Transformational Tip
Yesterday, we opened up the topic of Judging others. We saw how we are called not to judge and called to judge. The main element was looking at the heart, of both the judger and the judged.
And what right do we have to condemn others? We are not perfect. Jesus made this clear to the crowd condemning the woman caught in adultery (John 8:3-9). They were clamoring to stone her, but Jesus asked, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." One by one, her accusers disappeared.
But in the Bible, we are called as parents to correct our children…to pick elders and church leaders with certain character…to vote for Godly leaders…to be a third party helping settle a dispute between two brothers. So again, the permission to judge rests in the motivation engine in our heart that drives our judging the other person.
If our motivation is to condemn, shame, mock, belittle them…or exalt ourselves, then obviously, this is not the kind of peer judging God calls us to.
Our motivation needs to be one of compassion, love, service, and encouragement. Trying to help someone avoid the perils of reaping the fruit of the flesh that their continued wrong behavior will produce. Being a vehicle or mouthpiece of God and trying to direct them to God and His Word.
Another element is how we approach the behavior in question. Since we don’t know the motivation, we need to ask them questions. Help them recognize the misconduct and start to help them search their heart for the motivations, fears, issues, me-centered process that led to the wrong behavior. We also want them to know the forgiveness God has and how He wants to receive them back
Today, if God has put you in special positions to speak into others lives, do it with love and with the motivations as described above. You can be a great catalyst in their spiritual walk…or a major stumbling block…depending on where your heart is as you handle this assignment from and for God.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I am sometimes quick to judge…and to condemn. Please forgive me. Help me to really see how you want to partner with me in ministry and have put people in my life for me to “judge”. Help me recognize the seriousness of this responsibility and guard my heart from my flesh and Satan. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One slow to judge, always a servant, and quick to forgive, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, "Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?" This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her." And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him.
John 8:3-9
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Stepping Stones: To Judge Or Not To Judge
Transformational Tip
We judge all the time. Someone’s clothes…hair…car…house…how clean they are…their weight…their attitude. Some say it is wrong to judge, and we are not to judge…that judging is up to God. He is the only one who has the right and authority to judge. Judge not lest ye be judged.
But in the Bible, we are called as parents to correct our children…to pick elders and church leaders with certain character…to vote for Godly leaders…to be a third party helping settle a dispute between two brothers.
How can we carry out these duties without judging the conduct of the individuals? What a dilemma…to judge or not to judge. How do we know when to judge and when to sit tight? Sorting out these contradictory and complex instructions and scenarios is complex, and I don’t want to oversimplify, but most can be boiled down to: what’s at the center of your heart motivating your behavior, either as the judge or the judged?
Only God can see into hearts to truly judge fully the whole scope of an event. We can judge conduct, but only hypothesize at the motivation leading to the conduct. God knows everything and judges accurately, impartially, and according to absolute truth. We are too limited to make the same fair and quality judgments.
We are called to judge conduct (tomorrow we will look at that element a little more), but not to judge someone’s heart.
Today, try to determine whether you are judging a person’s heart or their conduct. If you are judging heart, that is a dangerous area for you to wade, and needs to be approached with extreme caution.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I am sometimes quick to judge…and to condemn. Please forgive me. Help me understand my own issues better and resolve my needs so I don’t feel compelled to judge and ridicule others to lessen my fears, anxieties, or insecurities and inadequacies. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One quick to forgive, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
"Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;”
Luke 6:37
There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
James 4:12
We judge all the time. Someone’s clothes…hair…car…house…how clean they are…their weight…their attitude. Some say it is wrong to judge, and we are not to judge…that judging is up to God. He is the only one who has the right and authority to judge. Judge not lest ye be judged.
But in the Bible, we are called as parents to correct our children…to pick elders and church leaders with certain character…to vote for Godly leaders…to be a third party helping settle a dispute between two brothers.
How can we carry out these duties without judging the conduct of the individuals? What a dilemma…to judge or not to judge. How do we know when to judge and when to sit tight? Sorting out these contradictory and complex instructions and scenarios is complex, and I don’t want to oversimplify, but most can be boiled down to: what’s at the center of your heart motivating your behavior, either as the judge or the judged?
Only God can see into hearts to truly judge fully the whole scope of an event. We can judge conduct, but only hypothesize at the motivation leading to the conduct. God knows everything and judges accurately, impartially, and according to absolute truth. We are too limited to make the same fair and quality judgments.
We are called to judge conduct (tomorrow we will look at that element a little more), but not to judge someone’s heart.
Today, try to determine whether you are judging a person’s heart or their conduct. If you are judging heart, that is a dangerous area for you to wade, and needs to be approached with extreme caution.
Click here to share your perspective about being quick to judge another’s heart.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I am sometimes quick to judge…and to condemn. Please forgive me. Help me understand my own issues better and resolve my needs so I don’t feel compelled to judge and ridicule others to lessen my fears, anxieties, or insecurities and inadequacies. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One quick to forgive, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
"Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;”
Luke 6:37
There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
James 4:12
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Stepping Stones: People Pleaser or God Pleaser?
Transformational Tip
I love to please my daughters. Who doesn’t want to see their kids happy, especially if we can be the one bringing them delight. But we also want to see them safe and healthy, so when they make unhealthy or dysfunctional requests, it is easy to say “NO!”…even though they aren’t pleased or are actually upset by our answer.
Don’t believe me? What about when they ask for…their third bowl of ice cream…the keys to the car and they are only 13…to stay out to midnight when they are 14 on a school night…or camp out with boyfriend, alone, when they are 16. All these will easily get a “No” answer from me regardless of how displeased my beloved daughters are to me.
When fellow adults make dysfunctional requests, for some reason, for most of us, it is harder to say “No”. Whether I think they know more than I do about the particular situation…they know what’s best for themselves…I fear and hate being uneasy when people are mad or upset at me …I fear being rejected by them…I need their approval…I need acceptance. Many “I need…” or “I fear…” lenses, based on me centered mentality, significantly interfere with our perspective and lead to dysfunctional, sinful, relational conduct.
When we focus on trying to please people by acting dysfunctionally, we are not serving God. If we are truly His servants, our primary goal will be to please Him.
When Jesus lived on earth, many who believed in Him would not admit their faith. Because these people were more concerned about people’s opinions than God’s, they did not live out their faith. Likewise, when we live as people pleasers, we are demonstrating the fact that we are more concerned about their approval than God’s…and our walk with him is hindered.
Today, ask yourself; What is my greatest perceived need or greatest perceived threat when someone makes a request of me…or I feel the need to act in a relationship. Who am I trying to please?...God or the person. Maybe most of your life is lived to please God, but there is still some situation…or some person…that sparks you to be a people-pleaser. God wants us to put Him first in all things…we cannot please Him by placing more importance on people’s opinions …and our needs… over His.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, , I do want to please you. Forgive me for the times I let my desire to be accepted by a person outweigh my desire to please you. Thank you for your love and for accepting me unconditionally. Help me to be a better servant. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who was the perfect servant, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
I am not trying to please people. I want to please God. Do you think I am trying to please people? If I were doing that, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Galatians 1:10
Many people did believe in him, however, including some of the Jewish leaders. But they wouldn’t admit it for fear that the Pharisees would expel them from the synagogue. For they loved human praise more than the praise of God.
John 12:42-43
I love to please my daughters. Who doesn’t want to see their kids happy, especially if we can be the one bringing them delight. But we also want to see them safe and healthy, so when they make unhealthy or dysfunctional requests, it is easy to say “NO!”…even though they aren’t pleased or are actually upset by our answer.
Don’t believe me? What about when they ask for…their third bowl of ice cream…the keys to the car and they are only 13…to stay out to midnight when they are 14 on a school night…or camp out with boyfriend, alone, when they are 16. All these will easily get a “No” answer from me regardless of how displeased my beloved daughters are to me.
When fellow adults make dysfunctional requests, for some reason, for most of us, it is harder to say “No”. Whether I think they know more than I do about the particular situation…they know what’s best for themselves…I fear and hate being uneasy when people are mad or upset at me …I fear being rejected by them…I need their approval…I need acceptance. Many “I need…” or “I fear…” lenses, based on me centered mentality, significantly interfere with our perspective and lead to dysfunctional, sinful, relational conduct.
When we focus on trying to please people by acting dysfunctionally, we are not serving God. If we are truly His servants, our primary goal will be to please Him.
When Jesus lived on earth, many who believed in Him would not admit their faith. Because these people were more concerned about people’s opinions than God’s, they did not live out their faith. Likewise, when we live as people pleasers, we are demonstrating the fact that we are more concerned about their approval than God’s…and our walk with him is hindered.
