Monday, May 17, 2010

Stepping Stones: Forgiveness: An Act of Service

Transformational Tip

Forgiveness in some ways is so simple and in other respects, is so complicated. And that’s when we are just trying to forgive ourselves, let alone when you introduce a whole other person that has hurt us.

Jesus came to die for us so we can live in intimate and incredible relationship with God… to have liberty from sin and Satan…Life Abundant. God created us for good works, to be shining lights. We can’t become all God designed us to be if we harbor resentment and bitterness. It is vital that we make the choice to forgive and even to reconcile, if possible, with the person who has hurt us.

In taking steps to reconciliation, begin with your thoughts. One thought area, amongst several, is to think about the other person’s needs, rather than their faults. How can you serve them, and God through forgiving them? Then begin to speak well of him or her to yourself and someone close to you, drawing attention to strengths and needs, rather than offenses. Next take action…begin to seek reconciliation. See some of our past devotionals on forgiveness.

You might be in a difficult situation in which the other party is not willing to reconcile. If this is the case, make sure you have forgiven in your own heart. Then keep yourself ready to pursue complete reconciliation if and when the other person is ready.

Today, ask God to open your eyes, have spiritual lenses to the other person’s needs and issues. Wait on God’s timing for the individual to join in total reconciliation. It may not be safe to be physically reconciled with some people. Don’t try to force it…let God work it out in His way and time. You are responsible for your heart and your part, not the other person’s. Above all, remember that Jesus loves you, and He will give you the strength and courage you need…abundantly.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, in all my relationships, help me dwell on things to praise, not things to curse. And especially help me to do this when I think or speak about the one who has offended me. May I walk in forgiveness and be open to reconciliation in Your way and Your time. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One died for my forgiveness, so I can extend it to others; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious…the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Stepping Stones: Why Can’t You See It?

Transformational Tip

How did you enjoy yesterday’s devotional? Not the second one we sent out, but the first one @ 5:00 AM. If you didn’t open it yet, go ahead and open it. You probably thought it was your computer or Internet not working correctly, because Lighthouse never makes mistakes. Then you remember that Lighthouse does make tons of mistakes…spelling errors, incorrect grammar, late in mailing some days…so the reason why the text area is blank is because Lighthouse forgot to write one today, or forgot to paste today’s devotional into the template and sent Stepping Stones out prematurely.

Well, we were just testing you to prove a point. Actually, there was text in the white area of yesterday’s Stepping Stones…don’t believe me. Go back to yesterday’s Stepping Stones and highlight the text area. What do you see? The text appears, because we gave you special lenses. The decoding secret: the font color of the text was white.

You see, God is performing amazing miracles, providing for us, saving us, protecting us, loving us, standing beside us, calling and pursuing us…but we don’t see it. Why don’t we see it? We aren’t understanding the key to clear up our lenses. Just like you couldn’t see the text until I gave you the proper lenses to view it, viewing our lives and all the activities around us is impossible unless we have the right spiritual lenses. That is what God’s word, The Holy Bible, is all about.

We need to get to know God through spending time alone with Him and learning of Him through His Word…which reveals God, His plan, His Son, and His instructions to us.

Today, do you conform to the lenses of this world and try to see all God does through distorted lenses? Or are you transforming your lenses, developing eyes that can see God working in all areas of your life. Peace, power, and joy come when we can see the white text instead of the fear and anxiety of thinking something is wrong or you missed out. Click here to share your perspective on what you first thought when you saw the blank text yesterday.
Editor’s Note: we really did make a mistake yesterday and the white text wasn’t intentional, but God was able to use our mistake as a great lesson to understand Him.

Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for using the crappy lenses of this world. I want to see You in all things. Help me release my dependency on this world and seek first Your kingdom. When I do see Your way, especially in stressful situations, my spirit is lifted and I am empowered to act in ways contrary to the world’s expectations…honoring You and growing me. Peace and joy readily follow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who opens my eyes, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And he said, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear." And when he was alone, those around him with the twelve asked him about the parables. And he said to them, "To you has been given the secret of the kingdom of God, but for those outside everything is in parables, so that "they may indeed see but not perceive, and may indeed hear but not understand, lest they should turn and be forgiven."
Mark 4:9-12

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Stepping Stones: Don’t Take Away My ……

Transformational Tip

Security means different things to different people. Some feel secure if their health is good, others if their finances are strong, still others if they’re surrounded by a loving family. But, depending on people or things will result in disappointment, as all the things of this world are limited and fallible.

