and patience to see and follow Your direction and avoid the traps set before me. In the name of the one whose death gives me power over death, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Your sandals shall be iron and bronze; As your days, so shall your strength be.
Deuteronomy 33:25

Seek the LORD and His strength; seek His face evermore!
Psalm 105:4

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
2 Corinthians 12:9,10

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Stepping Stones: A Powerful Prayer, But Be Careful!

Transformational Thought

There are a few prayers that I know God answers fast, that He always seems to say “yes” to. In fact, one particular prayer should come with a warning label; “Don’t pray this unless you are ready for instantaneous results.” The prayer is simple; “Please Lord, make me an instrument to carry out some important mission of mercy for you.”

In other words, please use me to help someone in need. After you say this prayer someone in need will practically show up on your doorstep! Why does God answer this prayer so quickly? Because it facilitates God’s whole plan of salvation…to save others by using us. If He didn’t want to use us, He would take us to heaven as soon as we are saved. We are called to go and spread the good news, to be salt, to be light to all the earth.

I believe when we ask God to use us as an instrument to solve other people’s problems, He begins in earnest to help us with our problems. The natural outcome of helping others is that we get to share in the benefits ourselves… sometimes to an even greater extent than those we help. In many ways it’s the “what goes around comes around” dynamic in reverse. One of my mother’s favorite sayings is; “The scent of the rose stays on the hand of the one who gives it to another.”

Today, ask God to use you as His instrument. Then expectantly watch with amazement at how quickly he answers your prayer. Be alert to how He will act on you for your growth so you can better help others. Then be alert for the person He brings into your life for your help.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I pray that You will use me as Your instrument to carry out some important mission of mercy for You. I know, Father, that if You are going to use me as Your instrument, You will begin to fashion and shape me to be the best possible instrument I can be. Thank you, Lord. Help me, Lord, to be a good listener and not a judge as you send those in need my way. In the name of the one who is pure love, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.
John 15:13

He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
Matthew 10:39

that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain.
Philippians 2:15,16

Friday, November 19, 2010

Stepping Stones: Fear Sucks Joy From Today

Transformational Thought

As a kid I was blessed to have much success in sports…team championships, great personal performances, lots of cheers and adulation from peers and fans. But amazingly, I remember very little of any of it. I have a small number of vague, blurred memories with only a few very specific pictures in my head. Why can’t I remember? Well, I was anxious and afraid of failure, so I was always living in the future…wondering what would happen if I didn’t perform well. “Today’s success is history and I am only as good as my next performance,” was the mentality that drove me to succeed but robbed me of the joy of reveling in the moment.

I never really enjoyed the great things that were happening in the moment and it continued as an adult. I would be at an amusement park with my kids…whipping around on a fun ride. But while I was riding I was thinking about the future…which would be the best ride to get to next, where would the shortest line be, when should we eat lunch to avoid the long lines, what ride could we do next so the kids would have fun? Then the ride would end and I wouldn’t even remember it or have enjoyed it as much as I could have.

If you try to carry tomorrow’s trouble today, you will stagger under the load and eventually fall flat. Focusing on tomorrow’s troubles is not only escapist…it’s irresponsible. Each day of your life is a gift from God. What does it say to God when you squander His gifts? Of course you cannot stop thinking about tomorrow altogether…that, too, would be irresponsible. The real question is: where do you live most of the time – in the present or in the future? Thankfully, I have learned to live more in the present and my memory banks are full of great experiences.

