Stepping Stones: Shoulda…Woulda…Coulda!

Transformational Thought

Yesterday, my wife was being very helpful and kind to a friend and their daughter after a sleepover with our daughter. They had a great time, and my wife was happy for them so she offered another playdate for the next day. She did so many good things in those moments with such a great attitude and heart. Instead of praising her, I said, “You should have looked at our schedule before over-scheduling our day.”

Striving for perfection, solely by human effort can be a frustrating endeavor. We tend to load ourselves down with “should's” and “should have's.” I should do this or should have decided that. I should have done it this way. I should read my Bible more. I should be more loving…

We can also project this focus onto others: He should be more sensitive. She should be more respectful. They should be more open. That person should pay more attention to what I do. They should do what I want.

When our focus, or even our need, is on human perfection, we will feel frustrated…and that frustration can build into resentment. Resentment can contribute to a critical and judgmental attitude toward others and ourself. This attitude can lead to bitterness, making forgiveness difficult to give and accept…not a pretty picture.

Do you engage in constant should's and should have's? Second-guessing what you have done and wishing you could do better? Do you focus on how imperfect you are? And how about your attitude toward others? Do you tend to be a judger?

We often want to hold onto our opinions about how the world should be and to get ourselves and everyone else in line with our way. But Jesus wants us to conform ourselves to His example. This is the one “should” we should do. We should follow Him.

Today, evaluate the areas in your life where your wrong “should haves” are enslaving you or others to a distorted reality and idol. Examine the areas in your life where you find it difficult to let go of your way and follow Jesus' example. Jesus promises if you will trade your agenda for His, you will find true life.

Prayer
Father, I know I tend to think my way is the only right way. I try to make myself perfect by my standards. I judge others because I expect them to be perfect…by my standards. Help me to conform to your standards. Help me to follow Your example. Help me to walk in love, not unrealistic expectations. I pray in the name of the one I will follow; Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Then Jesus said to His disciples, If anyone desires to be My disciple, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever is bent on saving his life shall lose it; and whoever loses his life for My sake shall find it .
Matthew 16:24-25

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9

Stepping Stones: Do You Chase the Right Goals?

Transformational Thought

We all like goals. Happiness, satisfaction, pay the bills on time, play with the kids after work, get my work done so I can watch the ballgame, help people navigate life better. Some goals are simple and some goals are complex.

Looking back on my life, a lot of my goals didn’t really emerge from a well thought-out process. Rarely did I look at the whole picture. They were usually me oriented and “fixed” one problem, but led to other problems. The danger is, once I set a goal, I almost become single-minded to achieve it. I head off going about it “my way.” Evaluating my life to determine a healthy and God-honoring goal has to be the starting point if I want to be successful and enjoy life.

We are taught to be self-sufficient and to solve our own problems. Mix that with wanting to avoid past mistakes and their associated pain. Blend that with so many things happening to me quickly that it is hard to step back and get on overall big picture strategy in place. This is the blend Satan desires so we make short term, me-centered goals, that we accomplish based on our own strength, and by way of knee-jerk decisions. Wow, sounds like a teenager. But how many of us, deep inside, really grow out of those kind of goals and strategies.

Today, before going after your next goal (or maybe you are in the midst of achieving a goal) talk with God about it directly through prayer and listen (as He speaks to your spirit, through friends and family, and through circumstances). Ask for God’s discernment to help you decide if that goal is according to His will… for you… right now. If the answer is yes, then you pursue that goal with even more confidence. When that goal is reached, thank God for his help and guidance. Rejoice in what He has accomplished in you.

Prayer
Dear Father, Pursuing goals comes so naturally to me, it’s almost like second nature. I confess that when a goal grabs my attention, my instinct is to “go for it” without talking it over with you. I realize now that many of my goals are so superficial and have nothing to do with pleasing You or doing Your work. I know, Lord, that when I take time to discuss matters with You, my life becomes so much more satisfying. I pray, Lord, that You help me develop goals that are according to Your will…that You become my captain in all the tasks I need to accomplish the goal... and grow my humility to accept your direction, will, and timing. I pray that You shine the light of Your presence on all my goals. I pray in the name of the one modeled the ultimate goal, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13

Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails.
Proverbs 19:21

Blessed are those who have learned to acclaim you, who walk in the light of your presence, O LORD. They rejoice in your name all day long; they exult in your righteousness.
Psalm 89:15-16

Stepping Stones: Lost and Need a GPS?

Transformational Thought

Our GPS is awesome. We just got back from a family vacation. Typical road trip down south with several destinations to the beach. No maps, no pulling over to figure out where we are, no arguments with my wife whether we are lost or not, no nagging from the kids that they are sick of my “shortcuts”! We just kept plugging addresses in to the GPS and we always got to the right spot.

Even though the GPS was always right, and easy to use after a while, it wasn’t so easy in the beginning and I it took me awhile to really trust it…especially when an alternative route looked inviting. But I humbled myself, decided I didn’t have to be the one in control, and accepted direction from our sweet-talking GPS.

Sometimes our life pathway is fuzzy, we don’t know which direction or step to take next. But as a child of God, our guiding Lighthouse, our personalized GPS, He promises to always guide us. Remember the 3 wise men. Just plug in the destination – Mind of Christ – then humble yourself to His directions!

The first and most important step is to admit you have lost your way and need a more expert, all-knowing guide. Even when we drift just slightly from following His lead, we are at great risk. Going your way and even veering off course a just a few degrees will ultimately, in just a short time, take you far from your Lord.

