Stepping Stones: You are never alone!

Transformational Tip

The other day, I had a very difficult decision to make. The initial sense that came to me was isolation and loneliness. Not really sensing anyone around to help me. I was in it alone and had to bear the burden and responsibility for the decision all myself.

It seems like whenever I am in the midst of one of life’s storms, I have this overwhelming feeling of loneliness…of being alone. I can be standing in the middle of a crowded room and yet feel completely alone.

We have all experienced loneliness. So many people feel as though they are alone most of the time. They often feel that no one cares or understands…as though even God is distant and unavailable. Like He is punishing me for not pursuing Him…or when I was a kid, I just thought He had way more important things than my trivial frustrations.

Now, when I am feeling alone, I look in the Bible for the truth.

You may feel alone, but the truth is that God is always with you. Here are just a few of his promises: I am with you (Genesis 28:15). I walk with you (Leviticus 26:12). I am near you (Psalm 34:18). I hold your right hand (Isaiah 41:13). I carry you even into old age (Isaiah 46:4).

Then I try to uncover my issues, distortions, or misinterpretations that would influence me to jump first to the lie that God is not right there with me at my side.

Today, you can be encouraged by reading these scriptures and others like them. Write your favorites down and put them where you see them all the time. Speak them aloud. Substitute your name for the word you. God says, I am with (your name)…I walk with (your name)…I am near (your name).

God is speaking these promises to you personally. Remember…you are never alone. Jesus is with you. He is with you this moment. He will be with you tonight…and tomorrow. He will be with you through the good times and bad. He will never leave you.

Click here to share your perspective about feeling alone.

Prayer

Dear Father God, thank You for Your many promises to be with me…always. Help me believe Your promises more than I believe my feelings. I pray Father for all those within the Stepping Stones community who feel they are alone. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is always with me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
The LORD is there to rescue all who are discouraged and have given up hope.
Psalm 34:18

Stepping Stones: Even if no one else existed…

Transformational Tip

Do you sometimes feel as though you are fighting your way through life and losing the battle? That you are such a failure that no one can help you?

We've probably all had these feelings at times. And if you suffer from chronic depression like so many people, you might feel alone and hopeless most of the time. When well-meaning people try to cheer you up by pointing out your good qualities, you may hear what they are saying as either false praise or else as words of one who doesn't really know you that well.

There is someone who knows you better than you know yourself. Someone who wants to give you hope and help you win the battle. His name is Jesus. He promises you peace (John 14:27). He intercedes to God the Father for you (John 17:9). He promises to work all things for your good (Romans 8:28). He rides on the Heavens to help you (Deuteronomy 33:26).

You may say, "Those promises sound good for someone else, but they couldn't be for me. I don't deserve them. You don't know me." This may be true … but Jesus DOES know you. And He loves you. If no one else had existed, He would have died on the cross just for you. He loves you that much. None of us deserves that kind of love, but Jesus gives it freely and unconditionally.

Today, actually use this truth in how you view yourself and your circumstances. Write down who you are and why you believe that. Are those beliefs based on facts? Above all else…Let Him love you. Open your heart to the hope and healing that come only from Him.

Click here to share your perspective about Jesus’ unconditional love for you and your ability to receive it and believe it.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for dying for me. When I'm feeling down, help me to remember Your love for me, to experience Your love, and to share Your love with others. I pray to You, Father, for all those in the world today that suffer from depression. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who knows me better than I know myself, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
Ephesians 3:19

Stepping Stones: Go on a Fox Hunt!

Transformational Tip

The 1939 play, “The Little Foxes” by Lillian Hellman, was based on Scripture from Song of Solomon 2:15. The foundation of the message: many times it’s the collection of all the small mis-steps that gets us in trouble. Some marriages, with no major problems, still get into trouble because of an accumulation of little things. The Bible says that it is the little foxes that ruin the vineyard.

Make a commitment not to ignore the little foxes in your marriage: being thoughtless or preoccupied, forgetting special days like anniversaries and birthdays, criticizing, taking your spouse for granted, not appreciating the little things they do. The little foxes might seem unimportant, but they can eventually knock a marriage and family relationship off its feet.

Are you letting any foxes loose in your marriage? Are you spending time with your spouse or has "busy-ness" taken over? Do you really listen to her or him talk? Do you continue that little habit that irritates your spouse? With God's help, identify the little things before they become big things.