Suppose you work for a company many years, building up a healthy retirement fund that you are depending on for security in later life. Soon after your 60th birthday, the company bankrupts and the retirement fund is no more. If your faith has been in that retirement plan for your security, you are devastated and fearful for the future.

But if you recognize that God, not the retirement fund, is your real source for all your need, you can rest in the assurance that He has a plan…and that He will take care of you. Nothing takes God by surprise. You might not see His plan, but you can be confident that He has everything under control.

The same principle applies when you lose a job, a friend moves, you get a scary diagnosis, your child has a special issue…really, when any part of your agenda doesn’t go as you planned. If your faith is in the job…friend…health…agenda, you may lose hope.

But if your faith is in Jesus, you know that He never changes. Nothing can separate you from His love. And He will provide a way…usually through a way that is so foreign to you to “prove” to you He is at work in your life.

Today, examine what in life do you fear losing…that you would have fear, anxiety, or lose sleep about. You are probably depending on that to much to meet some of your needs. Ask God to show you how He will meet that need and lessen your grip on that thing you fear losing. He is your rock, rest on and build your life on Him.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the times I have depended on other people and things, and then lost hope when they let me down. Help me to remember that You are my source, and that You are unchanging and totally trustworthy. Thank You for supplying all my needs. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who always forgives me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19

Friday, May 14, 2010

Stepping Stones: Control ≠ Security

Transformational Tip

Most people feel more secure when they are in control. A trip down a steep mountain road doesn’t feel as dangerous to us when we ‘re the ones with our hands on the steering wheel. The passengers with us will be more anxious or fearful.

Having control over our circumstances is very important to most of us…it allows us to feel more secure, competent, and confident. But we can't always be in control…actually we have a lot less control than we think. When facing circumstances beyond our control, we may feel helpless, anxious, angry, or overwhelmed, and experience panic or depression.

In today's world, a sense of safety and security may be difficult to find. The good news is that there is one way we can always be secure.

God provides a way for us to always experience a sense of security. He leaves it up to us…we can either continue depending on ourselves, panicking or losing hope when we can't control a situation…or we can depend on the Lord. If we choose Jesus and His way for our lives, we can always be secure in His love. We will still experience problems and trials on this earth, but we will begin to view them from an eternal perspective. When we turn control over to Jesus, we can know that no matter what challenges or trials we face, He will ultimately work them out for our good.

Today, whose hands have control of your steering wheel? Are you still trying to control every detail of your life? Do you experience frustration, fear or even anger when you can't control what is happening to you? Turn everything over to God. You can trust Him. He is way more equipped to handle life than you are.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, it seems that every time I turn a situation over to You, I hang on to some little part of it and pull it away from You again. I want to be in control, and yet I know that doesn't always work out. Please forgive me for not trusting You with every area of my life. Help me to trust You more and to leave the control of my life in Your hands. Help me to rest securely in Your love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach me how to trust, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
Proverbs 3:5-6

In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will,
Ephesians 1:11

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Stepping Stones: “World-Eyes” or a “Christ-Eyes?”

Transformational Tip

Jesus doesn't look at how much we have in our bank account, or how talented we are, or what background we come from. He looks at our heart. He approached corrupt tax collectors, prostitutes, criminals, and adulteresses in such an unpolitically correct way. When you look at people, do you have a worldly point of view or a Christ-like point of view?

A worldly point of view considers how a person looks…what a person possesses or lacks…or who a person knows. Financially well-to-do people may avoid associating with the working class. People in lower income brackets may assume that everyone with money is stuck-up and unkind. But Jesus doesn't see people on a ledger sheet. He sees each of us as an individual with needs, desires, wounds, and feelings.

Are there people you avoid because of their social or financial standing? Remember that they are God's creation…just like you. A successful businessperson who seems aloof may need a friend to talk to. Another person might not have the college degrees you have, but could have godly wisdom that would make a difference in your life.

Remember, these people aren’t in your life by mistake. God is perfect and has a great plan to develop you…customized specifically for you. The people in your life come from specific backgrounds, experiences, and cultures…have certain skills and deficits…and do things God knew they would do just to move you closer to the incredible goal God has for you – the mind of Christ and an intimate relationship with God Himself.