Today, look for that guiding star in your life. Stop a couple decisions today, and before you execute them, ask yourself one question. “What GPS am I using, God’s or mine?” Look at your motivations in the decision at hand and whether your action is consistent with God’s instruction, character, and promises. Thinking before you act never hurts. Be willing to follow wherever He leads you. He is the light from on high that will guide you, step by step onto into the way of peace. Like always, Your choice – God’s GPS or yours?

Prayer
Dear Father, Today I feel confused. At times I don’t know which way to go. I confess ,Lord, that I swerve off course in my own wrong direction. I desire with all my heart to walk Your way…to walk in the way of peace. My life is one storm after another. Please Father, shine Your light on me. I need Your light; I live in a cold dark world. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that Your Word will enlighten my mind and heart and will empower me to stay on the right path. I have an open, seeking heart Lord. Help me trust your GPS for my life and not be so tempted with flashy looking dead-ends. I pray in the name of the one who walked the perfect path, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
John 14:6

because of the tender mercy of our God, by which the rising sun will come to us from heaven to shine on those living in darkness and in the shadow of death, to guide our feet into the path of peace.
Luke 1:78-79

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.
Psalm 119:105

"Where is he who has been born king of the Jews? For we saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him." After listening to the king, they went on their way. And behold, the star that they had seen when it rose went before them until it came to rest over the place where the child was. When they saw the star, they rejoiced exceedingly with great joy.
Matthew 2:2,9-10

Stepping Stones: Do You Really Care For You?

Transformational Thought

I saw these words on the sign of an SPCA building. “Neglect is Abuse.” And it struck me just how profound those words are. Of course the intention was focused on animals…but what about us humans?

Neglectful isn’t a word we usually use to describe ourselves, people, or our society in this day and age. In fact, the opposite is usually what we hear, the ME generation, self-indulgent…spoiled….immediate gratification…everybody gets a trophy for playing…welfare or socialistic state. But think about it. Are we really paying attention, I mean real attention, to our own inner needs, struggles, or God placed longings?

Few perform this honest self-assessment, but when you assess, do you then go about addressing what you find in the most healthy, fulfilling, and life-giving way. Not self-assessing or then not significantly and thoroughly addressing what you find, is neglect.

Neglect is prevalent in our society. We neglect ourselves, we neglect those we love, we neglect those in need…but most importantly, we neglect our Lord. You see, God is the answer for struggles that derail us…obstacles holding us back….wounds that aren’t healed…patterns we struggle to break….emotions that rule us. By neglecting God, we are going to continue to also neglect ourselves and others.

Today, stop and think about areas in your life you are neglecting…pushing under the carpet…avoiding or suppressing…or hoping nobody notices. Think about struggles you have identified, but have had trouble correcting or freeing yourself from their burden. Now trade the word abuse for neglect. In the dictionary, neglect is a synonym for abuse. Just maybe this simple switching of words will help us to neglect less; to take care of ourselves in the true sense as God called us to do. Put on the armor of God and attack those strongholds specifically today.

Prayer
Dear Father in heaven, I come to you with a guilty heart. I have been guilty of neglecting You. Forgive me, Father. I have been guilty of neglecting those I love and that I have a responsibility to care for. Replacing the word abuse for neglect makes it all seem so much worse. I ask Your forgiveness for the abuse of my body. Help me this day and forever to be aware of those who need my care and attention. Also, help those who I have abused to forgive me. I pray, Lord, that You working through me will end my neglect of others. I realize now with a sad heart that others too have neglected me, so help me forgive them, Lord, as You forgive me. Help them also be aware that neglect is abuse. I pray in the name of the one was abused for my ultimate nurturing, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Do not neglect your gift, which was given you through a prophetic message
1 Timothy 4:14

Day and night they prowl about on its walls; malice and abuse are within it.
Psalm 55:10

Jesus answered, "The most important is, 'Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.'
The second is this: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these."
Mark 12:30-31

Jesus said to them, "I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst”.
John 6:35

Stepping Stones: Your Ultimate Lighthouse

Transformational Thought

We all experience storms in our lives. Maybe you are currently in the midst of a storm...maybe multiple storms. Storms are a certainty. How do you react to the storms? With peace or panic? Even though uncomfortable, storms are tremendous opportunities to learn a lot about ourselves.

One key lesson is, "where do I get my confidence, guidance, or hope from?" Put another way, "Who is going to be my Lighthouse - me, the world, another person, or God?" When we get upset in a difficult situation, we are usually getting our confidence from ourselves, and sometimes from others. A constant battle goes on inside our heart. We strive to be independent, master of our destiny, take care of our own needs, and not be reliant on anyone else. This protects us from being hurt, let down by others, and just seems more efficient to cut others out of the loop when I need something. This breeds a false sense of confidence, a reliance on myself, my abilities, my assets, or what I can get from others.

Instead of getting my confidence from me and relying on myself, God desires me to turn to Him, accept His protection and provision for me, and let Him grow us. He will grow us quicker, more efficiently, and with less pain than we will grow us. We really need to get our confidence to handle the many everyday situations from knowing who God is, what His promises are, and what His word teaches. When we see situations and act based on our confidence in God, life and especially storms, are easier and actually growing experiences.

Looking back I see the major storms in my life actually changed my direction pushing me onto a better path of becoming Christ-like and developing the Mind of Christ. More importantly, these storms provided the opportunity to look for and find God as my Lighthouse, where the best and ultimate safety and guidance is for me.

Today, as a believer you will find that your ultimate Lighthouse, God, will not only show you your path forward step by step, but God will also lead you to a place of refuge, a place of shelter to endure your storm. Meet today's storm...or your next storm (for surely they will come) with peace not panic. Take the opportunity to look for your personal Lighthouse of guidance and sanctuary in His promises and character.