Today, when you feel stressed, anxious, or angry – STOP. Ask yourself, “Am I living in the future, playing out worst case scenarios…or am I living and enjoying God’s amazing grace in the present?” Freedom comes from accepting His gifts and living them, everyday. Focus on the present and why God has you where you are. Enjoy His blessings, and yes, they are all blessings, and enjoy them now. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I rejoice in You, Father, and Your great gift to me of Your Son, my savior and sovereign Lord. It is through You that I will go to great heights…transcending all the troubles of yesterday and tomorrow. Help me, Father, to keep my focus on today, even though at times this is very difficult for me. I try to focus on tomorrow’s problems to avoid facing today’s. I know You see my every thought, Father, so you know how many of them are future-oriented. I pray that You will help me break this deeply ingrained habit. I pray in the name of my savior, Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
The LORD God is my strength; He will make my feet like deer’s feet, And He will make me walk on my high hills.
Habakkuk 3:19

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:34

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Stepping Stones: You Are The Key, Now Find The Lock

Transformational Thought

We hear this all the time: “every one of us is special.” We’ve been told this by our parents, grandparents, romantic interests, aunts, uncles, Sunday School teachers, youth pastor, pastor and priest at church...and of course by all those self-help books, and gurus like Oprah and Tony Robbins.

Yeah, we all have different fingerprints, different DNA, unique brain chemistry, and so on…but does this really make each of us “special”? For most of my life I was very cynical about spiritual clichés like this. As I began to dig in and understand Christianity a bit better, I realized that, yes, we are special as individuals. We are unique. Every one of us has extraordinary dignity simply because we are a child of God, made in His image and likeness, and redeemed by God’s Son.

We are not just human beings, rather we are keys…keys that God has individually crafted to fit certain locks. You are special because the lock you are called to open will accept only one key – a key that looks different and acts differently; one that has different emotions, passions, skills and shortcomings from any other key. Because of these differences, the individual lock is also a unique, wonderful, and special life designed by God and available to only one key, YOU!

Remember, in the entire world there has only been one key that has the ability to open this one particular lock…and you are that key. The lock could be anything…something big or something small…something quiet or something loud. It could be that your son or daughter is destined to do something spectacular; something they could never have done without your influence. Whatever the lock may be, one thing is sure: it will be profoundly important to God and this world, and immensely fulfilling to you personally. Stop wasting time on counterfeit locks Satan tricks you with.

Today, go find the lock God designed for you. Start by taking inventory of experiences, talents, interests, contacts, and passions that stand out for you personally. You, like me, might have past wounds or mistakes that God allowed for a special purpose. Start to prayerfully mix them together as you confide in others to see what special locks God is crafting for you as the key to magically and perfectly slide into and open up.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for saying yes to my existence. I have not yet figured out why I am here, but I do believe, Lord, that You made me as a key. Help me find the locks that You created for me to open. Help me find a way to communicate to others just how special they are simply because they are Your children. I pray in the name of the Ultimate Key to the multiverse, Jesus; and all God’s children said, – Amen!

The Truth
For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.
Psalm 139:13

His lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.’
Matthew 25:21

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Stepping Stones: What Obstacle Holds You Back?

Transformational Thought

Goals are powerful. Goals motivate us to accomplish tasks that don’t thrill us. Money to pay our bills and support our family motivates us to go to that job we aren’t wild about. Thinking about our date on Friday motivates us to be diligent during the workweek. Admission to our favorite college motivates us to study in high school. The joy of victory in athletics or applause after a performance motivates us to practice.

In today's scripture offering, Paul says that his goal was to know Christ, to be like Christ...and to be all Christ had in mind for him. This goal took all of Paul's energies. The beautiful thing about Paul’s goal, and it is the same for us…the goal is awesome, but the tasks that bring us to the goal are also awesome, and powerfully engaging and enjoyable.

The problem we all face is that Satan has infiltrated our wiring, brainwashing us early in life, and deceiving us into believing that the tasks necessary to develop the mind of Christ are dangerous, boring, costly, harmful, or unnecessary. These are some of the many roadblocks Satan uses to prevent us from relating with and becoming like Christ. I think Paul’s message is a helpful example for us as we all strive to move closer to Christ...to know Christ.

Remember the faith formula: (Believe > Receive > Become). Knowing Christ is the "become" part of the formula. WITHIN REACH, our unique workshop, helps you understand and identify obstacles, teaches you the hidden motivating benefits of making good decisions on all 3 spheres, shows what is holding you back, and helps you achieve the life that God has just within reach.