Today, ask yourself; What is my greatest perceived need or greatest perceived threat when someone makes a request of me…or I feel the need to act in a relationship. Who am I trying to please?...God or the person. Maybe most of your life is lived to please God, but there is still some situation…or some person…that sparks you to be a people-pleaser. God wants us to put Him first in all things…we cannot please Him by placing more importance on people’s opinions …and our needs… over His.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, , I do want to please you. Forgive me for the times I let my desire to be accepted by a person outweigh my desire to please you. Thank you for your love and for accepting me unconditionally. Help me to be a better servant. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who was the perfect servant, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
I am not trying to please people. I want to please God. Do you think I am trying to please people? If I were doing that, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Galatians 1:10
Many people did believe in him, however, including some of the Jewish leaders. But they wouldn’t admit it for fear that the Pharisees would expel them from the synagogue. For they loved human praise more than the praise of God.
John 12:42-43
Monday, May 31, 2010
Stepping Stones: “I’ll Only Do It This One Time”
Transformational Tip
Paul wrote the second chapter of Romans to Jewish readers who believed they had a special relationship to God because they knew and approved of the Law of God. Many believed this relationship made them above the Law, and they were not careful in their lifestyle. They excused behaviors that were wrong and trusted in their supposed privileged position to shield them from the consequences of their guilt.
It is never enough just to know and approve what is right. It is never enough to be a church member or to be born into a Christian family. Nothing has any meaning without a relationship with God that is alive and based on personal faith in Christ. In today's scripture, Paul is speaking to religious people who lack a living relationship with God.
Religious people are prone to rationalization. They have a strong belief system, but when their beliefs and behaviors conflict, they may resolve the internal conflict by excusing themselves. Many people are pro-life, but when it comes to an unwanted pregnancy in their own home, some are able to rationalize a pro-choice decision. Many oppose pornography and yet will allow themselves to indulge in secret. Nobody is above rationalizing and excusing sinful behaviors and attitudes.
People can rationalize sins like cheating on their taxes, lying, temper tantrums, gossiping, bitterness, controlling others, not accepting change, or having an affair. "Everyone does it." "I deserve it." "It does not really hurt anyone." "I'll only do it this one time."
Perhaps you have fallen into this rationalization trap. You know God’s Word. You say you believe it. And yet when it comes right down to your personal circumstances, you find a way to rationalize behavior that the The Holy Bible condemns. Hypocrisy? You bet!
Today, don’t rationalize or hide. Stop posing. Lead the transformed life Jesus died for you to live. Faith in Christ sets us free from sin. We cannot earn our way to heaven…Jesus is the only way. Following Jesus means building a personal relationship with Him. It isn't enough to know what the Bible says. God calls us into a relationship that should cause us to want to please Him.
We will all stumble and fall along the way, but a close walk with the Lord should cause us to repent and get back on the right path…restore our relationship with Him. Knowing and speaking the Word isn't enough…we must live it.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for reading your Word and then going my own way. I pray that you will fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that Your Word will become a living part of me and that I will live to please You. Help me apply Your instruction clearly in my life. I pray that my relationship with you will grow stronger and my desire to please You will grow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who lived His Father’s Word, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For merely listening to the law doesn't make us right with God. It is obeying the law that makes us right in his sight.
Romans 2:13
Paul wrote the second chapter of Romans to Jewish readers who believed they had a special relationship to God because they knew and approved of the Law of God. Many believed this relationship made them above the Law, and they were not careful in their lifestyle. They excused behaviors that were wrong and trusted in their supposed privileged position to shield them from the consequences of their guilt.
It is never enough just to know and approve what is right. It is never enough to be a church member or to be born into a Christian family. Nothing has any meaning without a relationship with God that is alive and based on personal faith in Christ. In today's scripture, Paul is speaking to religious people who lack a living relationship with God.
Religious people are prone to rationalization. They have a strong belief system, but when their beliefs and behaviors conflict, they may resolve the internal conflict by excusing themselves. Many people are pro-life, but when it comes to an unwanted pregnancy in their own home, some are able to rationalize a pro-choice decision. Many oppose pornography and yet will allow themselves to indulge in secret. Nobody is above rationalizing and excusing sinful behaviors and attitudes.
People can rationalize sins like cheating on their taxes, lying, temper tantrums, gossiping, bitterness, controlling others, not accepting change, or having an affair. "Everyone does it." "I deserve it." "It does not really hurt anyone." "I'll only do it this one time."
Perhaps you have fallen into this rationalization trap. You know God’s Word. You say you believe it. And yet when it comes right down to your personal circumstances, you find a way to rationalize behavior that the The Holy Bible condemns. Hypocrisy? You bet!
Today, don’t rationalize or hide. Stop posing. Lead the transformed life Jesus died for you to live. Faith in Christ sets us free from sin. We cannot earn our way to heaven…Jesus is the only way. Following Jesus means building a personal relationship with Him. It isn't enough to know what the Bible says. God calls us into a relationship that should cause us to want to please Him.
We will all stumble and fall along the way, but a close walk with the Lord should cause us to repent and get back on the right path…restore our relationship with Him. Knowing and speaking the Word isn't enough…we must live it.
Click here to share your perspective about living God’s Word.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for reading your Word and then going my own way. I pray that you will fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that Your Word will become a living part of me and that I will live to please You. Help me apply Your instruction clearly in my life. I pray that my relationship with you will grow stronger and my desire to please You will grow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who lived His Father’s Word, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For merely listening to the law doesn't make us right with God. It is obeying the law that makes us right in his sight.
Romans 2:13
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Stepping Stones: Self-Deception Traps Your Thinking
Transformational Tip
What is a hypocrite? According to Webster, a hypocrite is a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion, a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings. In other words, a hypocrite pretends to be they aren’t. The definition doesn’t distinguish whether the deception is intentional or subconscious(unintentional).
The Bible teaches that a hypocrite is one who pretends to be pious without really being so…one who talks the talk without walking the walk. Jesus confronted hypocrites vigorously in His earthly ministry. The resultant anger generated by these confrontations of truth against this self-deception fueled the religious leaders' desire to kill Him.
A hypocrite knows what is right but makes elaborate excuses for himself and rationalizes why his behavior is allowable, when he does wrong. He weaves a web of self-deception that eventually traps his thinking and keeps him from seeing the truth about himself. He makes himself king and writes his own rules to stamp his conduct as permissible.
We all tend to condemn other people's actions and attitudes we know are wrong. At the same time, we are prone to excuse the same or worse behaviors in ourselves. We put on a good front and try to hide our real attitudes and feelings. We try to convince others…and even ourselves…that we are OK.
We might be able to fool others. We might even delude ourselves for a while. But God knows our hearts. He is not impressed by our outward displays of "being religious" or following the rules. He considers what we are inside... our motivators, desires, and fears.
Today, objectively examine whether you are putting up a good front but harboring sin in your life? Maybe the sin is something you are doing…participating in pornography, an adulterous relationship, angry outbursts, sharp words, or some other wrong behavior. Maybe it's hidden inside…fear, anxiety, insecurity, bitterness, envy, unforgiveness. Remember that whatever it is…God already knows. He loves you and wants to help you overcome. You can start on the path to ending the sinful behavior by admitting your guilt to yourself…and to Him. WITHIN REACH can then help you take the next steps of applying the Bible and allowing God into those deep places in your heart and life to transform your heart.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I've been living a lie. I also know that you see the real me--you see my heart. Please forgive my sin and give me the strength to overcome. Help me to be honest with You, with myself, and with others. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts.”
Luke 16:15
"You Pharisees are so careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy…full of greed and wickedness!"
Luke 11:39
What is a hypocrite? According to Webster, a hypocrite is a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion, a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings. In other words, a hypocrite pretends to be they aren’t. The definition doesn’t distinguish whether the deception is intentional or subconscious(unintentional).
The Bible teaches that a hypocrite is one who pretends to be pious without really being so…one who talks the talk without walking the walk. Jesus confronted hypocrites vigorously in His earthly ministry. The resultant anger generated by these confrontations of truth against this self-deception fueled the religious leaders' desire to kill Him.
A hypocrite knows what is right but makes elaborate excuses for himself and rationalizes why his behavior is allowable, when he does wrong. He weaves a web of self-deception that eventually traps his thinking and keeps him from seeing the truth about himself. He makes himself king and writes his own rules to stamp his conduct as permissible.
We all tend to condemn other people's actions and attitudes we know are wrong. At the same time, we are prone to excuse the same or worse behaviors in ourselves. We put on a good front and try to hide our real attitudes and feelings. We try to convince others…and even ourselves…that we are OK.
We might be able to fool others. We might even delude ourselves for a while. But God knows our hearts. He is not impressed by our outward displays of "being religious" or following the rules. He considers what we are inside... our motivators, desires, and fears.
Today, objectively examine whether you are putting up a good front but harboring sin in your life? Maybe the sin is something you are doing…participating in pornography, an adulterous relationship, angry outbursts, sharp words, or some other wrong behavior. Maybe it's hidden inside…fear, anxiety, insecurity, bitterness, envy, unforgiveness. Remember that whatever it is…God already knows. He loves you and wants to help you overcome. You can start on the path to ending the sinful behavior by admitting your guilt to yourself…and to Him. WITHIN REACH can then help you take the next steps of applying the Bible and allowing God into those deep places in your heart and life to transform your heart.
Click here to share your perspective about self-deception.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I've been living a lie. I also know that you see the real me--you see my heart. Please forgive my sin and give me the strength to overcome. Help me to be honest with You, with myself, and with others. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts.”
