Stepping Stones: “I’ll Only Do It This One Time”

Transformational Tip

Paul wrote the second chapter of Romans to Jewish readers who believed they had a special relationship to God because they knew and approved of the Law of God. Many believed this relationship made them above the Law, and they were not careful in their lifestyle. They excused behaviors that were wrong and trusted in their supposed privileged position to shield them from the consequences of their guilt.

It is never enough just to know and approve what is right. It is never enough to be a church member or to be born into a Christian family. Nothing has any meaning without a relationship with God that is alive and based on personal faith in Christ. In today's scripture, Paul is speaking to religious people who lack a living relationship with God.

Religious people are prone to rationalization. They have a strong belief system, but when their beliefs and behaviors conflict, they may resolve the internal conflict by excusing themselves. Many people are pro-life, but when it comes to an unwanted pregnancy in their own home, some are able to rationalize a pro-choice decision. Many oppose pornography and yet will allow themselves to indulge in secret. Nobody is above rationalizing and excusing sinful behaviors and attitudes.

People can rationalize sins like cheating on their taxes, lying, temper tantrums, gossiping, bitterness, controlling others, not accepting change, or having an affair. "Everyone does it." "I deserve it." "It does not really hurt anyone." "I'll only do it this one time."

Perhaps you have fallen into this rationalization trap. You know God’s Word. You say you believe it. And yet when it comes right down to your personal circumstances, you find a way to rationalize behavior that the The Holy Bible condemns. Hypocrisy? You bet!

Today, don’t rationalize or hide. Stop posing. Lead the transformed life Jesus died for you to live. Faith in Christ sets us free from sin. We cannot earn our way to heaven…Jesus is the only way. Following Jesus means building a personal relationship with Him. It isn't enough to know what the Bible says. God calls us into a relationship that should cause us to want to please Him.

We will all stumble and fall along the way, but a close walk with the Lord should cause us to repent and get back on the right path…restore our relationship with Him. Knowing and speaking the Word isn't enough…we must live it.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for reading your Word and then going my own way. I pray that you will fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that Your Word will become a living part of me and that I will live to please You. Help me apply Your instruction clearly in my life. I pray that my relationship with you will grow stronger and my desire to please You will grow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who lived His Father’s Word, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
For merely listening to the law doesn't make us right with God. It is obeying the law that makes us right in his sight.
Romans 2:13

Stepping Stones: Self-Deception Traps Your Thinking

Transformational Tip

What is a hypocrite? According to Webster, a hypocrite is a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion, a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings. In other words, a hypocrite pretends to be they aren’t. The definition doesn’t distinguish whether the deception is intentional or subconscious(unintentional).

The Bible teaches that a hypocrite is one who pretends to be pious without really being so…one who talks the talk without walking the walk. Jesus confronted hypocrites vigorously in His earthly ministry. The resultant anger generated by these confrontations of truth against this self-deception fueled the religious leaders' desire to kill Him.

A hypocrite knows what is right but makes elaborate excuses for himself and rationalizes why his behavior is allowable, when he does wrong. He weaves a web of self-deception that eventually traps his thinking and keeps him from seeing the truth about himself. He makes himself king and writes his own rules to stamp his conduct as permissible.

We all tend to condemn other people's actions and attitudes we know are wrong. At the same time, we are prone to excuse the same or worse behaviors in ourselves. We put on a good front and try to hide our real attitudes and feelings. We try to convince others…and even ourselves…that we are OK.

We might be able to fool others. We might even delude ourselves for a while. But God knows our hearts. He is not impressed by our outward displays of "being religious" or following the rules. He considers what we are inside... our motivators, desires, and fears.

Today, objectively examine whether you are putting up a good front but harboring sin in your life? Maybe the sin is something you are doing…participating in pornography, an adulterous relationship, angry outbursts, sharp words, or some other wrong behavior. Maybe it's hidden inside…fear, anxiety, insecurity, bitterness, envy, unforgiveness. Remember that whatever it is…God already knows. He loves you and wants to help you overcome. You can start on the path to ending the sinful behavior by admitting your guilt to yourself…and to Him. WITHIN REACH can then help you take the next steps of applying the Bible and allowing God into those deep places in your heart and life to transform your heart.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, I know I've been living a lie. I also know that you see the real me--you see my heart. Please forgive my sin and give me the strength to overcome. Help me to be honest with You, with myself, and with others. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts.”
Luke 16:15

"You Pharisees are so careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy…full of greed and wickedness!"
Luke 11:39

Stepping Stones: Your Call…Whose Instruction Book?

Transformational Tip

God loves us so much that he gives us the freedom to make choices. Some are of little consequence, but others are life-changing. This freedom of choice dates back to Adam and Eve. They made a one choice that went against God’s instruction book and sin entered the realm of mankind.

The freedom to make choices brings responsibility. We have all made poor choices at times and have suffered the consequences of those bad choices. The good news is that no matter what poor choices we may have made in the past, there is always hope for a better future. God knew that we would make some bad choices, but He loves us so much that He sent Jesus and Jesus willingly, His free will choice, paid the price for our sin to provide a way to restore our relationship with God.

Some people go through life carrying the load of some wrong choices they’ve made in the past. They believe they’ve messed up so badly that nothing good can ever come of their lives. Do you ever feel this way? Good news! If you want to be set free from the past, Jesus is the answer. He has already paid the price for your sin … for every wrong choice you’ve ever made.

Make a good decision now and accept His payment for your sin. God has always wanted to forgive you and help you make better choices from now on. That is why He sent His son, gives us the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us, and spells it all out in His instruction book, The Holy Bible.

It’s up to us…what decision are we going to make? To follow the greatest instruction book of all time, or to continually choose to write and follow our own very flawed instruction book. I

Today, remember, you are very special to God. He loves you no matter what you’ve done. He’s there for you. He wants you to put the past behind so that you can become all that He has designed you to be. It’s never to late to make good decisions. Learn from your mistakes…and look forward to a future filled with hope.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank you for forgiving my sins. I’ve made so many wrong choices. Help me now to put them behind and to look forward to the future you have planned for me …one filled with hope… I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who has secured my future, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.
Philippians 3:13-14

Stepping Stones: Did You Get a Brain Transplant?

Transformational Tip

As we come to Jesus and begin to understand who we are in Him, it is time to learn from the past, then put it behind, and move on ahead. Paul makes it clear in today’s scripture that he is on a journey. He knows he is not perfect, but he determines to forget what used to motivate him…forgetting his past achievements. He reaches forward…to become all Jesus wants him to be. He is moving in the right direction, toward Jesus…and he is not turning back.