For you single people, all of the married people vowed to never let foxes into their vineyard. All would have boasted, “That will never happen to me.” But, as you see, we all fall prey to the insidious trickery of the sly foxes Satan uses to undermine what God has ordained and blessed. Safeguard your heart/mind…before you get married, you will have a better chance in your marriage.

Today, go on a fox hunt to be sure pesky little habits aren't creeping up on you. And replace the destructive little foxes with acts of love. Plan a surprise dinner for two. Buy a sentimental gift. Join your spouse in one of his or her favorite activities…even if it's not your thing. These little acts of thoughtfulness can help a marriage thrive.

Click here to share your perspective about little foxes in your life.

Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for how I have acted towards one of the greatest gifts You have given me, my wife. Marriage is so powerful, but also tricky and complex. Help me become more aware of the "little foxes" that I bring to the marriage…and help me replace them with acts of love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!
Song of Solomon 2:15

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23

Stepping Stones: Comfort Zones; Letting go of old identities

Transformational Tip

Sometimes, I ask people, “Who are you?” It’s interesting to hear what they answer. Some give their name…others give their occupation. Another answer is roles the person fills in the family or organization. Not many share their real identity…the one deep inside.

I have a close friend who years ago moved out of a lesbian lifestyle and into a walk with God. She tells her story, "If you had asked me if I was born gay, I would have given you a resounding 'yes.' Now, I realize I was not born gay, and I am not defined by the fact that I lived as a homosexual. When I came to God, He redefined me as a follower of Christ."

Often we define ourselves by a lifestyle, a role we play, or some of our personal characteristics. Whether these definitions are painful or joyful, good or bad, represent success or failure…they are comfort zones. And even when we come to Jesus, we might be reluctant to let go of them.

People in or coming from a homosexual lifestyle might consider the gay world a safe place. People caught in a workaholic mode base their worth on their own accomplishments and success…they feel more in control that way. But when they come to Jesus, it is vital for them to let go of those identities and come to recognize who they are in Christ.

Today, even though you may still be struggling with old habits, be encouraged to let go of the old definitions and know that your most important identity is in Christ. Take a paper and make 3 columns, one titled “old Identity”, the next “new identity.” The third, “what would I believe differently about myself if I believed I was this new person?” write in 5 elements of the old identity and fill in the next 2 columns for each. You are a new creation! God has a great plan for your life and He is worthy of your trust.

Click here to share your perspective about becoming a new creation.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for transforming me into a new creation when I became a follower of Christ. I still tend to see myself as "the old me." Please help me to see myself through Your eyes - cleansed and made new. And help me remember that no matter what other roles I play in life, my number one identity is always "a follower of Christ." I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I follow, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17

Stepping Stones: “The Ultimate Deal”

Transformational Tip

Yesterday, we discussed our curiosity and need to make deals. After passing through the deal making stage, many people concerned about a loved one with a life-controlling problem reach the point of acceptance…and then they make the ultimate deal.

Acceptance is a welcome place of relief. Now we can finally turn our loved one over to God. To His love and discipline, to His mercy and grace. To His healing power. Turning our struggling loved one over to God does not mean that we no longer care what happens to him, but that we have accepted the reality of the situation and the fact that we can't fix the problem on our own.

This is where we emotionally detach ourselves from our loved ones, even as we continue to love them and trust God's guidance in redesigning our role in their life. The ultimate deal we make is with God. We surrender our need for the other person to change, or for us to be the change agent. We get in return, God can conform us to the likeness of Christ.

Today, acknowledge that our loved ones are, themselves, responsible for their own behavior…accept our powerlessness to change them. Admit that we need nothing from anybody for us to experience peace, contentment, and growth. Tying our happiness to someone else’s behavior is a copout, an excuse, conforming to the flesh’s view and strategy. Let go and let God and reap “The Ultimate Deal.”

Click here to share your perspective about why you focus one what others need to do for you to be happy or content.

Prayer
Dear Father God, help me come to this point of acceptance. I know I can't fix my loved one's problems. I know he has to take responsibility for his own choices. Help me to let go. Help me to rest in You, knowing that You love this one even more than I and that You alone are able to help him. Help me be dependent on You, not someone else’s actions for my joy and happiness. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is my rock and my salvation, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will not be shaken.
Psalm 62:5-6

Stepping Stones: “Let’s Make a Deal”

Transformational Tip

While on vacation last month, I saw the new version of the classic game show, “Let’s Make a Deal.” What a great show…you could deal for a donkey, a gigantic candy bar, or a brand new car. The suspense of not knowing what you’ll win, the challenge of trying to manipulate the game, the freedom and fear of not being in control, and the uncertainty of what the other person will do are enticing emotions drawing us into this bargaining game.

