Transformational Tip
Often, we are ruled by our feelings…like animals, more often than we like to admit. Instead of letting our actions be determined by our feelings (which easily distorts our lenses…think, love is blind), we need to base our actions on the facts, what is certain and true.
We need to grow in our knowledge of God, the Holy Bible, and of Jesus. We need to understand what Jesus did for us on the cross and the way God sees us. You see, the more our biological science of the brain develops, science is actually proving the Bible is so accurate in diagnosing the human condition and devising a treatment plan. It is only as we do this that we open the door to receive more and more grace and peace from God.
How do we grow in our knowledge? The answer is really very basic. We need to prayerfully study the Bible because that tells us who God is and what He instructs. But you also need to study yourself, so you know how to deeply apply Bible to your life situations. Only then can we begin to live based on our knowledge of who we are through faith in Jesus Christ.
We also need to realize that this is a lifetime process. Every day we have decisions and choices to make. Are we going to base our actions on feelings of fear, insecurity, hopelessness, grief, lack of control, etc…or based on God?
Your feelings may be telling you that you are worthless, but in Christ you are redeemed (paid for at great cost)…you are valuable!
Today, make choices based on God’s truth (word)…not your feelings. When you feel you are being ruled by negative feelings, remember what God's Word says in Ephesians 1:7; that you are forgiven, clean, and that all your sins have been wiped from God's sight. Amen
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to grow every day in my knowledge of You. Help me today to make choices based on Your truth, rather than my feelings. I thank You that Jesus died for my sins, that I am forgiven and that I am valuable to You. I pray this and all prayers through the One who words will never delude me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
May God give you more and more grace and peace as you grow in your knowledge of God and Jesus our Lord.
2 Peter 1:2
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Hebrews 4:12
“Now listen! Today I am giving you a choice between life and death, between prosperity and disaster. For I command you this day to love the Lord your God and to keep his commands, decrees, and regulations by walking in his ways. If you do this, you will live and multiply, and the Lord your God will bless you and the land you are about to enter and occupy.
Deuteronomy 30:15,16
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Stepping Stones: I Just Don’t Have What It Takes…
Transformational Tip
When we are dealing with a life-controlling problem…whether it is a behavior, thought pattern, or feeling state…we may begin to think, "What's the use? I'll never overcome this. I've tried…and failed…again and again. I just don't have what it takes to get things right." Or “I’ve tried so many times and never get anywhere. I guess this is the way God made me and I am stuck like this. This is the way I was born and no escaping it.”
And you know what? We would be right. We probably don't have what it takes. But we know someone who does: Jesus. And the Bible promises us that we can do all things…through Christ. If we are willing to commit our lives to Him, He will give us the strength we need to do what is right. He will guide us on the right path. And He will often send other people to help us.
In order to receive this strength from Christ, we first need to admit that we need help. We need to be honest with ourselves, with Him, and with others. We need to take off our mask of self-sufficiency and get real. Quit using your own instruction manual and start using His for all of your life situations. Start seeing life through the Godly lenses of His Holy Bible. That is what transformed my life and can also transform yours.
Today, if you dealing with a problem right now that seems hopeless…take the first step: Admit you need help. Then, ask God for his plan. Ask him for strength through Christ. Admit to safe/caring people that you need help. WITHIN REACH: Disciplines for Real Life Change is a great resource giving you a concrete strategy to apply the Bible to daily living. VOX Accountability is also a great resource to help you quickly turn your life around.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community what it takes to achieve your God-given potential that is just WITHIN REACH.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been trying everything I know to overcome my problem, but nothing seems to work for the long run. I need…and desire…Your strength and guidance. Help me to be honest about my need with others You send to help me. Help me remember that I can succeed…through Christ, but I need to know how to apply that. Help me lean apply Your word to my life, minute by minute, instead of using my own understanding. I pray this and all prayers through the One who You sent to compensate for all my shortcomings, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
Proverbs 3:5-8
When we are dealing with a life-controlling problem…whether it is a behavior, thought pattern, or feeling state…we may begin to think, "What's the use? I'll never overcome this. I've tried…and failed…again and again. I just don't have what it takes to get things right." Or “I’ve tried so many times and never get anywhere. I guess this is the way God made me and I am stuck like this. This is the way I was born and no escaping it.”
And you know what? We would be right. We probably don't have what it takes. But we know someone who does: Jesus. And the Bible promises us that we can do all things…through Christ. If we are willing to commit our lives to Him, He will give us the strength we need to do what is right. He will guide us on the right path. And He will often send other people to help us.
In order to receive this strength from Christ, we first need to admit that we need help. We need to be honest with ourselves, with Him, and with others. We need to take off our mask of self-sufficiency and get real. Quit using your own instruction manual and start using His for all of your life situations. Start seeing life through the Godly lenses of His Holy Bible. That is what transformed my life and can also transform yours.
Today, if you dealing with a problem right now that seems hopeless…take the first step: Admit you need help. Then, ask God for his plan. Ask him for strength through Christ. Admit to safe/caring people that you need help. WITHIN REACH: Disciplines for Real Life Change is a great resource giving you a concrete strategy to apply the Bible to daily living. VOX Accountability is also a great resource to help you quickly turn your life around.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community what it takes to achieve your God-given potential that is just WITHIN REACH.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been trying everything I know to overcome my problem, but nothing seems to work for the long run. I need…and desire…Your strength and guidance. Help me to be honest about my need with others You send to help me. Help me remember that I can succeed…through Christ, but I need to know how to apply that. Help me lean apply Your word to my life, minute by minute, instead of using my own understanding. I pray this and all prayers through the One who You sent to compensate for all my shortcomings, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
Proverbs 3:5-8
Monday, March 29, 2010
Stepping Stones: Time to Take Down the Walls!
Transformational Tip
Have you ever tried to hold an inflated toy under water? That can be hard work. And yet, we often work even harder to keep our true feelings out of view. When we stuff our feelings, we build walls around our real selves and around any problems we may be struggling with.
We often think of walls as protection, but some walls can be destructive to our spiritual growth pursuits.
These self-constructed walls cause us to isolate ourselves from other people…and even from God. They cause us to hide from the truth about a problem that has a hold on us. These walls we build are called defenses. Defenses can take many forms: rationalization, humor, blaming, denying. Have you said something like "What I did isn't so bad" or "You don't understand the pressure I'm under" or “It isn’t so bad” or “It’s in the past, let’s move on.” Sound familiar? We've all used defenses like these to cover the truth.
When we are hiding behind the defenses, we are attempting to hide the truth about ourselves and our situation…from God, from other people, and even from ourselves. We are also blinding ourselves from the truth of God's Word. And yet our only answer is in the truth…because the truth will set us free.
Today, stop and assess if you have built any walls around yourself? Walls that you hoped would defend you. Walls that in reality are blocking the road to freedom. It is important to recognize those walls and begin to tear them down. But remember, you can't tear them down all at once. Building them was a process, and so is tearing them down. It's done by being honest with God, with yourself, and with others(but in a Godly way). It's done by learning to trust the truth of the Bible more than your feelings.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the walls you have built.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize I've been trying to hide the truth by building walls around myself. I've rationalized. I've pointed the finger at others. I've denied. But the truth is that I need Your help. Help me to be honest with You, with others … and with myself. Help me to depend on the truth of Your Word more than on my feelings. Help me to tear down the walls. I pray this and all prayers through the One who You sent to help me remove my defenses, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without protection.
Proverbs 25:28
Have you ever tried to hold an inflated toy under water? That can be hard work. And yet, we often work even harder to keep our true feelings out of view. When we stuff our feelings, we build walls around our real selves and around any problems we may be struggling with.
We often think of walls as protection, but some walls can be destructive to our spiritual growth pursuits.
These self-constructed walls cause us to isolate ourselves from other people…and even from God. They cause us to hide from the truth about a problem that has a hold on us. These walls we build are called defenses. Defenses can take many forms: rationalization, humor, blaming, denying. Have you said something like "What I did isn't so bad" or "You don't understand the pressure I'm under" or “It isn’t so bad” or “It’s in the past, let’s move on.” Sound familiar? We've all used defenses like these to cover the truth.
When we are hiding behind the defenses, we are attempting to hide the truth about ourselves and our situation…from God, from other people, and even from ourselves. We are also blinding ourselves from the truth of God's Word. And yet our only answer is in the truth…because the truth will set us free.
