Thursday, March 4, 2010

Stepping Stones: What’s Your Body Image?

Transformational Tip

There are so many factors and forces that keep us from the closeness to God that we need…and that He desires. Eating disorders is a clear example of one of those forces.

People with eating disorders…restricting or overeating…tend to get so preoccupied with their body image (and what others think of them) that they develop a distorted view of themselves. Their concerns about food, diet, body, and weight even begin to affect their relationships and their ability to function in day-to-day life.

If you are in this situation, determine not to let your obsession with your body keep you from closeness with God and with others. Decide how you wish to spend your energy; pursuing the "perfect" image?...Or focusing on your spiritual growth and your personal and interpersonal needs.

The outside, what man sees, or the inside, what God sees. Society changes its view of what is beautiful ... styles come and go. But God's view of beauty never changes. Identifying and challenging your negative thoughts and feelings about your body and keeping God's view in mind are essential to accepting yourself and your body.

Today, remember that your value as a person is not based on how you look or what you accomplish. Your value is based on the unchangeable fact that God loves you so much that He gave His son, Jesus, to die on the cross for you. Reach out to Him today. Receive his love and forgiveness. And thank Him for making you just the way you are. Eating issues are about believing lies. Seek the truth.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on body image as a distraction.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I've been pretty confused lately. I've been so concerned about how I look that I've ignored You…and relationships with others I care about have suffered. Please help me begin thinking more clearly ... to see things from your point of view. Thank You for loving me just the way I am. I pray this in the name of the One who loves me as I am, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:1-2
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart."
1 Samuel 16:7

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Stepping Stones: Do You Feel Alone?

Transformational Tip

20% of the US population…millions…suffer from clinical depression. Most people suffering from chronic depression feel so utterly unlovable, that they cannot bear the pain of even trying to experience love in a relationship with God, self, or others. They feel like a failure and anyone who disagrees with that assessment just doesn't understand. Even if you are not suffering from chronic depression, you may experience feelings like this from time to time…most people do.

If you are feeling this way, think about this good news: God knows you better than you know yourself, and He still loves you. He knows you are not perfect, but He loves you anyway…unconditionally. He loves you so much that He sent His only son, Jesus, to die on the cross for your sins because He wanted to provide a way that you could be with Him…for eternity…no matter how sinful or worthless you think you are.

God loves you so much, He has promised never to leave you. The Bible tells us that He is full of compassion for you…takes pleasure in you...loves you and gives you honor…You are precious in his sight. He promises He will love you forever.

Today, if you suffer from depression, seek professional help. But, also help yourself by reading each day the short bible passages below. Let His message sink deeply into you. The Bible says, Jesus loves you so much that He seeks after you. You are never alone. Right this very moment you may feel alone, but you are not. Jesus is there with you. Seeking to help you. Say yes. Yes to his love. Yes to his help. Yes to Jesus. The Holy Bible is true, you can believe it.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective about feeling alone and God’s pursuit of you.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for loving me no matter what. Thank You for promising to be with me…always…and honoring that promise, even though I don’t sense it sometime. Help my radar tune in stronger to know You are always there. Thank You for showing me reminders each day of Your presence, and help me not to overlook them. When I start to feel alone, help me rely on Your instruction book and not my own. I pray this and all prayers in the name the one who bled every drop of His blood for me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.' So we say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?'
Hebrews 13:5-6
The LORD is gracious and compassionate; slow to anger and rich in love.
Psalm 145:8
For the LORD takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with salvation.
Psalm 149:4
Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give men in exchange for you, and people in exchange for your life.
Isaiah 43:4
The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.”
Jeremiah 31:3

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Stepping Stones: “Care-Fronting”

Transformational Tip

I have two brothers with drug addictions; one is in recovery, the second brother died from an overdose. Life-controlling problems so often turn to life-taking addictions. Each day I live with the guilt of not having done more to help the brother I lost.

Talking with a friend or loved one with a life-controlling problem can be like talking to a brick wall. But that wall can be broken down … brick by brick.
Does someone you love struggle with a life-impacting mindset or behavior? When you try to talk to him or her about it, do your words seem to bounce back at you, as though they've hit a brick wall?

Try this; picture a person behind a brick wall, becoming trapped but continuing to lay brick, building the wall higher and higher. In his/her mind, each brick is a way to defend themselves…but in reality, the wall is trapping, not defending him. Denial has blinded this loved one to his real condition.

David Augsburger in his book Caring Enough to Confront uses the term "care-fronting." This is a communication technique that combines love and caring with confrontation. Caring confrontation can chip away, bit by bit, the wall of delusion that hides reality from your loved one…the reality of the reason they are spiraling and the reality that an answer does exist to turn the spiral the other direction. When you are able to get rid of anger and replace it with caring, confronting your loved one with the truth can actually be the most loving thing you can do.

The bridges thru the wall are made of care and really are derived by us growing our relationship with God first to shine His love and care to our trapped loved one. As God grows in us, His forgiveness of us will melt our hurt we feel from our loved one and allow us to see him through Godly lenses so real care…love can happen.