Luke 16:15
"You Pharisees are so careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy…full of greed and wickedness!"
Luke 11:39
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Stepping Stones: Your Call…Whose Instruction Book?
Transformational Tip
God loves us so much that he gives us the freedom to make choices. Some are of little consequence, but others are life-changing. This freedom of choice dates back to Adam and Eve. They made a one choice that went against God’s instruction book and sin entered the realm of mankind.
The freedom to make choices brings responsibility. We have all made poor choices at times and have suffered the consequences of those bad choices. The good news is that no matter what poor choices we may have made in the past, there is always hope for a better future. God knew that we would make some bad choices, but He loves us so much that He sent Jesus and Jesus willingly, His free will choice, paid the price for our sin to provide a way to restore our relationship with God.
Some people go through life carrying the load of some wrong choices they’ve made in the past. They believe they’ve messed up so badly that nothing good can ever come of their lives. Do you ever feel this way? Good news! If you want to be set free from the past, Jesus is the answer. He has already paid the price for your sin … for every wrong choice you’ve ever made.
Make a good decision now and accept His payment for your sin. God has always wanted to forgive you and help you make better choices from now on. That is why He sent His son, gives us the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us, and spells it all out in His instruction book, The Holy Bible.
It’s up to us…what decision are we going to make? To follow the greatest instruction book of all time, or to continually choose to write and follow our own very flawed instruction book. I
Today, remember, you are very special to God. He loves you no matter what you’ve done. He’s there for you. He wants you to put the past behind so that you can become all that He has designed you to be. It’s never to late to make good decisions. Learn from your mistakes…and look forward to a future filled with hope.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank you for forgiving my sins. I’ve made so many wrong choices. Help me now to put them behind and to look forward to the future you have planned for me …one filled with hope… I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who has secured my future, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14
God loves us so much that he gives us the freedom to make choices. Some are of little consequence, but others are life-changing. This freedom of choice dates back to Adam and Eve. They made a one choice that went against God’s instruction book and sin entered the realm of mankind.
The freedom to make choices brings responsibility. We have all made poor choices at times and have suffered the consequences of those bad choices. The good news is that no matter what poor choices we may have made in the past, there is always hope for a better future. God knew that we would make some bad choices, but He loves us so much that He sent Jesus and Jesus willingly, His free will choice, paid the price for our sin to provide a way to restore our relationship with God.
Some people go through life carrying the load of some wrong choices they’ve made in the past. They believe they’ve messed up so badly that nothing good can ever come of their lives. Do you ever feel this way? Good news! If you want to be set free from the past, Jesus is the answer. He has already paid the price for your sin … for every wrong choice you’ve ever made.
Make a good decision now and accept His payment for your sin. God has always wanted to forgive you and help you make better choices from now on. That is why He sent His son, gives us the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us, and spells it all out in His instruction book, The Holy Bible.
It’s up to us…what decision are we going to make? To follow the greatest instruction book of all time, or to continually choose to write and follow our own very flawed instruction book. I
Today, remember, you are very special to God. He loves you no matter what you’ve done. He’s there for you. He wants you to put the past behind so that you can become all that He has designed you to be. It’s never to late to make good decisions. Learn from your mistakes…and look forward to a future filled with hope.
Click here to share your perspective about looking forward.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank you for forgiving my sins. I’ve made so many wrong choices. Help me now to put them behind and to look forward to the future you have planned for me …one filled with hope… I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who has secured my future, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14
Friday, May 28, 2010
Stepping Stones: Did You Get a Brain Transplant?
Transformational Tip
As we come to Jesus and begin to understand who we are in Him, it is time to learn from the past, then put it behind, and move on ahead. Paul makes it clear in today’s scripture that he is on a journey. He knows he is not perfect, but he determines to forget what used to motivate him…forgetting his past achievements. He reaches forward…to become all Jesus wants him to be. He is moving in the right direction, toward Jesus…and he is not turning back.
That’s where we need to be, too. On a journey toward Jesus, to accomplishing His purpose for us. In the verse for today, Paul talks about forgetting. He is not talking about having amnesia for our past. Some Christians will tell you, “You are a new creation, don’t look at your past, only look forward.”
Now listen closely as this is a very important point that seems clear and silly when I say it, but it is a powerful point with many ramifications that clarify the process of a journey for the prize. Well, when we accepted Christ as our personal savior, we didn’t get a brain transplant. If we were totally transformed at that point of salvation, we would never have sinned again. How sad that as believers, we still do sin. So there must be something we have to do to allow the Holy Spirit to complete the job He is tasked with.
In order to allow the Holy Spirit to work in us and through us, one thing we need to do is look at how our past adversely influences our present decision-making. We need to forget the old motivations, goals, pursuits we once had…we want to stop conforming to the world’s system.
We need to focus on the Jesus and the goal. That will then form the transformed lenses we will use to take every thought captive and allow God to come in to those old areas of hurt. Then healing can occur…and truth will replace the ripples of distortion that Satan wants fogging our lenses.
Today, don’t ruminate about the past, but don’t ignore it as if you had a brain transplant. Your past is affecting your decisions now, so examine your decisions to understand how your past affects them. This will show you what is at the center of your heart. Your past will reveal why that is at the center of your heart and not God at times.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your healing and forgiveness. Help me to truly leave my hurts and failures in the past and keep my eyes on Jesus as I move forward along the path You have for me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who has made everything right, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12-14
As we come to Jesus and begin to understand who we are in Him, it is time to learn from the past, then put it behind, and move on ahead. Paul makes it clear in today’s scripture that he is on a journey. He knows he is not perfect, but he determines to forget what used to motivate him…forgetting his past achievements. He reaches forward…to become all Jesus wants him to be. He is moving in the right direction, toward Jesus…and he is not turning back.
That’s where we need to be, too. On a journey toward Jesus, to accomplishing His purpose for us. In the verse for today, Paul talks about forgetting. He is not talking about having amnesia for our past. Some Christians will tell you, “You are a new creation, don’t look at your past, only look forward.”
Now listen closely as this is a very important point that seems clear and silly when I say it, but it is a powerful point with many ramifications that clarify the process of a journey for the prize. Well, when we accepted Christ as our personal savior, we didn’t get a brain transplant. If we were totally transformed at that point of salvation, we would never have sinned again. How sad that as believers, we still do sin. So there must be something we have to do to allow the Holy Spirit to complete the job He is tasked with.
In order to allow the Holy Spirit to work in us and through us, one thing we need to do is look at how our past adversely influences our present decision-making. We need to forget the old motivations, goals, pursuits we once had…we want to stop conforming to the world’s system.
We need to focus on the Jesus and the goal. That will then form the transformed lenses we will use to take every thought captive and allow God to come in to those old areas of hurt. Then healing can occur…and truth will replace the ripples of distortion that Satan wants fogging our lenses.
Today, don’t ruminate about the past, but don’t ignore it as if you had a brain transplant. Your past is affecting your decisions now, so examine your decisions to understand how your past affects them. This will show you what is at the center of your heart. Your past will reveal why that is at the center of your heart and not God at times.
WITHIN REACH is our curriculum that helps you examine and understand your decision-making process to be a Godly decision-maker.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your healing and forgiveness. Help me to truly leave my hurts and failures in the past and keep my eyes on Jesus as I move forward along the path You have for me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who has made everything right, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12-14
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Stepping Stones: Overwhelming Victory is Yours!
Transformational Tip
Often, in the midst of a great day, all of a sudden, I will feel a cold, wet, blanket come over me. A memory from my past creeps into my mind…then it feels like all the goodness is gone. Shame, guilt, and regret instantly make my great day gloomy.
Perhaps you have suffered abuse from a parent or spouse or another “trusted” person. Maybe you have suffered a traumatic personal loss. Or perhaps you have made some poor choices in the past and are suffering the consequences. It doesn’t have to be a “major” trauma, either…most hurts for a 6 yo can be “traumatic.”
Read today’s scripture carefully; God promises that despite all these things, you can have overwhelming victory through Christ. Come to Him for help…and forgiveness. If you let Christ in, nothing …absolutely nothing…can separate you from His love. No reason all that stuff from the past should steal another minute of your joy and happiness. A victory doesn’t just mean to win…it means a decisive win…a win that leaves no doubt.
Sometimes it is easy to look at scriptures about God’s love and think, Yes, God loves all people. But in our innermost being we don’t include ourselves in the “all people.” We think I’m different…I’m just not good enough…That’s alright for other people, but I’ve made too many mistakes. I’ve got special circumstances. It’s too late for me.
But God’s Word makes it abundantly clear that you are included. No matter what you have done. No matter what other people say or think about you. No matter what you think about yourself. God loves you. Jesus died for you. Nothing will ever separate you from His love.