It’s common for people concerned about someone with a life-controlling problem(addiction) or health issue to try to strike bargains with themselves, with the person, with others, and with God. We might promise ourselves that we will be better. We will say the right thing next time. We will make things right. We will restrain from something enjoyable…or harmful. All these things in exchange for something we desire from others or ourselves.

We might set up deals with the loved one to reward them for refraining from their problem behavior. Or we might bargain with God and try to make a deal with Him. A promise to give to the church, or do some good deeds, or give up gossiping or a sexual sin, if only He will fix our loved ones' problems.

If you are in this deal making stage, you need to understand that help for a friend or loved one doesn't depend on your performance. God has a specific plan for that person’s life and their change process is up to God. God may want to use us in the person’s life and work through us, but we are in no position, have no leverage, to bargain with God. What do we really have to offer in a trade?

Today, accept your powerlessness to change another person. Don’t try bargaining with God as if He is on another team; learn to actually join God’s team and let Him be your captain, and then follow His instruction. Click here to share your perspective about bargaining with God.

Prayer
Dear Father God, all my efforts have failed. No matter what I do, I realize now that I can't fix my loved one's problems. But I thank You that You can. Your grace is enough. Help me to let go and trust You. Help me understand how You want to use me to grow me and help me let the changing of my loved one up to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who can fix all things, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9

Stepping Stones; “Love One Another”

Transformational Tip

I went to a Kenny Loggins concert yesterday…my favorite recording artist of all time. Before the doors opened, people were just milling around. I noticed this particular young man who was covered with tattoos…and wondered why a guy like that would be at a Kenny Loggins concert. He actually had large fangs tattooed on his lower lip and chin with blood dripping down. My first thought …”this guy scares me.”

A few minutes later I found this guy standing right next to me, and when our eyes met, he offered the most genuine smile…and today’s scripture came into my mind. I began asking him about his tattoos…and then we talked about Kenny Loggins. Like me, this young man loved Kenny’s music. He was kind, polite and very reserved. When I asked which tattoo was his favorite, he pointed to a little Christmas tree on the top of his hand. Even with his fangs tattoo, he was no longer scary to me. Now I certainly don’t know his story…but I do know one thing…like you and me, he needs attention and love.

The Scriptures offer a multitude of “one another” commands concerning relationships with others…encourage one another, be devoted to one another, honor one another, live in harmony with one another, accept one another, instruct one another, serve one another, forgive one another…and on and on. “Love one another” is at the core of all of them.

In today’s scripture, Jesus tells us to love one another as He has loved us. Of course, Jesus’ love is greater than we can ever imagine…but He is telling us to follow His example. Jesus loves us unconditionally. He wants us to love others unconditionally…not based on personality or looks or behavior or even our feelings. Unconditionally.

Jesus loved with His actions, humbling Himself, coming to earth as a baby and growing and living among us. Suffering the indignities and torture of the cross, demonstrating the depth of His love in ways words could not begin to explain. Jesus wants us to love unconditionally. To demonstrate love through action…even when we don’t “feel” like it.

Today, ask God to help you see this person through His eyes. Ask Him to help you love this person even if he or she doesn’t “deserve” it. And then step out in faith and love through your actions. As we, in the family of God, demonstrate our love for each other, even as Jesus demonstrated His love for us, others will “know we are His disciples.” Our love for one another can help draw them to the perfect love of Jesus.
Click here to share your perspective about loving one another.

Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to love others in the way You love me. Help me to love unconditionally. Help me to demonstrate my love with action…even when I don’t feel like it. Thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for demonstrating your love in such marvelous ways. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One loved through his actions, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
John 13:34-35

Stepping Stones: “One Another”

Transformational Tip

When I argue (because I’m above fighting) with my wife or daughters, I hurt, because they’re family. With fellow believers in Christ, we’re brothers and sisters and related in a much stronger way than blood. I’ve really experienced this on missions trips where I experience an incredible bond through Christ with someone I’ve never met before.

All through the Bible, we find “one another” Scriptures that instruct us in the kinds of caring actions and attitudes that ought to characterize our relationships as brothers and sisters in Christ. God clearly defines what kind of relationships we should have…and yet we so often fail to develop the type of relationships that He desires for us. And when we fail, we not only add unnecessary stress to our lives and the lives of those around us…but we also fail to illustrate the love of Jesus to unbelievers who may be observing us.