So today, make a commitment to confront your loved one, to speak the truth in love…not in anger or condemnation…in order to help him tear down his wall of defenses, brick by brick, until he is able to see himself as he really is…someone made in God’s image, who God loves and sent His son to die for. God wants to use us to deliver that message, first modeling it, then saying it. Never give up.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on “Care-fronting”.

Prayer
Dear Father God, Lord, help me be more honest with myself and with this person I care about so much. Help me look beyond his fault to his need … and then to express the reality of his situation to him…in love. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that I may speak as Christ would speak. I pray that love will make me tell the truth. I pray this in the name of the One who took my wall down, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
Ephesians 4:15
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Philippians 4:13
The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult.
Proverbs 12:16

Monday, March 1, 2010

Stepping Stones: Satan, The Master of Deceit

Transformational Tip

The last 2 days, for this Lenten season, we looked at the first 2 desert temptations of Christ, so today we will look at the third temptation: Satan using Scripture to tempt Jesus to leap from the temple and land safely.

Again, Jesus could have done it, and it would have been the job of the angels to protect him. It was not a temptation to do an overt sin, but it was a test of the Father's care. It was a call to have Father God prove his care for Jesus.

Jesus responded by quoting other Scriptures and putting into context what Satan, the master of deceit, had quoted out of context.

We learn from Jesus' response that we should trust God and His promises, and not test his reliability. He promises to take care of us, but we shouldn't step in front of a speeding car to see what He will do. He has promised to meet our needs, but we shouldn't spend money recklessly.

In all three temptations, Jesus relied on the Scriptures to give Him a proper understanding of what He was to do, and He quoted it in times of temptation. He did not take isolated verses out of context but balanced Scripture with an understanding of the true meaning of the verses. We find this to be part of the Armor of God that Paul exhorts us to use in this spiritual war we are in.

Having experienced temptation, Jesus understands our condition. He is sympathetic, but He is also the perfect standard.

Today, yield to the will of God. Memorize Scripture. But get a good study Bible which explains the context of these verses. Live it. Make a specific plan of how to do this more consistently as the Lord enables and pushes you. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on where you go for truth…Satan and the world…or the HOLY BIBLE.

Prayer
Dear Father God, You know I am so weak, please help me to better prepare to resist temptation by spending more time in your Word. Teach me to not just read, but rather to live the Scripture. Please bring the right Scripture to my mind when I am facing a temptation…but also to understand the whole story of Your word. I pray this in the name of the One who would never deceive me and is the living word, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Then the devil took him to Jerusalem, to the highest point of the Temple, and said, 'If you are the Son of God, jump off! For the Scriptures say, He will order his angels to protect and guard you. And they will hold you up with their hands so you won’t even hurt your foot on a stone.' Jesus responded, “The Scriptures also say, You must not test the Lord your God.”
Luke 4:9-12
Those who obey him will not be punished. Those who are wise will find a time and a way to do what is right, for there is a time and a way for everything. . .”
Ecclesiastes 8:5, 6a
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

Hebrews 4:12

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Stepping Stones: Who Do You Bow To?

Transformational Tip

In this Lenten season, yesterday, we looked at Jesus being tempted during His time of fasting in the desert. The second temptation consisted of Satan promising Jesus all the kingdoms of the world if Jesus would worship him.

Both Jesus and his tempter knew that Jesus would eventually gain these kingdoms anyway. So Satan was tempting Jesus to take something that is rightfully His, but by wrong means…give it to him sooner…to avoid pain and suffering…to avoid the cross. And in the process, Jesus would have to bow down and worship the devil…Call Satan lord of His life. Blowing off God’s timeline for Satan’s. Do you really believe Satan would have honored his part of the agreement anyway?

Once again, Jesus refused to give in to the temptation. And again, he quoted the Scriptures, revealing the root of the temptation by showing the right form of worship. His Father has the perfect agenda and timeline and is the only worthy one for us to worship.

We live in a time of instant gratification. Our fast-paced world and never-ending flow of instant responses via cell phones, Internet, etc. have molded us to want and expect instant gratification. We want it NOW, if not yesterday.

Sometimes we may know in our hearts that God has a plan to take care of a situation, but we don't want to wait. We want the solution now. And so, instead of waiting for God's plan to unfold, we manipulate and make it happen now. My will vs. Thy will.

And be very clear about this; in rejecting God's plan, we are bowing down to Satan. Who do you want to bow to?

Today, let us learn from the example Jesus has set for us. Let us choose God's way, God's timing—always the best way and the best timing. Learn patience and perseverance, it comes from trusting God’s love for and provision for you is better than what our feeble minds and plans can come up with. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on who you bow to.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I bow to You Father. All glory to You my Lord. Forgive me for the times I have not been willing to wait and do things the right way…Your way, but have taken a shortcut. Help me be willing to wait. Teach me to trust you more and to choose your way and your timing, I know Your timing is the perfect timing. I pray this in the name of the One who teaches us how to worship You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
The devil led him up to a high place and showed him in an instant all the kingdoms of the world. And he said to him, 'I will give you all their authority and splendor, for it has been given to me, and I can give it to anyone I want to. So if you worship me, it will all be yours.' Jesus answered, “It is written: Worship the Lord your God and serve him only.”
Luke 4:5-8
If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the furnace of blazing fire; and He will deliver us out of your hand, O king. But even if He does not, let it be known to you, O king, that we are not going to serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up.
He said, "Look! I see four men loosed and walking about in the midst of the fire without harm, and the appearance of the fourth is like a son of the gods!"
Nebuchadnezzar responded and said, "Blessed be the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego, who has sent His angel and delivered His servants who put their trust in Him, violating the king's command, and yielded up their bodies so as not to serve or worship any god except their own God.
Daniel 3:17,18,25,28

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Stepping Stones: It’s All About Priorities

Transformational Tip

The Holy Spirit led Jesus to the desert, where he fasted for 40 days. The Bible says, Satan tempted him for the duration of those 40 days. Then Jesus faced a significant temptation of hunger, a realistic physical need.

