Transformational Tip
Life is filled with many kinds of losses. All losses hurt, whether they are big ones or little ones. We recover quickly from some losses…others take months, even years to absorb. Some losses are temporary while others are permanent.
In today's environment of business closings and downsizing, many are facing the loss of their job. This kind of loss can be devastating to anyone, especially the breadwinner of a family. Even if it is a second job, it may represent a threat to survival.
Job loss can produce many emotions, but fear is usually at the root of any response. Will I lose my home? My child is leaving for college this fall—will I have to break the news that it will be impossible? We have built up credit card debt trying to keep our heads above water… what now? Who will respect me?
These and many other concerns are very real and can seem extremely threatening. If we keep our eyes on the waves of hardship, we will sink into despair and hopelessness. This is a time when it is difficult…but imperative…to focus on Jesus, not on the problems. This is a time to remember that He, not our job, is our source of value, peace, security, comfort, redemption, abundance.
We may go through some real challenges. We may have to tighten our belts and make some sacrifices. These struggles are not easy, but with Jesus we can find hope. Our job may be gone. The economy may be falling apart. But God has not changed. It is because of his mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed.
Today, dig into the areas where you struggle. What is the fear at the bottom of that? Infuse Jesus’ teachings into your fear, then re-evaluate your struggle. Remember that great and abundant is His stability and faithfulness. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community where you find your stability.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, This job loss has left me feeling angry and fearful. Help me to regroup…to remember that You are here, that You love me and my family, and that You have a plan. Help me remember that You have not been taken by surprise and that You have already made a way for us. Thank You that Your compassion never fails and that Your stability and faithfulness are abundant. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the who provides my stability, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
It is because of the Lord's mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great and abundant is Your stability and faithfulness.
Lamentations 3:22-23
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
John 10:10
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Stepping Stones: Carsick on Your Spiritual Journey?
Transformational Tip
Have you ever been carsick? The primary reason for car sickness is because as the car races along, passengers are not able to focus on a solid object. The one person in a car who almost never gets sick is the driver. Why?
The driver is focused on the road ahead, looking intently at the solid objects outside the car that aren't bouncing and turning. He or she has a good sense of where the horizon is.
The main problem is the conflicting data between our eyes, our inner ear motion receptors, and the motion receptors throughout our body in the tissues below our skin. When we intentionally walk, all these 3 areas are in sinc and focused on a common motion task, therefore motion sickness doesn’t exist.
The key is in the word focus. When we are focused…intentionally walking forward and not distracted in several different directions…or not confusing our inner systems, no motion sickness will occur. Are we focusing on Christ…who never changes…or are we focusing on the circumstances that keep turning and swirling and change with each wind that blows? Focusing on Jesus will bring much-needed direction and get rid of some of the motion sickness we experience on our spiritual journey.
Today, are you focusing on circumstances? Have you become a caretaker of another person's problem? What about how your time is spent? Your priorities in life? Your daily schedule? Your health? Your time alone with God? Your involvement at church? Your friendships? Has your value system been compromised? Is your life out of balance? Re-orient and focus back on the cross and God’s promises, bring these lenses to those trouble areas. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on spiritual carsickness.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I know I have been focusing too much on problems instead of on Jesus. And as the circumstances around me change, I have become confused and discouraged…I am almost constanly “car sick.” Help me fix my eyes on Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the one who focused only on You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Hebrews 12:2
Have you ever been carsick? The primary reason for car sickness is because as the car races along, passengers are not able to focus on a solid object. The one person in a car who almost never gets sick is the driver. Why?
The driver is focused on the road ahead, looking intently at the solid objects outside the car that aren't bouncing and turning. He or she has a good sense of where the horizon is.
The main problem is the conflicting data between our eyes, our inner ear motion receptors, and the motion receptors throughout our body in the tissues below our skin. When we intentionally walk, all these 3 areas are in sinc and focused on a common motion task, therefore motion sickness doesn’t exist.
The key is in the word focus. When we are focused…intentionally walking forward and not distracted in several different directions…or not confusing our inner systems, no motion sickness will occur. Are we focusing on Christ…who never changes…or are we focusing on the circumstances that keep turning and swirling and change with each wind that blows? Focusing on Jesus will bring much-needed direction and get rid of some of the motion sickness we experience on our spiritual journey.
Today, are you focusing on circumstances? Have you become a caretaker of another person's problem? What about how your time is spent? Your priorities in life? Your daily schedule? Your health? Your time alone with God? Your involvement at church? Your friendships? Has your value system been compromised? Is your life out of balance? Re-orient and focus back on the cross and God’s promises, bring these lenses to those trouble areas. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on spiritual carsickness.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I know I have been focusing too much on problems instead of on Jesus. And as the circumstances around me change, I have become confused and discouraged…I am almost constanly “car sick.” Help me fix my eyes on Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the one who focused only on You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Hebrews 12:2
Friday, March 19, 2010
Stepping Stones: Loving One Another
Transformational Tip:
Conflict, such a powerful word…conjuring up many different feelings and tapes in our head. In today’s scripture, Paul exhorts believers to agree with one another, to love each other and to work together with one mind and purpose.
Jesus’ last instructions, moments before he ascended to heaven, leave no doubt what the church is to be doing: “And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”
If we are to be effective witnesses, as Christians, we need to work together with one mind and purpose (the mind of Christ). Our witness can be hurt…and even destroyed…if we are involved in pride, bickering, gossip and other habits that can only lead to strife and division. We need to set aside personality conflicts, social differences, cliquishness and anything else that divides us and keeps us from accomplishing God’s purpose for us and those we are to minister to on His behalf.
Conflict is more complex than this, but attitude and focus…my kingdom come, my will be done or Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done mentality is what steers the process to a fleshly demise or a God-glorifying experience.
Today, think of an area in your life in which you are experiencing division with a sister or brother in Christ. Are you putting Christ in the center…your greatest need should be to please God and honor Him, not ease your own discomfort. Acknowledge specifically an incident or situation where you have failed in the area of relationship. Prayerfully examine how pride might be playing a role in the division.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on witnessing.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Please forgive me for sometimes allowing pride or other wrongful attitudes to lead to division with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Help me to do my part in walking in unity so that we all might be more effective witnesses for Jesus and accomplish what You have called us to do. Help me build courage to withstand the pain, hurt, or anger I sometimes feel in conflicts, knowing You can provide more to me in that pain than in the good times. I pray this and all prayers for the one was the perfect witness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.
Philippians 2:2
Conflict, such a powerful word…conjuring up many different feelings and tapes in our head. In today’s scripture, Paul exhorts believers to agree with one another, to love each other and to work together with one mind and purpose.
Jesus’ last instructions, moments before he ascended to heaven, leave no doubt what the church is to be doing: “And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”
If we are to be effective witnesses, as Christians, we need to work together with one mind and purpose (the mind of Christ). Our witness can be hurt…and even destroyed…if we are involved in pride, bickering, gossip and other habits that can only lead to strife and division. We need to set aside personality conflicts, social differences, cliquishness and anything else that divides us and keeps us from accomplishing God’s purpose for us and those we are to minister to on His behalf.
Conflict is more complex than this, but attitude and focus…my kingdom come, my will be done or Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done mentality is what steers the process to a fleshly demise or a God-glorifying experience.
Today, think of an area in your life in which you are experiencing division with a sister or brother in Christ. Are you putting Christ in the center…your greatest need should be to please God and honor Him, not ease your own discomfort. Acknowledge specifically an incident or situation where you have failed in the area of relationship. Prayerfully examine how pride might be playing a role in the division.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on witnessing.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Please forgive me for sometimes allowing pride or other wrongful attitudes to lead to division with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Help me to do my part in walking in unity so that we all might be more effective witnesses for Jesus and accomplish what You have called us to do. Help me build courage to withstand the pain, hurt, or anger I sometimes feel in conflicts, knowing You can provide more to me in that pain than in the good times. I pray this and all prayers for the one was the perfect witness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.
Philippians 2:2
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Stepping Stones: Be Strong and Courageous
Transformational Tip
We have all experienced fear and discouragement at times. In today’s scripture God is speaking to Joshua, telling him to be strong and courageous. “Do not be afraid or discouraged.” How is this possible?
Joshua was faced with the tremendous responsibility of leading the Israelites into the Promised Land, conquering the land and setting up residence. There would be times of defeat…great challenges…biting criticism…and immense frustration. And yet God told him not to fear or be discouraged…“because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
What a wonderful promise! As we submit to God, making Jesus Lord of our life, we too can be assured that He will be with us wherever we go. He will protect us, comfort us, defend us, teach us, guide us, and love us unconditionally. No matter how bleak things might look, or what challenges or sorrows we face, we can know that our heavenly Father is with us…and that as we trust Him and walk in obedience, He will work all things together for our good and growth.