Today, identify the benefits of living life God’s way, of pursuing Him, and not doing things Satan’s way. This will keep you more focused and motivated to really pursue the mind of Christ. Strive to put aside anything harmful that may distract you from being the Christian God wants you to be. Easier said than done, I know. Maybe a good start would be to ask yourself the question..."What is holding me back and why do I still do it anyway?” Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, Trying to live a perfect Christian life can be so difficult that it leaves me drained and discouraged. I feel that I am so far from being a perfect Christian that I will never be able to please You with my life. During these times when I feel discouraged I am so thankful for Your message to me through Paul as he spoke to the Philippians. Help me today, Lord, to remember that you paid the price for my sinfulness, and remind me to forget what is behind me and to focus on winning the prize for which You have called me. I know that I am not a perfect Christian, but I also know that any progress I make to get closer to You is perfect progress. Help me, today, my God, to act on the guidance that You have already given me through Your Holy Spirit. Thank You, Lord. I pray this prayer and all prayers with the authority of and in the name of Jesus; and all God’s people said – AMEN!

The Truth
Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:13-14

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Stepping Stones: Relationship or Obedience, What Do You Communicate?

Transformational Thought

Yesterday we discussed God’s utmost desire and concern for us…to be in eternal and in daily relationship with Him. Don’t get me wrong, He does want our obedience as well, but relationship is much more important to Him.

A major piece of my transformation occurred when God sent my beautiful wife, Martine, into my life…she embodied this principle perfectly to me. She loved me and loved relating to me, even with all my flaws and wrongful behavior towards her. She was able to forgive, and continually tell me it was ok…just relate to me. The revelation that pursuit of a relationship was valuable to her dramatically changed my life. She didn’t simply say it. Instead she really believed it and she lives it out daily in almost every way she interacts with, toward, or for me.

Fortunately, it dawned on me, (well, I guess it could have come from my wife’s or kid’s frustration with me, or the Holy Spirit convicting me), that I was trapped in a distorted pattern with those close to me. I was definitely communicating that their obedience was more important than their relationship to me. I was acting like Straight-A Jane from yesterday’s devotional instead of Absent-minded Mindy.

Unfortunately, the message that was conveyed at times was that I expected them to be perfect before I could be happy with, accept, or relate to them. It was never my intention. It wasn’t what I truly wanted from those close to me. Talk about false pride… for me it’s a battle that I fight each day, and some days are better than others.

Today, think about and examine the subtle communication you give to those close to you…your spouse, kids, parents, siblings. Are you showing them they are valuable to you just for being themselves? Or do you only have time for them when it fits your agenda, only interested in them when it meets your needs? Do you make efforts to serve them or do you communicate that they need to “serve” you first? It’s a look into our hearts that is difficult to do, but necessary for us to really identify idols and grow.

Prayer
O Father, You are so amazing. Thanks for Your love and thanks for sending Martine, to be Your example to me to open my eyes and show me Your ultimate desire for relationship with me. I pray for wisdom, courage, and humility as I try to embody Your desire to those around me, so I will be less judgmental and more loving and accepting. I pray these things in the name of the one who is pure love, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants."' And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.' But the father said to his servants, 'Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.' And they began to celebrate.
Luke 15:18-24

Monday, November 15, 2010

Stepping Stones: God Desires: Relationship or Obedience?

Transformational Thought

Yesterday we discussed what God desires from us. Today I want to be more specific. Say you have a choice of the following 2 kids…which would you choose? “Straight-A Jane” does everything right, chores all perfect, homework on time, straight A’s, no breaking curfew, courteous, polite, follows all the rules…BUT, she doesn’t really like you, it doesn’t matter to her if you feel down, she isn’t interested in spending time with you or finding out more about you and can’t wait to leave when she turns 18.