Is eating to satisfy our hunger wrong? Of course not. But Jesus had been led by the Spirit and had made a commitment to fast during this time period. To break the fast by putting his desire for food above his commitment to the Father would have been sin.

There are many desires we experience throughout each day that are normal and good. To succeed on a job. To dress nicely. To make or listen to music. To prosper financially. To enjoy shopping. To commit to a relationship. Participating in a ministry. And the list goes on. These things are not wrong in themselves, but they are wrong if they take priority over our relationship with the Lord. God's plan and God's leading must always come first.

Jesus responded to the temptation by quoting Scripture. "Man shall not live and be sustained by bread alone, but by every word and expression of God." In other words, spiritual matters and faithfulness to God are life sustaining and more important than physical resources to meet our needs.

Today, take a moment to think about your life. Is there an area that is taking priority that should not be…that takes up mind space pushing God and other important Earthly responsibilities out. That is causing you to slide in your relationship with God? That is tempting you to make wrong choices? If so, now is the time to get back on track. As Jesus taught us, turn to God's Word. Say no to the temptation. Develop a concrete strategy to break that hold on your heart.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective making God your priority.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I confess there are areas in my life that are causing me to slide in my relationship with you. Fill me with Your Spirit so that I seek and better understand your Holy Bible and allow it to guide me as it guided Jesus. Please help me put your word into action, not just let it be part of my spiritual intellectual library, rarely visited for practical living. I pray this in the name of the one who always honored His ultimate priority, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Then the devil said to Him, If You are the Son of God, order this stone to turn into a loaf of bread. And Jesus replied to him, “It is written, Man shall not live and be sustained by (on) bread alone [but by every word and expression of God."
Luke 4:3-4
No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it. Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry.
1 Corinthians 10:13,14

Friday, February 26, 2010

Stepping Stones: Embrace Your Singleness

Transformational Tip

According to the 2000 census, more than 93 million people in the United States are single. About 20 million are divorced, another 13.5 million widowed, and 60 million have never been married.

Many singles feel that singleness equals rejection. Even if they don't feel that way themselves, society often looks on them as rejects. “You are single because nobody wants you” or “even that person has someone, why can’t you?” are the tapes that plays over and over.

If you are single, you can choose to make excuses or blame someone else. These choices view singleness as a problem and attempt to blame something or someone for it. A more positive and productive approach is to accept your singleness and make choices that will point you toward the goals God has for your life. With this attitude, you will be able to move forward with your life by embracing God and your singleness.

Being single is not last place in God’s eyes. Actually, He sees it as more time and mind space available for you to pursue Him. Some people find great fulfillment in being married, but others can find the same fulfillment and sense of purpose being single.

Today, if you know someone single, examine how you view them and can help them. If you are single, focus on the fact of how very special you are to God. You are his workmanship, and his workmanship is marvelous! God has a plan for your life, and it is best to focus on seeking His will and becoming all that He has designed you to be. Growing in Him will allow you to become more Christ-like in all areas of life, whether you are meant to be single or married.
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on embracing singleness.

Prayer
Dear Father God, Father, thank You for where I am. Help me always remember that success in my life's journey does not depend on whether I am married or single. My success in life can be measured only by how well I fit into Your plans for me. Help me focus on you and accomplish your purpose for my journey, whether You intend singleness or marriage. I pray this in the name of Your Son, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
Psalm 139:13-17
But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided.
1 Corinthians 7:32-34a

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Stepping Stones: Bad News/Good News

Transformational Tip

Do you sometimes find it difficult to manage your thoughts, attitudes, behaviors or emotions? Are you continuing in a destructive habit even though you know you are hurting yourself and those you love?

If you answered "yes" to either of these questions, you are not alone. Many of us have operated in a self-destruct mode at some time in our lives…for some of us it’s been this way most of our adult lives. Perhaps you have tried to do right…to change. For a while, things might be better and then you find yourself right back where you started.

Some bad news and some good news. The bad news; you can't make this kind of change by yourself. The good news; that's OK because you don't have to do it by yourself. God is standing by to help you. He is inviting you to turn your problem over to Him. He wants you to know this is not a person-size problem…it is a God-size problem. He loves you and He wants to help you.

Today, take the beginning steps to overcoming any destructive pattern in your life; admit you have the problem, admit you cannot correct the problem by yourself, tell God you are sorry for what you have been doing and that you truly want to change. And then trust Him to help you. Seek guidance about how to incorporate Christ, the Holy Spirit, and the Holy Bible into your everyday decision –making. WITHIN REACH(look on the Lighthouse Network website) has accomplished this for this writer, and can for you to.