Today, stop when you experience struggle. Tell yourself “God loves me and proved it” then consider how that changes your view of the moment. Walk with Jesus and you can have overwhelming victory over every problem and obstacle in your life. The problems might still be there…the obstacles may still come. But you won’t have to face them alone or be defeated by them…God will give you the strength to overcome.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You that these promises are not just for other people…but they are really for me. Thank You for your unconditional love. Thank You that no matter what has happened in the past or comes my way in the future, I can walk in victory through Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who made my victory possible, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow…not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below…indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:37-39
Often, in the midst of a great day, all of a sudden, I will feel a cold, wet, blanket come over me. A memory from my past creeps into my mind…then it feels like all the goodness is gone. Shame, guilt, and regret instantly make my great day gloomy.
Perhaps you have suffered abuse from a parent or spouse or another “trusted” person. Maybe you have suffered a traumatic personal loss. Or perhaps you have made some poor choices in the past and are suffering the consequences. It doesn’t have to be a “major” trauma, either…most hurts for a 6 yo can be “traumatic.”
Read today’s scripture carefully; God promises that despite all these things, you can have overwhelming victory through Christ. Come to Him for help…and forgiveness. If you let Christ in, nothing …absolutely nothing…can separate you from His love. No reason all that stuff from the past should steal another minute of your joy and happiness. A victory doesn’t just mean to win…it means a decisive win…a win that leaves no doubt.
Sometimes it is easy to look at scriptures about God’s love and think, Yes, God loves all people. But in our innermost being we don’t include ourselves in the “all people.” We think I’m different…I’m just not good enough…That’s alright for other people, but I’ve made too many mistakes. I’ve got special circumstances. It’s too late for me.
But God’s Word makes it abundantly clear that you are included. No matter what you have done. No matter what other people say or think about you. No matter what you think about yourself. God loves you. Jesus died for you. Nothing will ever separate you from His love.
Today, stop when you experience struggle. Tell yourself “God loves me and proved it” then consider how that changes your view of the moment. Walk with Jesus and you can have overwhelming victory over every problem and obstacle in your life. The problems might still be there…the obstacles may still come. But you won’t have to face them alone or be defeated by them…God will give you the strength to overcome.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You that these promises are not just for other people…but they are really for me. Thank You for your unconditional love. Thank You that no matter what has happened in the past or comes my way in the future, I can walk in victory through Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who made my victory possible, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow…not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below…indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:37-39
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Stepping Stones: How Do You See Yourself?
Transformational Tip
Throughout her high school years, my youngest daughter volunteered at a shelter for abused women and their children. Through her work there I was exposed to how prevalent and devastating domestic abuse is in America.
Abuse takes many forms…but it is always devastating. In the United States alone, three to four million women are battered each year by their husbands or partners. While three million reports of child abuse are made every year just in the United States…experts estimate that the actual number of incidents of abuse and neglect is three times greater than reported. Many children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. While these are US figures, the these problems exist around the world and in most places, at much higher rates.
Abuse, whether physical or verbal, erodes confidence and self-esteem. We begin believing what we are told about ourselves; we think that anyone treated so violently and abusively must deserve it. These beliefs are often accepted early in life and become part of the initial lenses through which all information is seen and processed. Even if abuse occurs when we are older, the intensity of the experience makes it a formidable opponent to positive self-image.
Abuse communicates “you are worthless”…”you are an object to be used by me whenever I want”…”dignity, respect, and honor are not for you”…”I am always more important than you”. These distortions and interpretations form part of the foundation we build the rest of our life on.
Today, ask “How do I see myself? Is my self-image based on other people’s words and actions toward me? Or is it based on the truth of God’s Word? God knew you before you were even born. He created you…and His works are wonderful. Let Jesus help us take our eyes off ourselves and begin the process of putting our eyes on Him; He is able to heal our eyes, to see ourselves clearly as He sees us.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for this reminder that You formed me and made me…and that Your works are wonderful. I must admit, though, sometimes I don’t feel as though I’m wonderful at all. In fact, sometimes I feel as though I don’t deserve anything good. Help me to really grasp what Jesus did for me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Psalm 139:13-14
For this people's heart has grown dull, and with their ears they can barely hear, and their eyes they have closed, lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears and understand with their heart and turn, and I would heal them.' But blessed are your eyes, for they see, and your ears, for they hear.
Matthew 13:15,16
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Throughout her high school years, my youngest daughter volunteered at a shelter for abused women and their children. Through her work there I was exposed to how prevalent and devastating domestic abuse is in America.
Abuse takes many forms…but it is always devastating. In the United States alone, three to four million women are battered each year by their husbands or partners. While three million reports of child abuse are made every year just in the United States…experts estimate that the actual number of incidents of abuse and neglect is three times greater than reported. Many children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. While these are US figures, the these problems exist around the world and in most places, at much higher rates.
Abuse, whether physical or verbal, erodes confidence and self-esteem. We begin believing what we are told about ourselves; we think that anyone treated so violently and abusively must deserve it. These beliefs are often accepted early in life and become part of the initial lenses through which all information is seen and processed. Even if abuse occurs when we are older, the intensity of the experience makes it a formidable opponent to positive self-image.
Abuse communicates “you are worthless”…”you are an object to be used by me whenever I want”…”dignity, respect, and honor are not for you”…”I am always more important than you”. These distortions and interpretations form part of the foundation we build the rest of our life on.
Today, ask “How do I see myself? Is my self-image based on other people’s words and actions toward me? Or is it based on the truth of God’s Word? God knew you before you were even born. He created you…and His works are wonderful. Let Jesus help us take our eyes off ourselves and begin the process of putting our eyes on Him; He is able to heal our eyes, to see ourselves clearly as He sees us.
Click here to share your perspective about abuse and self-image.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for this reminder that You formed me and made me…and that Your works are wonderful. I must admit, though, sometimes I don’t feel as though I’m wonderful at all. In fact, sometimes I feel as though I don’t deserve anything good. Help me to really grasp what Jesus did for me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Psalm 139:13-14
For this people's heart has grown dull, and with their ears they can barely hear, and their eyes they have closed, lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears and understand with their heart and turn, and I would heal them.' But blessed are your eyes, for they see, and your ears, for they hear.
Matthew 13:15,16
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Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Stepping Stones: You are never alone!
Transformational Tip
The other day, I had a very difficult decision to make. The initial sense that came to me was isolation and loneliness. Not really sensing anyone around to help me. I was in it alone and had to bear the burden and responsibility for the decision all myself.
It seems like whenever I am in the midst of one of life’s storms, I have this overwhelming feeling of loneliness…of being alone. I can be standing in the middle of a crowded room and yet feel completely alone.
We have all experienced loneliness. So many people feel as though they are alone most of the time. They often feel that no one cares or understands…as though even God is distant and unavailable. Like He is punishing me for not pursuing Him…or when I was a kid, I just thought He had way more important things than my trivial frustrations.
Now, when I am feeling alone, I look in the Bible for the truth.
You may feel alone, but the truth is that God is always with you. Here are just a few of his promises: I am with you (Genesis 28:15). I walk with you (Leviticus 26:12). I am near you (Psalm 34:18). I hold your right hand (Isaiah 41:13). I carry you even into old age (Isaiah 46:4).
Then I try to uncover my issues, distortions, or misinterpretations that would influence me to jump first to the lie that God is not right there with me at my side.
Today, you can be encouraged by reading these scriptures and others like them. Write your favorites down and put them where you see them all the time. Speak them aloud. Substitute your name for the word you. God says, I am with (your name)…I walk with (your name)…I am near (your name).
God is speaking these promises to you personally. Remember…you are never alone. Jesus is with you. He is with you this moment. He will be with you tonight…and tomorrow. He will be with you through the good times and bad. He will never leave you.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your many promises to be with me…always. Help me believe Your promises more than I believe my feelings. I pray Father for all those within the Stepping Stones community who feel they are alone. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is always with me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
The LORD is there to rescue all who are discouraged and have given up hope.
Psalm 34:18
The other day, I had a very difficult decision to make. The initial sense that came to me was isolation and loneliness. Not really sensing anyone around to help me. I was in it alone and had to bear the burden and responsibility for the decision all myself.
It seems like whenever I am in the midst of one of life’s storms, I have this overwhelming feeling of loneliness…of being alone. I can be standing in the middle of a crowded room and yet feel completely alone.
We have all experienced loneliness. So many people feel as though they are alone most of the time. They often feel that no one cares or understands…as though even God is distant and unavailable. Like He is punishing me for not pursuing Him…or when I was a kid, I just thought He had way more important things than my trivial frustrations.
Now, when I am feeling alone, I look in the Bible for the truth.
You may feel alone, but the truth is that God is always with you. Here are just a few of his promises: I am with you (Genesis 28:15). I walk with you (Leviticus 26:12). I am near you (Psalm 34:18). I hold your right hand (Isaiah 41:13). I carry you even into old age (Isaiah 46:4).
Then I try to uncover my issues, distortions, or misinterpretations that would influence me to jump first to the lie that God is not right there with me at my side.
Today, you can be encouraged by reading these scriptures and others like them. Write your favorites down and put them where you see them all the time. Speak them aloud. Substitute your name for the word you. God says, I am with (your name)…I walk with (your name)…I am near (your name).