Are you feeling afraid or discouraged right now? Perhaps you don’t feel as though God is with you. The good news is that feelings can lie…but God’s promises are always true.
Today, no matter what your circumstances, you can be strong and courageous… think about where you get your confidence in everyday activities…or when the pressure is on. Does your confidence come from you?...if so, your confidence reserve is pretty shallow and will soon run out. Your confidence needs to come from God…His promises, teachings, and character.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on being strong and courageous.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank You that I can always count on You. Even though I don’t always sense Your presence, help me to remember from Your Word that You are always with me. Help me to focus on You, not on the circumstances. Help me to be strong and courageous. I pray this and all prayers for the one who teaches us how to be strong and courageous, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
This is my command - be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.
Joshua 1:9
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
We have all experienced fear and discouragement at times. In today’s scripture God is speaking to Joshua, telling him to be strong and courageous. “Do not be afraid or discouraged.” How is this possible?
Joshua was faced with the tremendous responsibility of leading the Israelites into the Promised Land, conquering the land and setting up residence. There would be times of defeat…great challenges…biting criticism…and immense frustration. And yet God told him not to fear or be discouraged…“because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
What a wonderful promise! As we submit to God, making Jesus Lord of our life, we too can be assured that He will be with us wherever we go. He will protect us, comfort us, defend us, teach us, guide us, and love us unconditionally. No matter how bleak things might look, or what challenges or sorrows we face, we can know that our heavenly Father is with us…and that as we trust Him and walk in obedience, He will work all things together for our good and growth.
Are you feeling afraid or discouraged right now? Perhaps you don’t feel as though God is with you. The good news is that feelings can lie…but God’s promises are always true.
Today, no matter what your circumstances, you can be strong and courageous… think about where you get your confidence in everyday activities…or when the pressure is on. Does your confidence come from you?...if so, your confidence reserve is pretty shallow and will soon run out. Your confidence needs to come from God…His promises, teachings, and character.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on being strong and courageous.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, Thank You that I can always count on You. Even though I don’t always sense Your presence, help me to remember from Your Word that You are always with me. Help me to focus on You, not on the circumstances. Help me to be strong and courageous. I pray this and all prayers for the one who teaches us how to be strong and courageous, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
This is my command - be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.
Joshua 1:9
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Stepping Stones: For All Caregivers
Transformational Tip
God never promised us days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain…but He did promise strength to get through each day, comfort for the tears, and a lighthouse to guide the way. As you provide finances, care, comfort, or support for an aging parent, a spouse, or friend, turn to God for strength and hope.
While at times you might not understand why you and your family are facing these challenging times, if you seek God, you will find Him. He promises to hear your prayers and meet your needs. He is your source. He is the one who will make the impossible, possible.
I know my initial reaction often times is to do as much as I can…God did gift me with skills to solve problems…so I get after the problem. Then when I reach the end of my resources and skills, I call on God.
Too often we exhaust ourselves with our own efforts before we ask God for His help and provision for our needs. We focus on the need and become overwhelmed by it. He will help us, and he wants us to pray to Him for the strength, wisdom and resources to accomplish His will.
Today, take time to meditate on God's Word. The Bible has a great deal to say about aging and care giving concerns. You will find guidance, strength and hope. Open your Bible and spend quiet time with God every day. No matter how busy you are, determine to set aside that special time with Him. And remember that He is with you every moment of the day.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on care giving.
Prayer
Father, at times I get so weary, physically and emotionally. And sometimes I find myself turning everywhere else for help before coming to You. Help me to remember to always come to You first. I know that You are truly my source of strength. I pray this and all prayers for the one who is the ultimate care giver, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
Isaiah 40:31
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:31-34
God never promised us days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain…but He did promise strength to get through each day, comfort for the tears, and a lighthouse to guide the way. As you provide finances, care, comfort, or support for an aging parent, a spouse, or friend, turn to God for strength and hope.
While at times you might not understand why you and your family are facing these challenging times, if you seek God, you will find Him. He promises to hear your prayers and meet your needs. He is your source. He is the one who will make the impossible, possible.
I know my initial reaction often times is to do as much as I can…God did gift me with skills to solve problems…so I get after the problem. Then when I reach the end of my resources and skills, I call on God.
Too often we exhaust ourselves with our own efforts before we ask God for His help and provision for our needs. We focus on the need and become overwhelmed by it. He will help us, and he wants us to pray to Him for the strength, wisdom and resources to accomplish His will.
Today, take time to meditate on God's Word. The Bible has a great deal to say about aging and care giving concerns. You will find guidance, strength and hope. Open your Bible and spend quiet time with God every day. No matter how busy you are, determine to set aside that special time with Him. And remember that He is with you every moment of the day.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on care giving.
Prayer
Father, at times I get so weary, physically and emotionally. And sometimes I find myself turning everywhere else for help before coming to You. Help me to remember to always come to You first. I know that You are truly my source of strength. I pray this and all prayers for the one who is the ultimate care giver, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
Isaiah 40:31
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Matthew 6:31-34
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Stepping Stones: Are You Listening?
Transformational Tip
I have 3 great daughters, but sometimes I wonder about some of the decisions they make. Certainly, they weren’t listening to the advice I had given them. Who are they listening to?... and why were they listening to that advice. That “advisor” didn’t love them as much as I do…doesn’t know them as well as I do…doesn’t want the best for them as much as I do.
Well, what about you?...who are you listening to? We make between 5,000 and 10,000 decisions per day…seriously. When you make some of your decisions, which voice do you listen to?...the world and Satan’s prodding?...your flesh and my kingdom come agenda?...or God’s and the Holy Spirit’s still small voice and instruction manual, the Holy Bible?
In today's passage, God is lamenting the fact that no one is listening. You can feel the sadness in His heart as He speaks these words. He pleads with His people: Please listen to Me!
He is speaking to you!
These words were directed toward Israel, but God wants all of His children to listen. Jesus said, "My sheep listen to My voice."
Today, listen to God during your prayer time...and throughout the day. The Holy Spirit is constantly teaching, guiding, coaching, and warning us. God wants us to talk to Him. Practice being still. Clear the clutter Satan throws at you to muffle God’s voice. Open the Holy Bible and “read” His voice. It’s all about choices, whose voice will you listen to? Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on listening to God.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I am guilty of listening to some other voice and giving it lordship over my life…instead of You. Please forgive me. I know You have so much You are telling me through Your holy Spirit in me…through Your word, the Holy Bible, and through my circumstances. Please help me open the ears of my heart, my mind to Your frequency. I know Your plans for me are way better than those for myself…so in that moment of temptation, please give me eyes that see and follow you. I pray this in the name of the perfect listener, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Listen to me, O my people, while I give you stern warnings. O Israel, if you would only listen to me!…But no, my people wouldn’t listen…Oh, that my people would listen to me!
Psalm 81:8, 11, 13
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27
He has never wandered off to do his own thing; he has been right there, listening.
Psalm 22:24
I have 3 great daughters, but sometimes I wonder about some of the decisions they make. Certainly, they weren’t listening to the advice I had given them. Who are they listening to?... and why were they listening to that advice. That “advisor” didn’t love them as much as I do…doesn’t know them as well as I do…doesn’t want the best for them as much as I do.
Well, what about you?...who are you listening to? We make between 5,000 and 10,000 decisions per day…seriously. When you make some of your decisions, which voice do you listen to?...the world and Satan’s prodding?...your flesh and my kingdom come agenda?...or God’s and the Holy Spirit’s still small voice and instruction manual, the Holy Bible?
In today's passage, God is lamenting the fact that no one is listening. You can feel the sadness in His heart as He speaks these words. He pleads with His people: Please listen to Me!
He is speaking to you!
These words were directed toward Israel, but God wants all of His children to listen. Jesus said, "My sheep listen to My voice."
Today, listen to God during your prayer time...and throughout the day. The Holy Spirit is constantly teaching, guiding, coaching, and warning us. God wants us to talk to Him. Practice being still. Clear the clutter Satan throws at you to muffle God’s voice. Open the Holy Bible and “read” His voice. It’s all about choices, whose voice will you listen to? Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on listening to God.
Prayer
My Father and my Lord, I am guilty of listening to some other voice and giving it lordship over my life…instead of You. Please forgive me. I know You have so much You are telling me through Your holy Spirit in me…through Your word, the Holy Bible, and through my circumstances. Please help me open the ears of my heart, my mind to Your frequency. I know Your plans for me are way better than those for myself…so in that moment of temptation, please give me eyes that see and follow you. I pray this in the name of the perfect listener, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Listen to me, O my people, while I give you stern warnings. O Israel, if you would only listen to me!…But no, my people wouldn’t listen…Oh, that my people would listen to me!