Things may not change overnight, but you know you will be moving in the right direction. And God will be with you throughout the process.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of God-size problems and what to do about them.

Prayer
Dear Father God, Sometimes I feel so alone and helpless. Please bring Your Holy Word to my mind at those times. Help me remember that you are always with me and that with you, all things are possible. Your instruction in the Holy Bible is so powerful…it can actually renew my mind, and set me free. Help me to apply it’s teachings and trust your promises, instead of trusting my understanding and self-made instruction book. I pray this in the name of the One You sent to always be with me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me.
Psalm 16:8
With him, all things are possible
Philippians 4:13
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding
Proverbs 3:5

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Stepping Stones: “I Can’t Stand This…”

Transformational Tip

One key to controlling our temper is to have realistic expectations, especially of others. Examples…no one is ever wrong or right all the time…it’s wrong to expect others to always be happy and helpful…none of us are "up" all the time…we all have times that we are sick, stressed, or just plain tired.

Right or wrong, all these vulnerabilities affect moods, attitudes, and behaviors…ours and those who anger us. They may have acceptable reasons for their seemingly rude behavior as they might not be just selfish or thoughtless. We need to avoid getting offended every time people don't respond or act the way we think they should. They might just be having a bad day…stressors of magnitude higher in importance than their interaction with you.

We also need to remember that everyone and everything do not exist for our convenience or purpose. We will control anger better if we do not say things like "I can't stand this …" or "They better never …" These statements lock us into emotionalizing rather than thinking. I mean, seriously…look at most of the events that anger you. In the overall scheme of life and the spiritual battle we are waging against Satan and his evil forces, is that other person really evil and our enemy.

Today, try to align yourself with reality. Don't let everything bother you to the point that you "lose it" over other people's failures. Show them the same kind of understanding you would like to have on your challenging days. Get mad at the behavior and look for a way to help the person see reality more clearly. At the very least, be thankful to God you don’t have their shortcoming and are blessed in that area of functioning. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on having realistic expectations of others.

Prayer
Dear Lord, help me not to expect others to be perfect or to always do things my way. Make me willing to overlook offenses, to see people's hearts, and be sensitive to their needs. Help me, Father, to see You in them, and for them to see You in me. I pray this in the name of the One You sent to teach us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.
Proverbs 19:11
they said to him, "Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?" This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her." And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground.
John 8:4-7

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Stepping Stones: From Cover-up to Recovery

Transformational Tip

Defenses are behaviors we use to cover up or avoid uncomfortable feelings or discomfort; hiding them from others, and worse yet…from ourselves. Common defenses include suppressing, blaming, rationalizing, or hiding behind a smile.

Denial is one of the most common defenses. In the case of a loved one struggling with a life controlling, addiction problem, we demonstrate denial when we feel the need to protect or cover up their behavior. Or, we may be struggling with our own problems, but denying them…even to ourselves…or underestimating their gravity and damage to others and us. We deny the truth to keep our loved ones or ourselves “safe.” But in reality, denial doesn’t allow solutions and only leads to more problems. Denial is distorted thinking, leading to destruction, helplessness.

One reason we develop dysfunctional defenses is our lack of confidence in and inability to handle discomfort. Some of the most common negative feelings you may experience include anger, anxiety, sadness, fear, guilt, loneliness, and shame. Are you struggling with any of these feelings or similar ones? Are you smiling your way through each day while the struggle inside you rages?

Today, return to the place of honestly acknowledging you true feelings and dealing with them. Your first step out of the struggle is to admit the feelings to yourself, to God, and to others you know you can trust. No pain, No Gain. God will provide and equip. Act as if these 2 statements are true…and see miraculous growth happen for you and in your relationship with God. Only then can you begin the road out of the cover-up and into recovery.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of dealing with your discomfort on your own or with God’s guidance and power.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I have tried to convince myself that if I don't admit to these problems, if I deny them, then I'll be safe from them. I realize now I've been deceiving myself. I am struggling and I need your help. Help me, Father, to move from cover-up to recovery. I pray this in the name of the One You sent to remove the cover-up by covering me with His blood, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
You boast, "We have entered into a covenant with death, with the grave we have made an agreement. When an overwhelming scourge sweeps by, it cannot touch us, for we have made a lie our refuge and falsehood our hiding place."
Isaiah 28:15
And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6

Monday, February 22, 2010

Stepping Stones: Warning: Do Not Lean on Your Own Understanding

Transformational Tip

The Great American Way…Capitalism… the Land of Independence...Self-Sufficiency…Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness. We are raised and taught, “take care of yourself, don’t be a burden on others, and it’s the weak that are dependent on something or somebody else.” I want to do life on my own!

If you were ever a victim of abuse of any kind, you no doubt felt you had no control in the situation…whether it was mild, like ridicule or harshness from your parents, to neglect in a dating relationship, to misuse of power by someone in authority, or any other form of mistreatment. Or the abuse might have been extreme or violent…bullying, sexual coercion while dating, to mugging, and sexual molestation, even rape. No one has escaped all mistreatment.