Prayer
Father God, when I meet the storms of life, help me to go through them with peace, not panic. I know that to get to where You want to take me, I must go through certain storms. In Your wisdom, You designed the storms to push me to You, I come to know You and Your loving provision, shelter, and calm. It is not in the calms of life where I realize that I will not go under, but during the storms. Allow me to get my confidence, hope, and assurance from You and not me, because I know I am limited, weak, and not capable of controlling everything like You can. Thank You for being my Lighthouse during the storms. Thank You that during all of life's storms there is a perfect place of refuge...a fortress of Divine grace to see me through. I pray in the name of the one endured the greatest storm so I could have eternal safety, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
He that dwelleth in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and fortress: my God; in Him will I trust. Surely He shall deliver me.
Psalm 91:1-3

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:2-4

as it is my eager expectation and hope that I will not be at all ashamed, but that with full courage now as always Christ will be honored in my body, whether by life or by death.
Philippians 1:20

Stepping Stones: Judging Others…Or Really Yourself?

Transformational Thought

We are so quick to judge. And as judges, we can be impatient and hurtful, especially to those we love. We are called to be disciples and witnesses...not lawyers and judges. When we understand our calling, we will become more patient and understanding with others.

When we take the role as a judge without the intent to love and grow the other person, we are really revealing our own failures. Who are we to judge others? Do we like being judged? When we are judging, being sarcastic, making a critical comment, we get a glimpse into our heart. This harsh attitude reveals some of the insecurities, hurts, baggage, and issues, that are still unresolved and affecting the lenses we look through to see life, others, and ultimately God.

When you have that urge to judge, critique, belittle, or exalt yourself above another, instead of being quick to speak, be quick to self-assess. Do some heart analysis and see what is at the center of your heart that is causing your view of others, yourself, and God to orbit around it. The time you spend in self-assessment can be incredibly revealing and relieving.

For this exercise to happen, during this time of heart diagnostics, be confident that God can take care of you while you are feeling uneasy...whether it be anger, hurt, guilt, revenge, bitterness, anxiety, sadness....whatever the feeling that is prompting the urge for you to judge, trust God to comfort you and not let the emotion rule you.

Today, be quick to listen and slow to speak...and when you do speak, speak as a disciple of God and not as a judge. Let the judging happen as you judge your own heart first, then disciple others next.

Prayer
Father in Heaven, I confess to You, my Lord, that I have become so impatient with others...especially those I love. And through my lack of patience and understanding I become judgmental and angry...saying things I wish I had not said. Help me to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Help me to see others as You see them...tired, lonely, fearful, and lost. Help me be a witness...not a judge. Thank You that I can speak Your word and offer encouragement to those in need. Help me to be patient toward others as You are with me, for it is Your power that works in me. Help to judge myself more accurately and be open to what the Holy Spirit is trying to get me to see about my own heart. Help me to recognize and honor Your Spirit today and pray in the Spirit always. I pray in the name of the one was judged for me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I sat among them for seven days - overwhelmed. At the end of seven days the word of the Lord came to me.
Ezekiel 3:15-16

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
Galatians 5:22

Let a person examine himself, then, and so eat of the bread and drink of the cup. For anyone who eats and drinks without discerning the body eats and drinks judgment on himself. That is why many of you are weak and ill, and some have died. But if we judged ourselves truly, we would not be judged. But when we are judged by the Lord, we are disciplined so that we may not be condemned along with the world.
1 Corinthians 11:28-32

Stepping Stones: Why Did They Get More Than ME?

Transformational Thought

Many times, the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, that is, our stuff isn’t satisfying enough. We spend so much time and energy focusing on what others have or missing what we don't have. We think having those other things will bring happiness, solve a problem, heal a hurt, or soothe our discomfort or uneasiness.

The tenth commandment is "that shall not covet". If we are not to covet what others have, then we are being told to be content with what we do have. Being content really shows we understand that God is all-powerful, fully in charge, loves us, and is at work in our lives. He is providing exactly what we need at this moment…so let me enjoy it and be thankful for it.

I don't need to covet other things, because if they were what I really needed for growth, peace, and fulfillment, God would have certainly known ahead of time and be providing it for me.

We know through scripture that God loves a thankful heart. And we have so much to be thankful for. Sometimes we pray and give thanks like on autopilot. Don't be complacent in being thankful. This is a very important discipline that reinforces in our mind and heart who God is, who we are, and the story that is really playing out in our everyday lives.

Are you a person who focuses on what you don't have? You get caught up in the possibilities and fantasies of your agenda for your satisfaction? Or do you focus on the reality of what you actually have, being thankful for all the blessings you have, and asking God how you can be an awesome steward of them to maximize God's glory and your spiritual growth? You have to decide, many times a day what attitude and lenses you will use, and your actions will flow according to the decision you make.

Today, know Your God as the Great Giver. Pray lists of all that He has given you...take time throughout your day for short prayers of thanksgiving. You will find this thanksgiving more clearly opens the line of communication between you and your Lord and you will see Him more for the loving and care-taking Father He really is.

Prayer

Dear Gracious Father - You are my Giver. You give me hope when I feel despair. You give me acceptance when I feel unloved. You give me forgiveness when I fail. You give me purpose beyond anything I could imagine in this life. Thank You for the gift of brothers and sisters in Christ who have become part of the Stepping Stone prayer community. Thank you for using me to minister to others as you accept me with my weaknesses and inadequacies. Thank You for working everything out for our good and for Your glory. I pray in the name of the one who gave everything, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all-how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?
Romans 8:32

You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's."
Exodus 20:17

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19

Stepping Stones: Too Shy To Call Your Bodyguard?