That’s where we need to be, too. On a journey toward Jesus, to accomplishing His purpose for us. In the verse for today, Paul talks about forgetting. He is not talking about having amnesia for our past. Some Christians will tell you, “You are a new creation, don’t look at your past, only look forward.”

Now listen closely as this is a very important point that seems clear and silly when I say it, but it is a powerful point with many ramifications that clarify the process of a journey for the prize. Well, when we accepted Christ as our personal savior, we didn’t get a brain transplant. If we were totally transformed at that point of salvation, we would never have sinned again. How sad that as believers, we still do sin. So there must be something we have to do to allow the Holy Spirit to complete the job He is tasked with.

In order to allow the Holy Spirit to work in us and through us, one thing we need to do is look at how our past adversely influences our present decision-making. We need to forget the old motivations, goals, pursuits we once had…we want to stop conforming to the world’s system.

We need to focus on the Jesus and the goal. That will then form the transformed lenses we will use to take every thought captive and allow God to come in to those old areas of hurt. Then healing can occur…and truth will replace the ripples of distortion that Satan wants fogging our lenses.

Today, don’t ruminate about the past, but don’t ignore it as if you had a brain transplant. Your past is affecting your decisions now, so examine your decisions to understand how your past affects them. This will show you what is at the center of your heart. Your past will reveal why that is at the center of your heart and not God at times.
WITHIN REACH is our curriculum that helps you examine and understand your decision-making process to be a Godly decision-maker.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your healing and forgiveness. Help me to truly leave my hurts and failures in the past and keep my eyes on Jesus as I move forward along the path You have for me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who has made everything right, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12-14

Stepping Stones: Overwhelming Victory is Yours!

Transformational Tip

Often, in the midst of a great day, all of a sudden, I will feel a cold, wet, blanket come over me. A memory from my past creeps into my mind…then it feels like all the goodness is gone. Shame, guilt, and regret instantly make my great day gloomy.

Perhaps you have suffered abuse from a parent or spouse or another “trusted” person. Maybe you have suffered a traumatic personal loss. Or perhaps you have made some poor choices in the past and are suffering the consequences. It doesn’t have to be a “major” trauma, either…most hurts for a 6 yo can be “traumatic.”

Read today’s scripture carefully; God promises that despite all these things, you can have overwhelming victory through Christ. Come to Him for help…and forgiveness. If you let Christ in, nothing …absolutely nothing…can separate you from His love. No reason all that stuff from the past should steal another minute of your joy and happiness. A victory doesn’t just mean to win…it means a decisive win…a win that leaves no doubt.

Sometimes it is easy to look at scriptures about God’s love and think, Yes, God loves all people. But in our innermost being we don’t include ourselves in the “all people.” We think I’m different…I’m just not good enough…That’s alright for other people, but I’ve made too many mistakes. I’ve got special circumstances. It’s too late for me.

But God’s Word makes it abundantly clear that you are included. No matter what you have done. No matter what other people say or think about you. No matter what you think about yourself. God loves you. Jesus died for you. Nothing will ever separate you from His love.

Today, stop when you experience struggle. Tell yourself “God loves me and proved it” then consider how that changes your view of the moment. Walk with Jesus and you can have overwhelming victory over every problem and obstacle in your life. The problems might still be there…the obstacles may still come. But you won’t have to face them alone or be defeated by them…God will give you the strength to overcome.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You that these promises are not just for other people…but they are really for me. Thank You for your unconditional love. Thank You that no matter what has happened in the past or comes my way in the future, I can walk in victory through Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who made my victory possible, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow…not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below…indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:37-39

Stepping Stones: How Do You See Yourself?

Transformational Tip

Throughout her high school years, my youngest daughter volunteered at a shelter for abused women and their children. Through her work there I was exposed to how prevalent and devastating domestic abuse is in America.

Abuse takes many forms…but it is always devastating. In the United States alone, three to four million women are battered each year by their husbands or partners. While three million reports of child abuse are made every year just in the United States…experts estimate that the actual number of incidents of abuse and neglect is three times greater than reported. Many children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. While these are US figures, the these problems exist around the world and in most places, at much higher rates.

Abuse, whether physical or verbal, erodes confidence and self-esteem. We begin believing what we are told about ourselves; we think that anyone treated so violently and abusively must deserve it. These beliefs are often accepted early in life and become part of the initial lenses through which all information is seen and processed. Even if abuse occurs when we are older, the intensity of the experience makes it a formidable opponent to positive self-image.

Abuse communicates “you are worthless”…”you are an object to be used by me whenever I want”…”dignity, respect, and honor are not for you”…”I am always more important than you”. These distortions and interpretations form part of the foundation we build the rest of our life on.

Today, ask “How do I see myself? Is my self-image based on other people’s words and actions toward me? Or is it based on the truth of God’s Word? God knew you before you were even born. He created you…and His works are wonderful. Let Jesus help us take our eyes off ourselves and begin the process of putting our eyes on Him; He is able to heal our eyes, to see ourselves clearly as He sees us.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for this reminder that You formed me and made me…and that Your works are wonderful. I must admit, though, sometimes I don’t feel as though I’m wonderful at all. In fact, sometimes I feel as though I don’t deserve anything good. Help me to really grasp what Jesus did for me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Psalm 139:13-14

For this people's heart has grown dull, and with their ears they can barely hear, and their eyes they have closed, lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears and understand with their heart and turn, and I would heal them.' But blessed are your eyes, for they see, and your ears, for they hear.
Matthew 13:15,16

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Stepping Stones: You are never alone!

Transformational Tip

The other day, I had a very difficult decision to make. The initial sense that came to me was isolation and loneliness. Not really sensing anyone around to help me. I was in it alone and had to bear the burden and responsibility for the decision all myself.

It seems like whenever I am in the midst of one of life’s storms, I have this overwhelming feeling of loneliness…of being alone. I can be standing in the middle of a crowded room and yet feel completely alone.

We have all experienced loneliness. So many people feel as though they are alone most of the time. They often feel that no one cares or understands…as though even God is distant and unavailable. Like He is punishing me for not pursuing Him…or when I was a kid, I just thought He had way more important things than my trivial frustrations.

Now, when I am feeling alone, I look in the Bible for the truth.

You may feel alone, but the truth is that God is always with you. Here are just a few of his promises: I am with you (Genesis 28:15). I walk with you (Leviticus 26:12). I am near you (Psalm 34:18). I hold your right hand (Isaiah 41:13). I carry you even into old age (Isaiah 46:4).

Then I try to uncover my issues, distortions, or misinterpretations that would influence me to jump first to the lie that God is not right there with me at my side.

Today, you can be encouraged by reading these scriptures and others like them. Write your favorites down and put them where you see them all the time. Speak them aloud. Substitute your name for the word you. God says, I am with (your name)…I walk with (your name)…I am near (your name).