“Absent-Minded Mindy” on the other hand is rough around the edges, needs reminding for chores and homework, grades range from D’s to B’s, forgetful, and ill-mannered at times…BUT, she loves you and cares about you, she celebrates when you’re happy and is sad when you hurt, she wants to spend time with you, is interested in how you tick, what you are interested in and what you dream about, and enjoys going on errands with you.

No brainer, right? Well, sometimes we get caught up thinking God is more interested in our obedience to Him rather than our relationship with Him. Sure, He wants both. But if He could only have one, He would yearn for our relationship with Him. Easy example: just think of the criminal on the cross, who had a minimal track record of obedience but believed in Christ, and how God rewarded him eternally. Or think of Mary and Martha: Jesus praised Mary’s pursuit of relationship and corrected Martha’s obedient pursuit of chores.

Satan’s system, our flesh, and our baggage are always pushing us into this work-based system for approval first. Then once we win God’s approval, He would want to have relationship with us. But the truth is really the other way around. Regardless of our long track record of disobedience, He pursues us like the father of the prodigal son, because He so loved the world and sacrificed His only Son.

Today, take a look at how much of your day is spent in dutiful obedience, and how much is spent building and growing a relationship with your Heavenly Father. When you shift the scales so that pursuit of relationship far outweighs obedience, you will realize that you actually become obedient to God and His instruction. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
O God, thanks for desiring relationship with me even before I learn how to be obedient to You. If it were the other way around, and I needed to be cleaned up before I was worthy enough for You, I would be eternally damned. Help me not to fall into our world’s mentality of pursuing your approval instead of pursuing You. Once I learn to be close to You, the rest will take care of itself. In the name of the one who binds me to You in relationship, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, "Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me." But the Lord answered her, "Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her."
Luke 10:39-42

One of the criminals who were hanged railed at him, saying, "Are you not the Christ? Save yourself and us!" But the other rebuked him, saying, "Do you not fear God, since you are under the same sentence of condemnation? And we indeed justly, for we are receiving the due reward of our deeds; but this man has done nothing wrong." And he said, "Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom." And he said to him, "Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise."
Luke 23:39-43

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Stepping Stones: Can You Read God’s Mind?

Transformational Thought

When I look back at my childhood, I recognize a big disconnect that dramatically affected me through my teen and early adult years…and I battle its subsequent ripples even now. The disconnect…what my parents really wanted from me as a kid was quite different from what I thought they wanted from me. There are lots of reasons for this, but I wish I had known then what I know now about my parents’ hearts. So many mistakes and the resulting heartache and suffering could have been avoided.

In a similar fashion, a lot of my spiritual problems, which led to psychological and relational problems, had to do with another disconnect: the disconnect between what God really wanted from me and what I thought He wanted from me. God doesn’t need our plans and ideas. He needs our attention. He doesn’t need our time; He wants our adoration. He does not want us to spend hours thinking up things for Him to do and bless; He wants us to spread His Word and further His Kingdom here on earth.

I am so grateful that we serve a God who is not dependent on our strength, our time, and our money. What a mess that would be. I believe that He wants us in a place where we know He is leading. He is our shield. And a shield works best in front, not behind us. Our question must be, “What is it you want me to do, Lord?” Most of us don’t even know our own hearts. Our ways are not His ways.

Today, take a piece of paper and draw 2 lines down the page dividing it into 3 equal parts. First, without thinking, write down the things that immediately come to mind about what God desires of you. Then, in the middle section write what the Bible says God wants of, from, and for you. Lastly, in the section on the right write down what others would write about you based on what they observe from your daily behavior and if they could see into your thoughts (who you really are). Hopefully, this will help show you some of the disconnects that interfere with abundant living.