Today, take notice of what kind of lenses you use while viewing people. Be intentional to leave the worldly point of view, with all its prejudices and misconceptions, behind. Ask God to help you see people through his eyes and reach out to them with his love.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, help me not to evaluate people by what they have or how they look. Help me to have a Christ-like point of view and to respond to the real person, not what I see on the surface. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who looks beyond my physical body, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Because of this decision we don't evaluate people by what they have or how they look. We looked at the Messiah that way once and got it all wrong, as you know. 2 Corinthians 5:16

Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,
1 Peter 1:13-15

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Stepping Stones: Jesus: Equal Opportunity Savior

Transformational Tip

Who wants to be boring? A lot of our activities are pursued so we can avoid either being a bored person or a boring person. Spice things up, inject some excitement, plan a trip, go back to school, change our hairstyle, try a new restaurant.

Having said this, our natural tendency as human beings is to be attracted to sameness and routine and resist all that is different. We like to go the same places for vacation, eat or drink the “usual” when we go to a restaurant, wear a certain style clothes all the time…we don’t throw in or like many curveballs in any area of our life.

We tend to marry and congregate with people who are like us…the same color, culture, political party, religious beliefs, social level, or income bracket. We tend to mistrust and even resist anyone who is different.

People often judge others by what we see on the outside. We lump everyone from a particular racial or cultural group in one basket. We shun one another and, at times, even war against each other based solely on racial identity; how sad.

Aren't you glad Jesus doesn't see us that way? He loves us regardless of our race or culture or career or income. He searches every heart. He is interested in what's inside. He visited and hung out with all kinds…looking deeper than the surface.

Today, ask Jesus to help us search other people's hearts and see them through God’s eyes. As God's creation…designed in his image. Jesus gave His life for all people of all races and cultures. He sees everyone through eyes of love and compassion. He looks beyond faults to needs. It is time for us to let go of our prejudices and see others as Jesus does.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to see others through the eyes of Jesus. Reveal to me any prejudices I may have hidden in my heart. Forgive me, and help me to let go of them and the walls they create. Help me to stop looking at the outside and to truly search every heart. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who searches heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts.
1 Chronicles 28:9

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Stepping Stones: Hiking With God

Transformational Tip

Going on a walk, or especially a hike, with a guide is a really fun, healthy, adventurous, and growing experience. Several key elements include… intentionality by the guide and hiker…coordinated movements modeled by the guide and repeated by the hiker…strategic planning by the guide and followed by the hiker…and most important, trustworthiness of the guide and ultimate trust by the hiker in the guide.

Once we come to Christ in faith, we begin to walk, actually hike, with God on an incredible journey on a daily basis. The destination is described to us, yet we’ve never been there before, nor do we know exactly how to get there. The Bible gives us very concrete instruction but the actual application of it in the complex and numerous detours and false paths is really hard to follow. It is vital that we learn to trust our Guide, God and The Holy Spirit, every area of our lives…day in and day out.

We can trust Him because we are assured that as we love God and commit our lives to Him, He works everything…the good and the bad…together for good. We can trust Him because He has demonstrated His great unconditional love for us.
We can commit our wayward child to Him because we know He loves that child even more than we do.

We can commit our finances to Him because we know that He will work all things for good as we follow Him and trust Him for wisdom.

We can trust our loved one's health to Him because of his mercy and love.
We can trust God to work His plan in our ministry…and His plan is perfect.
Is there an area of your life that you are clinging to…and worrying about…instead of trusting God? God cares about everything that concerns you.

Today, examine your daily hike. Where are you going and who is your guide? These are the 2 most important questions you need to ask. If you are your own guide, or if you are following the world’s system…you are lost! Keep your eyes on Him, love and trust Him. He will go before you…He will guide you…He will strengthen you…And He will work all things for good.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I have been worrying about this situation and trying to fix it myself. My way hasn't worked. I commit this situation and my hike to You and trust You for the answer. I want You to be my Guide and no other. Help me to resist being my own guide, because I now know the wrong places that leads me. No matter how things look now, I trust you to work all things together for good and get me to the right place of the Mind of Christ. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I strive to trust completely, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
Romans 8:28

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6

Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.
Matthew 7:13,14

Monday, May 10, 2010

Stepping Stones: Step One Through Infinity is Trust

Transformational Tip

We trust in a lot of things to save us. The strength of a chair to save us from falling. The power of a bridge to support our weight so we don’t plummet to the river below. The driver in the oncoming traffic will stay on his side of the yellow line to save our life.

Webster defines trust as "assured reliance on the character, ability, strength or truth of someone or something." When we trust in Jesus, we believe that He is God's Son and that His sacrifice pays the price for our sin. We are relying on and trusting God’s character…and His ability to do what He has promised. Ultimately, we are trusting on the power, strength, and the truth of His love.