God is speaking these promises to you personally. Remember…you are never alone. Jesus is with you. He is with you this moment. He will be with you tonight…and tomorrow. He will be with you through the good times and bad. He will never leave you.

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Prayer

Dear Father God, thank You for Your many promises to be with me…always. Help me believe Your promises more than I believe my feelings. I pray Father for all those within the Stepping Stones community who feel they are alone. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is always with me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
The LORD is there to rescue all who are discouraged and have given up hope.
Psalm 34:18

Stepping Stones: Even if no one else existed…

Transformational Tip

Do you sometimes feel as though you are fighting your way through life and losing the battle? That you are such a failure that no one can help you?

We've probably all had these feelings at times. And if you suffer from chronic depression like so many people, you might feel alone and hopeless most of the time. When well-meaning people try to cheer you up by pointing out your good qualities, you may hear what they are saying as either false praise or else as words of one who doesn't really know you that well.

There is someone who knows you better than you know yourself. Someone who wants to give you hope and help you win the battle. His name is Jesus. He promises you peace (John 14:27). He intercedes to God the Father for you (John 17:9). He promises to work all things for your good (Romans 8:28). He rides on the Heavens to help you (Deuteronomy 33:26).

You may say, "Those promises sound good for someone else, but they couldn't be for me. I don't deserve them. You don't know me." This may be true … but Jesus DOES know you. And He loves you. If no one else had existed, He would have died on the cross just for you. He loves you that much. None of us deserves that kind of love, but Jesus gives it freely and unconditionally.

Today, actually use this truth in how you view yourself and your circumstances. Write down who you are and why you believe that. Are those beliefs based on facts? Above all else…Let Him love you. Open your heart to the hope and healing that come only from Him.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for dying for me. When I'm feeling down, help me to remember Your love for me, to experience Your love, and to share Your love with others. I pray to You, Father, for all those in the world today that suffer from depression. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who knows me better than I know myself, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
Ephesians 3:19

Stepping Stones: Go on a Fox Hunt!

Transformational Tip

The 1939 play, “The Little Foxes” by Lillian Hellman, was based on Scripture from Song of Solomon 2:15. The foundation of the message: many times it’s the collection of all the small mis-steps that gets us in trouble. Some marriages, with no major problems, still get into trouble because of an accumulation of little things. The Bible says that it is the little foxes that ruin the vineyard.

Make a commitment not to ignore the little foxes in your marriage: being thoughtless or preoccupied, forgetting special days like anniversaries and birthdays, criticizing, taking your spouse for granted, not appreciating the little things they do. The little foxes might seem unimportant, but they can eventually knock a marriage and family relationship off its feet.

Are you letting any foxes loose in your marriage? Are you spending time with your spouse or has "busy-ness" taken over? Do you really listen to her or him talk? Do you continue that little habit that irritates your spouse? With God's help, identify the little things before they become big things.

For you single people, all of the married people vowed to never let foxes into their vineyard. All would have boasted, “That will never happen to me.” But, as you see, we all fall prey to the insidious trickery of the sly foxes Satan uses to undermine what God has ordained and blessed. Safeguard your heart/mind…before you get married, you will have a better chance in your marriage.

Today, go on a fox hunt to be sure pesky little habits aren't creeping up on you. And replace the destructive little foxes with acts of love. Plan a surprise dinner for two. Buy a sentimental gift. Join your spouse in one of his or her favorite activities…even if it's not your thing. These little acts of thoughtfulness can help a marriage thrive.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for how I have acted towards one of the greatest gifts You have given me, my wife. Marriage is so powerful, but also tricky and complex. Help me become more aware of the "little foxes" that I bring to the marriage…and help me replace them with acts of love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!
Song of Solomon 2:15

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23

Stepping Stones: Comfort Zones; Letting go of old identities

Transformational Tip

Sometimes, I ask people, “Who are you?” It’s interesting to hear what they answer. Some give their name…others give their occupation. Another answer is roles the person fills in the family or organization. Not many share their real identity…the one deep inside.

I have a close friend who years ago moved out of a lesbian lifestyle and into a walk with God. She tells her story, "If you had asked me if I was born gay, I would have given you a resounding 'yes.' Now, I realize I was not born gay, and I am not defined by the fact that I lived as a homosexual. When I came to God, He redefined me as a follower of Christ."

Often we define ourselves by a lifestyle, a role we play, or some of our personal characteristics. Whether these definitions are painful or joyful, good or bad, represent success or failure…they are comfort zones. And even when we come to Jesus, we might be reluctant to let go of them.

People in or coming from a homosexual lifestyle might consider the gay world a safe place. People caught in a workaholic mode base their worth on their own accomplishments and success…they feel more in control that way. But when they come to Jesus, it is vital for them to let go of those identities and come to recognize who they are in Christ.

Today, even though you may still be struggling with old habits, be encouraged to let go of the old definitions and know that your most important identity is in Christ. Take a paper and make 3 columns, one titled “old Identity”, the next “new identity.” The third, “what would I believe differently about myself if I believed I was this new person?” write in 5 elements of the old identity and fill in the next 2 columns for each. You are a new creation! God has a great plan for your life and He is worthy of your trust.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for transforming me into a new creation when I became a follower of Christ. I still tend to see myself as "the old me." Please help me to see myself through Your eyes - cleansed and made new. And help me remember that no matter what other roles I play in life, my number one identity is always "a follower of Christ." I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I follow, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17

Stepping Stones: “The Ultimate Deal”

Transformational Tip

Yesterday, we discussed our curiosity and need to make deals. After passing through the deal making stage, many people concerned about a loved one with a life-controlling problem reach the point of acceptance…and then they make the ultimate deal.

Acceptance is a welcome place of relief. Now we can finally turn our loved one over to God. To His love and discipline, to His mercy and grace. To His healing power. Turning our struggling loved one over to God does not mean that we no longer care what happens to him, but that we have accepted the reality of the situation and the fact that we can't fix the problem on our own.

This is where we emotionally detach ourselves from our loved ones, even as we continue to love them and trust God's guidance in redesigning our role in their life. The ultimate deal we make is with God. We surrender our need for the other person to change, or for us to be the change agent. We get in return, God can conform us to the likeness of Christ.

Today, acknowledge that our loved ones are, themselves, responsible for their own behavior…accept our powerlessness to change them. Admit that we need nothing from anybody for us to experience peace, contentment, and growth. Tying our happiness to someone else’s behavior is a copout, an excuse, conforming to the flesh’s view and strategy. Let go and let God and reap “The Ultimate Deal.”