Today, stop and assess if you have built any walls around yourself? Walls that you hoped would defend you. Walls that in reality are blocking the road to freedom. It is important to recognize those walls and begin to tear them down. But remember, you can't tear them down all at once. Building them was a process, and so is tearing them down. It's done by being honest with God, with yourself, and with others(but in a Godly way). It's done by learning to trust the truth of the Bible more than your feelings.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the walls you have built.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize I've been trying to hide the truth by building walls around myself. I've rationalized. I've pointed the finger at others. I've denied. But the truth is that I need Your help. Help me to be honest with You, with others … and with myself. Help me to depend on the truth of Your Word more than on my feelings. Help me to tear down the walls. I pray this and all prayers through the One who You sent to help me remove my defenses, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without protection.
Proverbs 25:28
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Stepping Stones: Do You Know Who You Are?
Transformational Tip
I have learned recently that I have spent most of my life building and hiding behind defenses, which gave me an illusion of control.
When we hide behind self-built defenses, we may have a sense that we are in control. We tell ourselves that we're holding our feelings under control. But in reality we are not in control at all…our problems are at the wheel… We've pushed away the people who really care about us, the ones who could help us.
And we've allowed our problem, our situation, to take control. It’s the proverbial “slippery slope.” This is exactly where Satan wants us. His lie…these “self-protective” defenses are really self-destructive, both acutely and chronically.
Only when we allow the defensive walls to crumble, and start living and choosing and acting on the basis of who we are in Christ…and on all the strength and guidance and wisdom God has promised and will provide…can we begin to practice true self-control.
Because of Christ…
You are redeemed; paid for at a great price. (Ephesians 1:7) You are forgiven; your sin as far as condemnation has been forgotten. (Psalm 103:12) You are strong and capable; and can do everything through Christ. (Philippians 4:13) You are a conqueror: an overcomer. (Romans 8:37)
Today, examine your areas of stress. Do you let circumstances or your feelings control you? Do your defenses, your coping mechanisms, help you or do they just act as knee-jerk bridges to the next stressor. Build your defenses on Biblical principles to not just escape the stressor, but to shine and be strengthened by it. Know yourself and be seen as God sees you…The Bible makes it clear.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on who you are.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to stop hiding behind my self-built, self destructive defenses. Help me to see myself as You do because of Christ; redeemed, forgiven, strong, capable, an overcomer. Help me to always remember what a great price was paid at the cross so that I could have this new identity. I pray this and all prayers through the One who You sent to give me my new identity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In everything we have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves us.
Romans 8:37
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:20
I have learned recently that I have spent most of my life building and hiding behind defenses, which gave me an illusion of control.
When we hide behind self-built defenses, we may have a sense that we are in control. We tell ourselves that we're holding our feelings under control. But in reality we are not in control at all…our problems are at the wheel… We've pushed away the people who really care about us, the ones who could help us.
And we've allowed our problem, our situation, to take control. It’s the proverbial “slippery slope.” This is exactly where Satan wants us. His lie…these “self-protective” defenses are really self-destructive, both acutely and chronically.
Only when we allow the defensive walls to crumble, and start living and choosing and acting on the basis of who we are in Christ…and on all the strength and guidance and wisdom God has promised and will provide…can we begin to practice true self-control.
Because of Christ…
You are redeemed; paid for at a great price. (Ephesians 1:7) You are forgiven; your sin as far as condemnation has been forgotten. (Psalm 103:12) You are strong and capable; and can do everything through Christ. (Philippians 4:13) You are a conqueror: an overcomer. (Romans 8:37)
Today, examine your areas of stress. Do you let circumstances or your feelings control you? Do your defenses, your coping mechanisms, help you or do they just act as knee-jerk bridges to the next stressor. Build your defenses on Biblical principles to not just escape the stressor, but to shine and be strengthened by it. Know yourself and be seen as God sees you…The Bible makes it clear.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on who you are.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to stop hiding behind my self-built, self destructive defenses. Help me to see myself as You do because of Christ; redeemed, forgiven, strong, capable, an overcomer. Help me to always remember what a great price was paid at the cross so that I could have this new identity. I pray this and all prayers through the One who You sent to give me my new identity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In everything we have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves us.
Romans 8:37
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:20
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Stepping Stones: What Does Your T-Shirt Say?
Transformational Tip
“No Fear” printed across t-shirts. Bumper stickers that question authority. Television programs flaunting rebellion. Movies that trivialize God. More drastic signs of rebellion…abortion, physician-assisted suicide, euthanasia. Sadly, these are all signs of our times.
We have gotten so caught up in our need to be in charge, to be the all-knowing one, to protect our needs and comfort above all else, that we have lost sight of the real authority that is worthy of respect and reverance.
Respect, reverence, and fear have become offensive words in our society. A lack of concern or respect for each other or for anyone in authority has led to rebellion, hatred, and even bloodshed. A lack of respect for mankind and other distorted attitudes can be traced to a lack of reverence toward God. To reverence the Lord means to treat God and his message with awe.
What are some ways we can show our respect and reverence to God? Noah did it by persevering in obedience, for 100 years building as ark, even in very difficult circumstances. Joseph and Daniel have great testimonies of revering and respecting God above all things.
Today, begin to put God first in your live…to have regular devotional times with Him…to live your day-to-day lives in a way that honors him. In the activities of your day, today, are you respecting and honoring God’s authority and His instruction for your life? People who don't know Jesus often judge Him by what they see in His followers. What do they learn about Jesus from your life? What’s on your t-shirt?
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community what’s on your t-shirt.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, It is my desire and goal to please You in everything I do. I know I have fallen short of this goal. Please help me to consistently live in such a way that others will sense Your love and will honor You and want to know You. Help them see me honor Your way and experience the blessings and fruit it brings me and for them to yearn for You. I pray this and all prayers through your Son and my savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.
Matthew 5:16
“No Fear” printed across t-shirts. Bumper stickers that question authority. Television programs flaunting rebellion. Movies that trivialize God. More drastic signs of rebellion…abortion, physician-assisted suicide, euthanasia. Sadly, these are all signs of our times.
We have gotten so caught up in our need to be in charge, to be the all-knowing one, to protect our needs and comfort above all else, that we have lost sight of the real authority that is worthy of respect and reverance.
Respect, reverence, and fear have become offensive words in our society. A lack of concern or respect for each other or for anyone in authority has led to rebellion, hatred, and even bloodshed. A lack of respect for mankind and other distorted attitudes can be traced to a lack of reverence toward God. To reverence the Lord means to treat God and his message with awe.
What are some ways we can show our respect and reverence to God? Noah did it by persevering in obedience, for 100 years building as ark, even in very difficult circumstances. Joseph and Daniel have great testimonies of revering and respecting God above all things.
Today, begin to put God first in your live…to have regular devotional times with Him…to live your day-to-day lives in a way that honors him. In the activities of your day, today, are you respecting and honoring God’s authority and His instruction for your life? People who don't know Jesus often judge Him by what they see in His followers. What do they learn about Jesus from your life? What’s on your t-shirt?
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community what’s on your t-shirt.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, It is my desire and goal to please You in everything I do. I know I have fallen short of this goal. Please help me to consistently live in such a way that others will sense Your love and will honor You and want to know You. Help them see me honor Your way and experience the blessings and fruit it brings me and for them to yearn for You. I pray this and all prayers through your Son and my savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.
Matthew 5:16
Friday, March 26, 2010
Stepping Stones: Are You Building a Tower?
Transformational Tip
Yesterday we talked about unity. Where there is unity, there is much strength… even if people are unified for the wrong reason.
After the flood in Genesis, the world had only one language. The people decided to build a great city with a tower that would go to the heavens. Why? Not to honor God, but to make a name for themselves, and to prevent being scattered over the face of the whole earth. Knowing that this would be an ongoing temptation for man, God confused the language of the people and scattered them all over the earth.
Unity in and of itself is not necessarily good...it is the object or cause that unifies that is important. We need to make sure we are pursuing Godly causes with Godly motives. The oneness we should seek must be in Christ, which honors our Savior.
These people were united, but their purpose was prideful and offensive to the holiness of God. They were seeking equality with God and divine acceptance through human effort.
If we unite to seek power or success, focusing solely on human effort, for human rewards, from human motivations, we displease God…and are destined to ultimately fail. This especially holds true for the church; we must be focused on Christ, not on the organization.