God has blessed each of us with gifts and talents and then placed us within a body of believers with a variety of gifts. As we live in harmony and love, focused on God’s plan, we can accomplish so much more than if we each try to do our own thing. And along the way we will develop relationships that we can count on—relationships built on a foundation of God’s love.

Do you see yourself as part of God’s team? Are you and other Christians in your church…and in other churches and ministries in your community…working together in harmony? Are you stuck focusing on differences…or on God’s bigger plan?

Today, ask God to show you personally what you can do to improve your relationship with a specific brother or sister in Christ. Perhaps it’s someone you have criticized…or someone you feel as though you are competing against. Maybe you have bickered about theology or passed judgment on his or her behavior. Ask God to help you relate to this person in love and harmony and build His kind of “one another” relationship.
Click here to share your perspective what “one anothering” you can improve on.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I know there are times when I let personal feelings and differences interfere with my relationship with other believers. Please forgive me and help me have the kinds of “one another” relationships described in your Word. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who completes my joy, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Fill up and complete my joy by living in harmony and being of the same mind and one in purpose, having the same love, being in full accord and of one harmonious mind and intention.
Philippians 2:2

Stepping Stones: Forgiveness: An Act of Service

Transformational Tip

Forgiveness in some ways is so simple and in other respects, is so complicated. And that’s when we are just trying to forgive ourselves, let alone when you introduce a whole other person that has hurt us.

Jesus came to die for us so we can live in intimate and incredible relationship with God… to have liberty from sin and Satan…Life Abundant. God created us for good works, to be shining lights. We can’t become all God designed us to be if we harbor resentment and bitterness. It is vital that we make the choice to forgive and even to reconcile, if possible, with the person who has hurt us.

In taking steps to reconciliation, begin with your thoughts. One thought area, amongst several, is to think about the other person’s needs, rather than their faults. How can you serve them, and God through forgiving them? Then begin to speak well of him or her to yourself and someone close to you, drawing attention to strengths and needs, rather than offenses. Next take action…begin to seek reconciliation. See some of our past devotionals on forgiveness.

You might be in a difficult situation in which the other party is not willing to reconcile. If this is the case, make sure you have forgiven in your own heart. Then keep yourself ready to pursue complete reconciliation if and when the other person is ready.

Today, ask God to open your eyes, have spiritual lenses to the other person’s needs and issues. Wait on God’s timing for the individual to join in total reconciliation. It may not be safe to be physically reconciled with some people. Don’t try to force it…let God work it out in His way and time. You are responsible for your heart and your part, not the other person’s. Above all, remember that Jesus loves you, and He will give you the strength and courage you need…abundantly.
Click here to share your perspective on forgiveness.

Prayer
Dear Father God, in all my relationships, help me dwell on things to praise, not things to curse. And especially help me to do this when I think or speak about the one who has offended me. May I walk in forgiveness and be open to reconciliation in Your way and Your time. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One died for my forgiveness, so I can extend it to others; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious…the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8

Stepping Stones: Why Can’t You See It?

Transformational Tip

How did you enjoy yesterday’s devotional? Not the second one we sent out, but the first one @ 5:00 AM. If you didn’t open it yet, go ahead and open it. You probably thought it was your computer or Internet not working correctly, because Lighthouse never makes mistakes. Then you remember that Lighthouse does make tons of mistakes…spelling errors, incorrect grammar, late in mailing some days…so the reason why the text area is blank is because Lighthouse forgot to write one today, or forgot to paste today’s devotional into the template and sent Stepping Stones out prematurely.

Well, we were just testing you to prove a point. Actually, there was text in the white area of yesterday’s Stepping Stones…don’t believe me. Go back to yesterday’s Stepping Stones and highlight the text area. What do you see? The text appears, because we gave you special lenses. The decoding secret: the font color of the text was white.

You see, God is performing amazing miracles, providing for us, saving us, protecting us, loving us, standing beside us, calling and pursuing us…but we don’t see it. Why don’t we see it? We aren’t understanding the key to clear up our lenses. Just like you couldn’t see the text until I gave you the proper lenses to view it, viewing our lives and all the activities around us is impossible unless we have the right spiritual lenses. That is what God’s word, The Holy Bible, is all about.

We need to get to know God through spending time alone with Him and learning of Him through His Word…which reveals God, His plan, His Son, and His instructions to us.