Faith in Christ is the foundation, the first step, to a relationship with God.

Today's scripture is one of many that explain the gospel message. We all fall short of God's standard…we all have sinned…and so none of us can have a relationship with God on our own merit or power. The good news is that God loved us enough to send his Son, Jesus, to make a way for us. Jesus died on the cross and paid the price for every sin committed by man…past, present and future. Our responsibility is to trust Jesus as our Lord and Savior. When we do this, we are made right with God and can enjoy a personal relationship with him.

Today, ask yourself these questions; Have I trusted in Jesus? Have I received His love and His sacrifice for my sin? What is the evidence I trust in God and not my intellect, bank account, friends, looks, health, etc? If I lost any, or all of these things, would I still trust in God? He loves you with a love we can't even begin to comprehend. And He is trustworthy. He will never leave you. He will never disappoint you. He will always love you. In this world of uncertainty, there is no hope. But in Jesus there is every hope. That, you can trust in.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize that I am not worthy to be in Your presence. But I believe that Jesus paid the price for my sin and that through Him I can come to You. I receive Him now as my savior. But don’t let be the last step, just the first step of my growing trust in You, for all eternity. Please forgive my sins. I want to follow and trust in Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to set me free, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard.
Romans 3:22-23

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Stepping Stones: God: The Ultimate Insurance

Transformational Tip

“Nationwide is on your side” Linda Krisko, a Lighthouse Network board member provides our corporate and our personal insurance through Nationwide. I trust her and she has been great when our teen got into her first car accident.
“The Good Hands People” of Allstate ask us to submit ourselves and put our life in their hands for potential serious life issues.

To submit an area of our life to someone else, we really have to trust them, interview them, get other people’s feedback, check their track record, then give them a try.

God is the ultimate insurance company. Some say He sells fire insurance to save us from the fiery furnace of Hell. He also provides protection techniques from “accidents” as well as services to help navigate and restore when an “accident” does occur.

In order to fully submit our lives to God, we have to trust Him from the bottom of our heart. Trust his unconditional love. Trust that His way and instructions really are the best way. Trust that He is able to deliver what He promises. Trust that listening to Him and obeying Him will keep us on track.

How do we build that kind of trust? By getting to know Him better…through prayer…through studying and meditating on the Bible…by being sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. And by experience…looking back and remembering how He has loved us and helped us in the past. How His way has always proved to be the right way.

How do you make choices? By trying to figure things out on your own? By following your intellect, emotions and reasoning? Today’s scripture cautions not to assume that you know it all.

Today, listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go. Are you submitting to His plan above all else? Is He truly at the center of your life?

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Prayer
Dear Father God, Please forgive me for all the times I’ve attempted to figure things out on my own…instead of relying on You. I do trust You…but help me to trust You when I am in a pinch more. Teach me to tune into Your voice in everything I do and everywhere I go. Help me to always seek Your will, Your plan, above my own desires.. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I trust from the bottom of my heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don't try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he's the one who will keep you on track. Don't assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil!
Proverbs 3:5-7

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Stepping Stones: Do You Want To Be “Normal”?

Transformational Tip

It is a natural urge to want to fit in or be accepted by those around us. We tend to look around and pursue the pursuits of those around us or use the strategies we see those around us put into play.

It’s so easy to become molded to the world’s thinking. Television programs subtly—and more and more often not so subtly—dishonor God. They present sinful behavior and lifestyles as normal—over and over again through the months and the years. Without realizing it, we can gradually begin accepting the sinful behavior as “normal.”

Other influences…friends, employers, books, movies, etc. can shape our thinking as well. One real danger has been introduced in the form of books and movies that claim to be Christian and use “Christian-ese” words, but in fact teach things that are totally unscriptural. Usually good teaching is mixed in with the deceptive teaching, drawing many Christians into accepting the whole because of some carefully placed Biblical truths. Jesus warned us to be careful—that even the elect could be deceived.

How can we avoid being drawn into the pull of the world’s influences? By letting God transform us into a new person by changing the way we see life, our circumstances, and what motivates us. Then our decision-making will be Godly and transformation will exponentially wash over us.

We will continue to transform our mind, will, intellect and emotions as we obey God’s Word. He transforms our minds as we pray, study His Word and make Godly choices.