Today, take a look at who you are uniting with…for what goal…and with what motivation. Where is Jesus and the gospel in this pursuit? Be focused on honoring God, not yourself. Always recognize our total dependence on Him. Let us stand together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on building towers.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Forgive me for the times that I've united with others to accomplish something, focusing on selfish ambition and desires rather than honoring You and accomplishing Your will. Help me to always focus on You more than any organization or ambition. It is my desire and goal to honor You in all I do. I pray this and all prayers for the One teaches about true unity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Philippians 1:27
For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
Ephesians 4:12,13
Yesterday we talked about unity. Where there is unity, there is much strength… even if people are unified for the wrong reason.
After the flood in Genesis, the world had only one language. The people decided to build a great city with a tower that would go to the heavens. Why? Not to honor God, but to make a name for themselves, and to prevent being scattered over the face of the whole earth. Knowing that this would be an ongoing temptation for man, God confused the language of the people and scattered them all over the earth.
Unity in and of itself is not necessarily good...it is the object or cause that unifies that is important. We need to make sure we are pursuing Godly causes with Godly motives. The oneness we should seek must be in Christ, which honors our Savior.
These people were united, but their purpose was prideful and offensive to the holiness of God. They were seeking equality with God and divine acceptance through human effort.
If we unite to seek power or success, focusing solely on human effort, for human rewards, from human motivations, we displease God…and are destined to ultimately fail. This especially holds true for the church; we must be focused on Christ, not on the organization.
Today, take a look at who you are uniting with…for what goal…and with what motivation. Where is Jesus and the gospel in this pursuit? Be focused on honoring God, not yourself. Always recognize our total dependence on Him. Let us stand together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on building towers.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Forgive me for the times that I've united with others to accomplish something, focusing on selfish ambition and desires rather than honoring You and accomplishing Your will. Help me to always focus on You more than any organization or ambition. It is my desire and goal to honor You in all I do. I pray this and all prayers for the One teaches about true unity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News.
Philippians 1:27
For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
Ephesians 4:12,13
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Stepping Stones: How Selective is Your Club?
Transformational Tip
So many clubs exist which have very specific criteria for membership…the Italian Club…civic clubs like Rotary, Lions, and Kiwanis…Masons…Country Clubs…Labor Unions…Political Parties. Different companies are selective as are the Pittsburgh Steelers or the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. Colleges, med schools, the military…even families have criteria and selection processes for membership.
In today's world, harmony and tolerance have become goals within themselves. Peace at any cost…All ways lead to God… Live and let live. Such "tolerant" attitudes actually lead to intolerance of anyone who claims to have the answer.
Religions or moral “clubs”, or groups with a certain belief, seem to be treated differently. Having criteria, or a selection process seem to not be tolerated.
Jesus made it clear that He is the only way to God, the only way to real peace. In Isaiah 9:6 he is called the Prince of Peace. God calls us to love all people, but agreeing that other faiths can lead to God for us to seek unity and peace by is to deny our own faith…the teachings of God, Jesus, and the Holy Bible…and in doing so, we deny Jesus.
As Christians, we are not expressing Christ-like love when we are willing to accept the beliefs of those who deny Christ or live sinful lifestyles as OK…all for the sake of unity and peace. The Bible is clear about God, Jesus, and moral issues.
For such a double standard for “clubs” to exist, to me , this really shows the existence, power, and agenda of Satan, who wants people to believe being nice is all you need to be Holy…and engage with God by avoiding Christ.
Today, begin expressing Jesus' love by loving people where they are, by building relationships with them and…as the Holy Spirit leads; by sharing the truths of the Gospel with them. Jesus is the only answer. Don’t let anybody guilt you into thinking Christianity is the only club with selection criteria. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on expressing Christ-like love and recruiting new “club” members.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Help me to never deny my faith by accepting, for the sake of unity and peace, unscriptural beliefs by others. Help me love others, no matter what their faith. Help me love them enough to build relationships with them and, as the Holy Spirit leads, to share the truth of the Gospel with them…and to do so with love. Help me communicate in a way that all understand that Jesus is the only way. I pray this and all prayers through the One you sent to show us the way, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me."
John 14:6
So many clubs exist which have very specific criteria for membership…the Italian Club…civic clubs like Rotary, Lions, and Kiwanis…Masons…Country Clubs…Labor Unions…Political Parties. Different companies are selective as are the Pittsburgh Steelers or the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. Colleges, med schools, the military…even families have criteria and selection processes for membership.
In today's world, harmony and tolerance have become goals within themselves. Peace at any cost…All ways lead to God… Live and let live. Such "tolerant" attitudes actually lead to intolerance of anyone who claims to have the answer.
Religions or moral “clubs”, or groups with a certain belief, seem to be treated differently. Having criteria, or a selection process seem to not be tolerated.
Jesus made it clear that He is the only way to God, the only way to real peace. In Isaiah 9:6 he is called the Prince of Peace. God calls us to love all people, but agreeing that other faiths can lead to God for us to seek unity and peace by is to deny our own faith…the teachings of God, Jesus, and the Holy Bible…and in doing so, we deny Jesus.
As Christians, we are not expressing Christ-like love when we are willing to accept the beliefs of those who deny Christ or live sinful lifestyles as OK…all for the sake of unity and peace. The Bible is clear about God, Jesus, and moral issues.
For such a double standard for “clubs” to exist, to me , this really shows the existence, power, and agenda of Satan, who wants people to believe being nice is all you need to be Holy…and engage with God by avoiding Christ.
Today, begin expressing Jesus' love by loving people where they are, by building relationships with them and…as the Holy Spirit leads; by sharing the truths of the Gospel with them. Jesus is the only answer. Don’t let anybody guilt you into thinking Christianity is the only club with selection criteria. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on expressing Christ-like love and recruiting new “club” members.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Help me to never deny my faith by accepting, for the sake of unity and peace, unscriptural beliefs by others. Help me love others, no matter what their faith. Help me love them enough to build relationships with them and, as the Holy Spirit leads, to share the truth of the Gospel with them…and to do so with love. Help me communicate in a way that all understand that Jesus is the only way. I pray this and all prayers through the One you sent to show us the way, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me."
John 14:6
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Stepping Stones: One Step at a Time…It’s a Journey
Transformational Tip
Some days are so busy…hectic…actually, crazy. The world keeps on coming at me…phone calls, requests, glitches in the plan, mail…these never seem to slow down. In fact, as I get older, the demands on me come faster. Feelings and perspective of being so far behind easily wrap their fingers around my neck…slowly choking me.
For some people there are occasional days, that the grip is so tight, things seem hopeless. For others, it’s an endless string of helpless or hopeless days. The end to these feelings or days is hard to visualize and experience.
Some of the problem is how we measure “behind” or “ahead”. We often get sucked into the world’s standard or metrics. We have limited control over some of the demands coming our way so how can we actually measure something we don’t control to determine progress. What we do control is how we respond to what comes our way…and that’s how we should measure progress.
The answer…measure how well your response to the demands and twists of life is rooted in being focused on God. He will bring peace, comfort, answers, and walk with you through the busyness and demands. He promises to be our guide along the journey, so measure how well you follow your guide.
Ask God to clear your thinking and remove any obstacles that may exist in your relationship with him. Perhaps you have made some poor decisions or used bad judgment. God is there to forgive you and help you get back on track.
Today and every day, remind that life is a journey…a series of steps. Remember that you can create the environment for change, but God does the changing. And the Bible assures us that with Him, all things are possible. Let Him be your guide.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of how you grade progress on your journey.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank you for being my constant guide. Help me be sensitive…and obedient…to your guidance. Give me eyes that see and ears that hear Your leading…Your nudging…Your encouragement. Also, when I am off course and in dangerous detours, let me be open to Your need to redirect me back on track even if You need to forcibly push me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For that is what God is like. He is our God forever and ever, and he will guide us until we die."
Psalm 48:14
Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Matthew 19:26
Some days are so busy…hectic…actually, crazy. The world keeps on coming at me…phone calls, requests, glitches in the plan, mail…these never seem to slow down. In fact, as I get older, the demands on me come faster. Feelings and perspective of being so far behind easily wrap their fingers around my neck…slowly choking me.