We associate the abuse with being out of control, so we make a promise to ourselves to never let ourselves be in that dependent position again. So now we try to control most situations…including every relationship in our life...to make sure our vulnerability never answers the door when potential abuse knocks. Now, we probably have a hard time being vulnerable to being dependent on God and His controlling hand in our life.

I know, I was hardheaded about turning my life over to Him…and still struggle with it. But I tried being independent, controlling my life…it landed me in jail, with alcohol and a fear of other’s opinions and feelings as my master.

None of us can be free to become all we were meant to be until we recognize that God is in control…that He loves us and wants to care for us. We are fooling ourselves when we think we can make it on our own through this life. We need to lean on Him. On His wisdom, strength, love, character, promises…and His son.

Today, remember that this man you read about, Jesus, loves you. He is inviting you to put your hands in His and let Him guide you and help you through all circumstances of life…regardless of what ever has happened in the past. Stop trying to figure everything out on your own. Stop trying to forge through life depending on your own strength and understanding. Let Jesus love you. Let Him help you reach your full potential and accomplish all the good things he has called you to do. He actually died for you…for no reason other than He loved His father…AND YOU! Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of being independent of God vs. dependent on God.

Prayer
Dear Father, forgive me for thinking I could make it through life on my own. I need Your help and Your guidance in everything I do. Help me to stop trying to control everything…help me to listen to Your voice…to obey You…to trust You. I have leaned on myself and what the world offers and my hole only got deeper. Thanks for loving me more than I love me and for showing me how much You really love me thru Your taking my penalty and place on the cross. I pray this in the name of the One was sent to take my place, and teach and guide me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil.
Proverbs 3:5-7
He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities--all things were created through him and for him. And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.
Colossians 1:15-17

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Stepping Stones: Let’s Talk About Real Security

Transformational Tip

I have been rich and I have been poor. I have been well fed and I have been hungry. And I am learning the secret of being content in any situation.

Many of my friends have, and continue to experience, severe financial loss in the current economic climate. Stock market woes…Investment values plummeting… Retirement funds disappearing. Even without job loss, this downhill slide can be frightening. Coupled with job loss, it can be devastating…but it doesn't have to be.

In today's scripture the apostle Paul tells us that he has experienced both riches and poverty, but that he has reached a point where his joy and his well-being don't depend on the security of his bank account. No matter what he is going through, he knows that God will give him the strength to make it through.

God has and will continue to do the same for you.

As human beings, we all have a tendency to place our confidence in things we can see or control. Looking at a solid report on our investments…our kids doing well…status at work, church or community can give us a feeling of security. But it’s based on what is happening all around us, we are being reminded all too clearly that these things are not secure, that they can disappear in a moment.

Today, no matter what your circumstances, remember that Jesus is with you. He will give you the strength you need. As you lean on, and trust in, and obey Him, He will make a way. Really, what other options can you turn to that have the power, character, and track record than the all powerful creator of all things?
Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of what gives you security.

Prayer
Dear Father, help me remember that even if all my investments fail and my retirement fund collapses, marriage struggles, or kids falter…You haven't changed. I know that Your love for me will never change and that with you I can make it…no matter what. Thank You Father. All glory to You my Lord. I pray this in the name of the One You sent to secure my place in eternity, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:12-13
And a great windstorm arose, and the waves were breaking into the boat, so that the boat was already filling. But he was in the stern, asleep on the cushion. And they woke him and said to him, "Teacher, do you not care that we are perishing?" And he awoke and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, "Peace! Be still!" And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm. He said to them, "Why are you so afraid? Have you still no faith?" And they were filled with great fear and said to one another, "Who then is this, that even the wind and the sea obey him?"
Mark 4:37-41

Saturday, February 20, 2010

Stepping Stones: Happy Anniversary!

Transformational Tip

Today marks the one year anniversary of the Stepping Stones Daily Devotional. Over this past year 600,000 devotionals have gone out to the readers. We thank those of you who have helped us grow. We started with 600/day and are now at 2700+/day…around the world! Thank you for spreading it to those you love and want to help and praise God for your wonderful stories we have been privileged to be a part of.

We are very excited about how devotional time impacts our lives and have received much encouragement to continue to share our teachings and devotionals with others. As we have shared our teachings, many have benefited greatly and have grown in their understanding of God, the Bible, and how to live as God desires us to live. All glory to You, our Father. It is our hope and prayer that you, too, will receive these gifts.

As believers we are all called to acknowledge Christ before others…and when we do, Jesus tells us that He will acknowledge us in the presence of God.

Today, find some small way to practice Christ’s teaching and share the Gospel with others. Draw those around you to Christ like fishermen that pull fish into their boat with nets. Foreword one of your favorite Stepping Stones Devotionals to those you know will benefit.

For those new to Stepping Stones, our goal for you and some short tips on how best to use the devotionals are included below.

By HIS grace,
The Lighthouse Network Team


Our Goals for you
Become more Christ-like by developing the mind of Christ. (Transformational Tip)
Grow a close and loving relationship with God. (Prayer)
Realize the Bible is the place for truth know God and to live life abundantly, today. (The Truth)

Become a strong, bright LIGHTHOUSE that:
• Shines God’s glory to the rest of the world
• Stands on rock solid foundation to withstand the storms of your life and help others in the face of their storms.