God is speaking these promises to you personally. Remember…you are never alone. Jesus is with you. He is with you this moment. He will be with you tonight…and tomorrow. He will be with you through the good times and bad. He will never leave you.
Click here to share your perspective about feeling alone.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your many promises to be with me…always. Help me believe Your promises more than I believe my feelings. I pray Father for all those within the Stepping Stones community who feel they are alone. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is always with me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
The LORD is there to rescue all who are discouraged and have given up hope.
Psalm 34:18
Monday, May 24, 2010
Stepping Stones: Even if no one else existed…
Transformational Tip
Do you sometimes feel as though you are fighting your way through life and losing the battle? That you are such a failure that no one can help you?
We've probably all had these feelings at times. And if you suffer from chronic depression like so many people, you might feel alone and hopeless most of the time. When well-meaning people try to cheer you up by pointing out your good qualities, you may hear what they are saying as either false praise or else as words of one who doesn't really know you that well.
There is someone who knows you better than you know yourself. Someone who wants to give you hope and help you win the battle. His name is Jesus. He promises you peace (John 14:27). He intercedes to God the Father for you (John 17:9). He promises to work all things for your good (Romans 8:28). He rides on the Heavens to help you (Deuteronomy 33:26).
You may say, "Those promises sound good for someone else, but they couldn't be for me. I don't deserve them. You don't know me." This may be true … but Jesus DOES know you. And He loves you. If no one else had existed, He would have died on the cross just for you. He loves you that much. None of us deserves that kind of love, but Jesus gives it freely and unconditionally.
Today, actually use this truth in how you view yourself and your circumstances. Write down who you are and why you believe that. Are those beliefs based on facts? Above all else…Let Him love you. Open your heart to the hope and healing that come only from Him.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for dying for me. When I'm feeling down, help me to remember Your love for me, to experience Your love, and to share Your love with others. I pray to You, Father, for all those in the world today that suffer from depression. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who knows me better than I know myself, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
Ephesians 3:19
Do you sometimes feel as though you are fighting your way through life and losing the battle? That you are such a failure that no one can help you?
We've probably all had these feelings at times. And if you suffer from chronic depression like so many people, you might feel alone and hopeless most of the time. When well-meaning people try to cheer you up by pointing out your good qualities, you may hear what they are saying as either false praise or else as words of one who doesn't really know you that well.
There is someone who knows you better than you know yourself. Someone who wants to give you hope and help you win the battle. His name is Jesus. He promises you peace (John 14:27). He intercedes to God the Father for you (John 17:9). He promises to work all things for your good (Romans 8:28). He rides on the Heavens to help you (Deuteronomy 33:26).
You may say, "Those promises sound good for someone else, but they couldn't be for me. I don't deserve them. You don't know me." This may be true … but Jesus DOES know you. And He loves you. If no one else had existed, He would have died on the cross just for you. He loves you that much. None of us deserves that kind of love, but Jesus gives it freely and unconditionally.
Today, actually use this truth in how you view yourself and your circumstances. Write down who you are and why you believe that. Are those beliefs based on facts? Above all else…Let Him love you. Open your heart to the hope and healing that come only from Him.
Click here to share your perspective about Jesus’ unconditional love for you and your ability to receive it and believe it.
Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for dying for me. When I'm feeling down, help me to remember Your love for me, to experience Your love, and to share Your love with others. I pray to You, Father, for all those in the world today that suffer from depression. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who knows me better than I know myself, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
Ephesians 3:19
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Stepping Stones: Go on a Fox Hunt!
Transformational Tip
The 1939 play, “The Little Foxes” by Lillian Hellman, was based on Scripture from Song of Solomon 2:15. The foundation of the message: many times it’s the collection of all the small mis-steps that gets us in trouble. Some marriages, with no major problems, still get into trouble because of an accumulation of little things. The Bible says that it is the little foxes that ruin the vineyard.
Make a commitment not to ignore the little foxes in your marriage: being thoughtless or preoccupied, forgetting special days like anniversaries and birthdays, criticizing, taking your spouse for granted, not appreciating the little things they do. The little foxes might seem unimportant, but they can eventually knock a marriage and family relationship off its feet.
Are you letting any foxes loose in your marriage? Are you spending time with your spouse or has "busy-ness" taken over? Do you really listen to her or him talk? Do you continue that little habit that irritates your spouse? With God's help, identify the little things before they become big things.
For you single people, all of the married people vowed to never let foxes into their vineyard. All would have boasted, “That will never happen to me.” But, as you see, we all fall prey to the insidious trickery of the sly foxes Satan uses to undermine what God has ordained and blessed. Safeguard your heart/mind…before you get married, you will have a better chance in your marriage.
Today, go on a fox hunt to be sure pesky little habits aren't creeping up on you. And replace the destructive little foxes with acts of love. Plan a surprise dinner for two. Buy a sentimental gift. Join your spouse in one of his or her favorite activities…even if it's not your thing. These little acts of thoughtfulness can help a marriage thrive.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for how I have acted towards one of the greatest gifts You have given me, my wife. Marriage is so powerful, but also tricky and complex. Help me become more aware of the "little foxes" that I bring to the marriage…and help me replace them with acts of love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!
Song of Solomon 2:15
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23
The 1939 play, “The Little Foxes” by Lillian Hellman, was based on Scripture from Song of Solomon 2:15. The foundation of the message: many times it’s the collection of all the small mis-steps that gets us in trouble. Some marriages, with no major problems, still get into trouble because of an accumulation of little things. The Bible says that it is the little foxes that ruin the vineyard.
Make a commitment not to ignore the little foxes in your marriage: being thoughtless or preoccupied, forgetting special days like anniversaries and birthdays, criticizing, taking your spouse for granted, not appreciating the little things they do. The little foxes might seem unimportant, but they can eventually knock a marriage and family relationship off its feet.
Are you letting any foxes loose in your marriage? Are you spending time with your spouse or has "busy-ness" taken over? Do you really listen to her or him talk? Do you continue that little habit that irritates your spouse? With God's help, identify the little things before they become big things.
For you single people, all of the married people vowed to never let foxes into their vineyard. All would have boasted, “That will never happen to me.” But, as you see, we all fall prey to the insidious trickery of the sly foxes Satan uses to undermine what God has ordained and blessed. Safeguard your heart/mind…before you get married, you will have a better chance in your marriage.
Today, go on a fox hunt to be sure pesky little habits aren't creeping up on you. And replace the destructive little foxes with acts of love. Plan a surprise dinner for two. Buy a sentimental gift. Join your spouse in one of his or her favorite activities…even if it's not your thing. These little acts of thoughtfulness can help a marriage thrive.
Click here to share your perspective about little foxes in your life.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for how I have acted towards one of the greatest gifts You have given me, my wife. Marriage is so powerful, but also tricky and complex. Help me become more aware of the "little foxes" that I bring to the marriage…and help me replace them with acts of love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!
Song of Solomon 2:15
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Stepping Stones: Comfort Zones; Letting go of old identities
Transformational Tip
Sometimes, I ask people, “Who are you?” It’s interesting to hear what they answer. Some give their name…others give their occupation. Another answer is roles the person fills in the family or organization. Not many share their real identity…the one deep inside.
I have a close friend who years ago moved out of a lesbian lifestyle and into a walk with God. She tells her story, "If you had asked me if I was born gay, I would have given you a resounding 'yes.' Now, I realize I was not born gay, and I am not defined by the fact that I lived as a homosexual. When I came to God, He redefined me as a follower of Christ."
Often we define ourselves by a lifestyle, a role we play, or some of our personal characteristics. Whether these definitions are painful or joyful, good or bad, represent success or failure…they are comfort zones. And even when we come to Jesus, we might be reluctant to let go of them.
People in or coming from a homosexual lifestyle might consider the gay world a safe place. People caught in a workaholic mode base their worth on their own accomplishments and success…they feel more in control that way. But when they come to Jesus, it is vital for them to let go of those identities and come to recognize who they are in Christ.
Today, even though you may still be struggling with old habits, be encouraged to let go of the old definitions and know that your most important identity is in Christ. Take a paper and make 3 columns, one titled “old Identity”, the next “new identity.” The third, “what would I believe differently about myself if I believed I was this new person?” write in 5 elements of the old identity and fill in the next 2 columns for each. You are a new creation! God has a great plan for your life and He is worthy of your trust.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for transforming me into a new creation when I became a follower of Christ. I still tend to see myself as "the old me." Please help me to see myself through Your eyes - cleansed and made new. And help me remember that no matter what other roles I play in life, my number one identity is always "a follower of Christ." I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I follow, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17
Sometimes, I ask people, “Who are you?” It’s interesting to hear what they answer. Some give their name…others give their occupation. Another answer is roles the person fills in the family or organization. Not many share their real identity…the one deep inside.
I have a close friend who years ago moved out of a lesbian lifestyle and into a walk with God. She tells her story, "If you had asked me if I was born gay, I would have given you a resounding 'yes.' Now, I realize I was not born gay, and I am not defined by the fact that I lived as a homosexual. When I came to God, He redefined me as a follower of Christ."