For some people there are occasional days, that the grip is so tight, things seem hopeless. For others, it’s an endless string of helpless or hopeless days. The end to these feelings or days is hard to visualize and experience.
Some of the problem is how we measure “behind” or “ahead”. We often get sucked into the world’s standard or metrics. We have limited control over some of the demands coming our way so how can we actually measure something we don’t control to determine progress. What we do control is how we respond to what comes our way…and that’s how we should measure progress.
The answer…measure how well your response to the demands and twists of life is rooted in being focused on God. He will bring peace, comfort, answers, and walk with you through the busyness and demands. He promises to be our guide along the journey, so measure how well you follow your guide.
Ask God to clear your thinking and remove any obstacles that may exist in your relationship with him. Perhaps you have made some poor decisions or used bad judgment. God is there to forgive you and help you get back on track.
Today and every day, remind that life is a journey…a series of steps. Remember that you can create the environment for change, but God does the changing. And the Bible assures us that with Him, all things are possible. Let Him be your guide.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of how you grade progress on your journey.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank you for being my constant guide. Help me be sensitive…and obedient…to your guidance. Give me eyes that see and ears that hear Your leading…Your nudging…Your encouragement. Also, when I am off course and in dangerous detours, let me be open to Your need to redirect me back on track even if You need to forcibly push me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For that is what God is like. He is our God forever and ever, and he will guide us until we die."
Psalm 48:14
Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Matthew 19:26
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Stepping Stones: Accomplishments and Failures…or Jesus?
Transformational Tip
We all have done things we wish we could take back. Maybe we've lived a sinful lifestyle, been selfish and unkind, or just experienced a lot of failure in our life. Maybe we still struggle in relationships, anxieties, guilt, shame, and “what ifs”.
But on the other hand, maybe we've lived a pretty good life and achieved a high level of success. We really like being defined by that. We like feeling good about what we've done. We like the praise and admiration of others.
But you know what? Our accomplishments aren't really that impressive to God. He sees our hearts. He knows that they are not always pure. Praise God that he doesn't define us by what we've done…regardless of how good or bad it’s been…but He judges us by whether we accept what Christ did for us. He knows that we need Jesus. We need to know that, too.
He died on the cross so that our sins could be forgiven. And when we believe and accept the sacrifice he made for us, we are cleansed. Then God sees us as though we have never sinned! And that's our new identity ... a follower of Christ, clothed in his righteousness.
We are defined not by our accomplishments or failures, but by who we are in Christ. All the accomplishments in the world don't mean a thing when it comes to getting right with God and spending eternity with him. We just can't do enough to earn our way…that's why we need Jesus.
Today, if you are not a fully committed follower of Christ, you can make that decision right now. No matter what your past ... no matter how good or bad your behavior...you need Jesus. He loves you and is reaching out to you right now. Do you want to meet Him? Just tell Him that you know you need Him...and that you want to follow Him. Why wouldn’t you want Jesus in your life? He is ready ... are you?
If you are a Christian, rejoice in that like you did the day you accepted Jesus in your life. Send this to someone you love who needs Jesus, and follow it with a phone call to discuss sending this blessing. Click here for more information on accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I believe that your Son died for my sins. Please forgive me for all my past. I'm ready for a change. I want to follow You... and do things Your way. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the one who died so that I may have eternity with the only God, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard. Yet God, with undeserved kindness, declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.
Romans 3:23-24
We all have done things we wish we could take back. Maybe we've lived a sinful lifestyle, been selfish and unkind, or just experienced a lot of failure in our life. Maybe we still struggle in relationships, anxieties, guilt, shame, and “what ifs”.
But on the other hand, maybe we've lived a pretty good life and achieved a high level of success. We really like being defined by that. We like feeling good about what we've done. We like the praise and admiration of others.
But you know what? Our accomplishments aren't really that impressive to God. He sees our hearts. He knows that they are not always pure. Praise God that he doesn't define us by what we've done…regardless of how good or bad it’s been…but He judges us by whether we accept what Christ did for us. He knows that we need Jesus. We need to know that, too.
He died on the cross so that our sins could be forgiven. And when we believe and accept the sacrifice he made for us, we are cleansed. Then God sees us as though we have never sinned! And that's our new identity ... a follower of Christ, clothed in his righteousness.
We are defined not by our accomplishments or failures, but by who we are in Christ. All the accomplishments in the world don't mean a thing when it comes to getting right with God and spending eternity with him. We just can't do enough to earn our way…that's why we need Jesus.
Today, if you are not a fully committed follower of Christ, you can make that decision right now. No matter what your past ... no matter how good or bad your behavior...you need Jesus. He loves you and is reaching out to you right now. Do you want to meet Him? Just tell Him that you know you need Him...and that you want to follow Him. Why wouldn’t you want Jesus in your life? He is ready ... are you?
If you are a Christian, rejoice in that like you did the day you accepted Jesus in your life. Send this to someone you love who needs Jesus, and follow it with a phone call to discuss sending this blessing. Click here for more information on accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I believe that your Son died for my sins. Please forgive me for all my past. I'm ready for a change. I want to follow You... and do things Your way. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the one who died so that I may have eternity with the only God, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard. Yet God, with undeserved kindness, declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.
Romans 3:23-24
Monday, March 22, 2010
Stepping Stones: Friends or Fools?
Transformational Tip
As I look back over my childhood, I recall my mother paying close attention to who I selected as friends. If she saw me making friends with someone she thought was not a healthy relationship, she would gently wean me away from that person. She would tell me that God would always provide two new great friends for every not-so-good-friend that I lost.
Today's scripture makes it clear that our choice of friends plays a vital role in our lives. This is especially true for teenagers. They are no longer a child, but they are not yet an adult. To fit in, feel valued, develop their “own” identity separate from their parents, or try to figure out who they are, teens tend to pick up many of the values, as well as characteristics, of their friends.
This is a difficult age for teens. They don't understand their limitations and underestimate or not recognize many dangers. Parents can allow them to make many more independent decisions than in the past, but must enforce boundaries where there are activities or relationships that could cause them harm.
Recognize the peer pressure that will be placed on your teen, and offer alternative answers. Do not "put down" your child's friends, but rather encourage godly relationships.
Church attendance is very important and should not be optional. Church youth groups can be invaluable sources of godly friends and activities. Encourage your teen to take part in these. Strongly encourage involvement in extra-curricular activities. Sports, band, specialty clubs, dance or music lessons are all possibilities for healthy involvement.
Today, focus on being involved as a family in Godly activities with Godly people having kids the same age as your teenager. Don't have ungodly relationships yourself…your teen will perceive the hypocrisy. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the importance of Godly relationships for our children.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Lead my children, regardless of their age, into relationships that will influence them in a positive way. Give me wisdom to guide them and courage to protect them. Help me love the friends of whom I do not approve and remember to pray for them also. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Your Son, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.
Proverbs 13:20
Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble.
1 John 2:9,10
As I look back over my childhood, I recall my mother paying close attention to who I selected as friends. If she saw me making friends with someone she thought was not a healthy relationship, she would gently wean me away from that person. She would tell me that God would always provide two new great friends for every not-so-good-friend that I lost.
Today's scripture makes it clear that our choice of friends plays a vital role in our lives. This is especially true for teenagers. They are no longer a child, but they are not yet an adult. To fit in, feel valued, develop their “own” identity separate from their parents, or try to figure out who they are, teens tend to pick up many of the values, as well as characteristics, of their friends.
This is a difficult age for teens. They don't understand their limitations and underestimate or not recognize many dangers. Parents can allow them to make many more independent decisions than in the past, but must enforce boundaries where there are activities or relationships that could cause them harm.
Recognize the peer pressure that will be placed on your teen, and offer alternative answers. Do not "put down" your child's friends, but rather encourage godly relationships.
Church attendance is very important and should not be optional. Church youth groups can be invaluable sources of godly friends and activities. Encourage your teen to take part in these. Strongly encourage involvement in extra-curricular activities. Sports, band, specialty clubs, dance or music lessons are all possibilities for healthy involvement.
Today, focus on being involved as a family in Godly activities with Godly people having kids the same age as your teenager. Don't have ungodly relationships yourself…your teen will perceive the hypocrisy. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the importance of Godly relationships for our children.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Lead my children, regardless of their age, into relationships that will influence them in a positive way. Give me wisdom to guide them and courage to protect them. Help me love the friends of whom I do not approve and remember to pray for them also. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Your Son, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.