Transformational Tip

I grew up in a rough part of town, and all boys were clearly measured by their ability to fight…to be tough. I wasn’t that tough, but I had an older brother that was by far the toughest boy in town. So as Jamie’s brother, I was never measured by my physical weakness or limitations…I carried with me my big brother’s strength; for all knew to fight me was to ultimately fight my brother Jamie…and no one wanted to do that.

Some days I feel so limited, so inept…so clumsy. I’m sure you have days like this. On days like these remember that, thankfully, we need not be measured by our human limitations. We have a big brother, an advocate, a protector to step in and lend us His toughness and power.

As a kid, it wasn’t all about just me, because my brother was always there to protect me. Satan wants us to think it is all about us…depends on us…and nobody is there to help us. Depending or relying on any one else is really hard, especially for men. Self-sufficiency is what we’ve been brainwashed and trained to practice, and it does seem so reasonable to strive for. But putting my confidence in me, to meet my needs, solve everything and to soothe me, wow, what a set up for failure and loss.

So today, remember that it’s not about your human limitations…it’s about His strength, not yours. We have so much more than a tough brother in our corner…we have our Lord and God. Recall the times where He has protected you from the world or your own mistakes…like speeding, financial impulses, dating and sexual mistakes, words you wish you could have taken back. When you have some struggle today, put on the armor, trust in God’s power and promises and put your confidence in His track record, not yours.

Prayer
Dear God our Father, I take baby steps of faith, and based on this genuine faith, I am confident that You will show me what You can do. I want to know the excitement of seeing Your work in me. I am thankful for seeing Your work in this Stepping Stones community of believers. All glory to you, my Lord. Through faith, I receive Your Spirit. Give me Your Spirit today and everyday. Your Spirit empowers me to go beyond my human limitations…beyond my physical ability and strength…for without You I am so much weaker. I pray that I not measure my human limitations as I face the challenges and burdens before me. The issue is not my human limitations…the issue is Your Strength, not mine. I believe by walking closer to you, I can better understand and accomplish Your purpose with Your strength, not mine. I pray in the name of the One who is my Big Protector, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And the apostles said unto the lord, Increase our faith. And the Lord said, “If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you.”
Luke 17:5-6

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Stepping Stones: What Light Do Others See In You?

Transformational Thought

I always marvel at how our kids resemble my wife and I in so many ways, and I am not talking just physical characteristics. Making lists, the way they talk about certain situations, word choice, or attitudes about money to name a few. Our kids often become echoes of who we are.

The one line that really gets me, “Dad, that is exactly what Pappy would say.” I realize, 1. they are really watching and noticing what I do, and 2. As a teen, I vowed I would be different than my dad, but I am probably more similar than dissimilar because I was observing him.

Like it or not, you are an example to many; your children, spouse, family, friends, co-workers. People are watching, and they can’t help it. Our mind is so powerful, it is like a radar that is so sensitive and picks up all the activity in our environment, whether we are consciously aware of it or not. What do they “see” when they see you?

As Christians, we have a light in us that is powerful…bright…vibrant…and can truly be transforming of our mind and behaviors. But it can also be transforming for others as well. We are called to let our light shine, not hide it under a bushel. How do we hide it?

We know the Holy Spirit is powerful and perfect. But, we aren’t perfect and don’t shine His pure light, so what is really happening? We hide our light by actually getting in the way of the Holy Spirit and His work in our life. Our past, with the distortions and lies Satan has presented to us and we have bought into, is contributing to us acting as the captain of our ship. We are not submitting to the Holy Spirit being our captain and then following His commands and direction.

Today, look at how you handle some adversity. Are you following the Holy Spirit’s teaching and direction or ignoring Him and doing it your way? How much light are you shining to the world? Also, think of all the blessings you have received. Think about how your destiny and life has changed since accepting Him as your Lord and Savior. Let His light shine brightly through you today so as the scripture tells us; Many will see you and put their trust in the Lord.

Prayer
Dear Father, You have performed so many miracles for and through me. Thank You, Lord. All Glory to You, Lord. You have truly lifted me out of the pit of destruction. Help me get out of Your way as You work through me and in me. Give me a humble spirit that accepts You as my captain. I pray, Lord, that You will use me today to further Your Kingdom; that You will use me in ways that I don’t even understand. I have close family members and friends that remain in that pit. Let them see You through me today, let them see You today and help me help them to put their trust in You. I pray in the name of the Light of the world, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I waited patiently for the Lord;
And He inclined unto me, and heard my cry.
He lifted me out of a pit of destruction, out of the miry clay,
And he set my feet upon a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.
He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God;
Many shall see and put their trust in the Lord.
Psalm 40:1-3

Oh Lord my God, You have done many miracles for us. Your plans for us are too numerous to list. If I tried to recite all your wonderful deeds I could never come to the end of them.
Psalm 40:5

You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a bushel, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
Matthew 5:14-16

No one after lighting a lamp puts it in a cellar or under a bushel, but on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light. Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is full of light, but when it is bad, your body is full of darkness.
Therefore be careful lest the light in you be darkness. If then your whole body is full of light, having no part dark, it will be wholly bright, as when a lamp with its rays gives you light."
Luke 11:33-36

Stepping Stones: Problems: Friend or Enemy?