Psalm 81:8, 11, 13
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27
He has never wandered off to do his own thing; he has been right there, listening.
Psalm 22:24
Monday, March 15, 2010
Stepping Stones: Taking Inventory
Transformational Tip
Business is very complicated and messy. Always in a rush…scurrying around. Good business owners slow life down, sort the pieces and count them. They take regular inventory of their stock. These inventories are a useful business-planning tool. Inventories can reveal growth or decline in business productivity…show possible obstacles to growth. Most importantly, they can assist business owners in making changes for a better future.
Life often moves faster than business, as the merry-go-round of life just constantly speeds up…till we hit the retirement home. Taking a regular inventory of our life can also be productive. It can help us answer questions about the directions our life is moving. Are we growing or declining in character development…in spiritual maturity. Are we moving toward our life goals, or are there hindering obstacles? Are we growing in our relationship with God? What changes do we need to make to move ahead more effectively?
Know that God loves you and he wants to help you eliminate those things in your life that may be hurting you…and others. But before He can help you, you must face up to the fact that these problems exist. Remember…Jesus is with you. He will not disappoint you in your time of personal searching.
Today, be determined to take inventory of your life. Consider your relationships with God, your family, your church, and your friends. Be honest. Ask God to help you see things as they really are…to face any obstacles, either in you or outside of you…without making excuses.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on taking a personal inventory.
Prayer
Dear Father, I confess is make mistakes. Instead of trying to sweep them under the carpet, help me take a good, honest look at myself. Help me see what is pleasing to You … and what is disappointing You. Help me understand a concrete strategy to really start to move forward in struggle areas of my life. Help me to reorder my life under You. I pray this the name of Your Son who always searched Himself well, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD
Lamentations 3:40
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Romans 12:3
Business is very complicated and messy. Always in a rush…scurrying around. Good business owners slow life down, sort the pieces and count them. They take regular inventory of their stock. These inventories are a useful business-planning tool. Inventories can reveal growth or decline in business productivity…show possible obstacles to growth. Most importantly, they can assist business owners in making changes for a better future.
Life often moves faster than business, as the merry-go-round of life just constantly speeds up…till we hit the retirement home. Taking a regular inventory of our life can also be productive. It can help us answer questions about the directions our life is moving. Are we growing or declining in character development…in spiritual maturity. Are we moving toward our life goals, or are there hindering obstacles? Are we growing in our relationship with God? What changes do we need to make to move ahead more effectively?
Know that God loves you and he wants to help you eliminate those things in your life that may be hurting you…and others. But before He can help you, you must face up to the fact that these problems exist. Remember…Jesus is with you. He will not disappoint you in your time of personal searching.
Today, be determined to take inventory of your life. Consider your relationships with God, your family, your church, and your friends. Be honest. Ask God to help you see things as they really are…to face any obstacles, either in you or outside of you…without making excuses.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on taking a personal inventory.
Prayer
Dear Father, I confess is make mistakes. Instead of trying to sweep them under the carpet, help me take a good, honest look at myself. Help me see what is pleasing to You … and what is disappointing You. Help me understand a concrete strategy to really start to move forward in struggle areas of my life. Help me to reorder my life under You. I pray this the name of Your Son who always searched Himself well, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD
Lamentations 3:40
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Romans 12:3
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Stepping Stones: Forgiveness: The Reason and the Responsibility
Transformational Tip
Forgiveness requires our facing the truth. The truth of Christ's forgiveness. The truth of our own need for forgiveness. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness and forgive those who have hurt us.
In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment…even when that means forgiving ourselves.
All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve…and because of Christ Jesus, when we turn to Him, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins.
How can we do less? Forgiven by the Lord, we have the power, the reason, and the responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is not a feeling we need to muster up, it is an actual choice we make. When you realize it is a choice, then you must assess, what are my options.
Door # 1: Don’t forgive, remain aloof, detached, or bitter, resentful, angry, vengeful. A terrible side effect is they still have power over you, because you need something from them…an apology, them to suffer or experience pain, a sacrifice, penance. You need to extract some payment from them…and they could withhold it as long as they want and play you like a puppet.
Door # 2: Forgive, let go of that bitterness, revenge, and entitlement. Freedom from the past and opportunity to grow something better with them or totally disconnect from them because now you don’t need anything from them to make the “transaction” complete. You have relieved them of their debt, so then cant “withhold” anything from you and string you along.
Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive…on our own that is. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone.
Today, If you are struggling to forgive, ask Jesus to help you. He loves you, He cares and He is able. Look at your other option. It is way more painful to not forgive than it is to forgive. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the reason and responsibility for forgiveness.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. Help me to face the truth…and then to forgive myself and others. Thank you for your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who paid for my forgiveness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
Forgiveness requires our facing the truth. The truth of Christ's forgiveness. The truth of our own need for forgiveness. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness and forgive those who have hurt us.
In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment…even when that means forgiving ourselves.
All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve…and because of Christ Jesus, when we turn to Him, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins.
How can we do less? Forgiven by the Lord, we have the power, the reason, and the responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is not a feeling we need to muster up, it is an actual choice we make. When you realize it is a choice, then you must assess, what are my options.
Door # 1: Don’t forgive, remain aloof, detached, or bitter, resentful, angry, vengeful. A terrible side effect is they still have power over you, because you need something from them…an apology, them to suffer or experience pain, a sacrifice, penance. You need to extract some payment from them…and they could withhold it as long as they want and play you like a puppet.
Door # 2: Forgive, let go of that bitterness, revenge, and entitlement. Freedom from the past and opportunity to grow something better with them or totally disconnect from them because now you don’t need anything from them to make the “transaction” complete. You have relieved them of their debt, so then cant “withhold” anything from you and string you along.
Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive…on our own that is. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone.
Today, If you are struggling to forgive, ask Jesus to help you. He loves you, He cares and He is able. Look at your other option. It is way more painful to not forgive than it is to forgive. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the reason and responsibility for forgiveness.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. Help me to face the truth…and then to forgive myself and others. Thank you for your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who paid for my forgiveness, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Stepping Stones: Wound Salve: Forgiveness
Transformational Tip
We all experience setbacks and disappointments in life. Sometimes small ones that we shrug off, learn from, and move on. But sometimes disappointments have more impact. They stay with us, causing the past to haunt our present…and future.
The setback could be anything; bankruptcy…a failed marriage…termination from a job…a poor decision…a friendship gone sour. Or it might be losing a parent at a young age. Or the death of a spouse or someone else we cared for deeply. Rejection, by parents, teachers, peers, the popular group, a crush, employers…
whether small or large…tend to inflict wounds. Unless really processed…who can really do that as a young kid…will periodically be opened and ooze when we encounter present day wounds, either in our lives or noticing them in others or in media.
A natural tendency when we have suffered a wound is to place blame. Perhaps we hold another person responsible. Sometimes we blame ourselves. We might even get angry with God. Anger is OK, bitterness, revenge, helplessness are not. These are a few signs that forgiveness hasn’t taken place.
God has promised us a future and a hope, but unforgiveness can block our ability to experience all the freedom and healing, from past wounds and their insidious ripples, that He has planned for us. As long as we are unwilling to forgive, the disappointment of the past has control over our lives, and we cannot move forward.
Today, focus on forgiving those who have hurt you…It's also time to forgive yourself. God has so don’t be so prideful to think you could never forgive yourself. It's time to open our hearts to the love and forgiveness of our heavenly Father. And then it will be time to move on to the wonderful plans he has for you.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the gift of forgiveness.
Prayer
Father, help me to truly put the past behind and look forward to what lies ahead. Thank You for forgiving my sins. Help me to walk in the gift of forgiveness…for others and myself. Help to search those past wounds with different lenses of an adult, growing in the knowledge and skills of Christ. Guide my learning from them and application to produce the good works, inside and outside that you have prepared me for, even through those past wounds. I pray this hrough the one who gave his life to have my sins forgiven, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.
Acts 26:18
We all experience setbacks and disappointments in life. Sometimes small ones that we shrug off, learn from, and move on. But sometimes disappointments have more impact. They stay with us, causing the past to haunt our present…and future.
The setback could be anything; bankruptcy…a failed marriage…termination from a job…a poor decision…a friendship gone sour. Or it might be losing a parent at a young age. Or the death of a spouse or someone else we cared for deeply. Rejection, by parents, teachers, peers, the popular group, a crush, employers…
whether small or large…tend to inflict wounds. Unless really processed…who can really do that as a young kid…will periodically be opened and ooze when we encounter present day wounds, either in our lives or noticing them in others or in media.