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Prayer
Dear Father God, help me come to this point of acceptance. I know I can't fix my loved one's problems. I know he has to take responsibility for his own choices. Help me to let go. Help me to rest in You, knowing that You love this one even more than I and that You alone are able to help him. Help me be dependent on You, not someone else’s actions for my joy and happiness. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who is my rock and my salvation, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will not be shaken.
Psalm 62:5-6

Stepping Stones: “Let’s Make a Deal”

Transformational Tip

While on vacation last month, I saw the new version of the classic game show, “Let’s Make a Deal.” What a great show…you could deal for a donkey, a gigantic candy bar, or a brand new car. The suspense of not knowing what you’ll win, the challenge of trying to manipulate the game, the freedom and fear of not being in control, and the uncertainty of what the other person will do are enticing emotions drawing us into this bargaining game.

It’s common for people concerned about someone with a life-controlling problem(addiction) or health issue to try to strike bargains with themselves, with the person, with others, and with God. We might promise ourselves that we will be better. We will say the right thing next time. We will make things right. We will restrain from something enjoyable…or harmful. All these things in exchange for something we desire from others or ourselves.

We might set up deals with the loved one to reward them for refraining from their problem behavior. Or we might bargain with God and try to make a deal with Him. A promise to give to the church, or do some good deeds, or give up gossiping or a sexual sin, if only He will fix our loved ones' problems.

If you are in this deal making stage, you need to understand that help for a friend or loved one doesn't depend on your performance. God has a specific plan for that person’s life and their change process is up to God. God may want to use us in the person’s life and work through us, but we are in no position, have no leverage, to bargain with God. What do we really have to offer in a trade?

Today, accept your powerlessness to change another person. Don’t try bargaining with God as if He is on another team; learn to actually join God’s team and let Him be your captain, and then follow His instruction. Click here to share your perspective about bargaining with God.

Prayer
Dear Father God, all my efforts have failed. No matter what I do, I realize now that I can't fix my loved one's problems. But I thank You that You can. Your grace is enough. Help me to let go and trust You. Help me understand how You want to use me to grow me and help me let the changing of my loved one up to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who can fix all things, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9

Stepping Stones; “Love One Another”

Transformational Tip

I went to a Kenny Loggins concert yesterday…my favorite recording artist of all time. Before the doors opened, people were just milling around. I noticed this particular young man who was covered with tattoos…and wondered why a guy like that would be at a Kenny Loggins concert. He actually had large fangs tattooed on his lower lip and chin with blood dripping down. My first thought …”this guy scares me.”

A few minutes later I found this guy standing right next to me, and when our eyes met, he offered the most genuine smile…and today’s scripture came into my mind. I began asking him about his tattoos…and then we talked about Kenny Loggins. Like me, this young man loved Kenny’s music. He was kind, polite and very reserved. When I asked which tattoo was his favorite, he pointed to a little Christmas tree on the top of his hand. Even with his fangs tattoo, he was no longer scary to me. Now I certainly don’t know his story…but I do know one thing…like you and me, he needs attention and love.

The Scriptures offer a multitude of “one another” commands concerning relationships with others…encourage one another, be devoted to one another, honor one another, live in harmony with one another, accept one another, instruct one another, serve one another, forgive one another…and on and on. “Love one another” is at the core of all of them.

In today’s scripture, Jesus tells us to love one another as He has loved us. Of course, Jesus’ love is greater than we can ever imagine…but He is telling us to follow His example. Jesus loves us unconditionally. He wants us to love others unconditionally…not based on personality or looks or behavior or even our feelings. Unconditionally.

Jesus loved with His actions, humbling Himself, coming to earth as a baby and growing and living among us. Suffering the indignities and torture of the cross, demonstrating the depth of His love in ways words could not begin to explain. Jesus wants us to love unconditionally. To demonstrate love through action…even when we don’t “feel” like it.

Today, ask God to help you see this person through His eyes. Ask Him to help you love this person even if he or she doesn’t “deserve” it. And then step out in faith and love through your actions. As we, in the family of God, demonstrate our love for each other, even as Jesus demonstrated His love for us, others will “know we are His disciples.” Our love for one another can help draw them to the perfect love of Jesus.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to love others in the way You love me. Help me to love unconditionally. Help me to demonstrate my love with action…even when I don’t feel like it. Thank You for loving me unconditionally. Thank You for demonstrating your love in such marvelous ways. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One loved through his actions, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
John 13:34-35

Stepping Stones: “One Another”

Transformational Tip

When I argue (because I’m above fighting) with my wife or daughters, I hurt, because they’re family. With fellow believers in Christ, we’re brothers and sisters and related in a much stronger way than blood. I’ve really experienced this on missions trips where I experience an incredible bond through Christ with someone I’ve never met before.

All through the Bible, we find “one another” Scriptures that instruct us in the kinds of caring actions and attitudes that ought to characterize our relationships as brothers and sisters in Christ. God clearly defines what kind of relationships we should have…and yet we so often fail to develop the type of relationships that He desires for us. And when we fail, we not only add unnecessary stress to our lives and the lives of those around us…but we also fail to illustrate the love of Jesus to unbelievers who may be observing us.

God has blessed each of us with gifts and talents and then placed us within a body of believers with a variety of gifts. As we live in harmony and love, focused on God’s plan, we can accomplish so much more than if we each try to do our own thing. And along the way we will develop relationships that we can count on—relationships built on a foundation of God’s love.

Do you see yourself as part of God’s team? Are you and other Christians in your church…and in other churches and ministries in your community…working together in harmony? Are you stuck focusing on differences…or on God’s bigger plan?

Today, ask God to show you personally what you can do to improve your relationship with a specific brother or sister in Christ. Perhaps it’s someone you have criticized…or someone you feel as though you are competing against. Maybe you have bickered about theology or passed judgment on his or her behavior. Ask God to help you relate to this person in love and harmony and build His kind of “one another” relationship.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, I know there are times when I let personal feelings and differences interfere with my relationship with other believers. Please forgive me and help me have the kinds of “one another” relationships described in your Word. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who completes my joy, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Fill up and complete my joy by living in harmony and being of the same mind and one in purpose, having the same love, being in full accord and of one harmonious mind and intention.
Philippians 2:2

Stepping Stones: Forgiveness: An Act of Service

Transformational Tip

Forgiveness in some ways is so simple and in other respects, is so complicated. And that’s when we are just trying to forgive ourselves, let alone when you introduce a whole other person that has hurt us.

Jesus came to die for us so we can live in intimate and incredible relationship with God… to have liberty from sin and Satan…Life Abundant. God created us for good works, to be shining lights. We can’t become all God designed us to be if we harbor resentment and bitterness. It is vital that we make the choice to forgive and even to reconcile, if possible, with the person who has hurt us.