Often we define ourselves by a lifestyle, a role we play, or some of our personal characteristics. Whether these definitions are painful or joyful, good or bad, represent success or failure…they are comfort zones. And even when we come to Jesus, we might be reluctant to let go of them.
People in or coming from a homosexual lifestyle might consider the gay world a safe place. People caught in a workaholic mode base their worth on their own accomplishments and success…they feel more in control that way. But when they come to Jesus, it is vital for them to let go of those identities and come to recognize who they are in Christ.
Today, even though you may still be struggling with old habits, be encouraged to let go of the old definitions and know that your most important identity is in Christ. Take a paper and make 3 columns, one titled “old Identity”, the next “new identity.” The third, “what would I believe differently about myself if I believed I was this new person?” write in 5 elements of the old identity and fill in the next 2 columns for each. You are a new creation! God has a great plan for your life and He is worthy of your trust.
Click here to share your perspective about becoming a new creation.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for transforming me into a new creation when I became a follower of Christ. I still tend to see myself as "the old me." Please help me to see myself through Your eyes - cleansed and made new. And help me remember that no matter what other roles I play in life, my number one identity is always "a follower of Christ." I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I follow, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17
Friday, May 21, 2010
Stepping Stones: “The Ultimate Deal”
Transformational Tip
Yesterday, we discussed our curiosity and need to make deals. After passing through the deal making stage, many people concerned about a loved one with a life-controlling problem reach the point of acceptance…and then they make the ultimate deal.
Acceptance is a welcome place of relief. Now we can finally turn our loved one over to God. To His love and discipline, to His mercy and grace. To His healing power. Turning our struggling loved one over to God does not mean that we no longer care what happens to him, but that we have accepted the reality of the situation and the fact that we can't fix the problem on our own.
This is where we emotionally detach ourselves from our loved ones, even as we continue to love them and trust God's guidance in redesigning our role in their life. The ultimate deal we make is with God. We surrender our need for the other person to change, or for us to be the change agent. We get in return, God can conform us to the likeness of Christ.
Today, acknowledge that our loved ones are, themselves, responsible for their own behavior…accept our powerlessness to change them. Admit that we need nothing from anybody for us to experience peace, contentment, and growth. Tying our happiness to someone else’s behavior is a copout, an excuse, conforming to the flesh’s view and strategy. Let go and let God and reap “The Ultimate Deal.”
Click here to share your perspective about why you focus one what others need to do for you to be happy or content.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me come to this point of acceptance. I know I can't fix my loved one's problems. I know he has to take responsibility for his own choices. Help me to let go. Help me to rest in You, knowing that You love this one even more than I and that You alone are able to help him. Help me be dependent on You, not someone else’s actions for my joy and happiness. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is my rock and my salvation, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will not be shaken.
Psalm 62:5-6
Yesterday, we discussed our curiosity and need to make deals. After passing through the deal making stage, many people concerned about a loved one with a life-controlling problem reach the point of acceptance…and then they make the ultimate deal.
Acceptance is a welcome place of relief. Now we can finally turn our loved one over to God. To His love and discipline, to His mercy and grace. To His healing power. Turning our struggling loved one over to God does not mean that we no longer care what happens to him, but that we have accepted the reality of the situation and the fact that we can't fix the problem on our own.
This is where we emotionally detach ourselves from our loved ones, even as we continue to love them and trust God's guidance in redesigning our role in their life. The ultimate deal we make is with God. We surrender our need for the other person to change, or for us to be the change agent. We get in return, God can conform us to the likeness of Christ.
Today, acknowledge that our loved ones are, themselves, responsible for their own behavior…accept our powerlessness to change them. Admit that we need nothing from anybody for us to experience peace, contentment, and growth. Tying our happiness to someone else’s behavior is a copout, an excuse, conforming to the flesh’s view and strategy. Let go and let God and reap “The Ultimate Deal.”
Click here to share your perspective about why you focus one what others need to do for you to be happy or content.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me come to this point of acceptance. I know I can't fix my loved one's problems. I know he has to take responsibility for his own choices. Help me to let go. Help me to rest in You, knowing that You love this one even more than I and that You alone are able to help him. Help me be dependent on You, not someone else’s actions for my joy and happiness. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is my rock and my salvation, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will not be shaken.
Psalm 62:5-6
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Stepping Stones: “Let’s Make a Deal”
Transformational Tip
While on vacation last month, I saw the new version of the classic game show, “Let’s Make a Deal.” What a great show…you could deal for a donkey, a gigantic candy bar, or a brand new car. The suspense of not knowing what you’ll win, the challenge of trying to manipulate the game, the freedom and fear of not being in control, and the uncertainty of what the other person will do are enticing emotions drawing us into this bargaining game.
It’s common for people concerned about someone with a life-controlling problem(addiction) or health issue to try to strike bargains with themselves, with the person, with others, and with God. We might promise ourselves that we will be better. We will say the right thing next time. We will make things right. We will restrain from something enjoyable…or harmful. All these things in exchange for something we desire from others or ourselves.
We might set up deals with the loved one to reward them for refraining from their problem behavior. Or we might bargain with God and try to make a deal with Him. A promise to give to the church, or do some good deeds, or give up gossiping or a sexual sin, if only He will fix our loved ones' problems.
If you are in this deal making stage, you need to understand that help for a friend or loved one doesn't depend on your performance. God has a specific plan for that person’s life and their change process is up to God. God may want to use us in the person’s life and work through us, but we are in no position, have no leverage, to bargain with God. What do we really have to offer in a trade?
Today, accept your powerlessness to change another person. Don’t try bargaining with God as if He is on another team; learn to actually join God’s team and let Him be your captain, and then follow His instruction. Click here to share your perspective about bargaining with God.
Prayer
Dear Father God, all my efforts have failed. No matter what I do, I realize now that I can't fix my loved one's problems. But I thank You that You can. Your grace is enough. Help me to let go and trust You. Help me understand how You want to use me to grow me and help me let the changing of my loved one up to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who can fix all things, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
While on vacation last month, I saw the new version of the classic game show, “Let’s Make a Deal.” What a great show…you could deal for a donkey, a gigantic candy bar, or a brand new car. The suspense of not knowing what you’ll win, the challenge of trying to manipulate the game, the freedom and fear of not being in control, and the uncertainty of what the other person will do are enticing emotions drawing us into this bargaining game.
It’s common for people concerned about someone with a life-controlling problem(addiction) or health issue to try to strike bargains with themselves, with the person, with others, and with God. We might promise ourselves that we will be better. We will say the right thing next time. We will make things right. We will restrain from something enjoyable…or harmful. All these things in exchange for something we desire from others or ourselves.
We might set up deals with the loved one to reward them for refraining from their problem behavior. Or we might bargain with God and try to make a deal with Him. A promise to give to the church, or do some good deeds, or give up gossiping or a sexual sin, if only He will fix our loved ones' problems.
If you are in this deal making stage, you need to understand that help for a friend or loved one doesn't depend on your performance. God has a specific plan for that person’s life and their change process is up to God. God may want to use us in the person’s life and work through us, but we are in no position, have no leverage, to bargain with God. What do we really have to offer in a trade?
Today, accept your powerlessness to change another person. Don’t try bargaining with God as if He is on another team; learn to actually join God’s team and let Him be your captain, and then follow His instruction. Click here to share your perspective about bargaining with God.
Prayer
Dear Father God, all my efforts have failed. No matter what I do, I realize now that I can't fix my loved one's problems. But I thank You that You can. Your grace is enough. Help me to let go and trust You. Help me understand how You want to use me to grow me and help me let the changing of my loved one up to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who can fix all things, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Stepping Stones; “Love One Another”
Transformational Tip
I went to a Kenny Loggins concert yesterday…my favorite recording artist of all time. Before the doors opened, people were just milling around. I noticed this particular young man who was covered with tattoos…and wondered why a guy like that would be at a Kenny Loggins concert. He actually had large fangs tattooed on his lower lip and chin with blood dripping down. My first thought …”this guy scares me.”
A few minutes later I found this guy standing right next to me, and when our eyes met, he offered the most genuine smile…and today’s scripture came into my mind. I began asking him about his tattoos…and then we talked about Kenny Loggins. Like me, this young man loved Kenny’s music. He was kind, polite and very reserved. When I asked which tattoo was his favorite, he pointed to a little Christmas tree on the top of his hand. Even with his fangs tattoo, he was no longer scary to me. Now I certainly don’t know his story…but I do know one thing…like you and me, he needs attention and love.
The Scriptures offer a multitude of “one another” commands concerning relationships with others…encourage one another, be devoted to one another, honor one another, live in harmony with one another, accept one another, instruct one another, serve one another, forgive one another…and on and on. “Love one another” is at the core of all of them.
In today’s scripture, Jesus tells us to love one another as He has loved us. Of course, Jesus’ love is greater than we can ever imagine…but He is telling us to follow His example. Jesus loves us unconditionally. He wants us to love others unconditionally…not based on personality or looks or behavior or even our feelings. Unconditionally.