A natural tendency when we have suffered a wound is to place blame. Perhaps we hold another person responsible. Sometimes we blame ourselves. We might even get angry with God. Anger is OK, bitterness, revenge, helplessness are not. These are a few signs that forgiveness hasn’t taken place.
God has promised us a future and a hope, but unforgiveness can block our ability to experience all the freedom and healing, from past wounds and their insidious ripples, that He has planned for us. As long as we are unwilling to forgive, the disappointment of the past has control over our lives, and we cannot move forward.
Today, focus on forgiving those who have hurt you…It's also time to forgive yourself. God has so don’t be so prideful to think you could never forgive yourself. It's time to open our hearts to the love and forgiveness of our heavenly Father. And then it will be time to move on to the wonderful plans he has for you.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the gift of forgiveness.
Prayer
Father, help me to truly put the past behind and look forward to what lies ahead. Thank You for forgiving my sins. Help me to walk in the gift of forgiveness…for others and myself. Help to search those past wounds with different lenses of an adult, growing in the knowledge and skills of Christ. Guide my learning from them and application to produce the good works, inside and outside that you have prepared me for, even through those past wounds. I pray this hrough the one who gave his life to have my sins forgiven, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.
Acts 26:18
Friday, March 12, 2010
Stepping Stones: Enabling: Good Intentions Gone Wrong
Transformational Tip
When someone we love is in the grip of a harmful substance or behavior, we naturally want to help. In spite of our best intentions, our efforts are sometimes harmful rather than helpful. Enabling is good intentions gone wrong.
Enabling allows people to continue in their self-destructive behaviors without feeling the painful consequences that might convince them to stop before the problem spirals out of control. Today's Scripture cautions us that if we rescue a person from the consequences of his or her choices, we'll just have to do it again … and again.
This is where nagging is often born. With our kids, we don’t want them to miss the bus, so we are nagging them through the morning to keep moving, get to the next task from bed to out the door. We believe we are protecting them from the consequences of missing the bus, but we are actually interfering with their growth and development of autonomy and personal responsibility. That’s is what natural consequences build.
Do you find yourself covering up the behavior of a friend or loved one, or bailing them out of trouble? You might make excuses for them or even blame yourself for their problem. And it's very easy to give them "one more chance"…over and over again. These are common examples of enabling.
A big component is our ability to tolerate those negative feelings in others or ourselves that are generated when someone is struggling and faces potential consequences.
Today, be mindful that your responsibility to your troubled loved ones is to be supportive and facilitate their growth, not to inhibit it. You need to empathize and pray for, but not fix…to encourage, but not protect(within reason). We must allow them to learn from the consequences of their actions and not rescue them. All of us need to look at whether we are helping…or harming…the struggling people in our lives. And then we can begin the process of being a supporter instead of an enabler. Let God determine the consequences, not you. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “good intentions gone wrong.”
Prayer
Dear God, it's so hard not try to fix my loved one's problems. But when I come to the rescue instead of letting him suffer the consequences of his actions, I do find that I have to come to the rescue again and again. Nothing really gets fixed. Teach me to be a supporter instead of an enabler. Help me guide them to You…help me to trust You more. Give me the peace to tolerate my uneasiness and their discomfort to allow the consequences and lesson You have for them play out. I pray this for the one who gives me strength in all circumstances, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
Proverbs 19:19
And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. "But when he came to himself, he said, 'How many of my father's hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you.
Luke 15:16-18
When someone we love is in the grip of a harmful substance or behavior, we naturally want to help. In spite of our best intentions, our efforts are sometimes harmful rather than helpful. Enabling is good intentions gone wrong.
Enabling allows people to continue in their self-destructive behaviors without feeling the painful consequences that might convince them to stop before the problem spirals out of control. Today's Scripture cautions us that if we rescue a person from the consequences of his or her choices, we'll just have to do it again … and again.
This is where nagging is often born. With our kids, we don’t want them to miss the bus, so we are nagging them through the morning to keep moving, get to the next task from bed to out the door. We believe we are protecting them from the consequences of missing the bus, but we are actually interfering with their growth and development of autonomy and personal responsibility. That’s is what natural consequences build.
Do you find yourself covering up the behavior of a friend or loved one, or bailing them out of trouble? You might make excuses for them or even blame yourself for their problem. And it's very easy to give them "one more chance"…over and over again. These are common examples of enabling.
A big component is our ability to tolerate those negative feelings in others or ourselves that are generated when someone is struggling and faces potential consequences.
Today, be mindful that your responsibility to your troubled loved ones is to be supportive and facilitate their growth, not to inhibit it. You need to empathize and pray for, but not fix…to encourage, but not protect(within reason). We must allow them to learn from the consequences of their actions and not rescue them. All of us need to look at whether we are helping…or harming…the struggling people in our lives. And then we can begin the process of being a supporter instead of an enabler. Let God determine the consequences, not you. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “good intentions gone wrong.”
Prayer
Dear God, it's so hard not try to fix my loved one's problems. But when I come to the rescue instead of letting him suffer the consequences of his actions, I do find that I have to come to the rescue again and again. Nothing really gets fixed. Teach me to be a supporter instead of an enabler. Help me guide them to You…help me to trust You more. Give me the peace to tolerate my uneasiness and their discomfort to allow the consequences and lesson You have for them play out. I pray this for the one who gives me strength in all circumstances, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
Proverbs 19:19
And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. "But when he came to himself, he said, 'How many of my father's hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you.
Luke 15:16-18
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Stepping Stones: Why Are You In My Life?
Transformational Tip
Do you ever wonder about the people that come into your life? All kinds…the person at the store you talk to in line…an acquaintance from some social circle…a friend from school…family members you share many experiences…a colleague at work. The numbers are amazing even for someone avoiding relationships.
Sometimes, if you are lucky…truly blessed…you have someone enter your life who will change your life forever. A special person delivering God’s, mercy, grace, and unconditional love…right to the doorstep of your heart.
Well, I was one of those lucky people. 21 years ago, when I was stuck at some significant crossroads in many areas of my life, when I least expected it, God showed up. Right in the middle of New Orleans, at a Mardi Gras party, I met and fell in love with the most beautiful person. Love at first sight!
She was, and is, incredibly beautiful on the outside…but the amazing part is who she is on the inside. When I was in such need personally and spiritually for God to show up, He showed up through my wife, Martine. Her unconditional love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, and sacrifice have been so powerful to me…freeing me from my personal demons and allowing me to see God’s majesty in her and through her.
Since then, my engagement and growth with God has been unbelievable and He has transformed my life. I wish I could say I am the perfect husband…or even a good husband, but unfortunately, that is the area I still need to grow in the most. So, Happy Birthday, Honey, and thank you so much for what you have done for me. I will work at husbanding more today and this year!
Today, think about who God has put in YOUR life. Are you to profoundly influence them? Then do it. Have they been a profound influence on you? Then thank God for them and thank them, a lot. Do something special for them, ASAP. God does show up, and often it’s in the form of others. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on why God puts people in your life.
Prayer
Oh God, Thank You so much for not giving up on me even though I strayed and tried life my own way. All the grace and protection You provided still astounds and humbles me. Then to bring me an incredible gift, my Martine, I am speechless. Please strengthen me and help me have the courage to resist my selfish desires and really love and serve her…for that will honor You, her, and me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who loved perfectly and fully, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.
2 Corinthians 5:20
Jesus said to them again, "Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, even so I am sending you."
John 20:21
And he said to them, "Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation.
Mark 16:15
Do you ever wonder about the people that come into your life? All kinds…the person at the store you talk to in line…an acquaintance from some social circle…a friend from school…family members you share many experiences…a colleague at work. The numbers are amazing even for someone avoiding relationships.
Sometimes, if you are lucky…truly blessed…you have someone enter your life who will change your life forever. A special person delivering God’s, mercy, grace, and unconditional love…right to the doorstep of your heart.
Well, I was one of those lucky people. 21 years ago, when I was stuck at some significant crossroads in many areas of my life, when I least expected it, God showed up. Right in the middle of New Orleans, at a Mardi Gras party, I met and fell in love with the most beautiful person. Love at first sight!
She was, and is, incredibly beautiful on the outside…but the amazing part is who she is on the inside. When I was in such need personally and spiritually for God to show up, He showed up through my wife, Martine. Her unconditional love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, and sacrifice have been so powerful to me…freeing me from my personal demons and allowing me to see God’s majesty in her and through her.
Since then, my engagement and growth with God has been unbelievable and He has transformed my life. I wish I could say I am the perfect husband…or even a good husband, but unfortunately, that is the area I still need to grow in the most. So, Happy Birthday, Honey, and thank you so much for what you have done for me. I will work at husbanding more today and this year!
Today, think about who God has put in YOUR life. Are you to profoundly influence them? Then do it. Have they been a profound influence on you? Then thank God for them and thank them, a lot. Do something special for them, ASAP. God does show up, and often it’s in the form of others. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on why God puts people in your life.