Lighthouse’s Recommended Use of the Devotional
The first step in maximizing the potential offered by the Stepping Stones Daily Devotional is to be a believer in Jesus Christ. This means you admit your sin separates you from God and you then accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior so that you are in clear eternal relationship with God under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. If you are not already a believer, it is our hope and prayer that our devotional will help bring you to a place where you will “believe and receive” the grace and love God has for you.
The second step is to make sure you are clear headed, focused, and can concentrate for a couple of minutes….and now you are ready to use the devotional.

1. Read the Transformational Tip and think how it relates to your life. Think of how you can go just one stepping stone closer, very practically, to your goal of fulfilling your God-given potential.

2. Pray, talk to God directly. This is our actual prayer and you can use it directly or as an example of how you can talk to God about the tip and how you want and need His guidance, help, and power to get to the next stepping stone on your path to Christ-likeness. Ask God to open your eyes to His truth and strength to act according to His will. Insert your personal praise and thanksgiving, as well as petitions and special requests. More importantly, praying helps build your relationship with God. Don’t do all the talking…remember to listen to God.

3. Read the Bible passage to see that the Bible does have answers for everyday life. If you have time at first reading, open the Bible and read before and after the verses and absorb as much as you can, but with particular focus on the transformational tip and its practical application to your life.

We thank you for allowing us to be part of your growth process. Please let us know how you are doing by emailing us at devotions@LighthouseNetwork.org

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for all You blessings, large and small. I pray, Lord, that You use me and all those part of the Stepping Stones community to carry out Your desires with all our resources rather than focusing on our own desires. Use me in anyway possible to further Your kingdom here on earth. I pray this in the name of the One You sent to teach us, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
"I tell you, whoever acknowledges me before men, the Son of Man will also acknowledge him before the angels of God. But he who disowns me before men will be disowned before the angels of God.
Luke 12:8-9
As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. "Come, follow me," Jesus said, "and I will make you fishers of men." At once they left their nets and followed him.
Matthew 4:18-22

Friday, February 19, 2010

Stepping Stones: Peace; The Great Elixir

Transformational Tip

A few years back, I injured the rotator cuff in my shoulder. It produced a pain that varied from chronic to acute…affecting my daily life. Using that arm for most anything always made things worse. Of course, I waited much too long before seeking medical attention. The doc told me the tendons in my shoulder were swollen and inflamed, and the swelling was causing the tendons to get pinched between some bones. After an injection to quiet down the inflammation and a little rest, all went back to normal.

I think it’s safe to say that most people, actually, let me say it with more strength, ALL people are “the walking wounded” (spiritual wounded). Of course the wounds and injuries vary in severity, but we all carry wounds around with us. And those wounds carry with them a degree of pain. We try to escape the pain in good and not-so-good ways, because we all seek comfort and peace.

And unfortunately, our pain level often goes from bad to worse by the decisions and the choices we make in our search for comfort. It’s the proverbial vicious downward cycle. Our pain, caused by new and old wounds, evokes emotions, which in turn distorts our decision making process(we choke). To go back to my shoulder injury; using my arm while the tendons were inflamed added more pain.

The injection we need to stop this hurtful cycle is God’s peace. The promise of peace is abundant throughout the Holy Bible. An antonym for peace is uproar, a highly emotional state. And while emotions are critical to us (they act as a very effective warning system), it is not the state of mind in which to make decisions. Making decisions during times of high emotion is a huge handicap…and many times those decisions only increase the inflammation, pain and emotional state.

Today, reflect back on some decisions that you regret…what kind of emotions pushed your decision-making? How do you think your decision-making process would have gone if you had a powerful Peace in the midst of that event? Seek and accept the peace promised by your Lord before you take any important decisions.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on how your emotions affect your decision-making.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I am so thankful for Your power. I know, Lord, that the very same power that controls creation and raised Your Son from the dead is available to me. Infuse me, Father, with Your Holy Spirit, the Spirit that Jesus called the great comforter, so that I may experience peace through good weather as well as storms. I pray this in the name of the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.
Psalm 29:11
do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6,7

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Stepping Stones: When I say I am a Christian…

Transformational Tip

Yesterday I heard yet again some condescending comments from a non-believer about Christianity. He said that being a Christian was the easy way out; that it was a life that accepted no responsibility and that carried a “cant-lose” mentality. He was right about the cant lose…but for the wrong reasoning.

He said that when things go right for us Christians we say “see, it’s working.” And that when things go wrong we say “…the will of God” and we accept no responsibility.

I gave him my perspective. I told him that when I say that "I am a Christian.”
• I'm not saying, “I’m holier than thou…” I'm saying, “I am a simple sinner who received God's grace.”
• I am not shouting that “I am clean living…” I'm whispering, "I was lost, but now I'm found and forgiven."
• I don't speak with pride…I'm confessing that I stumble daily along my path and need Christ as my lighthouse.
• I'm not trying to be strong…I'm admitting that I'm weak and need His strength.
• I'm not bragging of success…I'm admitting on my own I have failed, but through Him, I can experience temporal and eternal victory.
• I'm not claiming to be perfect…my flaws are many and run deep, but I am claiming that God always loves and advocates for me.
• I’m not saying I am pain free; I still feel the sting of pain - I have my share of heartaches, but now I call on His name and He does comfort me.