Proverbs 13:20
Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble.
1 John 2:9,10
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Stepping Stones: Great and Abundant is His Stability
Transformational Tip
Life is filled with many kinds of losses. All losses hurt, whether they are big ones or little ones. We recover quickly from some losses…others take months, even years to absorb. Some losses are temporary while others are permanent.
In today's environment of business closings and downsizing, many are facing the loss of their job. This kind of loss can be devastating to anyone, especially the breadwinner of a family. Even if it is a second job, it may represent a threat to survival.
Job loss can produce many emotions, but fear is usually at the root of any response. Will I lose my home? My child is leaving for college this fall—will I have to break the news that it will be impossible? We have built up credit card debt trying to keep our heads above water… what now? Who will respect me?
These and many other concerns are very real and can seem extremely threatening. If we keep our eyes on the waves of hardship, we will sink into despair and hopelessness. This is a time when it is difficult…but imperative…to focus on Jesus, not on the problems. This is a time to remember that He, not our job, is our source of value, peace, security, comfort, redemption, abundance.
We may go through some real challenges. We may have to tighten our belts and make some sacrifices. These struggles are not easy, but with Jesus we can find hope. Our job may be gone. The economy may be falling apart. But God has not changed. It is because of his mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed.
Today, dig into the areas where you struggle. What is the fear at the bottom of that? Infuse Jesus’ teachings into your fear, then re-evaluate your struggle. Remember that great and abundant is His stability and faithfulness. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community where you find your stability.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, This job loss has left me feeling angry and fearful. Help me to regroup…to remember that You are here, that You love me and my family, and that You have a plan. Help me remember that You have not been taken by surprise and that You have already made a way for us. Thank You that Your compassion never fails and that Your stability and faithfulness are abundant. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the who provides my stability, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
It is because of the Lord's mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great and abundant is Your stability and faithfulness.
Lamentations 3:22-23
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
John 10:10
Life is filled with many kinds of losses. All losses hurt, whether they are big ones or little ones. We recover quickly from some losses…others take months, even years to absorb. Some losses are temporary while others are permanent.
In today's environment of business closings and downsizing, many are facing the loss of their job. This kind of loss can be devastating to anyone, especially the breadwinner of a family. Even if it is a second job, it may represent a threat to survival.
Job loss can produce many emotions, but fear is usually at the root of any response. Will I lose my home? My child is leaving for college this fall—will I have to break the news that it will be impossible? We have built up credit card debt trying to keep our heads above water… what now? Who will respect me?
These and many other concerns are very real and can seem extremely threatening. If we keep our eyes on the waves of hardship, we will sink into despair and hopelessness. This is a time when it is difficult…but imperative…to focus on Jesus, not on the problems. This is a time to remember that He, not our job, is our source of value, peace, security, comfort, redemption, abundance.
We may go through some real challenges. We may have to tighten our belts and make some sacrifices. These struggles are not easy, but with Jesus we can find hope. Our job may be gone. The economy may be falling apart. But God has not changed. It is because of his mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed.
Today, dig into the areas where you struggle. What is the fear at the bottom of that? Infuse Jesus’ teachings into your fear, then re-evaluate your struggle. Remember that great and abundant is His stability and faithfulness. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community where you find your stability.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, This job loss has left me feeling angry and fearful. Help me to regroup…to remember that You are here, that You love me and my family, and that You have a plan. Help me remember that You have not been taken by surprise and that You have already made a way for us. Thank You that Your compassion never fails and that Your stability and faithfulness are abundant. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the who provides my stability, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
It is because of the Lord's mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great and abundant is Your stability and faithfulness.
Lamentations 3:22-23
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
John 10:10
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Stepping Stones: Carsick on Your Spiritual Journey?
Transformational Tip
Have you ever been carsick? The primary reason for car sickness is because as the car races along, passengers are not able to focus on a solid object. The one person in a car who almost never gets sick is the driver. Why?
The driver is focused on the road ahead, looking intently at the solid objects outside the car that aren't bouncing and turning. He or she has a good sense of where the horizon is.
The main problem is the conflicting data between our eyes, our inner ear motion receptors, and the motion receptors throughout our body in the tissues below our skin. When we intentionally walk, all these 3 areas are in sinc and focused on a common motion task, therefore motion sickness doesn’t exist.
The key is in the word focus. When we are focused…intentionally walking forward and not distracted in several different directions…or not confusing our inner systems, no motion sickness will occur. Are we focusing on Christ…who never changes…or are we focusing on the circumstances that keep turning and swirling and change with each wind that blows? Focusing on Jesus will bring much-needed direction and get rid of some of the motion sickness we experience on our spiritual journey.
Today, are you focusing on circumstances? Have you become a caretaker of another person's problem? What about how your time is spent? Your priorities in life? Your daily schedule? Your health? Your time alone with God? Your involvement at church? Your friendships? Has your value system been compromised? Is your life out of balance? Re-orient and focus back on the cross and God’s promises, bring these lenses to those trouble areas. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on spiritual carsickness.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I know I have been focusing too much on problems instead of on Jesus. And as the circumstances around me change, I have become confused and discouraged…I am almost constanly “car sick.” Help me fix my eyes on Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the one who focused only on You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Hebrews 12:2
Have you ever been carsick? The primary reason for car sickness is because as the car races along, passengers are not able to focus on a solid object. The one person in a car who almost never gets sick is the driver. Why?
The driver is focused on the road ahead, looking intently at the solid objects outside the car that aren't bouncing and turning. He or she has a good sense of where the horizon is.
The main problem is the conflicting data between our eyes, our inner ear motion receptors, and the motion receptors throughout our body in the tissues below our skin. When we intentionally walk, all these 3 areas are in sinc and focused on a common motion task, therefore motion sickness doesn’t exist.
The key is in the word focus. When we are focused…intentionally walking forward and not distracted in several different directions…or not confusing our inner systems, no motion sickness will occur. Are we focusing on Christ…who never changes…or are we focusing on the circumstances that keep turning and swirling and change with each wind that blows? Focusing on Jesus will bring much-needed direction and get rid of some of the motion sickness we experience on our spiritual journey.
Today, are you focusing on circumstances? Have you become a caretaker of another person's problem? What about how your time is spent? Your priorities in life? Your daily schedule? Your health? Your time alone with God? Your involvement at church? Your friendships? Has your value system been compromised? Is your life out of balance? Re-orient and focus back on the cross and God’s promises, bring these lenses to those trouble areas. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on spiritual carsickness.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I know I have been focusing too much on problems instead of on Jesus. And as the circumstances around me change, I have become confused and discouraged…I am almost constanly “car sick.” Help me fix my eyes on Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the one who focused only on You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Hebrews 12:2
Friday, March 19, 2010
Stepping Stones: Loving One Another
Transformational Tip:
Conflict, such a powerful word…conjuring up many different feelings and tapes in our head. In today’s scripture, Paul exhorts believers to agree with one another, to love each other and to work together with one mind and purpose.
Jesus’ last instructions, moments before he ascended to heaven, leave no doubt what the church is to be doing: “And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”
If we are to be effective witnesses, as Christians, we need to work together with one mind and purpose (the mind of Christ). Our witness can be hurt…and even destroyed…if we are involved in pride, bickering, gossip and other habits that can only lead to strife and division. We need to set aside personality conflicts, social differences, cliquishness and anything else that divides us and keeps us from accomplishing God’s purpose for us and those we are to minister to on His behalf.
Conflict is more complex than this, but attitude and focus…my kingdom come, my will be done or Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done mentality is what steers the process to a fleshly demise or a God-glorifying experience.
Today, think of an area in your life in which you are experiencing division with a sister or brother in Christ. Are you putting Christ in the center…your greatest need should be to please God and honor Him, not ease your own discomfort. Acknowledge specifically an incident or situation where you have failed in the area of relationship. Prayerfully examine how pride might be playing a role in the division.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on witnessing.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Please forgive me for sometimes allowing pride or other wrongful attitudes to lead to division with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Help me to do my part in walking in unity so that we all might be more effective witnesses for Jesus and accomplish what You have called us to do. Help me build courage to withstand the pain, hurt, or anger I sometimes feel in conflicts, knowing You can provide more to me in that pain than in the good times. I pray this and all prayers for the one was the perfect witness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.