Today, measure every influence in the light of God’s Word…and reject those that don’t line up. Quit watching the television program. Don’t read the book. Choose what is right over what is easy or popular. Be willing to take a stand. Don’t be “normal”. Be special in Him and for Him.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Open my eyes to the wrong influences in my life. Transform me into a new person by changing the way I think. Give me a deeper understanding of Your Word and help me live in obedience to Your will, making right choices even when they are difficult ones. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who never settled for normal, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Friday, May 7, 2010

Stepping Stones: Become a Living Sacrifice

Transformational Tip

Through the years before Jesus died on the cross, God called the Israelites to offer animals as sacrifices for their sin. These sacrifices were offered repeatedly at regular time intervals. Then Jesus came and gave his own life on the cross to pay the ultimate everlasting sacrifice for our sins.

We no longer have to offer sacrifices to pay for our sins. When we accept Jesus as our Savior and make him Lord of our lives, our sins are transferred to Jesus’ account and are forgiven. The really cool thing is that Jesus’ righteousness…perfection…is credited to our account.

But we are called to be a living sacrifice by surrendering our lives to Him. He wants us to turn control over our minds and bodies to His care. He views our total submission as worship.

Most of us like to feel in control. The thought of turning control over to someone else, even God, might seem frightening…or just unappealing. What we need to remember is that God is a merciful and compassionate God. He wants what is best for us…and only He knows what that really is. He is all-knowing and all-powerful. We aren’t. How much better to submit to His control, to trust His plan, than to stick to our “I can do it myself” attitude.

Today, are you struggling with a temptation…a problem…a challenge right now? Sacrifice your agenda for God’s. Why not, look where your way has gotten you. Apply God’s agenda for one month and see what God can do when you submit completely to his plan?

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for Jesus. I thank You that through Him my sins are forgiven. I have committed my life to You and claim to make You Lord. But so many times I try to take control again. I know this shows a lack of trust in You. Please forgive me. May my body…all that I am…be a living sacrifice to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who was the ultimate sacrifice, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:1,2

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Stepping Stones: Let Anger Be Your Servant

Transformational Tip

Our feelings, emotions, are the source of some tremendous highs in life…and also some of our lowest times. Anger is probably one of the more base emotions, but also one of the more complex.

Society compounds are understanding of anger by not knowing much about anger, not teaching kids about anger, and not tolerating anger in ourselves or others at all.

Some of us tend to hold our anger in, sometimes allowing bitterness and resentment to build. On the other hand, some of us have more of a tendency to vent our anger immediately. This response could be described as "blowing up" or being "hot under the collar."

The Bible teaches that anger is really a great warning system, letting us know if there is danger or a potential problem. Where anger becomes sinful and harmful if when we let anger become our decision maker…it usually produces some pretty poor responses to a difficult situation.

Today, to learn to manage your anger, ask “What am I being warned about?” then when you identify the problem, look for a solution. When you solve the problem, the warning sign…the anger…will no longer be there. It is at this point that anger has become your servant and can be productive.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Teach me to respond to people with a gentle answer, rather than harsh words and actions. Teach me wisdom and patience and help me to respond in love and forgiveness. Help me use this great gift of anger in the way You designed me to use it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who perfected anger management, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1

A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
Proverbs 29:11

So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. 16 To those who sold doves he said, “Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father’s house into a market!”
John 2:15,16
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
Colossians 3:8

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Ephesians 4:26

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Stepping Stones: Facing the Truth

Transformational Tip

Forgiveness requires our facing the truth; The truth of Christ's death to pay our price forgiveness. The truth of our own sin and desperate need. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness. The truth that we need to extend that powerful gift of grace to others and forgive those who have hurt us.

In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment…even when that means forgiving ourselves.

All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve, and because of Christ Jesus, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins. How can we do less? Are we more powerful than God? Do we have a higher standard than God. Are we more upset about sin than God is?

Forgiven by the Lord, we have both the reason and responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is a choice we make. When we forgive, it really shows that we understand who we are, who God is, and what He really did for us. On the cross.

Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive…on our own. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone. With Him as our model and empowering us, as well as truly accepting His forgiveness, we can forgive…and actually enjoy blessing others as well as freeing ourselves.