Today, be mindful of the perceptions you give others about your Christianity. Help others understand the true meaning of being a Christian. Are you exhibiting the behavior and living the life taught us by Christ? They are watching. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective what we Christians communicate to the world about Christianity.

Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me increasingly live a Christ-like life. Let me not be boastful or try and appear holier than my neighbor. Let my life be an example of Your transformational power. Help me, Father, live my life in humble confidence in You. I pray this in the name of the One you sent to teach me how to live, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
John 16:33
So he replied to the messengers, "Go back and report to John what you have seen and heard: The blind receive sight, the lame walk, those who have leprosy are cured, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the good news is preached to the poor. Blessed is the man who does not fall away on account of me."
Luke 7:22-23

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Stepping Stones: Who Wants To Be Meek?

Transformational Tip

Due to work, I spend a lot of time in airports…luckily, I love to people watch. During a recent trip, I observed a sad but enlightening encounter between two strangers. The aggressor attempted to initiate a fight with another passenger over a place in the check-in line. But the target of the aggression would have no part of it; he gently stepped aside and let the provoker go first. I felt compassion for the one who stepped aside. The word that came to mind was “meek.”

I had often thought someone who is meek must be very quiet and without opinion. Someone who would let anyone walk all over them. Someone with no backbone…afraid and avoidant of conflict.

Searching the Scriptures for insight, I started “meek” really described a way of living and a state of mind—one that I was pretty sure I wasn’t doing and didn’t have. Reflecting back on the passenger, I realized he wasn’t weak, he was humble. He wasn’t letting someone walk over him…he showed kindness and good judgment. This was meek.

Jesus talks about those who are meek in the Beatitudes (part of the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew). It’s one in a list of attributes or attitudes defining how believers ought to live. If you read through all twelve verses, you’ll gulp, shake your head and admit that the standards are very high. How can anyone act in these ways all the time? And then I realized…we can only live beatitude-ly with God’s instruction, help, and through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Jesus was meek personified, but…at the same time, He initiated conflict…started a revolution…stuck to His Father’s agenda, not His own. That is meek. Those who are meek are those who are humble before God. They appreciate their place and understand how they relate to their Creator. Basically, they understand that the world does not revolve around them, but God. He is the general manager of their universe, not vice versa. Thy kingdom come, not my kingdom come.

Today, try a little meekness in your interactions with others. Bend your knee and submit your will to that of our heavenly Father. Take your cue from Jesus. Let God work through you on others. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of being meek.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I do humble myself before You. I do want to live my life in line with the teachings of your Son Jesus. Fill me with You Holy Spirit so that I may be more meek than aggressive…more humble than prideful...more submissive to Your will instead of defiant…and most of all, more aware of your will, than focused on mine. I pray this in the name of the One you sent to be our teacher and our savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Matthew 5:5
Now the man Moses was very meek, more than all people who were on the face of the earth.
Numbers 12:3
He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way.
Psalm 25:9

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Stepping Stones: Be Exhausted For the Right Reason

Transformational Tip

You may be physically exhausted from “doing.” Attending service, participating in small groups, volunteering…doing stuff in the name of service. But a deeper and more dangerous form of exhaustion is the spiritual type. This type of exhaustion comes from giving, and not so much from of doing.

Jesus said to Peter - "Feed My sheep," but He gave Peter nothing to feed them with. We are all called to go feed His sheep…the process of being made “broken bread” and “poured out wine,” means that you will be the nourishment for other’s souls until they learn to feed on God. Before they learn to draw on the life of the Lord Jesus directly, they have to draw on it through you. This is how God uses us to minister to others. We are called to serve, but this process has the potential to deplete and exhaust us.

We shouldn’t be exhausted, rather we should feel emptied…we need not remain emptied, for we can return to the Source of all energy to always refuel. God’s Word promises you strength and power, and the Holy Spirit is that energy source that we can tap into to directly refuel us for continued service.

Today, ask yourself the question, “Am I exhausted for the right reasons?” Be exhausted because you are giving, not because you are forgetting to refuel through the Holy Spirit, His Word, and His Armor. Remember, your supply comes from Him…Turn to Him for replenishment. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective of being “spiritually emptied” and refueled.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I am exhausted, but for the wrong reasons. I am spinning my wheels, turning in circles, making no headway. I want to experience a different form of exhaustion; I want to be exhausted from furthering Your kingdom here on earth. Use me, Father, to save souls and to spiritually nourish the starving until they learn to feed directly from You. I pray this in the name of the One you sent to be our broken bread and poured out wine, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
Isaiah 40:28-29
He said to him the third time, "Simon, son of John, do you love me?" Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, "Do you love me?" and he said to him, "Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you." Jesus said to him, "Feed my sheep.
John 21:17

Monday, February 15, 2010

Stepping Stones: Without Him, We Crack

Transformational Tip

It’s still amazing to me the sheer number of TV channels available to us…you can find something playing on almost any topic. I was flipping channels the other day and stumbled on a program on vintage guitars.