Prayer
Oh God, Thank You so much for not giving up on me even though I strayed and tried life my own way. All the grace and protection You provided still astounds and humbles me. Then to bring me an incredible gift, my Martine, I am speechless. Please strengthen me and help me have the courage to resist my selfish desires and really love and serve her…for that will honor You, her, and me. I pray this and all prayers for the one who loved perfectly and fully, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.
2 Corinthians 5:20
Jesus said to them again, "Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, even so I am sending you."
John 20:21
And he said to them, "Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation.
Mark 16:15
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Stepping Stones: How Long, Lord?
Transformational Tip
Have you ever said these words? “How long, Lord, until my prayer is answered?” How long until things get better? How long do You want me to do this without seeing results? How long do You want me to suffer? How long do I have to “just hang in there”?
When Joseph was sold into slavery and later spent years in prison, he must have asked, "How long, Lord?" When Moses led the Israelites around and around in the wilderness, he surely thought, "How long, Lord?" When Noah was ridiculed for 100 years while he built an ark on dry land, he must have wondered, "How long, Lord?" But each one of these godly heroes trusted God. They respected Him enough to continue obeying Him even when it seemed that all hope was gone.
Perhaps you are involved in a ministry that seems to go nowhere. And yet, you know the Lord wants you there. Maybe you have been praying for an unsaved loved one for many years. Or perhaps you have a business that just doesn't come together, but the Lord has led you to continue. Be encouraged to reverence God by continuing to obey him, even though you may wonder, "How long, Lord?"
Today, be confident that God loves you. Examine your life to see what situation or area you are getting impatient…frustrated…irritable. Make sure you are doing a good job with your part of the issue. Then accept God has a different timeline than you do. Touch someone’s life or learn the lesson He is teaching. The situation is in your life to grow you…that is God’s purpose for all that comes into your life. He has a perfect plan for you, we and others just keep messing it up. His timing is always perfect because it is His timing. Keep on, as Noah did, "doing all that God commands."
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective waiting on Your Lord.
Prayer
Oh Father, Lord, help me honor You by trusting You and being willing to wait on You. Even though I get discouraged at times, help me remember that You are in control and that Your way is the best way, Your timing is the best timing. Help me be patient and show the world I am willing to wait on You, Lord. Thy kingdom come, not my kingdom come. I really don’t want to take over responsibility for the whole world, even though sometimes I act like it. I pray this and all prayers for the one who demonstrated perfect timing, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
I patiently waited, LORD, for you to hear my prayer. You listened and pulled me from a lonely pit full of mud and mire. You let me stand on a rock with my feet firm, and you gave me a new song, a song of praise to you. Many will see this, and they will honor and trust you, the LORD God.
Psalm 40:1-3
Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
Romans 5:1-5
Have you ever said these words? “How long, Lord, until my prayer is answered?” How long until things get better? How long do You want me to do this without seeing results? How long do You want me to suffer? How long do I have to “just hang in there”?
When Joseph was sold into slavery and later spent years in prison, he must have asked, "How long, Lord?" When Moses led the Israelites around and around in the wilderness, he surely thought, "How long, Lord?" When Noah was ridiculed for 100 years while he built an ark on dry land, he must have wondered, "How long, Lord?" But each one of these godly heroes trusted God. They respected Him enough to continue obeying Him even when it seemed that all hope was gone.
Perhaps you are involved in a ministry that seems to go nowhere. And yet, you know the Lord wants you there. Maybe you have been praying for an unsaved loved one for many years. Or perhaps you have a business that just doesn't come together, but the Lord has led you to continue. Be encouraged to reverence God by continuing to obey him, even though you may wonder, "How long, Lord?"
Today, be confident that God loves you. Examine your life to see what situation or area you are getting impatient…frustrated…irritable. Make sure you are doing a good job with your part of the issue. Then accept God has a different timeline than you do. Touch someone’s life or learn the lesson He is teaching. The situation is in your life to grow you…that is God’s purpose for all that comes into your life. He has a perfect plan for you, we and others just keep messing it up. His timing is always perfect because it is His timing. Keep on, as Noah did, "doing all that God commands."
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective waiting on Your Lord.
Prayer
Oh Father, Lord, help me honor You by trusting You and being willing to wait on You. Even though I get discouraged at times, help me remember that You are in control and that Your way is the best way, Your timing is the best timing. Help me be patient and show the world I am willing to wait on You, Lord. Thy kingdom come, not my kingdom come. I really don’t want to take over responsibility for the whole world, even though sometimes I act like it. I pray this and all prayers for the one who demonstrated perfect timing, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
I patiently waited, LORD, for you to hear my prayer. You listened and pulled me from a lonely pit full of mud and mire. You let me stand on a rock with my feet firm, and you gave me a new song, a song of praise to you. Many will see this, and they will honor and trust you, the LORD God.
Psalm 40:1-3
Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
Romans 5:1-5
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Stepping Stones: Obedience and Respect
Transformational Tip
Respect and reverence have become distasteful words in today's world, especially regarding Christianity. In some places, Christians receive disgust, animosity, and on occasion, hate and disdain. In the United States, Christians are increasingly viewed as bigots and narrow-minded people.
Thousands of years ago, God told Noah to build an ark to save his family because He was sending a flood to destroy all life on earth. Up to this time, people had not experienced rain…only a light mist that watered the earth. And here was Noah, building a humongous ship on dry land.
Nobody understood what Noah was doing or why…and they never did as Noah had no converts. Noah took their questions, laughter, abuse and ridicule…day after day, year after year, decade after decade…for 100 years.
Did they have respect for him and his faith? None at all. The people were so evil that God would destroy all of them, so we could only imagine how evil their ridicule was and what physical persecution or sabotage they carried out on Noah, his family, and his ark as Satan undoubtedly tried to sabotage God’s plan.
But did Noah continue to respect and reverence God by obeying him? Absolutely. Day after day, Noah plugged and chugged…yes, for 100 years of building.
Today, think about how people view you. Do you reverence God enough to honor him, even in the face of ridicule? Are you hesitant to do what is right…instead falling into the trap of doing what is popular or politically correct to be accepted? Do you love God enough to share your faith as God gives you opportunity? Some Christians risk even their lives by obeying God. How far are you willing to go to maintain your stand and to honor God? What will you do today to prove it?
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on obedience and respect.
Prayer
O Heavenly Father, forgive me for the times I have dishonored You by not speaking up when I knew I should …or by joining in conversations and actions that were displeasing to You. Help me to always honor You by obeying You…no matter what the circumstances. Give me the power to love those who dishonor You, but the courage to stand up for Your, and the discernment to know how so I honor You and respect them. I pray this and all prayers for the One who shows us the definition of obedience and respect by embodying it, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Noah did everything just as God commanded him.
Genesis 6:22
Now Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard. And a servant girl came up to him and said, "You also were with Jesus the Galilean." But he denied it before them all, saying, "I do not know what you mean." And when he went out to the entrance, another servant girl saw him, and she said to the bystanders, "This man was with Jesus of Nazareth." And again he denied it with an oath: "I do not know the man." After a little while the bystanders came up and said to Peter, "Certainly you too are one of them, for your accent betrays you." Then he began to invoke a curse on himself and to swear, "I do not know the man." And immediately the rooster crowed. And Peter remembered the saying of Jesus, "Before the rooster crows, you will deny me three times." And he went out and wept bitterly.
Matthew 26:69-75
Respect and reverence have become distasteful words in today's world, especially regarding Christianity. In some places, Christians receive disgust, animosity, and on occasion, hate and disdain. In the United States, Christians are increasingly viewed as bigots and narrow-minded people.
Thousands of years ago, God told Noah to build an ark to save his family because He was sending a flood to destroy all life on earth. Up to this time, people had not experienced rain…only a light mist that watered the earth. And here was Noah, building a humongous ship on dry land.
Nobody understood what Noah was doing or why…and they never did as Noah had no converts. Noah took their questions, laughter, abuse and ridicule…day after day, year after year, decade after decade…for 100 years.
Did they have respect for him and his faith? None at all. The people were so evil that God would destroy all of them, so we could only imagine how evil their ridicule was and what physical persecution or sabotage they carried out on Noah, his family, and his ark as Satan undoubtedly tried to sabotage God’s plan.
But did Noah continue to respect and reverence God by obeying him? Absolutely. Day after day, Noah plugged and chugged…yes, for 100 years of building.
Today, think about how people view you. Do you reverence God enough to honor him, even in the face of ridicule? Are you hesitant to do what is right…instead falling into the trap of doing what is popular or politically correct to be accepted? Do you love God enough to share your faith as God gives you opportunity? Some Christians risk even their lives by obeying God. How far are you willing to go to maintain your stand and to honor God? What will you do today to prove it?