Today, do you conform to the lenses of this world and try to see all God does through distorted lenses? Or are you transforming your lenses, developing eyes that can see God working in all areas of your life. Peace, power, and joy come when we can see the white text instead of the fear and anxiety of thinking something is wrong or you missed out. Click here to share your perspective on what you first thought when you saw the blank text yesterday.
Editor’s Note: we really did make a mistake yesterday and the white text wasn’t intentional, but God was able to use our mistake as a great lesson to understand Him.

Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for using the crappy lenses of this world. I want to see You in all things. Help me release my dependency on this world and seek first Your kingdom. When I do see Your way, especially in stressful situations, my spirit is lifted and I am empowered to act in ways contrary to the world’s expectations…honoring You and growing me. Peace and joy readily follow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who opens my eyes, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And he said, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear." And when he was alone, those around him with the twelve asked him about the parables. And he said to them, "To you has been given the secret of the kingdom of God, but for those outside everything is in parables, so that "they may indeed see but not perceive, and may indeed hear but not understand, lest they should turn and be forgiven."
Mark 4:9-12

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Stepping Stones: Don’t Take Away My ……

Transformational Tip

Security means different things to different people. Some feel secure if their health is good, others if their finances are strong, still others if they’re surrounded by a loving family. But, depending on people or things will result in disappointment, as all the things of this world are limited and fallible.

Suppose you work for a company many years, building up a healthy retirement fund that you are depending on for security in later life. Soon after your 60th birthday, the company bankrupts and the retirement fund is no more. If your faith has been in that retirement plan for your security, you are devastated and fearful for the future.

But if you recognize that God, not the retirement fund, is your real source for all your need, you can rest in the assurance that He has a plan…and that He will take care of you. Nothing takes God by surprise. You might not see His plan, but you can be confident that He has everything under control.

The same principle applies when you lose a job, a friend moves, you get a scary diagnosis, your child has a special issue…really, when any part of your agenda doesn’t go as you planned. If your faith is in the job…friend…health…agenda, you may lose hope.

But if your faith is in Jesus, you know that He never changes. Nothing can separate you from His love. And He will provide a way…usually through a way that is so foreign to you to “prove” to you He is at work in your life.

Today, examine what in life do you fear losing…that you would have fear, anxiety, or lose sleep about. You are probably depending on that to much to meet some of your needs. Ask God to show you how He will meet that need and lessen your grip on that thing you fear losing. He is your rock, rest on and build your life on Him.

Click here to share your perspective on what gives you a false sense of security.

Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the times I have depended on other people and things, and then lost hope when they let me down. Help me to remember that You are my source, and that You are unchanging and totally trustworthy. Thank You for supplying all my needs. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who always forgives me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19

Stepping Stones: Control ≠ Security

Transformational Tip

Most people feel more secure when they are in control. A trip down a steep mountain road doesn’t feel as dangerous to us when we ‘re the ones with our hands on the steering wheel. The passengers with us will be more anxious or fearful.

Having control over our circumstances is very important to most of us…it allows us to feel more secure, competent, and confident. But we can't always be in control…actually we have a lot less control than we think. When facing circumstances beyond our control, we may feel helpless, anxious, angry, or overwhelmed, and experience panic or depression.

In today's world, a sense of safety and security may be difficult to find. The good news is that there is one way we can always be secure.

God provides a way for us to always experience a sense of security. He leaves it up to us…we can either continue depending on ourselves, panicking or losing hope when we can't control a situation…or we can depend on the Lord. If we choose Jesus and His way for our lives, we can always be secure in His love. We will still experience problems and trials on this earth, but we will begin to view them from an eternal perspective. When we turn control over to Jesus, we can know that no matter what challenges or trials we face, He will ultimately work them out for our good.

Today, whose hands have control of your steering wheel? Are you still trying to control every detail of your life? Do you experience frustration, fear or even anger when you can't control what is happening to you? Turn everything over to God. You can trust Him. He is way more equipped to handle life than you are.

Click here to share your perspective about who’s driving your life.

Prayer
Dear Father God, it seems that every time I turn a situation over to You, I hang on to some little part of it and pull it away from You again. I want to be in control, and yet I know that doesn't always work out. Please forgive me for not trusting You with every area of my life. Help me to trust You more and to leave the control of my life in Your hands. Help me to rest securely in Your love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach me how to trust, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
Proverbs 3:5-6

In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will,
Ephesians 1:11

Stepping Stones: “World-Eyes” or a “Christ-Eyes?”