Philippians 2:2
Conflict, such a powerful word…conjuring up many different feelings and tapes in our head. In today’s scripture, Paul exhorts believers to agree with one another, to love each other and to work together with one mind and purpose.
Jesus’ last instructions, moments before he ascended to heaven, leave no doubt what the church is to be doing: “And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”
If we are to be effective witnesses, as Christians, we need to work together with one mind and purpose (the mind of Christ). Our witness can be hurt…and even destroyed…if we are involved in pride, bickering, gossip and other habits that can only lead to strife and division. We need to set aside personality conflicts, social differences, cliquishness and anything else that divides us and keeps us from accomplishing God’s purpose for us and those we are to minister to on His behalf.
Conflict is more complex than this, but attitude and focus…my kingdom come, my will be done or Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done mentality is what steers the process to a fleshly demise or a God-glorifying experience.
Today, think of an area in your life in which you are experiencing division with a sister or brother in Christ. Are you putting Christ in the center…your greatest need should be to please God and honor Him, not ease your own discomfort. Acknowledge specifically an incident or situation where you have failed in the area of relationship. Prayerfully examine how pride might be playing a role in the division.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on witnessing.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Please forgive me for sometimes allowing pride or other wrongful attitudes to lead to division with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Help me to do my part in walking in unity so that we all might be more effective witnesses for Jesus and accomplish what You have called us to do. Help me build courage to withstand the pain, hurt, or anger I sometimes feel in conflicts, knowing You can provide more to me in that pain than in the good times. I pray this and all prayers for the one was the perfect witness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.
Philippians 2:2
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Stepping Stones: Be Strong and Courageous
Transformational Tip
We have all experienced fear and discouragement at times. In today’s scripture God is speaking to Joshua, telling him to be strong and courageous. “Do not be afraid or discouraged.” How is this possible?
Joshua was faced with the tremendous responsibility of leading the Israelites into the Promised Land, conquering the land and setting up residence. There would be times of defeat…great challenges…biting criticism…and immense frustration. And yet God told him not to fear or be discouraged…“because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
What a wonderful promise! As we submit to God, making Jesus Lord of our life, we too can be assured that He will be with us wherever we go. He will protect us, comfort us, defend us, teach us, guide us, and love us unconditionally. No matter how bleak things might look, or what challenges or sorrows we face, we can know that our heavenly Father is with us…and that as we trust Him and walk in obedience, He will work all things together for our good and growth.
Are you feeling afraid or discouraged right now? Perhaps you don’t feel as though God is with you. The good news is that feelings can lie…but God’s promises are always true.
Today, no matter what your circumstances, you can be strong and courageous… think about where you get your confidence in everyday activities…or when the pressure is on. Does your confidence come from you?...if so, your confidence reserve is pretty shallow and will soon run out. Your confidence needs to come from God…His promises, teachings, and character.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on being strong and courageous.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank You that I can always count on You. Even though I don’t always sense Your presence, help me to remember from Your Word that You are always with me. Help me to focus on You, not on the circumstances. Help me to be strong and courageous. I pray this and all prayers for the one who teaches us how to be strong and courageous, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
This is my command - be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.
Joshua 1:9
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
We have all experienced fear and discouragement at times. In today’s scripture God is speaking to Joshua, telling him to be strong and courageous. “Do not be afraid or discouraged.” How is this possible?
Joshua was faced with the tremendous responsibility of leading the Israelites into the Promised Land, conquering the land and setting up residence. There would be times of defeat…great challenges…biting criticism…and immense frustration. And yet God told him not to fear or be discouraged…“because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
What a wonderful promise! As we submit to God, making Jesus Lord of our life, we too can be assured that He will be with us wherever we go. He will protect us, comfort us, defend us, teach us, guide us, and love us unconditionally. No matter how bleak things might look, or what challenges or sorrows we face, we can know that our heavenly Father is with us…and that as we trust Him and walk in obedience, He will work all things together for our good and growth.
Are you feeling afraid or discouraged right now? Perhaps you don’t feel as though God is with you. The good news is that feelings can lie…but God’s promises are always true.
Today, no matter what your circumstances, you can be strong and courageous… think about where you get your confidence in everyday activities…or when the pressure is on. Does your confidence come from you?...if so, your confidence reserve is pretty shallow and will soon run out. Your confidence needs to come from God…His promises, teachings, and character.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on being strong and courageous.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank You that I can always count on You. Even though I don’t always sense Your presence, help me to remember from Your Word that You are always with me. Help me to focus on You, not on the circumstances. Help me to be strong and courageous. I pray this and all prayers for the one who teaches us how to be strong and courageous, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
This is my command - be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.
Joshua 1:9
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Stepping Stones: For All Caregivers
Transformational Tip
God never promised us days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain…but He did promise strength to get through each day, comfort for the tears, and a lighthouse to guide the way. As you provide finances, care, comfort, or support for an aging parent, a spouse, or friend, turn to God for strength and hope.
While at times you might not understand why you and your family are facing these challenging times, if you seek God, you will find Him. He promises to hear your prayers and meet your needs. He is your source. He is the one who will make the impossible, possible.
I know my initial reaction often times is to do as much as I can…God did gift me with skills to solve problems…so I get after the problem. Then when I reach the end of my resources and skills, I call on God.
Too often we exhaust ourselves with our own efforts before we ask God for His help and provision for our needs. We focus on the need and become overwhelmed by it. He will help us, and he wants us to pray to Him for the strength, wisdom and resources to accomplish His will.
Today, take time to meditate on God's Word. The Bible has a great deal to say about aging and care giving concerns. You will find guidance, strength and hope. Open your Bible and spend quiet time with God every day. No matter how busy you are, determine to set aside that special time with Him. And remember that He is with you every moment of the day.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on care giving.
Prayer
Father, at times I get so weary, physically and emotionally. And sometimes I find myself turning everywhere else for help before coming to You. Help me to remember to always come to You first. I know that You are truly my source of strength. I pray this and all prayers for the one who is the ultimate care giver, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
Isaiah 40:31
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:31-34
God never promised us days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain…but He did promise strength to get through each day, comfort for the tears, and a lighthouse to guide the way. As you provide finances, care, comfort, or support for an aging parent, a spouse, or friend, turn to God for strength and hope.
While at times you might not understand why you and your family are facing these challenging times, if you seek God, you will find Him. He promises to hear your prayers and meet your needs. He is your source. He is the one who will make the impossible, possible.
I know my initial reaction often times is to do as much as I can…God did gift me with skills to solve problems…so I get after the problem. Then when I reach the end of my resources and skills, I call on God.
Too often we exhaust ourselves with our own efforts before we ask God for His help and provision for our needs. We focus on the need and become overwhelmed by it. He will help us, and he wants us to pray to Him for the strength, wisdom and resources to accomplish His will.
Today, take time to meditate on God's Word. The Bible has a great deal to say about aging and care giving concerns. You will find guidance, strength and hope. Open your Bible and spend quiet time with God every day. No matter how busy you are, determine to set aside that special time with Him. And remember that He is with you every moment of the day.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on care giving.
Prayer
Father, at times I get so weary, physically and emotionally. And sometimes I find myself turning everywhere else for help before coming to You. Help me to remember to always come to You first. I know that You are truly my source of strength. I pray this and all prayers for the one who is the ultimate care giver, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
Isaiah 40:31
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:31-34
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Stepping Stones: Are You Listening?
Transformational Tip
I have 3 great daughters, but sometimes I wonder about some of the decisions they make. Certainly, they weren’t listening to the advice I had given them. Who are they listening to?... and why were they listening to that advice. That “advisor” didn’t love them as much as I do…doesn’t know them as well as I do…doesn’t want the best for them as much as I do.
Well, what about you?...who are you listening to? We make between 5,000 and 10,000 decisions per day…seriously. When you make some of your decisions, which voice do you listen to?...the world and Satan’s prodding?...your flesh and my kingdom come agenda?...or God’s and the Holy Spirit’s still small voice and instruction manual, the Holy Bible?
In today's passage, God is lamenting the fact that no one is listening. You can feel the sadness in His heart as He speaks these words. He pleads with His people: Please listen to Me!
He is speaking to you!
These words were directed toward Israel, but God wants all of His children to listen. Jesus said, "My sheep listen to My voice."