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on obedience and respect.
Prayer
O Heavenly Father, forgive me for the times I have dishonored You by not speaking up when I knew I should …or by joining in conversations and actions that were displeasing to You. Help me to always honor You by obeying You…no matter what the circumstances. Give me the power to love those who dishonor You, but the courage to stand up for Your, and the discernment to know how so I honor You and respect them. I pray this and all prayers for the One who shows us the definition of obedience and respect by embodying it, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Noah did everything just as God commanded him.
Genesis 6:22
Now Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard. And a servant girl came up to him and said, "You also were with Jesus the Galilean." But he denied it before them all, saying, "I do not know what you mean." And when he went out to the entrance, another servant girl saw him, and she said to the bystanders, "This man was with Jesus of Nazareth." And again he denied it with an oath: "I do not know the man." After a little while the bystanders came up and said to Peter, "Certainly you too are one of them, for your accent betrays you." Then he began to invoke a curse on himself and to swear, "I do not know the man." And immediately the rooster crowed. And Peter remembered the saying of Jesus, "Before the rooster crows, you will deny me three times." And he went out and wept bitterly.
Matthew 26:69-75
Monday, March 8, 2010
Stepping Stones: We Say…He Says
Transformational Tip
What words come to mind when asked to describe yourself? Sometimes we might define ourselves by listing our failures and our negative traits. But God has a different perspective! If we are followers of Christ, this is how God sees us...
We say: I'm a failure. I can't do anything right.
God says: You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
We say: I still feel guilty about things I've done in the past, even though I've confessed it all as sin and don't do those things anymore.
God says: I blot out your sins and hold them against you no more.
We say: Sometimes I feel so unlovable. How can God possibly keep on loving me?
God says: God says nothing can separate you from My love.
We say: I tend to be such a fearful person.
God says: The righteous are as bold as a lion.
God sees us as righteous, wise, and forgiven. He sees us as His treasures, His children. We have the mind of Christ and the Holy Spirit in us, but we have to use them and submit to them. Christ bought all this for you through his death and resurrection.
Today, search the scriptures to learn more about how God sees you…ask Him to help you see yourself through His eyes. Only then will you understand your true identity. Then you can really be all you are made to be. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on how God sees you and how you see yourself.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You for clothing me in the righteousness of Christ. Help me not to think too lowly…or too highly of myself, but to see myself as You do...and for the reason You do…and to be grateful everyday for all these blessings of amazing grace You extend to me. I pray this and all prayers for the One teaches me how to see myself, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
I am overwhelmed with joy in the Lord my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bridegroom in his wedding suit or a bride with her jewels.
Isaiah 61:19
But now thus says the LORD, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
Isaiah 43:1-3
What words come to mind when asked to describe yourself? Sometimes we might define ourselves by listing our failures and our negative traits. But God has a different perspective! If we are followers of Christ, this is how God sees us...
We say: I'm a failure. I can't do anything right.
God says: You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
We say: I still feel guilty about things I've done in the past, even though I've confessed it all as sin and don't do those things anymore.
God says: I blot out your sins and hold them against you no more.
We say: Sometimes I feel so unlovable. How can God possibly keep on loving me?
God says: God says nothing can separate you from My love.
We say: I tend to be such a fearful person.
God says: The righteous are as bold as a lion.
God sees us as righteous, wise, and forgiven. He sees us as His treasures, His children. We have the mind of Christ and the Holy Spirit in us, but we have to use them and submit to them. Christ bought all this for you through his death and resurrection.
Today, search the scriptures to learn more about how God sees you…ask Him to help you see yourself through His eyes. Only then will you understand your true identity. Then you can really be all you are made to be. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on how God sees you and how you see yourself.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Thank You for clothing me in the righteousness of Christ. Help me not to think too lowly…or too highly of myself, but to see myself as You do...and for the reason You do…and to be grateful everyday for all these blessings of amazing grace You extend to me. I pray this and all prayers for the One teaches me how to see myself, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
I am overwhelmed with joy in the Lord my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bridegroom in his wedding suit or a bride with her jewels.
Isaiah 61:19
But now thus says the LORD, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
Isaiah 43:1-3
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Stepping Stones: Who Are You?
Transformational Tip
When someone asks you the question, “Who are you?”, what do you reply? Most say, I am a housewife…psychiatrist(fill in your profession)…father.
Sometimes a role we play in life can become our main identity. Our world then actually revolves around this part of our life. ... and this can make us feel pretty good about ourselves.
Super mom ...world's best dad... successful career person ...accomplished musician ... popular pastor...well-known writer...politician...beloved teacher...computer whiz...
These can all be good roles to play—or, they can hinder our growth and even lead to our downfall. When we start thinking the role we play is our main identity in life…who we are…our focus on Jesus and his plan for us can diminish...and pride can set in.
As Christians, we all have the same innate identity…we are followers of Christ. He will give us a different combination of gifts, have us grow with different experiences and situations, lead us into different roles, and give us opportunities to represent Him wherever we are and whatever we do.
But the bottom line is this: We are his children. That's our main identity. That's who we are... And nothing could be better. We need to keep that mindset and focus throughout our day, as this dramatically affects how we view the circumstances we experience…everyday.
Today, think about who you view yourself as. How has this affected your course in life? If you answer the question, “follower of and ambassador for Christ”, is this an intellectual answer only, or does it determine your thoughts, feelings, and actions in your experiences today? Make it your attitude that dramatically influences your day. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “Who Are You?”
Prayer
Father, thank you for the gifts and opportunities You've given me. Help me to always remember that I am, first and foremost, Your child ... and to use these gifts and opportunities to honor You. May I never become prideful in anything I do. Help me to always remember that all good and perfect gifts come from You. I pray this and all prayers for the One who gives us our identity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
So I have reason to be enthusiastic about all Christ Jesus has done through me in my service to God. Yet I dare not boast about anything except what Christ has done through me.
Romans 15:17-18
When someone asks you the question, “Who are you?”, what do you reply? Most say, I am a housewife…psychiatrist(fill in your profession)…father.
Sometimes a role we play in life can become our main identity. Our world then actually revolves around this part of our life. ... and this can make us feel pretty good about ourselves.
Super mom ...world's best dad... successful career person ...accomplished musician ... popular pastor...well-known writer...politician...beloved teacher...computer whiz...
These can all be good roles to play—or, they can hinder our growth and even lead to our downfall. When we start thinking the role we play is our main identity in life…who we are…our focus on Jesus and his plan for us can diminish...and pride can set in.
As Christians, we all have the same innate identity…we are followers of Christ. He will give us a different combination of gifts, have us grow with different experiences and situations, lead us into different roles, and give us opportunities to represent Him wherever we are and whatever we do.
But the bottom line is this: We are his children. That's our main identity. That's who we are... And nothing could be better. We need to keep that mindset and focus throughout our day, as this dramatically affects how we view the circumstances we experience…everyday.
Today, think about who you view yourself as. How has this affected your course in life? If you answer the question, “follower of and ambassador for Christ”, is this an intellectual answer only, or does it determine your thoughts, feelings, and actions in your experiences today? Make it your attitude that dramatically influences your day. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “Who Are You?”
Prayer
Father, thank you for the gifts and opportunities You've given me. Help me to always remember that I am, first and foremost, Your child ... and to use these gifts and opportunities to honor You. May I never become prideful in anything I do. Help me to always remember that all good and perfect gifts come from You. I pray this and all prayers for the One who gives us our identity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
So I have reason to be enthusiastic about all Christ Jesus has done through me in my service to God. Yet I dare not boast about anything except what Christ has done through me.
Romans 15:17-18
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Stepping Stones: When The Laughter Ends…
Transformational Tip
Most of us have some degree of trouble admitting our true feelings and being able to express them…especially if we are struggling with life-controlling problems. But throughout the Bible, God encourages us to know our feelings and not keep them hidden inside. Jesus set an example for us: He had emotions and he expressed them. He cried. He got angry. He was sad. He was concerned and sweat blood in the garden.
We often hide the way we feel behind a defense to keep our real self from showing through. Inside we may feel fearful or angry or sad, but we hide those feelings by joking…or acting superior…or being silent…deflecting attention to something else…anesthetizing it with substances or food…or employing some other defense. We may try to cover our sadness with laughter, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains. Hidden shame and sadness are roadblocks to hope and healing.
Hiding our feelings gives them control over our lives. Unexpressed anger, fear, or guilt will have a destructive influence on everything we do. We only have a small box inside to keep these feelings in…it overflows quickly. When it overflows, those feelings will come out into our real everyday functioning…that is a fact.