Today, if you are struggling to forgive, ask Jesus to help You. Then look at whether you really understand and have accepted who you are, the sins you have committed, what you did to deserve God’s forgiveness, and whther you realize the unfair pain and sacrifice Jesus endured for you.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. I know I didn’t deserve Your forgiveness of me, so help me understand I cant wait for someone else to “deserve” my forgiveness before I give it. Help me to face the truth. Thank you for your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One to who paid for all my sins, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Stepping Stones: “I need to wait to do something until I …”

Transformational Tip

“Don’t go outside without a coat. Its Freezing! You’ll Catch A Cold!”
“Don’t crack your knuckles like that! You’ll get arthritis!”
“Shaving causes hair to grow back faster or coarser.”
“You only use 10% of your brain”

True or False? These are all False. Yes, many of us have believed them to be true, but they aren’t. They are common myths. Life is filled with many myths. A myth is, in general, a widely held but mistaken belief.

Even though Christianity is about the truth, many myths actually exist in Christianity. These beliefs actually impede, or even derail, healthy Christian behavior and growth.

A prevalent myth amongst Christians is the belief that we need to wait to further our faith until…we learn more…grow more… are done hurting…find the right Bible …find that great teacher that I really connect with…give up my addiction…have more time…really sense God’s presence…have my next crisis…have time to…tomorrow…I have someone to mentor me…I can take a class. Get the picture.

Today’s scripture tells us that we can do immensely more than we can imagine…according to His power that is at work within us. We don’t need to wait…in fact we can’t wait. We are already behind.

Today, push the myths out of your mind and take that next step toward living the life of Christ. Start today by doing one thing a little more than usual to grow your faith. Pray for an extra 3 minutes, listen to God for 2 extra minutes, or read the Holy Bible for an extra 5 minutes. A little more is possible…now. You will definitely see the benefit quickly. Click here to share your perspective about Christian myths.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I admit and confess that I let so many myths and falsehoods keep me away from doing Your work…and keep me away from You. I ask that You fill me with the Holy Spirit and the gift of discernment to help me eliminate non-productive myths. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who you sent to testify to the truth, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever! Amen.
Ephesians 3:20-21

Pilate said, "So you are a king?" Jesus responded, "You say I am a king. Actually, I was born and came into the world to testify to the truth. All who love the truth recognize that what I say is true."
John 18:37

Monday, May 3, 2010

Stepping Stones: “I” or “You”?

Transformational Tip

We all struggle with communicating clearly. Sometimes we have so much in our head, it’s hard to say it all in a couple sentences. Sometimes it is complicated and we get overwhelmed. Other times, we have so much emotion inside that we have trouble being assertive without being attacking.

As in any area of life, some quick tips help allow a more healthy process occur in uncertain or difficult circumstances. One of these communicating tips is communicating with “I” messages rather than “you” messages. This is can really be key to successful communication in marriage or any relationship.

“You” messages sound like this: You just don't care…You are a problem…Can't you…? You are sooo… Usually “you” messages get the other person on the defensive and often times attribute to them things they didn’t really do and motives they didn’t really have. You don’t know for sure.

“I” messages deal with items you do know. They convey what you feel or what you experienced. Here are some examples: I feel very angry because…I feel rejected because…I feel hurt because…

Instead of “When you didn’t pick me up on time, you rejected me,” you can say “When I didn’t get picked up on time, I felt rejected.” You aren’t saying what the other person did or why, you are just stating the situation as you know and experienced it. Hopefully the other person can do the same and you can have sharing of what is in each other’s heart instead of a blame and judgment fest.

“I” messages communicate honesty and openness. The Bible teaches us to build up, not tear down. Using “I” messages, we are less likely to harm and break down others, while still allowing for us to be open, honest, transparent, and vulnerable.

Today, monitor your speech. How many times do you use “you” statements? Try practicing even in good circumstances. “When I have the door opened for me, I feel special,” thank you for holding the door for me! Then you will be more apt to use “I” statements in the more difficult times where communication is essential.
Click here to share your perspective on using “I” instead of “You” statements.

Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to be more gracious in communicating with my spouse and loved ones. The ones I care about the most seem to be the ones I get most upset with and make accusatory statements to. Help me understand myself better and take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth, my feelings, and most importantly, what is in my heart. Help me to build up and not tear down. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, and not cut them out.
Colossians 4:6

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Stepping Stones: Love With Actions and Truth…Not Just Words

Transformational Tip

Do you ever say one thing and your spouse hears a totally different message than you intended?

Faulty communication is a common cause of marital conflict. In fact, most married couples experience miscommunication a number of times throughout their marriage. One message is sent, but a different one is received.

One thing we need to remember is that the words we say don't necessarily determine what is heard. Our tone of voice, facial expression and overall body language usually speak louder than words. Timing is also important. Consider what kind of a day your spouse has had and pressures that might be having an impact.