Prayer
O God, thank You so much for loving me as I am. I want to know Your desires and plans for me. At times I have glimpses of them and actually live them…but then the world’s clutter and my old tapes start playing and I lose sight of Your real desires for me. Thanks for persevering with Your plans for me even though I take the long way to get to Your goal. Thank You for the trials You allow that cause me to increase my trust in You. Help me give praise to You during the really tough storms in life. I know You are working all things out for your Glory. In the name of my connector to the Father, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose
Romans 8:28

And I will put this third into the fire, and refine them as one refines silver, and test them as gold is tested. They will call upon my name, and I will answer them. I will say, 'They are my people'; and they will say, 'The LORD is my God.
Zechariah 13:9

You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.
Deuteronomy 6:5

The thief comes to kill, steal, and destroy; but I came that you might have life, and have it abundantly.
John 10:10

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Stepping Stones: God: The Perfect Neurosurgeon/Psychiatrist

Transformational Thought

I talked with three strangers today…all separate, distinct encounters. But there was a common thread that ran through all three conversations. Sadly, they all appeared to be living the “old” life. I did not have a talk with them about their relationship with God or their spirituality…but the unhappiness and hopelessness came through so strongly.

When I speak at retreats or workshops, I make a comment that resonates deeply with most people: “When you become a Christian, you are a new creation with a new eternal destination and new potential on this earth, but you don’t get a brain transplant!” This is why we still sin, even though we have the perfect and powerful Holy Spirit residing in us. If we were perfect and complete upon salvation, God wouldn’t call us to go from milk to solid food. We would already be at the solid food level of maturity.

But sadly, we aren’t mature believers when we are saved, hence the term “Born Again,” to imply babes just starting out with a long way to go to maturity. Isn’t this something we all struggle with or tend to gravitate to unless we are diligent with our thoughts and focus? I know that when I became a Christian, I didn’t get a brain transplant. Old wiring, connections, thought patterns, Satan’s strongholds, memories, hurts, wounds, misinterpretations, and experiences were still in there, affecting my view of everything.

If you, too, are living the old life, remember God offers you new life—the life of Christ. The Resurrection affirms the promise Christ made. For it was HIS life he offered to give us new life. We are free to be who He meant us to be when He created us.

Today, when you are stressed or feel down about yourself or your circumstances, stop and ask, “Am I looking at this through the me-centered lens of the old life, or the God-centered lens of the new life?” Adjusting your perspective by yielding to the Holy Spirit and the Holy Bible will actually stimulate a brain transplant. Paul and Peter call it a renewing of your mind. That is how we all develop the mind of Christ.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank you for the offer and the guarantee of new life. I know what it’s like living with a heart of stone…going through the motions…living in a state of fear and worry. Thank you for turning my heart of stone into a heart that’s alive and can have hope. Thanks for Your work in my life to purge the old self, old man, old ways and renew my mind. Even though I give up, thanks for not giving up on Your goal to finish the work You started. I pray in the name of the reason for my new life, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 36:26

Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 6:11

to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
Ephesians 4:22-24

Friday, November 12, 2010

Stepping Stones: Who’s Stronger, A Tiger or Man?

Transformational Thought

Got a quick quiz for you. Who is stronger, a tiger or a man? You know, physically stronger? Correct, a tiger. Who is locked up in a cage, a tiger or a man? Tiger, correct again. Well, if a tiger is physically stronger, why is the tiger the one locked up in a cage? Here is a hint…what does the man have that the tiger doesn’t? Gun, trap, tranquilizers, and usually some kind of strategy.

You see, all these things the man brings to the fight come from his brain. If man uses his intelligence, he can control the tiger. If he doesn’t use his intelligence, the tiger will devour him. The tiger represents our emotions. If you don’t use your intelligence by thinking and strategizing your way through an issue, your emotions kill you.

Whether your emotions get you in trouble with poor judgment, raise your blood pressure, give you heartburn, or interfere with your awareness of God and applying His instruction in a troubling situation, your emotions, left unchecked or supervised, will destroy you.