Transformational Thought

Easy, problems are definitely our enemy, right? As usual, we are not going to conform to the world’s answer. Instead, even though making friends with your problems sounds so trite, even silly, it's actually the truth and really works! Though many things may feel random and messed up because of all your problems, stop for a moment and remember this. Your God is sovereign over everything...and He can "fit everything into a pattern of good".

God would rather teach us without suffering, heartache, and challenge. That is what He tried in the Garden of Eden. Unfortunately, we do not learn as much as we need to that way. So God has to use other methods to catch our attention, change our focus or path, or show us what is destructive to us. To Disciple us!

Our problems are opportunities to show what we have learned. After I practiced in baseball a lot, I wanted to go against good competition to show how much I learned and how good I was. Same in medical school, as I assessed and worked up a patient and studied the illness, I was excited to present to the attending and let him grill me so I can show my growth as a psychiatrist. A "problem" in life is really that better competition or test we take to show our growth....and show areas we still need to work on.

The best way to befriend your problems is to thank God for His care for you as He gives you an opportunity to show the work you have put in and your resultant growth in Him... or His willingness to show you areas where He wants to grow and equip you. This simple act will open your mind to having God's benefits.... Developing the Mind of Christ and intimate relationship with God...flow from your problems.

Today, look at your problems. If you are thankful and handling them, then you are preparing well...putting on the armor, getting your confidence from God, and letting the Lord lead you into battle. If you are struggling and not thankful for or understanding of your problems, then look at how you are preparing for your “tests” and where you are getting your confidence. Your decision about what is at the center of your heart influencing the lenses you use to view your problems. It’s heart exam time.

Prayer
Dear Father, I am overwhelmed with life’s problems…they are mounting such that I cannot see over them…at times I am almost paralyzed with fear. It’s hard at times, but I want to thank You for these problems. I do not expect You to remove these problems, Lord…but I do pray that You strengthen me though them and that You make good come from these problems. Let each problem teach me something, Lord…transforming me little by little into the masterpiece You have created me to be…drawing me closer to You. I pray in the name of the One who knew no guilt till He bore all mine, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28

but we preach Christ crucified: a stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles, but to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.
1 Corinthians 1:23-24

Stepping Stones: Road Closed! How Do You React?

Transformational Thought

This morning, I was driving into Philly for a meeting. I usually don’t go into Philly, but when I do I try to avoid rush hour. An exciting meeting with Cardone, a Christian owned company, convertible top down, voicemail cleared, morning devotions were good, then boom. Road closed!

For someone like me…organized, engineer, planner, methodical…that’s a sign that used to create some immediate stress for me. I needed my agenda, my plan to happen, because who could ever be as smart, organized, prepared as me. Who read situations, apply past experiences and predict and know the future better than me.

Finding a new route was irritating, and making sure I was going to be on time was now a mild concern, but the real issue for me was…I want to be in control of all things and I want events to go my way.

God knows the route ahead of you, and yes, those detours in your day are from God. When He says “Road Closed!” He has a better route to your destination to the “Mind of Christ. You might not think you know, but you really don’t know all the details of your life, the future, and what the rest of the world will do over the next 5 minutes, let alone the next 30 years.

Today, when God closes the road ahead of you, sending you on what you think is a detour; quickly accept this is actually your real path. Examine why you don’t want to accept His path and are still demanding that yours is better. Enjoy and be thankful that He put you on even a better path than the one you were already excited about. This is one of the big decisions in your life each day…do I trust and give thanks for the new path God directs me to or do I get angry and whine that I didn’t get the path I planned or anticipated and prepared for?

Prayer
Dear God, my Father, Today I persevere along the path that You have prepared for me, depending on Your strength to sustain me for I am too weak to proceed on my own. The storms in my life are making me weak. I am learning to not fear my weakness, for I am beginning to understand that my weakness is the stage on which Your Power and Glory perform most brilliantly. As I walk this path I wait with anticipation and faith for Your miracles to unfold before me. I know that all miracles cannot be seen by the eye, but those who live by faith can see them clearly. Help me, Lord, live by faith and not by sight, help me to see You in all Your Glory. I pray in the name of the One who accepted the most dreadful path for me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory.
Psalm 63:2

We live by faith, not by sight.
2 Corinthians 5:7

Stepping Stones: Guilt Trip To Nowhere

Transformational Thought

I often hear many mothers really use guilt to “motivate” their children. “If you love me, you would do your chores.” “I worked long and hard on this meal, so you better eat it.” Or others might say, “we’ll have to cancel the event…unless you help us.” “Look at these starving kids in Africa and all the food you throw away. Please send money.”

Guilt is an incredible motivator, but that’s not really the correct role and use of guilt. I am all for pointing out injustices and needs and then allowing people to step into their role to help these situations. The issue I am trying to separate from these examples is this, we shouldn’t try to use guilt as a tool to motivate people.

Several subliminal distorted messages can unwontedly occur when people are guilted into action. 1. I am responsible for and therefore can control someone else’s feelings, 2. The other person won’t feel better unless I act the way they want, 3. When you want to get someone to do something for you, it is OK to lay a guilt trip on them, and probably the worst distorted message, 4. Decisions should be based on self-needs and emotions, not facts and reasoning. Unfortunately, these messages subtly seep into many people’s everyday functioning.

Many pastors and priests try to whip their congregations into Christian action by delivering guilt inducing sermons. They try to get their people to “work harder”, but the end does not justify the means. I have personally experienced these guilt-evoking messages…they can unfortunately undermine the very foundation of grace in a believer’s heart.