Transformational Tip

Jesus doesn't look at how much we have in our bank account, or how talented we are, or what background we come from. He looks at our heart. He approached corrupt tax collectors, prostitutes, criminals, and adulteresses in such an unpolitically correct way. When you look at people, do you have a worldly point of view or a Christ-like point of view?

A worldly point of view considers how a person looks…what a person possesses or lacks…or who a person knows. Financially well-to-do people may avoid associating with the working class. People in lower income brackets may assume that everyone with money is stuck-up and unkind. But Jesus doesn't see people on a ledger sheet. He sees each of us as an individual with needs, desires, wounds, and feelings.

Are there people you avoid because of their social or financial standing? Remember that they are God's creation…just like you. A successful businessperson who seems aloof may need a friend to talk to. Another person might not have the college degrees you have, but could have godly wisdom that would make a difference in your life.

Remember, these people aren’t in your life by mistake. God is perfect and has a great plan to develop you…customized specifically for you. The people in your life come from specific backgrounds, experiences, and cultures…have certain skills and deficits…and do things God knew they would do just to move you closer to the incredible goal God has for you – the mind of Christ and an intimate relationship with God Himself.

Today, take notice of what kind of lenses you use while viewing people. Be intentional to leave the worldly point of view, with all its prejudices and misconceptions, behind. Ask God to help you see people through his eyes and reach out to them with his love.

Click here to share your perspective on your view of people.

Prayer
Dear Father God, help me not to evaluate people by what they have or how they look. Help me to have a Christ-like point of view and to respond to the real person, not what I see on the surface. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who looks beyond my physical body, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Because of this decision we don't evaluate people by what they have or how they look. We looked at the Messiah that way once and got it all wrong, as you know. 2 Corinthians 5:16

Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,
1 Peter 1:13-15

Stepping Stones: Jesus: Equal Opportunity Savior

Transformational Tip

Who wants to be boring? A lot of our activities are pursued so we can avoid either being a bored person or a boring person. Spice things up, inject some excitement, plan a trip, go back to school, change our hairstyle, try a new restaurant.

Having said this, our natural tendency as human beings is to be attracted to sameness and routine and resist all that is different. We like to go the same places for vacation, eat or drink the “usual” when we go to a restaurant, wear a certain style clothes all the time…we don’t throw in or like many curveballs in any area of our life.

We tend to marry and congregate with people who are like us…the same color, culture, political party, religious beliefs, social level, or income bracket. We tend to mistrust and even resist anyone who is different.

People often judge others by what we see on the outside. We lump everyone from a particular racial or cultural group in one basket. We shun one another and, at times, even war against each other based solely on racial identity; how sad.

Aren't you glad Jesus doesn't see us that way? He loves us regardless of our race or culture or career or income. He searches every heart. He is interested in what's inside. He visited and hung out with all kinds…looking deeper than the surface.

Today, ask Jesus to help us search other people's hearts and see them through God’s eyes. As God's creation…designed in his image. Jesus gave His life for all people of all races and cultures. He sees everyone through eyes of love and compassion. He looks beyond faults to needs. It is time for us to let go of our prejudices and see others as Jesus does.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to see others through the eyes of Jesus. Reveal to me any prejudices I may have hidden in my heart. Forgive me, and help me to let go of them and the walls they create. Help me to stop looking at the outside and to truly search every heart. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who searches heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts.
1 Chronicles 28:9

Stepping Stones: Hiking With God

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Going on a walk, or especially a hike, with a guide is a really fun, healthy, adventurous, and growing experience. Several key elements include… intentionality by the guide and hiker…coordinated movements modeled by the guide and repeated by the hiker…strategic planning by the guide and followed by the hiker…and most important, trustworthiness of the guide and ultimate trust by the hiker in the guide.

Once we come to Christ in faith, we begin to walk, actually hike, with God on an incredible journey on a daily basis. The destination is described to us, yet we’ve never been there before, nor do we know exactly how to get there. The Bible gives us very concrete instruction but the actual application of it in the complex and numerous detours and false paths is really hard to follow. It is vital that we learn to trust our Guide, God and The Holy Spirit, every area of our lives…day in and day out.

We can trust Him because we are assured that as we love God and commit our lives to Him, He works everything…the good and the bad…together for good. We can trust Him because He has demonstrated His great unconditional love for us.
We can commit our wayward child to Him because we know He loves that child even more than we do.

We can commit our finances to Him because we know that He will work all things for good as we follow Him and trust Him for wisdom.