In taking steps to reconciliation, begin with your thoughts. One thought area, amongst several, is to think about the other person’s needs, rather than their faults. How can you serve them, and God through forgiving them? Then begin to speak well of him or her to yourself and someone close to you, drawing attention to strengths and needs, rather than offenses. Next take action…begin to seek reconciliation. See some of our past devotionals on forgiveness.

You might be in a difficult situation in which the other party is not willing to reconcile. If this is the case, make sure you have forgiven in your own heart. Then keep yourself ready to pursue complete reconciliation if and when the other person is ready.

Today, ask God to open your eyes, have spiritual lenses to the other person’s needs and issues. Wait on God’s timing for the individual to join in total reconciliation. It may not be safe to be physically reconciled with some people. Don’t try to force it…let God work it out in His way and time. You are responsible for your heart and your part, not the other person’s. Above all, remember that Jesus loves you, and He will give you the strength and courage you need…abundantly.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, in all my relationships, help me dwell on things to praise, not things to curse. And especially help me to do this when I think or speak about the one who has offended me. May I walk in forgiveness and be open to reconciliation in Your way and Your time. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One died for my forgiveness, so I can extend it to others; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious…the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8

Stepping Stones: Why Can’t You See It?

Transformational Tip

How did you enjoy yesterday’s devotional? Not the second one we sent out, but the first one @ 5:00 AM. If you didn’t open it yet, go ahead and open it. You probably thought it was your computer or Internet not working correctly, because Lighthouse never makes mistakes. Then you remember that Lighthouse does make tons of mistakes…spelling errors, incorrect grammar, late in mailing some days…so the reason why the text area is blank is because Lighthouse forgot to write one today, or forgot to paste today’s devotional into the template and sent Stepping Stones out prematurely.

Well, we were just testing you to prove a point. Actually, there was text in the white area of yesterday’s Stepping Stones…don’t believe me. Go back to yesterday’s Stepping Stones and highlight the text area. What do you see? The text appears, because we gave you special lenses. The decoding secret: the font color of the text was white.

You see, God is performing amazing miracles, providing for us, saving us, protecting us, loving us, standing beside us, calling and pursuing us…but we don’t see it. Why don’t we see it? We aren’t understanding the key to clear up our lenses. Just like you couldn’t see the text until I gave you the proper lenses to view it, viewing our lives and all the activities around us is impossible unless we have the right spiritual lenses. That is what God’s word, The Holy Bible, is all about.

We need to get to know God through spending time alone with Him and learning of Him through His Word…which reveals God, His plan, His Son, and His instructions to us.

Today, do you conform to the lenses of this world and try to see all God does through distorted lenses? Or are you transforming your lenses, developing eyes that can see God working in all areas of your life. Peace, power, and joy come when we can see the white text instead of the fear and anxiety of thinking something is wrong or you missed out. Click here to share your perspective on what you first thought when you saw the blank text yesterday.
Editor’s Note: we really did make a mistake yesterday and the white text wasn’t intentional, but God was able to use our mistake as a great lesson to understand Him.

Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for using the crappy lenses of this world. I want to see You in all things. Help me release my dependency on this world and seek first Your kingdom. When I do see Your way, especially in stressful situations, my spirit is lifted and I am empowered to act in ways contrary to the world’s expectations…honoring You and growing me. Peace and joy readily follow. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who opens my eyes, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And he said, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear." And when he was alone, those around him with the twelve asked him about the parables. And he said to them, "To you has been given the secret of the kingdom of God, but for those outside everything is in parables, so that "they may indeed see but not perceive, and may indeed hear but not understand, lest they should turn and be forgiven."
Mark 4:9-12

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Stepping Stones: Don’t Take Away My ……

Transformational Tip

Security means different things to different people. Some feel secure if their health is good, others if their finances are strong, still others if they’re surrounded by a loving family. But, depending on people or things will result in disappointment, as all the things of this world are limited and fallible.

Suppose you work for a company many years, building up a healthy retirement fund that you are depending on for security in later life. Soon after your 60th birthday, the company bankrupts and the retirement fund is no more. If your faith has been in that retirement plan for your security, you are devastated and fearful for the future.

But if you recognize that God, not the retirement fund, is your real source for all your need, you can rest in the assurance that He has a plan…and that He will take care of you. Nothing takes God by surprise. You might not see His plan, but you can be confident that He has everything under control.

The same principle applies when you lose a job, a friend moves, you get a scary diagnosis, your child has a special issue…really, when any part of your agenda doesn’t go as you planned. If your faith is in the job…friend…health…agenda, you may lose hope.

But if your faith is in Jesus, you know that He never changes. Nothing can separate you from His love. And He will provide a way…usually through a way that is so foreign to you to “prove” to you He is at work in your life.

Today, examine what in life do you fear losing…that you would have fear, anxiety, or lose sleep about. You are probably depending on that to much to meet some of your needs. Ask God to show you how He will meet that need and lessen your grip on that thing you fear losing. He is your rock, rest on and build your life on Him.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, forgive me for the times I have depended on other people and things, and then lost hope when they let me down. Help me to remember that You are my source, and that You are unchanging and totally trustworthy. Thank You for supplying all my needs. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who always forgives me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19

Stepping Stones: Control ≠ Security

Transformational Tip

Most people feel more secure when they are in control. A trip down a steep mountain road doesn’t feel as dangerous to us when we ‘re the ones with our hands on the steering wheel. The passengers with us will be more anxious or fearful.

Having control over our circumstances is very important to most of us…it allows us to feel more secure, competent, and confident. But we can't always be in control…actually we have a lot less control than we think. When facing circumstances beyond our control, we may feel helpless, anxious, angry, or overwhelmed, and experience panic or depression.

In today's world, a sense of safety and security may be difficult to find. The good news is that there is one way we can always be secure.

God provides a way for us to always experience a sense of security. He leaves it up to us…we can either continue depending on ourselves, panicking or losing hope when we can't control a situation…or we can depend on the Lord. If we choose Jesus and His way for our lives, we can always be secure in His love. We will still experience problems and trials on this earth, but we will begin to view them from an eternal perspective. When we turn control over to Jesus, we can know that no matter what challenges or trials we face, He will ultimately work them out for our good.

Today, whose hands have control of your steering wheel? Are you still trying to control every detail of your life? Do you experience frustration, fear or even anger when you can't control what is happening to you? Turn everything over to God. You can trust Him. He is way more equipped to handle life than you are.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, it seems that every time I turn a situation over to You, I hang on to some little part of it and pull it away from You again. I want to be in control, and yet I know that doesn't always work out. Please forgive me for not trusting You with every area of my life. Help me to trust You more and to leave the control of my life in Your hands. Help me to rest securely in Your love. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to teach me how to trust, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
Proverbs 3:5-6

In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will,
Ephesians 1:11

Stepping Stones: “World-Eyes” or a “Christ-Eyes?”