Today, take notice if you are feeling guilty about something, or if you are inducing guilt in someone else. Stop and examine why. Examine the relationship that the guilt is part of. Let the guilt warn you a problem exists, but don’t let it be your decision-maker. Let reason and the Bible direct your heart and actions. Confess, repent, apologize, and ask forgiveness. You are responsible for your feelings and happiness; the other person is responsible for their own. Above all else, be mindful that God does not measure and judge you by the amount of good works you do; rather He looks into your heart.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I do not want to be stressed out about not “doing enough” to be a good Christian. I know that You want me to relax in the assurance of Your perfect love. Help me today remember that You delight in me more than I can ever imagine and that You see me cloaked in Your light and presence…and that there is no condemnation for those cloaked in You. Help me, Lord, to each day come closer to having the Mind of Christ. Help me make decisions based on Your word, not my feelings. Help me feel convicted and guilty about my wrongs, but then look to You for forgiveness and your word for guidance in doing right. I pray in the name of the One who knew no guilt till He bore all mine, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I delight greatly in the LORD; my soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest.
Isaiah 61:10

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.
Romans 8:1-2

Stepping Stones: How Will Your Movie End?

Transformational Thought

We put such a premature finish line on so many situations. Like, “I will never talk to him again,” “Nobody will ever love me,” “if I don’t get any money by the end of the month to pay my bills, I am a failure.” I know so many people who have lost all happiness in their lives…they wonder if they will ever have joy again. Their unhappiness is usually an outcome of being in a very bad situation, so my prayer for them; God, please bring some good out of this bad situation.

Why is this prayer always so difficult to pray when you are in the midst of a horrible situation? An illness for yourself or a loved one, death, divorce, in the grasp of an addiction, financial trouble…the list goes on and on. So many reasons to be unhappy.

We typically don’t ask God to make good from the bad because we are in the midst of suffering. It’s almost impossible to consider all the wonderful outcomes that God could have in store for us. So for those of you who have lost all hope for happiness and are in the midst of a storm, pray this simple prayer; Dear Father, please bring good out of this bad situation.

These present painful circumstances are there to sharpen, grow, and show us valuable skills and information about us, God, and life. This isn’t the end of the movie….more scenes are yet to come. Do what you need to do, even though it is painful at times, so when God opens the door, you are ready to walk through and take advantage of it. Often times we procrastinate away the “studying or training time” in a task or hardship. So we don’t learn the important skills, process, or information we need to be successful when the opportunity to shine on the test, performance, or event is Within Reach.

Today, don’t believe the struggle you are in is over. The end of the movie is not now. Accept this is only the early part of a great movie of restoration and healing. What do you need to do for the rest of the movie to go that way, because God will show up and do His part. Follow Him, do the training now so you can manage the experience and have peace, comfort, and success in the adversity/opportunity that is at hand. So you can have a front row seat to appreciate what He is doing today and will do tomorrow in your life. Again, your decision to make!

Prayer

Dear Father God, I know that bad does not come from You, but that You have the power to make good come from a bad situation. I pray, Father, that you give me the strength to endure this storm and to build my faith that You will bring good from this bad. Most days I feel like I will never be happy again. I pray that You replace this sadness and hopelessness with Your joy and hope. I confess that I have made choices that have created this bad; forgive me, Lord. But there are also bad circumstances that are out of my control and that I do not understand. I accept, Lord, that my ability to understand is so limited, but I trust in You that You will bring good from this bad. Help me Lord reflect Your light and hope to those I come in contact with who are in the midst of what appears to be an impossible situation. I pray in the name of the One who was always patient on You while enduring persecution, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth

then the king commanded, and Daniel was brought and cast into the den of lions. The king declared to Daniel, "May your God, whom you serve continually, deliver you!"
I make a decree, that in all my royal dominion people are to tremble and fear before the God of Daniel, for he is the living God, enduring forever; his kingdom shall never be destroyed, and his dominion shall be to the end. He delivers and rescues; he works signs and wonders in heaven and on earth, he who has saved Daniel from the power of the lions."
Daniel 6:16, 26-27

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:2-4

Stepping Stones: Which Commercial Represents Your Spiritual Life?

Transformational Thought

The other day, I saw a commercial from 1972 and one from today. What an incredible difference. Today’s had so much stimulation, faster action, brighter colors, more faces, multiple activities, quicker scene transitions, and graphics popping in and out.

Our society has so much stimulation with cellphones, texting, computers, WiiFii everywhere, ipods, audio books, and a plethora of indoor and outdoor activities. This world throws so many things at us with this one clear goal: to interfere with our awareness of and interrupt our communion with, God.

The old commercial was longer, slower, had values, appealed to your reasoning, and the message was clear. Just like God’s message and relationship with us. The new one was shorter, faster, cluttered, avoided values, appealed to your emotions, and the message blurred. Just like the world’s.

We need to let God train us in steadiness, then actually practice steadiness. Don’t let unexpected events and random stimulation throw you off course. Rather, respond calmly and confidently knowing that God is with you. As soon as something grabs your attention, get into the habit of talking to God about it. Today’s scripture tells us clearly that we are not alone. God is there to help us cope with whatever circumstances you are facing. Your constant awareness of Him will help you maintain the steadiness in your walk that God desires for you.

Today, try to remind yourself to refocus back to and talk with God once an hour. Those WWJD bracelets really can work. A little watch alarm…your cellphone…markings in your daytimer…a bracelet or string around your wrist. Check out our Awareness Bracelets Anything that will prompt you to connect with God more often.

More connection with God makes it easier to develop His lenses…then you won’t get thrown by events or distractions so easily. Thinking instead of reacting will be easier, and you will be one step closer to the Mind of Christ.