Other communication keys include thinking before speaking, maintaining eye contact, listening before answering, and building up rather than pulling down.
One sure way to avoid miscommunication is to frequently say the three words "I love you" to your spouse.

There are also many non-verbal ways you can express your love. Plan a special dinner or trip, buy something you know he or she has been wanting, help with a project your spouse is working on. Husbands, let your wife have a day all for herself occasionally. All these acts are really ways of communicating your love.

Today remember that God communicates his love to us not only through his words, but through his actions. We need to intentionally do the same…to Him and to other special people in our life.

Click here to share your perspective on communicating love.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thanks You for loving me…unconditionally. Help me express love to my spouse and the special people around me through my body language and actions as well as my words. Help me with wisdom and self-control to love when situations are more stressful, not just in the good times. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who communicated with the ultimate action, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.
1 John 3:18

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Stepping Stone: Love and Grace vs. Guilt

Transformational Tip

Guilt is an emotion that we take on early in life, especially if we grow up surrounded by violent behavior and abuse. Even though we are powerless to stop the violence, we feel responsible for what is happening.

A man recently told me this story:
When he was 12 years old, he was caught stealing a chrome oil cap for one of his friend’s car. After picking him up at the police station, his father lined up all his brothers and sisters in the kitchen to witness the punishment. He asked the child what hand he used to steal the oil cap. His father took that hand and placed in directly into gas burner on the stove. He told me he hasn’t stolen anything since that day. He received 3rd degree burns. As a 55 year old man, he still carries that guilt around his neck like a large stone.

You see, guilt feels terrible…we all know that. But a bigger problem is how this ongoing guilt really distorts our view of ourselves and what we were made for, who God wants and is working for us to become. The worst problem is how this ongoing, gnawing guilt really distorts and limits our view of God…makes Him seem impotent to free us…constantly judgmental and angry at us for our transgressions…or demanding perfection and us to constantly work our way back into His “graces”.

We can take our guilt, real or imagined, to the cross. Jesus paid the price in full to set us free from condemnation. The things we did do wrong have consequences, but we can be set free from real or imagined guilt as we receive the wonderful grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Today, bring your pain and guilt to the cross. Really look at who the God of the Bible is and how His cup of forgiveness always runneth over for you. Let the love and grace of Jesus cleanse you and set you free. Click here to share your perspective on the guilt in your life.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your love and grace. I bring my failures and my guilt to You and ask forgiveness. I know that some of the guilt is imagined, but it still haunts me. Help me to leave it at the foot of the cross. Help me to clearly see You and me and respond accordingly, as You designed. Thanks for always giving me second chances. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to forgive my sins and erase my guilt, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9

Friday, April 30, 2010

Stepping Stones: You Can Triumph Over Fear

Transformational Tip

Fear is a powerful emotion that is difficult to control. It can freeze us in place and make it hard for us to protect ourselves. It attacks our ability to trust. It compromises our ability to relax in relationships. It takes over our thought and decision processes…and we have trouble focusing and learning.

We often repress intense fear. We push it down and cover it up with other emotions like anger, depression, and anxiety. If we grow up with fear as a major organizer of our emotional life, we have difficulty developing trusting relationships. When we do connect with people, we have trouble being natural and genuine.

Are you plagued with fear? Today's scripture makes it clear that God is telling us that we can triumph over fear. He has given us a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. He also tells us in 1 John 4:18 that perfect love drives away fear. God's love is perfect, and He loves you. As you grasp hold of that truth, you will be able to trust Him more. When you begin to understand how much He loves you, the power of the things you fear will melt compared to the omnipotence of God. Just like your fear in the thunderstorm melts when your loving parent comes into your dark room and holds you.

Today, talk to God about everything. Believe that He loves you…and thank Him for His love. Only then will you be able to walk in peace, not fear. Remember that this is not a onetime event. We need to daily give all our cares and fears to Him, and commit to trusting in His love. Click here to share your perspective with about why you fear what you fear.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thank you for loving me. Thank you for giving me a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. Help me to trust you more, to accept your perfect love. I know that only then can I overcome fear. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who sent to forgive my sins and remove my fear, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
2 Timothy 1:7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Philippians 4:6

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Stepping Stones: Where Is The Grass Greener?

Transformational Tip

When one of my daughters was in elementary school, she saw a friend come in to school with a cast and a temporary wheelchair, then crutches a few days later. She saw all the attention and special privileges showered on her friend so quickly and dramatically, so…my daughter wished she could have an injured leg so she could have that “greener” life on the other side. Maybe that is what the saying means, “green with envy”.