Jesus loved with His actions, humbling Himself, coming to earth as a baby and growing and living among us. Suffering the indignities and torture of the cross, demonstrating the depth of His love in ways words could not begin to explain. Jesus wants us to love unconditionally. To demonstrate love through action…even when we don’t “feel” like it.
Today, ask God to help you see this person through His eyes. Ask Him to help you love this person even if he or she doesn’t “deserve” it. And then step out in faith and love through your actions. As we, in the family of God, demonstrate our love for each other, even as Jesus demonstrated His love for us, others will “know we are His disciples.” Our love for one another can help draw them to the perfect love of Jesus.
Click here to share your perspective about loving one another.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to love others in the way You love me. Help me to love unconditionally. Help me to demonstrate my love with action…even when I don’t feel like it. Thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for demonstrating your love in such marvelous ways. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One loved through his actions, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
John 13:34-35
I went to a Kenny Loggins concert yesterday…my favorite recording artist of all time. Before the doors opened, people were just milling around. I noticed this particular young man who was covered with tattoos…and wondered why a guy like that would be at a Kenny Loggins concert. He actually had large fangs tattooed on his lower lip and chin with blood dripping down. My first thought …”this guy scares me.”
A few minutes later I found this guy standing right next to me, and when our eyes met, he offered the most genuine smile…and today’s scripture came into my mind. I began asking him about his tattoos…and then we talked about Kenny Loggins. Like me, this young man loved Kenny’s music. He was kind, polite and very reserved. When I asked which tattoo was his favorite, he pointed to a little Christmas tree on the top of his hand. Even with his fangs tattoo, he was no longer scary to me. Now I certainly don’t know his story…but I do know one thing…like you and me, he needs attention and love.
The Scriptures offer a multitude of “one another” commands concerning relationships with others…encourage one another, be devoted to one another, honor one another, live in harmony with one another, accept one another, instruct one another, serve one another, forgive one another…and on and on. “Love one another” is at the core of all of them.
In today’s scripture, Jesus tells us to love one another as He has loved us. Of course, Jesus’ love is greater than we can ever imagine…but He is telling us to follow His example. Jesus loves us unconditionally. He wants us to love others unconditionally…not based on personality or looks or behavior or even our feelings. Unconditionally.
Jesus loved with His actions, humbling Himself, coming to earth as a baby and growing and living among us. Suffering the indignities and torture of the cross, demonstrating the depth of His love in ways words could not begin to explain. Jesus wants us to love unconditionally. To demonstrate love through action…even when we don’t “feel” like it.
Today, ask God to help you see this person through His eyes. Ask Him to help you love this person even if he or she doesn’t “deserve” it. And then step out in faith and love through your actions. As we, in the family of God, demonstrate our love for each other, even as Jesus demonstrated His love for us, others will “know we are His disciples.” Our love for one another can help draw them to the perfect love of Jesus.
Click here to share your perspective about loving one another.
Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to love others in the way You love me. Help me to love unconditionally. Help me to demonstrate my love with action…even when I don’t feel like it. Thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for demonstrating your love in such marvelous ways. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One loved through his actions, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
John 13:34-35
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Stepping Stones: “One Another”
Transformational Tip
When I argue (because I’m above fighting) with my wife or daughters, I hurt, because they’re family. With fellow believers in Christ, we’re brothers and sisters and related in a much stronger way than blood. I’ve really experienced this on missions trips where I experience an incredible bond through Christ with someone I’ve never met before.
All through the Bible, we find “one another” Scriptures that instruct us in the kinds of caring actions and attitudes that ought to characterize our relationships as brothers and sisters in Christ. God clearly defines what kind of relationships we should have…and yet we so often fail to develop the type of relationships that He desires for us. And when we fail, we not only add unnecessary stress to our lives and the lives of those around us…but we also fail to illustrate the love of Jesus to unbelievers who may be observing us.
God has blessed each of us with gifts and talents and then placed us within a body of believers with a variety of gifts. As we live in harmony and love, focused on God’s plan, we can accomplish so much more than if we each try to do our own thing. And along the way we will develop relationships that we can count on—relationships built on a foundation of God’s love.
Do you see yourself as part of God’s team? Are you and other Christians in your church…and in other churches and ministries in your community…working together in harmony? Are you stuck focusing on differences…or on God’s bigger plan?
Today, ask God to show you personally what you can do to improve your relationship with a specific brother or sister in Christ. Perhaps it’s someone you have criticized…or someone you feel as though you are competing against. Maybe you have bickered about theology or passed judgment on his or her behavior. Ask God to help you relate to this person in love and harmony and build His kind of “one another” relationship.
Click here to share your perspective what “one anothering” you can improve on.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know there are times when I let personal feelings and differences interfere with my relationship with other believers. Please forgive me and help me have the kinds of “one another” relationships described in your Word. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who completes my joy, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Fill up and complete my joy by living in harmony and being of the same mind and one in purpose, having the same love, being in full accord and of one harmonious mind and intention.
Philippians 2:2
When I argue (because I’m above fighting) with my wife or daughters, I hurt, because they’re family. With fellow believers in Christ, we’re brothers and sisters and related in a much stronger way than blood. I’ve really experienced this on missions trips where I experience an incredible bond through Christ with someone I’ve never met before.
All through the Bible, we find “one another” Scriptures that instruct us in the kinds of caring actions and attitudes that ought to characterize our relationships as brothers and sisters in Christ. God clearly defines what kind of relationships we should have…and yet we so often fail to develop the type of relationships that He desires for us. And when we fail, we not only add unnecessary stress to our lives and the lives of those around us…but we also fail to illustrate the love of Jesus to unbelievers who may be observing us.
God has blessed each of us with gifts and talents and then placed us within a body of believers with a variety of gifts. As we live in harmony and love, focused on God’s plan, we can accomplish so much more than if we each try to do our own thing. And along the way we will develop relationships that we can count on—relationships built on a foundation of God’s love.
Do you see yourself as part of God’s team? Are you and other Christians in your church…and in other churches and ministries in your community…working together in harmony? Are you stuck focusing on differences…or on God’s bigger plan?
Today, ask God to show you personally what you can do to improve your relationship with a specific brother or sister in Christ. Perhaps it’s someone you have criticized…or someone you feel as though you are competing against. Maybe you have bickered about theology or passed judgment on his or her behavior. Ask God to help you relate to this person in love and harmony and build His kind of “one another” relationship.
Click here to share your perspective what “one anothering” you can improve on.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I know there are times when I let personal feelings and differences interfere with my relationship with other believers. Please forgive me and help me have the kinds of “one another” relationships described in your Word. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who completes my joy, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Fill up and complete my joy by living in harmony and being of the same mind and one in purpose, having the same love, being in full accord and of one harmonious mind and intention.
Philippians 2:2
Monday, May 17, 2010
Stepping Stones: Forgiveness: An Act of Service
Transformational Tip
Forgiveness in some ways is so simple and in other respects, is so complicated. And that’s when we are just trying to forgive ourselves, let alone when you introduce a whole other person that has hurt us.
Jesus came to die for us so we can live in intimate and incredible relationship with God… to have liberty from sin and Satan…Life Abundant. God created us for good works, to be shining lights. We can’t become all God designed us to be if we harbor resentment and bitterness. It is vital that we make the choice to forgive and even to reconcile, if possible, with the person who has hurt us.
In taking steps to reconciliation, begin with your thoughts. One thought area, amongst several, is to think about the other person’s needs, rather than their faults. How can you serve them, and God through forgiving them? Then begin to speak well of him or her to yourself and someone close to you, drawing attention to strengths and needs, rather than offenses. Next take action…begin to seek reconciliation. See some of our past devotionals on forgiveness.
You might be in a difficult situation in which the other party is not willing to reconcile. If this is the case, make sure you have forgiven in your own heart. Then keep yourself ready to pursue complete reconciliation if and when the other person is ready.
Today, ask God to open your eyes, have spiritual lenses to the other person’s needs and issues. Wait on God’s timing for the individual to join in total reconciliation. It may not be safe to be physically reconciled with some people. Don’t try to force it…let God work it out in His way and time. You are responsible for your heart and your part, not the other person’s. Above all, remember that Jesus loves you, and He will give you the strength and courage you need…abundantly.
Click here to share your perspective on forgiveness.
Prayer
Dear Father God, in all my relationships, help me dwell on things to praise, not things to curse. And especially help me to do this when I think or speak about the one who has offended me. May I walk in forgiveness and be open to reconciliation in Your way and Your time. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One died for my forgiveness, so I can extend it to others; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious…the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8
Forgiveness in some ways is so simple and in other respects, is so complicated. And that’s when we are just trying to forgive ourselves, let alone when you introduce a whole other person that has hurt us.
Jesus came to die for us so we can live in intimate and incredible relationship with God… to have liberty from sin and Satan…Life Abundant. God created us for good works, to be shining lights. We can’t become all God designed us to be if we harbor resentment and bitterness. It is vital that we make the choice to forgive and even to reconcile, if possible, with the person who has hurt us.