Prayer

Dear Father God, I feel so unsteady today, I feel as if I have no footing and that I am ready to fall. I ask for Your continual presence in my life. I know, Lord, that when I reach and grasp for Your hand, I must let go of the other things I am holding tightly to. I know You have designed me to need You moment by moment. As my awareness of my neediness for You increases I become more steady. I seek Your face, Father, and I approach you with a teachable spirit. Help me build a discipline of connecting with you daily just like I use my computer, cell phone, texting, TV, radio, and phone regularly.
I pray in the name of the One who was never distracted from God, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10

And they were calling to one another: "Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of his glory.
Isaiah 6:3

We live by faith, not by sight.
2 Corinthians 5:7

Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.
Matthew 7:24-25

August 4, 2010 Stepping Stones

Stepping Stones: Why Are We Afraid?

Transformational Thought

I have found lately, maybe because of the struggling economy, how easy it is for a lot of people to share their shortcomings. They readily confess that they suffer from all types of physical, material, or emotional problems. Doesn’t take much prodding to have them tell you they have lost a job, experiencing financial struggles, have a bad temper, or that they are self-centered…they will even tell you they are “not that smart.”

But one thing no one wants to admit (to themselves of others) is that they are cowards. No one likes to let on that they are afraid of anything. Of all our human frailties, cowardice seems by far the least popular. But yet we all struggle with feelings of inadequacy and insecurity, so we all have small and large fears pretty regularly.

Fear gets in the way of so many things in our lives, but this is not how God wants us to live. Fear shows doubt for God’s sovereignty, His love for you, and His power over our problems. God does have answers. Remember His answer for our biggest concern…we were headed for eternal damnation because of our sin until Jesus died for us. He has answers for your every predicament, need, suffering, or anticipated suffering.

Pray for and develop courage from God, the only true and lasting source of real and triumphant courage. Then you will free yourself from the fears that keep you from God’s peace and joy.

God’s word speaks to us so clearly about the need to be brave and “fear not.” This message is contained in virtually every book of The Holy Bible. When we really put on the armor, braveness is an automatic outcome.

Today, what concerns you?....what do you worry about or are afraid of? Why? What do you need to believe differently about you and about God for your fear to go away? Usually our problem is some distorted views about what really is painful, how much pain we can handle, and the power and peace God provides when we are in pain. Take God’s promises seriously and see how it affects your vulnerable spots. Again, a decision you need to make, many times a day…God’s protection or the world’s. You choose.

Prayer
Dear Father God, on the outside I am tough, but on the inside I am so stricken with fear, I am such a coward. God, please give me courage. I need courage in all aspects of my life. I need courage to do good and to resist all forms of evil. I need courage to follow Your commandments, to overcome my fears, both rational and irrational. Give me the courage I need, Lord, to win the struggle against neuroses and anxieties. I need Your courage to overcome my addictions and to persevere though the storms in my life. Give me courage, Lord, to give witness to Your truth and to do great things in Your name. Father, I pray that all those of the Stepping Stones community gain Your courage and lose their fear. Remove their fear Father and give them Your peace…the peace that surpasses all human understanding. . I pray in the name of my rock and refuge, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
But he said to them, "It is I; don't be afraid."
John 6:20

After this, the word of the LORD came to Abram in a vision: "Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your very great reward."
Genesis 15:1

Every man will sit under his own vine and under his own fig tree, and no one will make them afraid, for the LORD Almighty has spoken.
Micah 4:4

When I saw him, I fell at his feet as though dead. Then he placed his right hand on me and said: "Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last.
Revelation 1:17

Stepping Stones: What Is On Every Street Corner of Your Life?

Transformational Thought

A Starbucks on every corner. At least it seems like. More accurately, if you take into account Dunkin Donuts, WaWa, local Starbuck wannabees specialty coffee shops, favorite breakfast spots, different energy drinks, and church lobby’s, the real slogan is, “Caffeine on every corner.” Caffeine is harmful in many ways. When you can’t stop it because it gives you a headache, that’s got to send you a serious message.

You see, we are incredibly needy people and the world is a very needy place. Getting your boost, energy, or life from this world, well that road ends in loneliness, frustration, and insecurity. All this world provides are temporary band-aids at best…not meant to be long term solutions. Even when these temporary fixes are good and are provided by God, we often start to use them as primary solutions and forget these just point to the real solution – God.

Learn to go to your Lord and depend on Him first. When you turn to Him, your weakness will be replaced with His power. Find completeness in God. Then He will provide for and speak to you directly or lead you to other people or things of this world to show His love and direction.

When you depend on God first, you can then help other people without using them for your own needs. By letting God’s light shine brightly in you, God will shine through you to help others.

Today, what do you look to first to meet your needs? Yourself such as your intellect, looks, or a personality trait… your feelings like anger, self-pity, anxiety, or arrogance)….maybe other people, their skills or opinions. Sometimes it’s material things sex, food, money, things, drugs, even caffeine. Try a detox period from your “drug” you use to soothe yourself and instead, “suffer well” by going to God’s Word and see how He will speak to you.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I confess that I often turn to the world for my needs, and many times what I take from the world keeps me separated from You. The merry-go-round of life seems to be spinning faster and faster, things seem out of control. Yet I know by Your Word and by my faith that there is a calm at the center of the storms in my life. This calm is only found through a union with You. Thank You, my Father. Help me return to this center of calm…this soothing center more often, for this is where I will find completeness, Love, Joy and Peace. I pray in the name of my sustaining life-force, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
The LORD is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.
And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O LORD, have not forsaken those who seek you.
Psalm 9:9-10