Yesterday, we talked about coveting and today I want to look at coveting from a different angle. Coveting is strongly desiring something that someone else possesses…and desiring it for me-centered and selfish reasons.

The flip side of do not covet what others possess…do be content with what you have. We often spend so much time at looking over the fence at the other yard and wishing our grass was that green, we forget to look at and enjoy the yard we do have. So many wonderful things are in our own backyard and we, unfortunately, get so obsessed with wanting more and not maximizing what we already have. Be grateful for what we have!

When we covet, we are also making the statement that God made a mistake and forgot to give us what we really deserve and should have…that I am worthy of more…that I know the future better than God.

Remember, coveting isn’t yearning to be a better person, it is about not being thankful with what you have, not focusing on how to be a great steward of what you have, with your most important possession being your relationship with God.

Today, Focus on what God has given you and not what He gave to someone else. Specifically commit to not paying attention to what other people have. Repeat after me. “God hasn’t given me that now because I have plenty on my plate, I am not yet equipped to handle it well, it really isn’t good for me-ever, or my focus will be on it and not God.” “My grass really the best shade of green for me.”
Click here to share your perspective of where the grass is greener for you.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I know you know what is best for me. Forgive my disbelief in Your provision and will for me. Help me to submit to Your plan and timeline. I want to focus on what You have blessed me with and resist the temptation to focus on what others have. Thanks for all you have given me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who focused on You alone, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Then Moses said to the people, "Remember this day in which you came out from Egypt, out of the house of slavery, for by a strong hand the LORD brought you out from this place. No leavened bread shall be eaten.
Today, in the month of Abib, you are going out.
And when the LORD brings you into the land of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, which he swore to your fathers to give you, a land flowing with milk and honey, you shall keep this service in this month.
When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them by way of the land of the Philistines, although that was near. For God said, "Lest the people change their minds when they see war and return to Egypt."
But God led the people around by the way of the wilderness toward the Red Sea. And the people of Israel went up out of the land of Egypt equipped for battle.
Exodus 13:3-5, 17-18
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:2-4

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Stepping Stones: Focus on Jesus…Not Stuff

Transformational Tip

The tenth commandment focuses on a person's unseen and me-centered motives and desires. Coveting then leads us to break the other nine commandments.

To covet is to wish for enviously, to long for or crave something, especially something that belongs to another person. This includes spouse, real estate, car, position, success, prosperity, and so much more. A covetous person always wants more.

It is not wrong to desire things that will better our lives, in fact, Jesus said He came to bring us life and to bring it abundantly. God brought Israel to the Promised Land of milk and honey (not exactly what I would want, but back then, I guess that was the what they desired).

The commandment and other Bible passages really look at coveting as a strong desire for something we don’t have…but also, the object of our strong desire belongs to someone else.

As we become obsessed with satisfying our earthly needs, we really lose our bearings for what should really be at the center of our heart…our relationship and focus on God. As we grow in and with Him, we will understand more clearly what He wants us to have and how he will provide it. Then we will be able to receive and engage that object of our desire with the right priorities and motivations. Then we will really enjoy it and be grateful to God for His provision.

Satan wants to get us thinking we know exactly what we need, we can get it ourselves, and it doesn’t matter who it belongs to or what we have to do to get it.

We live in an age of instant gratification. Advertising stuff and more stuff… everything from cars to designer clothes to the latest electronic gadgets. But all the stuff in the world cannot bring us peace or lasting joy. Only a growing God through Jesus can ever do that.

Today, keep a Godly perspective. Don't think that more money, stuff, and power will produce happiness. Instead, seek and grow above all else a personal relationship with God, through Jesus. Seek God's plan for your life and you will be content with what He brings into your life. Only then will you find true contentment. Click here to share your perspective with the Stepping Stones community.

Prayer
Dear Father God, help me keep my perspective and not covet anything or anyone. Forgive me for the times I have focused so much on my desire to advance my career…or obtain something…or just having my own way that it distracted me from focusing on You and what Jesus did for me. Thanks for all you have given me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I will focus on, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
You shall not covet your neighbor's house. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.
Exodus 20:17
Wealth is treacherous, and the arrogant are never at rest. They open their mouths as wide as the grave, and like death, they are never satisfied. In their greed they have gathered up many nations and swallowed many peoples.
Habakkuk 2:5
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
John 10:10