In taking steps to reconciliation, begin with your thoughts. One thought area, amongst several, is to think about the other person’s needs, rather than their faults. How can you serve them, and God through forgiving them? Then begin to speak well of him or her to yourself and someone close to you, drawing attention to strengths and needs, rather than offenses. Next take action…begin to seek reconciliation. See some of our past devotionals on forgiveness.
You might be in a difficult situation in which the other party is not willing to reconcile. If this is the case, make sure you have forgiven in your own heart. Then keep yourself ready to pursue complete reconciliation if and when the other person is ready.
Today, ask God to open your eyes, have spiritual lenses to the other person’s needs and issues. Wait on God’s timing for the individual to join in total reconciliation. It may not be safe to be physically reconciled with some people. Don’t try to force it…let God work it out in His way and time. You are responsible for your heart and your part, not the other person’s. Above all, remember that Jesus loves you, and He will give you the strength and courage you need…abundantly.
Click here to share your perspective on forgiveness.
Prayer
Dear Father God, in all my relationships, help me dwell on things to praise, not things to curse. And especially help me to do this when I think or speak about the one who has offended me. May I walk in forgiveness and be open to reconciliation in Your way and Your time. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One died for my forgiveness, so I can extend it to others; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious…the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Stepping Stones: Why Can’t You See It?
Transformational Tip
How did you enjoy yesterday’s devotional? Not the second one we sent out, but the first one @ 5:00 AM. If you didn’t open it yet, go ahead and open it. You probably thought it was your computer or Internet not working correctly, because Lighthouse never makes mistakes. Then you remember that Lighthouse does make tons of mistakes…spelling errors, incorrect grammar, late in mailing some days…so the reason why the text area is blank is because Lighthouse forgot to write one today, or forgot to paste today’s devotional into the template and sent Stepping Stones out prematurely.
Well, we were just testing you to prove a point. Actually, there was text in the white area of yesterday’s Stepping Stones…don’t believe me. Go back to yesterday’s Stepping Stones and highlight the text area. What do you see? The text appears, because we gave you special lenses. The decoding secret: the font color of the text was white.
You see, God is performing amazing miracles, providing for us, saving us, protecting us, loving us, standing beside us, calling and pursuing us…but we don’t see it. Why don’t we see it? We aren’t understanding the key to clear up our lenses. Just like you couldn’t see the text until I gave you the proper lenses to view it, viewing our lives and all the activities around us is impossible unless we have the right spiritual lenses. That is what God’s word, The Holy Bible, is all about.
We need to get to know God through spending time alone with Him and learning of Him through His Word…which reveals God, His plan, His Son, and His instructions to us.
Today, do you conform to the lenses of this world and try to see all God does through distorted lenses? Or are you transforming your lenses, developing eyes that can see God working in all areas of your life. Peace, power, and joy come when we can see the white text instead of the fear and anxiety of thinking something is wrong or you missed out. Click here to share your perspective on what you first thought when you saw the blank text yesterday.
Editor’s Note: we really did make a mistake yesterday and the white text wasn’t intentional, but God was able to use our mistake as a great lesson to understand Him.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for using the crappy lenses of this world. I want to see You in all things. Help me release my dependency on this world and seek first Your kingdom. When I do see Your way, especially in stressful situations, my spirit is lifted and I am empowered to act in ways contrary to the world’s expectations…honoring You and growing me. Peace and joy readily follow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who opens my eyes, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
And he said, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear." And when he was alone, those around him with the twelve asked him about the parables. And he said to them, "To you has been given the secret of the kingdom of God, but for those outside everything is in parables, so that "they may indeed see but not perceive, and may indeed hear but not understand, lest they should turn and be forgiven."
Mark 4:9-12
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2
How did you enjoy yesterday’s devotional? Not the second one we sent out, but the first one @ 5:00 AM. If you didn’t open it yet, go ahead and open it. You probably thought it was your computer or Internet not working correctly, because Lighthouse never makes mistakes. Then you remember that Lighthouse does make tons of mistakes…spelling errors, incorrect grammar, late in mailing some days…so the reason why the text area is blank is because Lighthouse forgot to write one today, or forgot to paste today’s devotional into the template and sent Stepping Stones out prematurely.
Well, we were just testing you to prove a point. Actually, there was text in the white area of yesterday’s Stepping Stones…don’t believe me. Go back to yesterday’s Stepping Stones and highlight the text area. What do you see? The text appears, because we gave you special lenses. The decoding secret: the font color of the text was white.
You see, God is performing amazing miracles, providing for us, saving us, protecting us, loving us, standing beside us, calling and pursuing us…but we don’t see it. Why don’t we see it? We aren’t understanding the key to clear up our lenses. Just like you couldn’t see the text until I gave you the proper lenses to view it, viewing our lives and all the activities around us is impossible unless we have the right spiritual lenses. That is what God’s word, The Holy Bible, is all about.
We need to get to know God through spending time alone with Him and learning of Him through His Word…which reveals God, His plan, His Son, and His instructions to us.
Today, do you conform to the lenses of this world and try to see all God does through distorted lenses? Or are you transforming your lenses, developing eyes that can see God working in all areas of your life. Peace, power, and joy come when we can see the white text instead of the fear and anxiety of thinking something is wrong or you missed out. Click here to share your perspective on what you first thought when you saw the blank text yesterday.
Editor’s Note: we really did make a mistake yesterday and the white text wasn’t intentional, but God was able to use our mistake as a great lesson to understand Him.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for using the crappy lenses of this world. I want to see You in all things. Help me release my dependency on this world and seek first Your kingdom. When I do see Your way, especially in stressful situations, my spirit is lifted and I am empowered to act in ways contrary to the world’s expectations…honoring You and growing me. Peace and joy readily follow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who opens my eyes, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
And he said, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear." And when he was alone, those around him with the twelve asked him about the parables. And he said to them, "To you has been given the secret of the kingdom of God, but for those outside everything is in parables, so that "they may indeed see but not perceive, and may indeed hear but not understand, lest they should turn and be forgiven."
Mark 4:9-12
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Stepping Stones: Don’t Take Away My ……
Transformational Tip
Security means different things to different people. Some feel secure if their health is good, others if their finances are strong, still others if they’re surrounded by a loving family. But, depending on people or things will result in disappointment, as all the things of this world are limited and fallible.
Suppose you work for a company many years, building up a healthy retirement fund that you are depending on for security in later life. Soon after your 60th birthday, the company bankrupts and the retirement fund is no more. If your faith has been in that retirement plan for your security, you are devastated and fearful for the future.
But if you recognize that God, not the retirement fund, is your real source for all your need, you can rest in the assurance that He has a plan…and that He will take care of you. Nothing takes God by surprise. You might not see His plan, but you can be confident that He has everything under control.
The same principle applies when you lose a job, a friend moves, you get a scary diagnosis, your child has a special issue…really, when any part of your agenda doesn’t go as you planned. If your faith is in the job…friend…health…agenda, you may lose hope.
But if your faith is in Jesus, you know that He never changes. Nothing can separate you from His love. And He will provide a way…usually through a way that is so foreign to you to “prove” to you He is at work in your life.
Today, examine what in life do you fear losing…that you would have fear, anxiety, or lose sleep about. You are probably depending on that to much to meet some of your needs. Ask God to show you how He will meet that need and lessen your grip on that thing you fear losing. He is your rock, rest on and build your life on Him.
Click here to share your perspective on what gives you a false sense of security.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the times I have depended on other people and things, and then lost hope when they let me down. Help me to remember that You are my source, and that You are unchanging and totally trustworthy. Thank You for supplying all my needs. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who always forgives me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19
Security means different things to different people. Some feel secure if their health is good, others if their finances are strong, still others if they’re surrounded by a loving family. But, depending on people or things will result in disappointment, as all the things of this world are limited and fallible.
Suppose you work for a company many years, building up a healthy retirement fund that you are depending on for security in later life. Soon after your 60th birthday, the company bankrupts and the retirement fund is no more. If your faith has been in that retirement plan for your security, you are devastated and fearful for the future.
But if you recognize that God, not the retirement fund, is your real source for all your need, you can rest in the assurance that He has a plan…and that He will take care of you. Nothing takes God by surprise. You might not see His plan, but you can be confident that He has everything under control.
The same principle applies when you lose a job, a friend moves, you get a scary diagnosis, your child has a special issue…really, when any part of your agenda doesn’t go as you planned. If your faith is in the job…friend…health…agenda, you may lose hope.
But if your faith is in Jesus, you know that He never changes. Nothing can separate you from His love. And He will provide a way…usually through a way that is so foreign to you to “prove” to you He is at work in your life.
Today, examine what in life do you fear losing…that you would have fear, anxiety, or lose sleep about. You are probably depending on that to much to meet some of your needs. Ask God to show you how He will meet that need and lessen your grip on that thing you fear losing. He is your rock, rest on and build your life on Him.
Click here to share your perspective on what gives you a false sense of security.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the times I have depended on other people and things, and then lost hope when they let me down. Help me to remember that You are my source, and that You are unchanging and totally trustworthy. Thank You for supplying all my needs. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who always forgives me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19
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