On the flip side, we don’t want to annihilate our emotions. Just like we lock up the tiger for entertainment, education, edification, or admiration, we want to keep our emotions around because they do have a significant purpose. Our emotions are a tremendous gift from God, even our “negative” feelings, but that’s a devotional for another day. Satan wants to push our emotional buttons so it is easier prey on and devour us. Drugs and alcohol bring emotions to the surface leading to many disastrous decisions.

Today, when you are experiencing some negative feelings, stop and think. Thinking before reacting is always helpful. Ask yourself, “are my feelings controlling my thinking, or is my intelligence controlling my feelings?” Take a deep breath and think about the real problem and a solution. When you are able to think through your emotional states, your level of success during adversity will be dramatically improved. Click here for WITHIN REACH to help you understand how to manage your feelings better.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thanks so much for giving me my intelligence and my emotions. I confess that I don’t think sometimes and I let my feelings devour my brains, and wow, the damage to others, You, and me is so embarrassing to face sometimes. Help me control my feelings better, and improve my ability to take “every thought captive.” I pray in the name of the perfect role model, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,
2 Corinthians 10:5

Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.
Proverbs 14:29,30

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Stepping Stones: Visiting Heaven on Earth

Transformational Thought

Each year in the small town where I grew up, the local park district ran a kite-flying contest. It was one of the main summer events for children…an all-day extravaganza. It was always my dream as a boy to win that contest, but I never seemed to have the money for a kite. One year, my mother decided “we” were going to win that contest. She built a kite with old wood, string, and paper from a couple of brown paper sacks. It was an ugly kite…until she finished her artwork.

On the front she drew a vision of heaven; she chose a picture from our big Bible as a guide. She used gold and silver crayons…it was an incredible masterpiece. She told me that God inspired the artist so that we could have a glimpse into heaven. Well, that day God must have inspired my mother…we all got a glimpse into heaven through her creative drawing.

At the contest, the kite couldn’t fly…just too heavy. But we won first prize for artistry! Life sometimes feels really heavy. But living in collaboration with God through Jesus can give us an awesome glimpse of heaven. Jesus’ miracles, attitude, character, and actions are a sneak preview of the grandeur of Heaven.

Today, when you see something wonderful, realize heaven is close, right at your fingertips, and celebrate. When you see something wrong, imagine what Heaven’s version would be, and through you, draw God into the situation, altering it to be more like Heaven. Don’t doubt…laugh…or walk away in resignation. The Holy Spirit is powerfully present in you. Begin to do this you-and-Him adventure that will continue throughout eternity in Heaven.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for always being before me, leading me one stepping stone at a time closer to you. I thank You, Father, for Your reassurance that nothing in this creation can separate me from Your loving existence. I want to live my life focused on You, in the here and now. I do believe that You are always before me…leading and encouraging me. However, I struggle, Father, with living out that reality moment by moment. During those times when I am able to stay focused on You, my work becomes infused with Your presence and work becomes like play. I pray in the name of Him who was Heaven on Earth, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ.
Colossians 3:23-24

For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:38-39

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Stepping Stones: Don’t Become Firewood

Transformational Thought

In my younger days, I enjoyed cutting and splitting my own firewood. I would whip that sledge, honing my baseball swing, splitting and stacking all summer, and then enjoy the warmth of the fireplace during the winter. If you’ve ever split wood, you know how important and effective the “wedge” is.

The wedge is a heavy chunk of metal with a sharp edge on one end and a flat surface on the other. Green wood is very difficult to split…to separate the wood into logs. The wedge is a necessity. The wedge is slowly pounded into the logs with a sledgehammer, and as it goes in, it pushes the wood apart, tearing the fibers…weakening them to the point of failure. The harder the wood the more times you have to hit the wedge.

This is the enemy’s single-minded focus…separating us from our Father. His swings of the hammer are like the neglect we feel as he uses a wedge of deceit like: “See, no one cares. You’re on your own.” He uses a sudden loss of innocence to tell us, “See, this is a dangerous world, and you’re all alone. You’ve been abandoned.” He uses assaults and abuses to scream at us, “See, this is all you are good for.”