Your choice is very simple: Express your feelings as they happen in ways that are controllable, functional, measured, and useful to you while they match the situation…or instead, while you are trying to hold them in your feelings start to overflow that little container inside and ooze out in ways that are uncontrollable, dysfunctional, random, and sabotage your efforts to move forward.
Today, ask yourself the question; has your "cover-up" helped? Or have you learned first-hand that when the laughter ends, the grief remains? Your suppressed feelings are coming back to undermine your happiness and relationships. Admitting your feelings can be a turning point. Be honest with yourself…And with God…And then with a friend. Being real will open the door for healing. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective “when the laughter ends”.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been hiding my feelings for a long time, but I know now it's time to be honest. Help me to be real. Help me to have better awareness of my feelings and more control in expressing them. Soothe me and increase my awareness of Your soothing. Help me to share my real feelings with my loved ones. Set me free from their grip. I pray in the name of the One who You sent to be my perfect emotional role model, Jesus Christ. And all God’s children said AMEN!
The Truth
Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when laughter ends, the grief remains. "
Proverbs 14:13
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
and give no opportunity to the devil.
Ephesians 4:26,27
Most of us have some degree of trouble admitting our true feelings and being able to express them…especially if we are struggling with life-controlling problems. But throughout the Bible, God encourages us to know our feelings and not keep them hidden inside. Jesus set an example for us: He had emotions and he expressed them. He cried. He got angry. He was sad. He was concerned and sweat blood in the garden.
We often hide the way we feel behind a defense to keep our real self from showing through. Inside we may feel fearful or angry or sad, but we hide those feelings by joking…or acting superior…or being silent…deflecting attention to something else…anesthetizing it with substances or food…or employing some other defense. We may try to cover our sadness with laughter, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains. Hidden shame and sadness are roadblocks to hope and healing.
Hiding our feelings gives them control over our lives. Unexpressed anger, fear, or guilt will have a destructive influence on everything we do. We only have a small box inside to keep these feelings in…it overflows quickly. When it overflows, those feelings will come out into our real everyday functioning…that is a fact.
Your choice is very simple: Express your feelings as they happen in ways that are controllable, functional, measured, and useful to you while they match the situation…or instead, while you are trying to hold them in your feelings start to overflow that little container inside and ooze out in ways that are uncontrollable, dysfunctional, random, and sabotage your efforts to move forward.
Today, ask yourself the question; has your "cover-up" helped? Or have you learned first-hand that when the laughter ends, the grief remains? Your suppressed feelings are coming back to undermine your happiness and relationships. Admitting your feelings can be a turning point. Be honest with yourself…And with God…And then with a friend. Being real will open the door for healing. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective “when the laughter ends”.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been hiding my feelings for a long time, but I know now it's time to be honest. Help me to be real. Help me to have better awareness of my feelings and more control in expressing them. Soothe me and increase my awareness of Your soothing. Help me to share my real feelings with my loved ones. Set me free from their grip. I pray in the name of the One who You sent to be my perfect emotional role model, Jesus Christ. And all God’s children said AMEN!
The Truth
Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when laughter ends, the grief remains. "
Proverbs 14:13
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
and give no opportunity to the devil.
Ephesians 4:26,27
Friday, March 5, 2010
Stepping Stones: Divorce: Despair or Trust?
Transformational Tip
Divorce is the ultimate relationship loss. When marriage problems end in separation and divorce, the loss is experienced by the entire family. Divorce can leave the family in suspended animation and battles usually rage long after the initial disruption.
Recovering from divorce involves working through a grieving process, much like when a spouse has died. It also involves making choices. You might not have had a choice in getting a divorce, but you do have choices in your response. Will you hold on to bitterness and anger…or will you forgive? Will you give up and give into despair…or will you trust Jesus to help you rebuild your life? Will you walk in fear …or will you be courageous to face the future God wants for you? Who do you trust, you or God?
Divorce can bring one of the most intense pains possible into a person's life. But you don't have to go through it alone. Jesus loves you and wants to help you. If you will commit your ways to Him, He will guide you in making those choices…He will give you the courage you need…and He will restore your hope. With Him all things are possible.
Today, if you are thinking about divorce, STOP! This is not God’s ideal plan, and therefore will be a nightmare for you and a lot of loss for many. If you are a child from divorced parents, really examine the lies that divorce embeds in your mind about you, your parents, and relationships. If you know people in these situations, be there to really help them heal and see God and life more clearly, because Satan really uses divorce to suck the soul out of people and make them his puppets.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the devastation of divorce and recovery.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the poor choices in the past. Right now I have to make so many decisions. I need your help. Help me to choose the right path…the one that is right for my family, for me, and most of all the one that is pleasing to You. I pray this and all prayers for the One who shows us what step to take next, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Who, then, is the man that fears the LORD? He will instruct him in the way chosen for him.
Psalm 25:12
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3
Divorce is the ultimate relationship loss. When marriage problems end in separation and divorce, the loss is experienced by the entire family. Divorce can leave the family in suspended animation and battles usually rage long after the initial disruption.
Recovering from divorce involves working through a grieving process, much like when a spouse has died. It also involves making choices. You might not have had a choice in getting a divorce, but you do have choices in your response. Will you hold on to bitterness and anger…or will you forgive? Will you give up and give into despair…or will you trust Jesus to help you rebuild your life? Will you walk in fear …or will you be courageous to face the future God wants for you? Who do you trust, you or God?
Divorce can bring one of the most intense pains possible into a person's life. But you don't have to go through it alone. Jesus loves you and wants to help you. If you will commit your ways to Him, He will guide you in making those choices…He will give you the courage you need…and He will restore your hope. With Him all things are possible.
Today, if you are thinking about divorce, STOP! This is not God’s ideal plan, and therefore will be a nightmare for you and a lot of loss for many. If you are a child from divorced parents, really examine the lies that divorce embeds in your mind about you, your parents, and relationships. If you know people in these situations, be there to really help them heal and see God and life more clearly, because Satan really uses divorce to suck the soul out of people and make them his puppets.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on the devastation of divorce and recovery.
Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the poor choices in the past. Right now I have to make so many decisions. I need your help. Help me to choose the right path…the one that is right for my family, for me, and most of all the one that is pleasing to You. I pray this and all prayers for the One who shows us what step to take next, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Who, then, is the man that fears the LORD? He will instruct him in the way chosen for him.
Psalm 25:12
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Stepping Stones: What’s Your Body Image?
Transformational Tip
There are so many factors and forces that keep us from the closeness to God that we need…and that He desires. Eating disorders is a clear example of one of those forces.
People with eating disorders…restricting or overeating…tend to get so preoccupied with their body image (and what others think of them) that they develop a distorted view of themselves. Their concerns about food, diet, body, and weight even begin to affect their relationships and their ability to function in day-to-day life.
If you are in this situation, determine not to let your obsession with your body keep you from closeness with God and with others. Decide how you wish to spend your energy; pursuing the "perfect" image?...Or focusing on your spiritual growth and your personal and interpersonal needs.
The outside, what man sees, or the inside, what God sees. Society changes its view of what is beautiful ... styles come and go. But God's view of beauty never changes. Identifying and challenging your negative thoughts and feelings about your body and keeping God's view in mind are essential to accepting yourself and your body.
Today, remember that your value as a person is not based on how you look or what you accomplish. Your value is based on the unchangeable fact that God loves you so much that He gave His son, Jesus, to die on the cross for you. Reach out to Him today. Receive his love and forgiveness. And thank Him for making you just the way you are. Eating issues are about believing lies. Seek the truth.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on body image as a distraction.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been pretty confused lately. I've been so concerned about how I look that I've ignored You…and relationships with others I care about have suffered. Please help me begin thinking more clearly ... to see things from your point of view. Thank You for loving me just the way I am. I pray this in the name of the One who loves me as I am, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:1-2
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart."
1 Samuel 16:7
There are so many factors and forces that keep us from the closeness to God that we need…and that He desires. Eating disorders is a clear example of one of those forces.
People with eating disorders…restricting or overeating…tend to get so preoccupied with their body image (and what others think of them) that they develop a distorted view of themselves. Their concerns about food, diet, body, and weight even begin to affect their relationships and their ability to function in day-to-day life.
If you are in this situation, determine not to let your obsession with your body keep you from closeness with God and with others. Decide how you wish to spend your energy; pursuing the "perfect" image?...Or focusing on your spiritual growth and your personal and interpersonal needs.
The outside, what man sees, or the inside, what God sees. Society changes its view of what is beautiful ... styles come and go. But God's view of beauty never changes. Identifying and challenging your negative thoughts and feelings about your body and keeping God's view in mind are essential to accepting yourself and your body.