Transformational Tip

Jesus doesn't look at how much we have in our bank account, or how talented we are, or what background we come from. He looks at our heart. He approached corrupt tax collectors, prostitutes, criminals, and adulteresses in such an unpolitically correct way. When you look at people, do you have a worldly point of view or a Christ-like point of view?

A worldly point of view considers how a person looks…what a person possesses or lacks…or who a person knows. Financially well-to-do people may avoid associating with the working class. People in lower income brackets may assume that everyone with money is stuck-up and unkind. But Jesus doesn't see people on a ledger sheet. He sees each of us as an individual with needs, desires, wounds, and feelings.

Are there people you avoid because of their social or financial standing? Remember that they are God's creation…just like you. A successful businessperson who seems aloof may need a friend to talk to. Another person might not have the college degrees you have, but could have godly wisdom that would make a difference in your life.

Remember, these people aren’t in your life by mistake. God is perfect and has a great plan to develop you…customized specifically for you. The people in your life come from specific backgrounds, experiences, and cultures…have certain skills and deficits…and do things God knew they would do just to move you closer to the incredible goal God has for you – the mind of Christ and an intimate relationship with God Himself.

Today, take notice of what kind of lenses you use while viewing people. Be intentional to leave the worldly point of view, with all its prejudices and misconceptions, behind. Ask God to help you see people through his eyes and reach out to them with his love.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, help me not to evaluate people by what they have or how they look. Help me to have a Christ-like point of view and to respond to the real person, not what I see on the surface. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who looks beyond my physical body, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Because of this decision we don't evaluate people by what they have or how they look. We looked at the Messiah that way once and got it all wrong, as you know. 2 Corinthians 5:16

Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,
1 Peter 1:13-15

Stepping Stones: Jesus: Equal Opportunity Savior

Transformational Tip

Who wants to be boring? A lot of our activities are pursued so we can avoid either being a bored person or a boring person. Spice things up, inject some excitement, plan a trip, go back to school, change our hairstyle, try a new restaurant.

Having said this, our natural tendency as human beings is to be attracted to sameness and routine and resist all that is different. We like to go the same places for vacation, eat or drink the “usual” when we go to a restaurant, wear a certain style clothes all the time…we don’t throw in or like many curveballs in any area of our life.

We tend to marry and congregate with people who are like us…the same color, culture, political party, religious beliefs, social level, or income bracket. We tend to mistrust and even resist anyone who is different.

People often judge others by what we see on the outside. We lump everyone from a particular racial or cultural group in one basket. We shun one another and, at times, even war against each other based solely on racial identity; how sad.

Aren't you glad Jesus doesn't see us that way? He loves us regardless of our race or culture or career or income. He searches every heart. He is interested in what's inside. He visited and hung out with all kinds…looking deeper than the surface.

Today, ask Jesus to help us search other people's hearts and see them through God’s eyes. As God's creation…designed in his image. Jesus gave His life for all people of all races and cultures. He sees everyone through eyes of love and compassion. He looks beyond faults to needs. It is time for us to let go of our prejudices and see others as Jesus does.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, Help me to see others through the eyes of Jesus. Reveal to me any prejudices I may have hidden in my heart. Forgive me, and help me to let go of them and the walls they create. Help me to stop looking at the outside and to truly search every heart. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who searches heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts.
1 Chronicles 28:9

Stepping Stones: Hiking With God

Transformational Tip

Going on a walk, or especially a hike, with a guide is a really fun, healthy, adventurous, and growing experience. Several key elements include… intentionality by the guide and hiker…coordinated movements modeled by the guide and repeated by the hiker…strategic planning by the guide and followed by the hiker…and most important, trustworthiness of the guide and ultimate trust by the hiker in the guide.

Once we come to Christ in faith, we begin to walk, actually hike, with God on an incredible journey on a daily basis. The destination is described to us, yet we’ve never been there before, nor do we know exactly how to get there. The Bible gives us very concrete instruction but the actual application of it in the complex and numerous detours and false paths is really hard to follow. It is vital that we learn to trust our Guide, God and The Holy Spirit, every area of our lives…day in and day out.

We can trust Him because we are assured that as we love God and commit our lives to Him, He works everything…the good and the bad…together for good. We can trust Him because He has demonstrated His great unconditional love for us.
We can commit our wayward child to Him because we know He loves that child even more than we do.

We can commit our finances to Him because we know that He will work all things for good as we follow Him and trust Him for wisdom.

We can trust our loved one's health to Him because of his mercy and love.
We can trust God to work His plan in our ministry…and His plan is perfect.
Is there an area of your life that you are clinging to…and worrying about…instead of trusting God? God cares about everything that concerns you.

Today, examine your daily hike. Where are you going and who is your guide? These are the 2 most important questions you need to ask. If you are your own guide, or if you are following the world’s system…you are lost! Keep your eyes on Him, love and trust Him. He will go before you…He will guide you…He will strengthen you…And He will work all things for good.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I have been worrying about this situation and trying to fix it myself. My way hasn't worked. I commit this situation and my hike to You and trust You for the answer. I want You to be my Guide and no other. Help me to resist being my own guide, because I now know the wrong places that leads me. No matter how things look now, I trust you to work all things together for good and get me to the right place of the Mind of Christ. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I strive to trust completely, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
Romans 8:28

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6

Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.
Matthew 7:13,14

Stepping Stones: Step One Through Infinity is Trust

Transformational Tip

We trust in a lot of things to save us. The strength of a chair to save us from falling. The power of a bridge to support our weight so we don’t plummet to the river below. The driver in the oncoming traffic will stay on his side of the yellow line to save our life.

Webster defines trust as "assured reliance on the character, ability, strength or truth of someone or something." When we trust in Jesus, we believe that He is God's Son and that His sacrifice pays the price for our sin. We are relying on and trusting God’s character…and His ability to do what He has promised. Ultimately, we are trusting on the power, strength, and the truth of His love.

Faith in Christ is the foundation, the first step, to a relationship with God.

Today's scripture is one of many that explain the gospel message. We all fall short of God's standard…we all have sinned…and so none of us can have a relationship with God on our own merit or power. The good news is that God loved us enough to send his Son, Jesus, to make a way for us. Jesus died on the cross and paid the price for every sin committed by man…past, present and future. Our responsibility is to trust Jesus as our Lord and Savior. When we do this, we are made right with God and can enjoy a personal relationship with him.