By constantly striking the wedge he weakens us and separates us from our Father. The details are different and unique to each of us, but the effect is always the same…an injury to the soul, and with it, separation from our Father. It’s dramatic but true…the enemy wants to split us from God and put us in the fire!

But God is not willing to simply let that be the end of the story…so here’s the good news. Remember what Jesus taught us about the Father’s heart in the parable of the lost son. Filled with compassion, our Father God will come like a loving Father, take the wedge out, and take us close to his heart. He will also take us back to heal the injuries, and finish things that didn’t get finished. He will come for you, no matter how old you might be, or how far away from Him you feel. He makes you his dearly loved daughter or son.

Today, identify the wedge. What one lie or deception is Satan using to separate you from God’s love and abundant life today? When you feel uncomfortable, look at some of the data for the situation. Some of that data or your conclusions will be false. That is Satan’s wedge. Replace it with God’s truth and that will draw you closer to Him.

Prayer
Dear Father God, My deepest desire is to trust You with my whole being. But this trust does not come easily for me, Father. I know that if I learn to trust You…really trust You…nothing can separate me from Your peace. I will endure the pounding of the wedge and will use each strike to train myself to trust You. I will ruin the enemy’s plan by growing in grace through the very adversity he uses to try and harm me. I pray in the name of the reason for my trust, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him
Luke 15:20

Above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one.
Ephesians 6:16

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Stepping Stones: Do You Have Childlike Trust?



Transformational Thought

When my girls were really small, I used to throw them way up in the air. Oh, how they loved it. They loved when we were in a house with a 2-story entrance where I could throw them really high. I loved the unquestioning trust they had in me, even though I really didn’t have to do much other than be a decent father. I certainly wasn’t perfect. Our kids show us their unconditional trust, and at times, extreme gullibility, in many ways…running to our room when they have a nightmare, believing when we tell them about Santa, the Tooth Fairy, and the Easter Bunny, or thinking we can make all their boo-boos go away.

God created us to trust easily, so we would trust Him, just like children trust their parents. But then Satan gets in our head. He magnifies the natural inadequacies that we have as parents, and the times we really do let our kids down, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Trusting others then becomes hard for us, whether it’s the result of normal circumstances or hurtful situations.

Mistrust breeds loneliness, isolation, and a feeling that no one truly understands me and my path. I feel no one else is on my team, and self-reliance becomes my main coping strategy. Self-reliance is the opposite of what God wants in His relationship with us. The Holy Spirit within us can be our resident tutor, helping us untwist those past hurts so we can start to trust again...100% unconditional trust and wide-eyed belief, just like a small child, ready to trust all God’s promises and instructions and fall into His open arms.

Today, when no one else seems to understand you, simply draw closer to Your Lord and God. Rejoice in Him, the One who understands you and loves you perfectly. Trust His promises and instruction for living life. Apply His principles to a trouble area today and continue to apply it regularly to that area. Give the principle a chance to affect your life and don’t judge the results too prematurely.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I come to You for understanding because You know me far better than I know myself. I know, Father, that You comprehend me in all my complexity…no detail of my life is hidden from You. Help me understand my hurts, forgive those who hurt me, and learn to trust You and Your promises. Give me the trust of a child when it comes to all that has to do with You. I pray in the name of the rock of my trust, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
O LORD, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things too great and too marvelous for me. But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child is my soul within me.
Psalm 131:1,2

Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
Matthew 18:3

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
Proverbs 3:5,6

Monday, November 8, 2010

Stepping Stones: At A Detour, Who Is Your Navigator?



Transformational Thought

Today, I am out of town attending a nephew’s wedding. I decided to visit a mall across town with 4 of my siblings. I’m driving, and brother Mark is in the front seat navigating, with three sisters in the back seat. I’ve driven with Mark in many cities across the US…I have complete confidence in him as a navigator. Mark has a sense of direction and navigation like a homing pigeon. If Mark is navigating…we will get there.