We can trust our loved one's health to Him because of his mercy and love.
We can trust God to work His plan in our ministry…and His plan is perfect.
Is there an area of your life that you are clinging to…and worrying about…instead of trusting God? God cares about everything that concerns you.

Today, examine your daily hike. Where are you going and who is your guide? These are the 2 most important questions you need to ask. If you are your own guide, or if you are following the world’s system…you are lost! Keep your eyes on Him, love and trust Him. He will go before you…He will guide you…He will strengthen you…And He will work all things for good.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I have been worrying about this situation and trying to fix it myself. My way hasn't worked. I commit this situation and my hike to You and trust You for the answer. I want You to be my Guide and no other. Help me to resist being my own guide, because I now know the wrong places that leads me. No matter how things look now, I trust you to work all things together for good and get me to the right place of the Mind of Christ. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I strive to trust completely, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
Romans 8:28

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6

Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.
Matthew 7:13,14

Stepping Stones: Step One Through Infinity is Trust

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We trust in a lot of things to save us. The strength of a chair to save us from falling. The power of a bridge to support our weight so we don’t plummet to the river below. The driver in the oncoming traffic will stay on his side of the yellow line to save our life.

Webster defines trust as "assured reliance on the character, ability, strength or truth of someone or something." When we trust in Jesus, we believe that He is God's Son and that His sacrifice pays the price for our sin. We are relying on and trusting God’s character…and His ability to do what He has promised. Ultimately, we are trusting on the power, strength, and the truth of His love.

Faith in Christ is the foundation, the first step, to a relationship with God.

Today's scripture is one of many that explain the gospel message. We all fall short of God's standard…we all have sinned…and so none of us can have a relationship with God on our own merit or power. The good news is that God loved us enough to send his Son, Jesus, to make a way for us. Jesus died on the cross and paid the price for every sin committed by man…past, present and future. Our responsibility is to trust Jesus as our Lord and Savior. When we do this, we are made right with God and can enjoy a personal relationship with him.

Today, ask yourself these questions; Have I trusted in Jesus? Have I received His love and His sacrifice for my sin? What is the evidence I trust in God and not my intellect, bank account, friends, looks, health, etc? If I lost any, or all of these things, would I still trust in God? He loves you with a love we can't even begin to comprehend. And He is trustworthy. He will never leave you. He will never disappoint you. He will always love you. In this world of uncertainty, there is no hope. But in Jesus there is every hope. That, you can trust in.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize that I am not worthy to be in Your presence. But I believe that Jesus paid the price for my sin and that through Him I can come to You. I receive Him now as my savior. But don’t let be the last step, just the first step of my growing trust in You, for all eternity. Please forgive my sins. I want to follow and trust in Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to set me free, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard.
Romans 3:22-23

Stepping Stones: God: The Ultimate Insurance

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“Nationwide is on your side” Linda Krisko, a Lighthouse Network board member provides our corporate and our personal insurance through Nationwide. I trust her and she has been great when our teen got into her first car accident.
“The Good Hands People” of Allstate ask us to submit ourselves and put our life in their hands for potential serious life issues.

To submit an area of our life to someone else, we really have to trust them, interview them, get other people’s feedback, check their track record, then give them a try.

God is the ultimate insurance company. Some say He sells fire insurance to save us from the fiery furnace of Hell. He also provides protection techniques from “accidents” as well as services to help navigate and restore when an “accident” does occur.

In order to fully submit our lives to God, we have to trust Him from the bottom of our heart. Trust his unconditional love. Trust that His way and instructions really are the best way. Trust that He is able to deliver what He promises. Trust that listening to Him and obeying Him will keep us on track.

How do we build that kind of trust? By getting to know Him better…through prayer…through studying and meditating on the Bible…by being sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. And by experience…looking back and remembering how He has loved us and helped us in the past. How His way has always proved to be the right way.

How do you make choices? By trying to figure things out on your own? By following your intellect, emotions and reasoning? Today’s scripture cautions not to assume that you know it all.

Today, listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go. Are you submitting to His plan above all else? Is He truly at the center of your life?

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Prayer
Dear Father God, Please forgive me for all the times I’ve attempted to figure things out on my own…instead of relying on You. I do trust You…but help me to trust You when I am in a pinch more. Teach me to tune into Your voice in everything I do and everywhere I go. Help me to always seek Your will, Your plan, above my own desires.. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I trust from the bottom of my heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don't try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he's the one who will keep you on track. Don't assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil!
Proverbs 3:5-7

Stepping Stones: Do You Want To Be “Normal”?