The narrator was explaining that the finest acoustic guitars are made from very thin layers of tone woods…the thinness contributing to the quality of sound. He went on to say how critical it is to keep the guitar at the wood’s natural moisture level, about 45% relative humidity. If not, the wood cracks and the tone changes. If cracked, the once beautiful tone takes on a deadened sound. Of course you can still play it, but it will never sound like it was built to sound.

The guitar was then placed in a room with 45% humidity; three days later the wood expanded to it original size, the cracks closed and the guitar played and sounded like new. The narrator went on to use the human body as a comparison. Talked about how we are made up primarily of water…how things start to go seriously wrong if we become dehydrated. It got me thinking.

We were created by God, designed in His image…finer than the finest instrument, created by our Lord to make spiritual music…fruit of our faith to glorify His name. And as the guitar needs moisture to keep from cracking…we need to be filled with the Holy Spirit and God’s Grace. We need it in and around us. In the absence of His flowing, living water, we crack. Like the cracked guitar, we can still make music…but the sound has deadness to it.

Today, think about how well hydrated your spirit and soul are. Does your sound replicate that of a fine instrument…or is it muted with an unwanted deadness? Soak in the living waters that flow from Jesus Christ…truly believe in and practice His teachings and watch those cracks close up before your eyes. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective spiritual cracks.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I come to You Father dry, parched, dehydrated and cracked. I know You created me to make spiritual music, but all that is coming from me lately are dead notes. Fill me, Father, with “streams of living water” so that my cracks heal and close, and that I make the beautiful music you intended for me. Thank You, Lord, for Your Son Jesus Christ, who gave us life and gave it so freely. I pray this in the name of the One who filled all my cracks and heart; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Jesus answered her, "If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water."
John 4:10
On the last and greatest day of the Feast, Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, "If anyone is thirsty, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, streams of living water will flow from within him."
John 7:37
A Psalm of David, when he was in the wilderness of Judah. O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.
Psalm 63:1

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Stepping Stones: Mystery and Power of Romance

Transformational Tip

Valentine’s Day really reminds us about the amazing experience of romance. While mostly everyone admits this day has become too commercial, it does serve as a powerful reminder about the beauty of true romance.

No matter how we try (even with the best greeting card) to describe or define romance, it remains a mystery only God truly understands and actually delivers. Like with all aspects of life, the Bible remains the only real source…the truth. In Solomon’s Song of Songs, we get a glimpse of the mystery and power of romance.

In this most evocative description of romantic love, we are taught that it means both intimacy and intense emotional excitement. We see how deep affection inspires desire and complete appreciation for another….that being romantic means to pursue the object of our affection.

But most importantly, we learn that God intended human romance to culminate in the unbreakable bond of married love…and spiritual romance to culminate in our unbreakable bond through Christ with God, forever.

You see, the ultimate romance was God pursuing us, not wanting to lose us, sending Jesus down from heaven, Jesus giving His life and bearing up all the evil on the cross, so we could have intimate and eternal relationship with God. All this even though we cheat on Him and pursue other lovers right in front of Him. He is relentless in His pursuit and desire to woo us and take care of our every need.

Today, in addition to or in replacement of the card, flowers, and candy, read passages from Song of Songs to your Valentine. Our Lord and God would not have provided us with this scriptural celebration of love and romance unless He intended it as an inspiring example for us to use. Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective on romance.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for the blessing of romantic attraction. I pray that all those part of the Stepping Stones community pursue their spouse and partner joyfully and creatively for all the days of their lives in a way that is pleasing to You. I pray this in the name of the one who sent to teach us how to love, Jesus Christ; And all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
My beloved is mine, and I am his...
Song of Solomon 2:16
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.
Song of Solomon 8:6
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Stepping Stones: Darkness - Not Always Bad

Transformational Tip

Darkness – typically thought of as bad. Devoid of light, nightfall, blackened, lost, secret, closed…blinded. The Bible often uses darkness as meaning “not in God’s light.” As a child I was terribly frightened of the dark…actually carried that fear well into adulthood.

But, I have learned through personal experience that darkness is not all bad…and darkness does not have to be synonymous with the absence of God. Just maybe, when darkness comes, it signifies that we are under the shelter and in the shadow of our Lord(Ps 91:1). We have discussed the important concept of knowing that as children of God, nothing happens to you that He has not allowed.

During times of darkness there are treasures to be found (Isaiah 45:3)…learning to be had, growth to be gained, disciplining to become a disciple, strengthening for the attacks to come. When darkness comes, most run from it, distract themselves in it through their escapes/idols/addictions…or simply sleepwalk through it.

Today, when you find yourself in the midst of physiological or spiritual darkness turn to your God for strength. Don’t run from it; rather look for the treasures in those secret places. While in the dark turn to His Presence…His Word…His Spirit. And you will soon see His Lighthouse guiding you step by step.

Click here to share with the Stepping Stones community your perspective finding treasures in the darkness.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I know Father that You are perfect in all Your ways…therefore it is impossible for You to be careless. Nothing happens to me that You have not allowed. When I experience times of darkness – times that You could have prevented – it sometimes feels as if You are being careless with me. I pray Father that You equip me to navigate in the darkness…and that You will teach me how to use that equipment. I pray this in the name of the one you sent who experienced the darkest of times while paying for my sins, Jesus Christ; And all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name.
Isaiah 45:3
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10
He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
Psalm 91:1