Today, listen to God during your prayer time...and throughout the day. The Holy Spirit is constantly teaching, guiding, coaching, and warning us. God wants us to talk to Him. Practice being still. Clear the clutter Satan throws at you to muffle God’s voice. Open the Holy Bible and “read” His voice. It’s all about choices, whose voice will you listen to? Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on listening to God.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I am guilty of listening to some other voice and giving it lordship over my life…instead of You. Please forgive me. I know You have so much You are telling me through Your holy Spirit in me…through Your word, the Holy Bible, and through my circumstances. Please help me open the ears of my heart, my mind to Your frequency. I know Your plans for me are way better than those for myself…so in that moment of temptation, please give me eyes that see and follow you. I pray this in the name of the perfect listener, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Listen to me, O my people, while I give you stern warnings. O Israel, if you would only listen to me!…But no, my people wouldn’t listen…Oh, that my people would listen to me!
Psalm 81:8, 11, 13
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27
He has never wandered off to do his own thing; he has been right there, listening.
Psalm 22:24
I have 3 great daughters, but sometimes I wonder about some of the decisions they make. Certainly, they weren’t listening to the advice I had given them. Who are they listening to?... and why were they listening to that advice. That “advisor” didn’t love them as much as I do…doesn’t know them as well as I do…doesn’t want the best for them as much as I do.
Well, what about you?...who are you listening to? We make between 5,000 and 10,000 decisions per day…seriously. When you make some of your decisions, which voice do you listen to?...the world and Satan’s prodding?...your flesh and my kingdom come agenda?...or God’s and the Holy Spirit’s still small voice and instruction manual, the Holy Bible?
In today's passage, God is lamenting the fact that no one is listening. You can feel the sadness in His heart as He speaks these words. He pleads with His people: Please listen to Me!
He is speaking to you!
These words were directed toward Israel, but God wants all of His children to listen. Jesus said, "My sheep listen to My voice."
Today, listen to God during your prayer time...and throughout the day. The Holy Spirit is constantly teaching, guiding, coaching, and warning us. God wants us to talk to Him. Practice being still. Clear the clutter Satan throws at you to muffle God’s voice. Open the Holy Bible and “read” His voice. It’s all about choices, whose voice will you listen to? Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on listening to God.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I am guilty of listening to some other voice and giving it lordship over my life…instead of You. Please forgive me. I know You have so much You are telling me through Your holy Spirit in me…through Your word, the Holy Bible, and through my circumstances. Please help me open the ears of my heart, my mind to Your frequency. I know Your plans for me are way better than those for myself…so in that moment of temptation, please give me eyes that see and follow you. I pray this in the name of the perfect listener, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Listen to me, O my people, while I give you stern warnings. O Israel, if you would only listen to me!…But no, my people wouldn’t listen…Oh, that my people would listen to me!
Psalm 81:8, 11, 13
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27
He has never wandered off to do his own thing; he has been right there, listening.
Psalm 22:24
Monday, March 15, 2010
Stepping Stones: Taking Inventory
Transformational Tip
Business is very complicated and messy. Always in a rush…scurrying around. Good business owners slow life down, sort the pieces and count them. They take regular inventory of their stock. These inventories are a useful business-planning tool. Inventories can reveal growth or decline in business productivity…show possible obstacles to growth. Most importantly, they can assist business owners in making changes for a better future.
Life often moves faster than business, as the merry-go-round of life just constantly speeds up…till we hit the retirement home. Taking a regular inventory of our life can also be productive. It can help us answer questions about the directions our life is moving. Are we growing or declining in character development…in spiritual maturity. Are we moving toward our life goals, or are there hindering obstacles? Are we growing in our relationship with God? What changes do we need to make to move ahead more effectively?
Know that God loves you and he wants to help you eliminate those things in your life that may be hurting you…and others. But before He can help you, you must face up to the fact that these problems exist. Remember…Jesus is with you. He will not disappoint you in your time of personal searching.
Today, be determined to take inventory of your life. Consider your relationships with God, your family, your church, and your friends. Be honest. Ask God to help you see things as they really are…to face any obstacles, either in you or outside of you…without making excuses.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on taking a personal inventory.
Prayer
Dear Father, I confess is make mistakes. Instead of trying to sweep them under the carpet, help me take a good, honest look at myself. Help me see what is pleasing to You … and what is disappointing You. Help me understand a concrete strategy to really start to move forward in struggle areas of my life. Help me to reorder my life under You. I pray this the name of Your Son who always searched Himself well, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD
Lamentations 3:40
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Romans 12:3
Business is very complicated and messy. Always in a rush…scurrying around. Good business owners slow life down, sort the pieces and count them. They take regular inventory of their stock. These inventories are a useful business-planning tool. Inventories can reveal growth or decline in business productivity…show possible obstacles to growth. Most importantly, they can assist business owners in making changes for a better future.
Life often moves faster than business, as the merry-go-round of life just constantly speeds up…till we hit the retirement home. Taking a regular inventory of our life can also be productive. It can help us answer questions about the directions our life is moving. Are we growing or declining in character development…in spiritual maturity. Are we moving toward our life goals, or are there hindering obstacles? Are we growing in our relationship with God? What changes do we need to make to move ahead more effectively?
Know that God loves you and he wants to help you eliminate those things in your life that may be hurting you…and others. But before He can help you, you must face up to the fact that these problems exist. Remember…Jesus is with you. He will not disappoint you in your time of personal searching.
Today, be determined to take inventory of your life. Consider your relationships with God, your family, your church, and your friends. Be honest. Ask God to help you see things as they really are…to face any obstacles, either in you or outside of you…without making excuses.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on taking a personal inventory.
Prayer
Dear Father, I confess is make mistakes. Instead of trying to sweep them under the carpet, help me take a good, honest look at myself. Help me see what is pleasing to You … and what is disappointing You. Help me understand a concrete strategy to really start to move forward in struggle areas of my life. Help me to reorder my life under You. I pray this the name of Your Son who always searched Himself well, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD
Lamentations 3:40
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Romans 12:3
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Stepping Stones: Forgiveness: The Reason and the Responsibility
Transformational Tip
Forgiveness requires our facing the truth. The truth of Christ's forgiveness. The truth of our own need for forgiveness. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness and forgive those who have hurt us.
In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment…even when that means forgiving ourselves.
All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve…and because of Christ Jesus, when we turn to Him, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins.
How can we do less? Forgiven by the Lord, we have the power, the reason, and the responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is not a feeling we need to muster up, it is an actual choice we make. When you realize it is a choice, then you must assess, what are my options.
Door # 1: Don’t forgive, remain aloof, detached, or bitter, resentful, angry, vengeful. A terrible side effect is they still have power over you, because you need something from them…an apology, them to suffer or experience pain, a sacrifice, penance. You need to extract some payment from them…and they could withhold it as long as they want and play you like a puppet.
Door # 2: Forgive, let go of that bitterness, revenge, and entitlement. Freedom from the past and opportunity to grow something better with them or totally disconnect from them because now you don’t need anything from them to make the “transaction” complete. You have relieved them of their debt, so then cant “withhold” anything from you and string you along.
Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive…on our own that is. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone.
Today, If you are struggling to forgive, ask Jesus to help you. He loves you, He cares and He is able. Look at your other option. It is way more painful to not forgive than it is to forgive. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the reason and responsibility for forgiveness.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. Help me to face the truth…and then to forgive myself and others. Thank you for your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who paid for my forgiveness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
Forgiveness requires our facing the truth. The truth of Christ's forgiveness. The truth of our own need for forgiveness. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness and forgive those who have hurt us.
In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment…even when that means forgiving ourselves.
All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve…and because of Christ Jesus, when we turn to Him, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins.
How can we do less? Forgiven by the Lord, we have the power, the reason, and the responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is not a feeling we need to muster up, it is an actual choice we make. When you realize it is a choice, then you must assess, what are my options.
Door # 1: Don’t forgive, remain aloof, detached, or bitter, resentful, angry, vengeful. A terrible side effect is they still have power over you, because you need something from them…an apology, them to suffer or experience pain, a sacrifice, penance. You need to extract some payment from them…and they could withhold it as long as they want and play you like a puppet.
Door # 2: Forgive, let go of that bitterness, revenge, and entitlement. Freedom from the past and opportunity to grow something better with them or totally disconnect from them because now you don’t need anything from them to make the “transaction” complete. You have relieved them of their debt, so then cant “withhold” anything from you and string you along.
Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive…on our own that is. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone.
Today, If you are struggling to forgive, ask Jesus to help you. He loves you, He cares and He is able. Look at your other option. It is way more painful to not forgive than it is to forgive. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the reason and responsibility for forgiveness.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. Help me to face the truth…and then to forgive myself and others. Thank you for your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who paid for my forgiveness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Stepping Stones: Wound Salve: Forgiveness
Transformational Tip
We all experience setbacks and disappointments in life. Sometimes small ones that we shrug off, learn from, and move on. But sometimes disappointments have more impact. They stay with us, causing the past to haunt our present…and future.
The setback could be anything; bankruptcy…a failed marriage…termination from a job…a poor decision…a friendship gone sour. Or it might be losing a parent at a young age. Or the death of a spouse or someone else we cared for deeply. Rejection, by parents, teachers, peers, the popular group, a crush, employers…
whether small or large…tend to inflict wounds. Unless really processed…who can really do that as a young kid…will periodically be opened and ooze when we encounter present day wounds, either in our lives or noticing them in others or in media.
A natural tendency when we have suffered a wound is to place blame. Perhaps we hold another person responsible. Sometimes we blame ourselves. We might even get angry with God. Anger is OK, bitterness, revenge, helplessness are not. These are a few signs that forgiveness hasn’t taken place.
God has promised us a future and a hope, but unforgiveness can block our ability to experience all the freedom and healing, from past wounds and their insidious ripples, that He has planned for us. As long as we are unwilling to forgive, the disappointment of the past has control over our lives, and we cannot move forward.
Today, focus on forgiving those who have hurt you…It's also time to forgive yourself. God has so don’t be so prideful to think you could never forgive yourself. It's time to open our hearts to the love and forgiveness of our heavenly Father. And then it will be time to move on to the wonderful plans he has for you.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the gift of forgiveness.
Prayer
Father, help me to truly put the past behind and look forward to what lies ahead. Thank You for forgiving my sins. Help me to walk in the gift of forgiveness…for others and myself. Help to search those past wounds with different lenses of an adult, growing in the knowledge and skills of Christ. Guide my learning from them and application to produce the good works, inside and outside that you have prepared me for, even through those past wounds. I pray this hrough the one who gave his life to have my sins forgiven, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.
Acts 26:18
We all experience setbacks and disappointments in life. Sometimes small ones that we shrug off, learn from, and move on. But sometimes disappointments have more impact. They stay with us, causing the past to haunt our present…and future.
The setback could be anything; bankruptcy…a failed marriage…termination from a job…a poor decision…a friendship gone sour. Or it might be losing a parent at a young age. Or the death of a spouse or someone else we cared for deeply. Rejection, by parents, teachers, peers, the popular group, a crush, employers…
whether small or large…tend to inflict wounds. Unless really processed…who can really do that as a young kid…will periodically be opened and ooze when we encounter present day wounds, either in our lives or noticing them in others or in media.
A natural tendency when we have suffered a wound is to place blame. Perhaps we hold another person responsible. Sometimes we blame ourselves. We might even get angry with God. Anger is OK, bitterness, revenge, helplessness are not. These are a few signs that forgiveness hasn’t taken place.
God has promised us a future and a hope, but unforgiveness can block our ability to experience all the freedom and healing, from past wounds and their insidious ripples, that He has planned for us. As long as we are unwilling to forgive, the disappointment of the past has control over our lives, and we cannot move forward.
Today, focus on forgiving those who have hurt you…It's also time to forgive yourself. God has so don’t be so prideful to think you could never forgive yourself. It's time to open our hearts to the love and forgiveness of our heavenly Father. And then it will be time to move on to the wonderful plans he has for you.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the gift of forgiveness.
Prayer
Father, help me to truly put the past behind and look forward to what lies ahead. Thank You for forgiving my sins. Help me to walk in the gift of forgiveness…for others and myself. Help to search those past wounds with different lenses of an adult, growing in the knowledge and skills of Christ. Guide my learning from them and application to produce the good works, inside and outside that you have prepared me for, even through those past wounds. I pray this hrough the one who gave his life to have my sins forgiven, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.
Acts 26:18
Friday, March 12, 2010
Stepping Stones: Enabling: Good Intentions Gone Wrong
Transformational Tip
When someone we love is in the grip of a harmful substance or behavior, we naturally want to help. In spite of our best intentions, our efforts are sometimes harmful rather than helpful. Enabling is good intentions gone wrong.
Enabling allows people to continue in their self-destructive behaviors without feeling the painful consequences that might convince them to stop before the problem spirals out of control. Today's Scripture cautions us that if we rescue a person from the consequences of his or her choices, we'll just have to do it again … and again.
This is where nagging is often born. With our kids, we don’t want them to miss the bus, so we are nagging them through the morning to keep moving, get to the next task from bed to out the door. We believe we are protecting them from the consequences of missing the bus, but we are actually interfering with their growth and development of autonomy and personal responsibility. That’s is what natural consequences build.
Do you find yourself covering up the behavior of a friend or loved one, or bailing them out of trouble? You might make excuses for them or even blame yourself for their problem. And it's very easy to give them "one more chance"…over and over again. These are common examples of enabling.
A big component is our ability to tolerate those negative feelings in others or ourselves that are generated when someone is struggling and faces potential consequences.
Today, be mindful that your responsibility to your troubled loved ones is to be supportive and facilitate their growth, not to inhibit it. You need to empathize and pray for, but not fix…to encourage, but not protect(within reason). We must allow them to learn from the consequences of their actions and not rescue them. All of us need to look at whether we are helping…or harming…the struggling people in our lives. And then we can begin the process of being a supporter instead of an enabler. Let God determine the consequences, not you. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “good intentions gone wrong.”
Prayer
Dear God, it's so hard not try to fix my loved one's problems. But when I come to the rescue instead of letting him suffer the consequences of his actions, I do find that I have to come to the rescue again and again. Nothing really gets fixed. Teach me to be a supporter instead of an enabler. Help me guide them to You…help me to trust You more. Give me the peace to tolerate my uneasiness and their discomfort to allow the consequences and lesson You have for them play out. I pray this for the one who gives me strength in all circumstances, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
Proverbs 19:19
And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. "But when he came to himself, he said, 'How many of my father's hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you.
Luke 15:16-18
When someone we love is in the grip of a harmful substance or behavior, we naturally want to help. In spite of our best intentions, our efforts are sometimes harmful rather than helpful. Enabling is good intentions gone wrong.
Enabling allows people to continue in their self-destructive behaviors without feeling the painful consequences that might convince them to stop before the problem spirals out of control. Today's Scripture cautions us that if we rescue a person from the consequences of his or her choices, we'll just have to do it again … and again.
This is where nagging is often born. With our kids, we don’t want them to miss the bus, so we are nagging them through the morning to keep moving, get to the next task from bed to out the door. We believe we are protecting them from the consequences of missing the bus, but we are actually interfering with their growth and development of autonomy and personal responsibility. That’s is what natural consequences build.
Do you find yourself covering up the behavior of a friend or loved one, or bailing them out of trouble? You might make excuses for them or even blame yourself for their problem. And it's very easy to give them "one more chance"…over and over again. These are common examples of enabling.
A big component is our ability to tolerate those negative feelings in others or ourselves that are generated when someone is struggling and faces potential consequences.
Today, be mindful that your responsibility to your troubled loved ones is to be supportive and facilitate their growth, not to inhibit it. You need to empathize and pray for, but not fix…to encourage, but not protect(within reason). We must allow them to learn from the consequences of their actions and not rescue them. All of us need to look at whether we are helping…or harming…the struggling people in our lives. And then we can begin the process of being a supporter instead of an enabler. Let God determine the consequences, not you. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “good intentions gone wrong.”
Prayer
Dear God, it's so hard not try to fix my loved one's problems. But when I come to the rescue instead of letting him suffer the consequences of his actions, I do find that I have to come to the rescue again and again. Nothing really gets fixed. Teach me to be a supporter instead of an enabler. Help me guide them to You…help me to trust You more. Give me the peace to tolerate my uneasiness and their discomfort to allow the consequences and lesson You have for them play out. I pray this for the one who gives me strength in all circumstances, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
Proverbs 19:19
And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. "But when he came to himself, he said, 'How many of my father's hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you.
Luke 15:16-18
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