Today, ask yourself these questions; Have I trusted in Jesus? Have I received His love and His sacrifice for my sin? What is the evidence I trust in God and not my intellect, bank account, friends, looks, health, etc? If I lost any, or all of these things, would I still trust in God? He loves you with a love we can't even begin to comprehend. And He is trustworthy. He will never leave you. He will never disappoint you. He will always love you. In this world of uncertainty, there is no hope. But in Jesus there is every hope. That, you can trust in.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I realize that I am not worthy to be in Your presence. But I believe that Jesus paid the price for my sin and that through Him I can come to You. I receive Him now as my savior. But don’t let be the last step, just the first step of my growing trust in You, for all eternity. Please forgive my sins. I want to follow and trust in Jesus. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to set me free, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard.
Romans 3:22-23

Stepping Stones: God: The Ultimate Insurance

Transformational Tip

“Nationwide is on your side” Linda Krisko, a Lighthouse Network board member provides our corporate and our personal insurance through Nationwide. I trust her and she has been great when our teen got into her first car accident.
“The Good Hands People” of Allstate ask us to submit ourselves and put our life in their hands for potential serious life issues.

To submit an area of our life to someone else, we really have to trust them, interview them, get other people’s feedback, check their track record, then give them a try.

God is the ultimate insurance company. Some say He sells fire insurance to save us from the fiery furnace of Hell. He also provides protection techniques from “accidents” as well as services to help navigate and restore when an “accident” does occur.

In order to fully submit our lives to God, we have to trust Him from the bottom of our heart. Trust his unconditional love. Trust that His way and instructions really are the best way. Trust that He is able to deliver what He promises. Trust that listening to Him and obeying Him will keep us on track.

How do we build that kind of trust? By getting to know Him better…through prayer…through studying and meditating on the Bible…by being sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. And by experience…looking back and remembering how He has loved us and helped us in the past. How His way has always proved to be the right way.

How do you make choices? By trying to figure things out on your own? By following your intellect, emotions and reasoning? Today’s scripture cautions not to assume that you know it all.

Today, listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go. Are you submitting to His plan above all else? Is He truly at the center of your life?

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Prayer
Dear Father God, Please forgive me for all the times I’ve attempted to figure things out on my own…instead of relying on You. I do trust You…but help me to trust You when I am in a pinch more. Teach me to tune into Your voice in everything I do and everywhere I go. Help me to always seek Your will, Your plan, above my own desires.. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One I trust from the bottom of my heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don't try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he's the one who will keep you on track. Don't assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil!
Proverbs 3:5-7

Stepping Stones: Do You Want To Be “Normal”?

Transformational Tip

It is a natural urge to want to fit in or be accepted by those around us. We tend to look around and pursue the pursuits of those around us or use the strategies we see those around us put into play.

It’s so easy to become molded to the world’s thinking. Television programs subtly—and more and more often not so subtly—dishonor God. They present sinful behavior and lifestyles as normal—over and over again through the months and the years. Without realizing it, we can gradually begin accepting the sinful behavior as “normal.”

Other influences…friends, employers, books, movies, etc. can shape our thinking as well. One real danger has been introduced in the form of books and movies that claim to be Christian and use “Christian-ese” words, but in fact teach things that are totally unscriptural. Usually good teaching is mixed in with the deceptive teaching, drawing many Christians into accepting the whole because of some carefully placed Biblical truths. Jesus warned us to be careful—that even the elect could be deceived.

How can we avoid being drawn into the pull of the world’s influences? By letting God transform us into a new person by changing the way we see life, our circumstances, and what motivates us. Then our decision-making will be Godly and transformation will exponentially wash over us.

We will continue to transform our mind, will, intellect and emotions as we obey God’s Word. He transforms our minds as we pray, study His Word and make Godly choices.

Today, measure every influence in the light of God’s Word…and reject those that don’t line up. Quit watching the television program. Don’t read the book. Choose what is right over what is easy or popular. Be willing to take a stand. Don’t be “normal”. Be special in Him and for Him.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Open my eyes to the wrong influences in my life. Transform me into a new person by changing the way I think. Give me a deeper understanding of Your Word and help me live in obedience to Your will, making right choices even when they are difficult ones. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who never settled for normal, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Stepping Stones: Become a Living Sacrifice

Transformational Tip

Through the years before Jesus died on the cross, God called the Israelites to offer animals as sacrifices for their sin. These sacrifices were offered repeatedly at regular time intervals. Then Jesus came and gave his own life on the cross to pay the ultimate everlasting sacrifice for our sins.

We no longer have to offer sacrifices to pay for our sins. When we accept Jesus as our Savior and make him Lord of our lives, our sins are transferred to Jesus’ account and are forgiven. The really cool thing is that Jesus’ righteousness…perfection…is credited to our account.

But we are called to be a living sacrifice by surrendering our lives to Him. He wants us to turn control over our minds and bodies to His care. He views our total submission as worship.

Most of us like to feel in control. The thought of turning control over to someone else, even God, might seem frightening…or just unappealing. What we need to remember is that God is a merciful and compassionate God. He wants what is best for us…and only He knows what that really is. He is all-knowing and all-powerful. We aren’t. How much better to submit to His control, to trust His plan, than to stick to our “I can do it myself” attitude.

Today, are you struggling with a temptation…a problem…a challenge right now? Sacrifice your agenda for God’s. Why not, look where your way has gotten you. Apply God’s agenda for one month and see what God can do when you submit completely to his plan?

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for Jesus. I thank You that through Him my sins are forgiven. I have committed my life to You and claim to make You Lord. But so many times I try to take control again. I know this shows a lack of trust in You. Please forgive me. May my body…all that I am…be a living sacrifice to You. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who was the ultimate sacrifice, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:1,2

Stepping Stones: Let Anger Be Your Servant

Transformational Tip

Our feelings, emotions, are the source of some tremendous highs in life…and also some of our lowest times. Anger is probably one of the more base emotions, but also one of the more complex.

Society compounds are understanding of anger by not knowing much about anger, not teaching kids about anger, and not tolerating anger in ourselves or others at all.

Some of us tend to hold our anger in, sometimes allowing bitterness and resentment to build. On the other hand, some of us have more of a tendency to vent our anger immediately. This response could be described as "blowing up" or being "hot under the collar."

The Bible teaches that anger is really a great warning system, letting us know if there is danger or a potential problem. Where anger becomes sinful and harmful if when we let anger become our decision maker…it usually produces some pretty poor responses to a difficult situation.