Preserve me, O God, for in you I take refuge.
I say to the LORD, "You are my Lord; I have no good apart from you."
As for the saints in the land, they are the excellent ones, in whom is all my delight.
The sorrows of those who run after another god shall multiply; their drink offerings of blood I will not pour out or take their names on my lips.
Psalm 16:1-4

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.,
Galatians 5:22

No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
1 John 4:12

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Stepping Stones: One Prayer God Guarantees To Answer “Yes”

Transformational Thought

Every day, and all over the world, many Christian are asking the same question; “Why didn’t God answer my prayer?” God has many reasons for saying no to your specific prayer, but we will tackle that subject in a future devotional. Today’s devotional is about a simple, important prayer that is guaranteed, yes guaranteed to be answered with a “yes.” That prayer is, “Lord, please forgive me.”

When it comes to being forgiven for the mistakes, slips, sins, or bad things we have done, the hardest part has already been done for us. The penalty for sin is death, and that penalty needs to be paid by someone. Jesus Christ paid that price on our behalf, a long time ago. Our role in this process is really quite simple.

The sooner we can grasp and believe this fact, the easier we can rid ouselves of the dysfunctional shame, guilt, remorse and accumulated emotional weight from all the past sins that so many of us carry around our neck like a huge stone. So ask for God’s forgiveness now and as soon as you misstep each day. Don’t let the many sins you commit, big or small, accumulate and hinder your relationship and communication with God.

Today, accept that we all have past sins we still let influence our present lenses and living. What past sin eats at your view of yourself…your self-esteem…or your ability to relate well with someone close? What is the effect? Why do you still let it influence you? Confess and use different lenses to see God’s complete forgiveness for you! It’s your choice and it will truly free you.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I am tired of feeling like a terrible person…I am tired of carrying this weight of guilt and shame for the things I have done…the sins I’ve committed. Lord, please forgive me. I know by Your Holy Word that Christ died so that I may be free of sin and it’s shackles. I confess my sins to you Lord, please forgive me and purify me from all unrighteousness. Remove the sins that block me from your blessings. Forgive my sins so that I may see with Your eyes and fill my mind with Your thoughts. Give me Your wisdom through Your Holy Spirit, but more than wisdom, give me the strength to do Your will. I pray this in the name of the one who took my place on the cross so I can be forgiven, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say – AMEN!

The Truth
Later, knowing that all was now completed, and so that the Scripture would be fulfilled, Jesus said, "I am thirsty." A jar of wine vinegar was there, so they soaked a sponge in it, put the sponge on a stalk of the hyssop plant, and lifted it to Jesus' lips. When he had received the drink, Jesus said, "It is finished." With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.
John 19:28-30

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace
Ephesians 1:7

as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.
Psalm 103:12

Stepping Stones: Let God Calm the Storms in Your Life

Transformational Thought

Dark, eerie night. Loud thunder! Bright flashes of Lightning! Scary thunderstorms frighten little kids as they know they have no power over these awesome storms. When their parents come down the hall, one of two things happens.

If the child has been obedient to, respectful of, and submissive to their parent’s authority and power over them, the child is confident that their parent has the power and authority to protect them from the storm. They feel comforted and safe in their parents arms.

On the other hand, if the child has disrespected, rebelled against, and overthrown the parents power and authority, and the kid is the one calling the shots regarding privileges and discipline, then the kid isn’t confident in their parents ability to protect them from the storm. Even though the parents come through the door to save them, the kid is still scared and anxious. The child thinks, I have more power than you, so go back and bring someone more powerful than me and this storm to protect me.

In Mark 4, the disciples, some of them experienced fisherman, and Jesus were hanging out in a boat at sea. A powerful storm hits. So powerful that even these experienced fisherman were frightened for their lives. They woke Jesus up and accused Him of not caring if they died. Jesus exerted His power and authority over everything…and calmed the storm.

The disciples put their confidence in themselves and their knowledge, not Jesus and His character, skills, teachings, promises. They ranked their own power above Jesus!

Think about the storms in your life. Are you really trusting God’s power? Being respectful, obedient, and submissive to His authority in all areas of your life? If so, your confidence will come from and be in Him and what He brings to the table. You will have bold confidence, assurance, hope, and peace in the storms of your life. Don’t wait till the storms to trust Him….not because He won’t help you…He will help. Problem is, you won’t believe it because you have been ignoring Him in non-stormy times and putting your trust and confidence in yourself.

Today, examine, even in the little events of daily life, where do you get your confidence. From things that are about you, or from Him? Begin to trust Him in all things. Get your confidence from Him. Then it will be easy and natural to trust Him during stormy times and your ability to navigate those storms will truly miraculous. Your choice…Please choose well.

Prayer
Father, I come to rest in Your loving presence. I know this day and the days before me will bring difficulties. It is my human way to try and think my way through these trials all alone. Please remind me that You are with me…that I am not alone in the midst of this storm. I pray that You will send your peace, the peace that passes all understanding to all those praying and growing with the Stepping Stones Devotionals. My Lord, strengthen all of us and prepare us for this day…transform their fear and anxiety into confident trust in you, their God. I pray this in the name my source of confidence, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say – AMEN!

The Truth
…and he rose and rebuked the wind and said unto the sea; “Peace, be still” and the wind ceased and there was a great calm.
Mark 4:39

my enemies trample on me all day long, for many attack me proudly.
When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I shall not be afraid. What can flesh do to me?
Psalm 56:2-4

Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose trust is the LORD.
He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit."
Jeremiah 17:7-8