Today, remember that your value as a person is not based on how you look or what you accomplish. Your value is based on the unchangeable fact that God loves you so much that He gave His son, Jesus, to die on the cross for you. Reach out to Him today. Receive his love and forgiveness. And thank Him for making you just the way you are. Eating issues are about believing lies. Seek the truth.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on body image as a distraction.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been pretty confused lately. I've been so concerned about how I look that I've ignored You…and relationships with others I care about have suffered. Please help me begin thinking more clearly ... to see things from your point of view. Thank You for loving me just the way I am. I pray this in the name of the One who loves me as I am, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:1-2
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart."
1 Samuel 16:7
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Stepping Stones: Do You Feel Alone?
Transformational Tip
20% of the US population…millions…suffer from clinical depression. Most people suffering from chronic depression feel so utterly unlovable, that they cannot bear the pain of even trying to experience love in a relationship with God, self, or others. They feel like a failure and anyone who disagrees with that assessment just doesn't understand. Even if you are not suffering from chronic depression, you may experience feelings like this from time to time…most people do.
If you are feeling this way, think about this good news: God knows you better than you know yourself, and He still loves you. He knows you are not perfect, but He loves you anyway…unconditionally. He loves you so much that He sent His only son, Jesus, to die on the cross for your sins because He wanted to provide a way that you could be with Him…for eternity…no matter how sinful or worthless you think you are.
God loves you so much, He has promised never to leave you. The Bible tells us that He is full of compassion for you…takes pleasure in you...loves you and gives you honor…You are precious in his sight. He promises He will love you forever.
Today, if you suffer from depression, seek professional help. But, also help yourself by reading each day the short bible passages below. Let His message sink deeply into you. The Bible says, Jesus loves you so much that He seeks after you. You are never alone. Right this very moment you may feel alone, but you are not. Jesus is there with you. Seeking to help you. Say yes. Yes to his love. Yes to his help. Yes to Jesus. The Holy Bible is true, you can believe it.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective about feeling alone and God’s pursuit of you.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for loving me no matter what. Thank You for promising to be with me…always…and honoring that promise, even though I don’t sense it sometime. Help my radar tune in stronger to know You are always there. Thank You for showing me reminders each day of Your presence, and help me not to overlook them. When I start to feel alone, help me rely on Your instruction book and not my own. I pray this and all prayers in the name the one who bled every drop of His blood for me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.' So we say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?'
Hebrews 13:5-6
The LORD is gracious and compassionate; slow to anger and rich in love.
Psalm 145:8
For the LORD takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with salvation.
Psalm 149:4
Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give men in exchange for you, and people in exchange for your life.
Isaiah 43:4
The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.”
Jeremiah 31:3
20% of the US population…millions…suffer from clinical depression. Most people suffering from chronic depression feel so utterly unlovable, that they cannot bear the pain of even trying to experience love in a relationship with God, self, or others. They feel like a failure and anyone who disagrees with that assessment just doesn't understand. Even if you are not suffering from chronic depression, you may experience feelings like this from time to time…most people do.
If you are feeling this way, think about this good news: God knows you better than you know yourself, and He still loves you. He knows you are not perfect, but He loves you anyway…unconditionally. He loves you so much that He sent His only son, Jesus, to die on the cross for your sins because He wanted to provide a way that you could be with Him…for eternity…no matter how sinful or worthless you think you are.
God loves you so much, He has promised never to leave you. The Bible tells us that He is full of compassion for you…takes pleasure in you...loves you and gives you honor…You are precious in his sight. He promises He will love you forever.
Today, if you suffer from depression, seek professional help. But, also help yourself by reading each day the short bible passages below. Let His message sink deeply into you. The Bible says, Jesus loves you so much that He seeks after you. You are never alone. Right this very moment you may feel alone, but you are not. Jesus is there with you. Seeking to help you. Say yes. Yes to his love. Yes to his help. Yes to Jesus. The Holy Bible is true, you can believe it.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective about feeling alone and God’s pursuit of you.
Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for loving me no matter what. Thank You for promising to be with me…always…and honoring that promise, even though I don’t sense it sometime. Help my radar tune in stronger to know You are always there. Thank You for showing me reminders each day of Your presence, and help me not to overlook them. When I start to feel alone, help me rely on Your instruction book and not my own. I pray this and all prayers in the name the one who bled every drop of His blood for me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.' So we say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?'
Hebrews 13:5-6
The LORD is gracious and compassionate; slow to anger and rich in love.
Psalm 145:8
For the LORD takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with salvation.
Psalm 149:4
Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give men in exchange for you, and people in exchange for your life.
Isaiah 43:4
The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.”
Jeremiah 31:3
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Stepping Stones: “Care-Fronting”
Transformational Tip
I have two brothers with drug addictions; one is in recovery, the second brother died from an overdose. Life-controlling problems so often turn to life-taking addictions. Each day I live with the guilt of not having done more to help the brother I lost.
Talking with a friend or loved one with a life-controlling problem can be like talking to a brick wall. But that wall can be broken down … brick by brick.
Does someone you love struggle with a life-impacting mindset or behavior? When you try to talk to him or her about it, do your words seem to bounce back at you, as though they've hit a brick wall?
Try this; picture a person behind a brick wall, becoming trapped but continuing to lay brick, building the wall higher and higher. In his/her mind, each brick is a way to defend themselves…but in reality, the wall is trapping, not defending him. Denial has blinded this loved one to his real condition.
David Augsburger in his book Caring Enough to Confront uses the term "care-fronting." This is a communication technique that combines love and caring with confrontation. Caring confrontation can chip away, bit by bit, the wall of delusion that hides reality from your loved one…the reality of the reason they are spiraling and the reality that an answer does exist to turn the spiral the other direction. When you are able to get rid of anger and replace it with caring, confronting your loved one with the truth can actually be the most loving thing you can do.
The bridges thru the wall are made of care and really are derived by us growing our relationship with God first to shine His love and care to our trapped loved one. As God grows in us, His forgiveness of us will melt our hurt we feel from our loved one and allow us to see him through Godly lenses so real care…love can happen.
So today, make a commitment to confront your loved one, to speak the truth in love…not in anger or condemnation…in order to help him tear down his wall of defenses, brick by brick, until he is able to see himself as he really is…someone made in God’s image, who God loves and sent His son to die for. God wants to use us to deliver that message, first modeling it, then saying it. Never give up.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “Care-fronting”.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Lord, help me be more honest with myself and with this person I care about so much. Help me look beyond his fault to his need … and then to express the reality of his situation to him…in love. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that I may speak as Christ would speak. I pray that love will make me tell the truth. I pray this in the name of the One who took my wall down, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
Ephesians 4:15
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Philippians 4:13
The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult.
Proverbs 12:16
I have two brothers with drug addictions; one is in recovery, the second brother died from an overdose. Life-controlling problems so often turn to life-taking addictions. Each day I live with the guilt of not having done more to help the brother I lost.
Talking with a friend or loved one with a life-controlling problem can be like talking to a brick wall. But that wall can be broken down … brick by brick.
Does someone you love struggle with a life-impacting mindset or behavior? When you try to talk to him or her about it, do your words seem to bounce back at you, as though they've hit a brick wall?
Try this; picture a person behind a brick wall, becoming trapped but continuing to lay brick, building the wall higher and higher. In his/her mind, each brick is a way to defend themselves…but in reality, the wall is trapping, not defending him. Denial has blinded this loved one to his real condition.
David Augsburger in his book Caring Enough to Confront uses the term "care-fronting." This is a communication technique that combines love and caring with confrontation. Caring confrontation can chip away, bit by bit, the wall of delusion that hides reality from your loved one…the reality of the reason they are spiraling and the reality that an answer does exist to turn the spiral the other direction. When you are able to get rid of anger and replace it with caring, confronting your loved one with the truth can actually be the most loving thing you can do.
The bridges thru the wall are made of care and really are derived by us growing our relationship with God first to shine His love and care to our trapped loved one. As God grows in us, His forgiveness of us will melt our hurt we feel from our loved one and allow us to see him through Godly lenses so real care…love can happen.
So today, make a commitment to confront your loved one, to speak the truth in love…not in anger or condemnation…in order to help him tear down his wall of defenses, brick by brick, until he is able to see himself as he really is…someone made in God’s image, who God loves and sent His son to die for. God wants to use us to deliver that message, first modeling it, then saying it. Never give up.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “Care-fronting”.
Prayer
Dear Father God, Lord, help me be more honest with myself and with this person I care about so much. Help me look beyond his fault to his need … and then to express the reality of his situation to him…in love. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that I may speak as Christ would speak. I pray that love will make me tell the truth. I pray this in the name of the One who took my wall down, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!
The Truth
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
Ephesians 4:15
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Philippians 4:13
The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult.
Proverbs 12:16
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