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It is a natural urge to want to fit in or be accepted by those around us. We tend to look around and pursue the pursuits of those around us or use the strategies we see those around us put into play.

It’s so easy to become molded to the world’s thinking. Television programs subtly—and more and more often not so subtly—dishonor God. They present sinful behavior and lifestyles as normal—over and over again through the months and the years. Without realizing it, we can gradually begin accepting the sinful behavior as “normal.”

Other influences…friends, employers, books, movies, etc. can shape our thinking as well. One real danger has been introduced in the form of books and movies that claim to be Christian and use “Christian-ese” words, but in fact teach things that are totally unscriptural. Usually good teaching is mixed in with the deceptive teaching, drawing many Christians into accepting the whole because of some carefully placed Biblical truths. Jesus warned us to be careful—that even the elect could be deceived.

How can we avoid being drawn into the pull of the world’s influences? By letting God transform us into a new person by changing the way we see life, our circumstances, and what motivates us. Then our decision-making will be Godly and transformation will exponentially wash over us.

We will continue to transform our mind, will, intellect and emotions as we obey God’s Word. He transforms our minds as we pray, study His Word and make Godly choices.

Today, measure every influence in the light of God’s Word…and reject those that don’t line up. Quit watching the television program. Don’t read the book. Choose what is right over what is easy or popular. Be willing to take a stand. Don’t be “normal”. Be special in Him and for Him.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Open my eyes to the wrong influences in my life. Transform me into a new person by changing the way I think. Give me a deeper understanding of Your Word and help me live in obedience to Your will, making right choices even when they are difficult ones. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who never settled for normal, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Stepping Stones: Become a Living Sacrifice

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Through the years before Jesus died on the cross, God called the Israelites to offer animals as sacrifices for their sin. These sacrifices were offered repeatedly at regular time intervals. Then Jesus came and gave his own life on the cross to pay the ultimate everlasting sacrifice for our sins.

We no longer have to offer sacrifices to pay for our sins. When we accept Jesus as our Savior and make him Lord of our lives, our sins are transferred to Jesus’ account and are forgiven. The really cool thing is that Jesus’ righteousness…perfection…is credited to our account.

But we are called to be a living sacrifice by surrendering our lives to Him. He wants us to turn control over our minds and bodies to His care. He views our total submission as worship.

Most of us like to feel in control. The thought of turning control over to someone else, even God, might seem frightening…or just unappealing. What we need to remember is that God is a merciful and compassionate God. He wants what is best for us…and only He knows what that really is. He is all-knowing and all-powerful. We aren’t. How much better to submit to His control, to trust His plan, than to stick to our “I can do it myself” attitude.

Today, are you struggling with a temptation…a problem…a challenge right now? Sacrifice your agenda for God’s. Why not, look where your way has gotten you. Apply God’s agenda for one month and see what God can do when you submit completely to his plan?

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for Jesus. I thank You that through Him my sins are forgiven. I have committed my life to You and claim to make You Lord. But so many times I try to take control again. I know this shows a lack of trust in You. Please forgive me. May my body…all that I am…be a living sacrifice to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who was the ultimate sacrifice, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:1,2

Stepping Stones: Let Anger Be Your Servant

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Our feelings, emotions, are the source of some tremendous highs in life…and also some of our lowest times. Anger is probably one of the more base emotions, but also one of the more complex.

Society compounds are understanding of anger by not knowing much about anger, not teaching kids about anger, and not tolerating anger in ourselves or others at all.

Some of us tend to hold our anger in, sometimes allowing bitterness and resentment to build. On the other hand, some of us have more of a tendency to vent our anger immediately. This response could be described as "blowing up" or being "hot under the collar."

The Bible teaches that anger is really a great warning system, letting us know if there is danger or a potential problem. Where anger becomes sinful and harmful if when we let anger become our decision maker…it usually produces some pretty poor responses to a difficult situation.

Today, to learn to manage your anger, ask “What am I being warned about?” then when you identify the problem, look for a solution. When you solve the problem, the warning sign…the anger…will no longer be there. It is at this point that anger has become your servant and can be productive.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Teach me to respond to people with a gentle answer, rather than harsh words and actions. Teach me wisdom and patience and help me to respond in love and forgiveness. Help me use this great gift of anger in the way You designed me to use it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who perfected anger management, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1

A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
Proverbs 29:11

So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. 16 To those who sold doves he said, “Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father’s house into a market!”
John 2:15,16
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
Colossians 3:8

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Ephesians 4:26