Well, since we were from out of town, our excursion wasn’t going to be easy. We hit detour after detour, but Mark keeps adjusting his inner since of direction. At one point it felt like we were totally lost, and just then, the mall appeared right in front of us. The entire time driving, I was completely relaxed…never challenging his directions. I knew he had us on the right course.

How would you live if you believed, really believed, that your future is perfectly planned out and your final destination secured? Think of the freedom this knowledge and belief would provide. Think about how you would live and feel if you truly believed that no power, no detour, could take away the promise of your inheritance in heaven. How would you travel through life if you knew you had the ultimate navigator and navigation system? You do in God and the Bible.

You see, Satan wants you to think you know exactly what you need, can predict the future, can figure out the perfect strategy to transform your mind and life. Or he gets you to realize you don’t have the answers, but the world has everything we need, so we end up letting the crazy culture and word system guide us.

Today, instead of approaching the day like an empty container that you must fill up, try living in a responsive mode…being on the lookout for what your Lord would like to put into your container…or what direction he is instructing you to go. This is easier said than done – a deep level of trust is required. A trust that is based on knowledge that His way is the perfect way. When you are at a fork in the road today, pray, then choose His way, and go with it. You will be surprised by taking His detours from the world’s destructive route we are often on. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, you are so amazing. I commit myself to You, Father, I am Yours for all time, beyond time…into eternity. I know now that no power can deny me my inheritance into heaven. I know You want me to feel secure. I know, Father, that even when I falter as I journey through life that You will never let go of my hand. Help me to stay on Your course in this lifetime as I know You have awesome opportunities for me to see and experience along my way to Christ-likeness. I pray in the name of the grandest gift, Christ Jesus; and all God’s children said, – AMEN!

The Truth
The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, And He delights in his way.
Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; For the LORD upholds him with His hand.
Psalm 37:23-24

As for God, His way is perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.
Psalm 18:30

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Stepping Stones: Reckless Words



Transformational Thought

Thank you…yes ma’am…you’re beautiful…I love you. Words can be so powerful; they can bless, soothe, and empower. Get away…you’re fired…shut up…I hate you. Words can isolate, devastate, and demoralize.

Words are fine tools, helping awesome relationships and connections flourish. Words can also be heat-seeking weapons, deftly defending our psyche and attacking those who threaten our kingdom. The world has come to applaud quick-witted retorts. My need for control, to be the expert, to show my competence, or to cover my vulnerability pushed my mastery of the quick, sarcastic, sharp, verbal attack.

I came to realize, when I used words to damage others…I damaged myself as well. Self-respect, self-esteem, honor, dignity, relationships, brain chemistry, connection to God…all injured or damaged. Again, we see this all too common phenomena, what we reflexively use as self-protective maneuvers are really self-destructive grenades.

However, the Word of God gives us much different instructions about our words, as what comes out of our mouth is really the reflection of what is going on in our heart. In order to modify our word usage, we need to work on our heart. My swearing is gone and my verbal attacks are rare as God has worked on my heart over the years. I still have work to do, but the more I let God in, temptation is less and the need to protect myself is minimized as a rest in His defense for me.

Today, let your speech come under the control of the Holy Spirit. Say split second prayers before you respond. Think before you speak, not as you speak. Use your words today to lift someone up, to heal instead of hurt. As your positive speech patterns replace your negative ones, the increase in joy and peace in your relationships will simply amaze you. Maybe forward this devotional to someone who has given you grace with his or her words to thanks them. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You for the awesome gift of speech. I also confess, Father that I have misused this gift…I confess, Father, that I have used my mouth and mind to hurt others. Forgive me, Father. I pray, Father, that You fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that I may have the discipline to think before I speak. Help me pray before answering the phone and before responding to others in conversation. Let others see You in me by the words I speak. I pray these words in the name of the living Word, Jesus Christ; and all God’s people said, - AMEN!

The Truth
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 12:18

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
James 1:19