Today, to learn to manage your anger, ask “What am I being warned about?” then when you identify the problem, look for a solution. When you solve the problem, the warning sign…the anger…will no longer be there. It is at this point that anger has become your servant and can be productive.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, Teach me to respond to people with a gentle answer, rather than harsh words and actions. Teach me wisdom and patience and help me to respond in love and forgiveness. Help me use this great gift of anger in the way You designed me to use it. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who perfected anger management, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Proverbs 15:1

A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
Proverbs 29:11

So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. 16 To those who sold doves he said, “Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father’s house into a market!”
John 2:15,16
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
Colossians 3:8

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Ephesians 4:26

Stepping Stones: Facing the Truth

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Forgiveness requires our facing the truth; The truth of Christ's death to pay our price forgiveness. The truth of our own sin and desperate need. The truth that if we are ever to be free, we must receive Christ's forgiveness. The truth that we need to extend that powerful gift of grace to others and forgive those who have hurt us.

In order to experience true freedom in Christ, we must forgive those who have caused us harm or disappointment…even when that means forgiving ourselves.

All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve, and because of Christ Jesus, He freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins. How can we do less? Are we more powerful than God? Do we have a higher standard than God. Are we more upset about sin than God is?

Forgiven by the Lord, we have both the reason and responsibility to forgive others. Forgiveness is a choice we make. When we forgive, it really shows that we understand who we are, who God is, and what He really did for us. On the cross.

Sometimes it is hard to let go. In fact, when we have been deeply hurt, it may not be possible to forgive…on our own. But it is important to remember that we don't have to do it alone. With Him as our model and empowering us, as well as truly accepting His forgiveness, we can forgive…and actually enjoy blessing others as well as freeing ourselves.

Today, if you are struggling to forgive, ask Jesus to help You. Then look at whether you really understand and have accepted who you are, the sins you have committed, what you did to deserve God’s forgiveness, and whther you realize the unfair pain and sacrifice Jesus endured for you.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, I've kept these feelings of resentment and unforgiveness buried much too long. I know I didn’t deserve Your forgiveness of me, so help me understand I cant wait for someone else to “deserve” my forgiveness before I give it. Help me to face the truth. Thank you for your mercy and forgiveness. Help me to show the same to others, even those who have hurt me. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One to who paid for all my sins, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
John 8:32

Stepping Stones: “I need to wait to do something until I …”

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“Don’t go outside without a coat. Its Freezing! You’ll Catch A Cold!”
“Don’t crack your knuckles like that! You’ll get arthritis!”
“Shaving causes hair to grow back faster or coarser.”
“You only use 10% of your brain”

True or False? These are all False. Yes, many of us have believed them to be true, but they aren’t. They are common myths. Life is filled with many myths. A myth is, in general, a widely held but mistaken belief.

Even though Christianity is about the truth, many myths actually exist in Christianity. These beliefs actually impede, or even derail, healthy Christian behavior and growth.

A prevalent myth amongst Christians is the belief that we need to wait to further our faith until…we learn more…grow more… are done hurting…find the right Bible …find that great teacher that I really connect with…give up my addiction…have more time…really sense God’s presence…have my next crisis…have time to…tomorrow…I have someone to mentor me…I can take a class. Get the picture.

Today’s scripture tells us that we can do immensely more than we can imagine…according to His power that is at work within us. We don’t need to wait…in fact we can’t wait. We are already behind.

Today, push the myths out of your mind and take that next step toward living the life of Christ. Start today by doing one thing a little more than usual to grow your faith. Pray for an extra 3 minutes, listen to God for 2 extra minutes, or read the Holy Bible for an extra 5 minutes. A little more is possible…now. You will definitely see the benefit quickly. Click here to share your perspective about Christian myths.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I admit and confess that I let so many myths and falsehoods keep me away from doing Your work…and keep me away from You. I ask that You fill me with the Holy Spirit and the gift of discernment to help me eliminate non-productive myths. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who you sent to testify to the truth, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever! Amen.
Ephesians 3:20-21

Pilate said, "So you are a king?" Jesus responded, "You say I am a king. Actually, I was born and came into the world to testify to the truth. All who love the truth recognize that what I say is true."
John 18:37

Stepping Stones: “I” or “You”?

Transformational Tip

We all struggle with communicating clearly. Sometimes we have so much in our head, it’s hard to say it all in a couple sentences. Sometimes it is complicated and we get overwhelmed. Other times, we have so much emotion inside that we have trouble being assertive without being attacking.

As in any area of life, some quick tips help allow a more healthy process occur in uncertain or difficult circumstances. One of these communicating tips is communicating with “I” messages rather than “you” messages. This is can really be key to successful communication in marriage or any relationship.

“You” messages sound like this: You just don't care…You are a problem…Can't you…? You are sooo… Usually “you” messages get the other person on the defensive and often times attribute to them things they didn’t really do and motives they didn’t really have. You don’t know for sure.

“I” messages deal with items you do know. They convey what you feel or what you experienced. Here are some examples: I feel very angry because…I feel rejected because…I feel hurt because…

Instead of “When you didn’t pick me up on time, you rejected me,” you can say “When I didn’t get picked up on time, I felt rejected.” You aren’t saying what the other person did or why, you are just stating the situation as you know and experienced it. Hopefully the other person can do the same and you can have sharing of what is in each other’s heart instead of a blame and judgment fest.

“I” messages communicate honesty and openness. The Bible teaches us to build up, not tear down. Using “I” messages, we are less likely to harm and break down others, while still allowing for us to be open, honest, transparent, and vulnerable.

Today, monitor your speech. How many times do you use “you” statements? Try practicing even in good circumstances. “When I have the door opened for me, I feel special,” thank you for holding the door for me! Then you will be more apt to use “I” statements in the more difficult times where communication is essential.
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Prayer
Dear Father God, help me to be more gracious in communicating with my spouse and loved ones. The ones I care about the most seem to be the ones I get most upset with and make accusatory statements to. Help me understand myself better and take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth, my feelings, and most importantly, what is in my heart. Help me to build up and not tear down. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One you sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, and not cut them out.
Colossians 4:6

Stepping Stones: Love With Actions and Truth…Not Just Words

Transformational Tip

Do you ever say one thing and your spouse hears a totally different message than you intended?

Faulty communication is a common cause of marital conflict. In fact, most married couples experience miscommunication a number of times throughout their marriage. One message is sent, but a different one is received.

One thing we need to remember is that the words we say don't necessarily determine what is heard. Our tone of voice, facial expression and overall body language usually speak louder than words. Timing is also important. Consider what kind of a day your spouse has had and pressures that might be having an impact.

Other communication keys include thinking before speaking, maintaining eye contact, listening before answering, and building up rather than pulling down.
One sure way to avoid miscommunication is to frequently say the three words "I love you" to your spouse.

There are also many non-verbal ways you can express your love. Plan a special dinner or trip, buy something you know he or she has been wanting, help with a project your spouse is working on. Husbands, let your wife have a day all for herself occasionally. All these acts are really ways of communicating your love.

Today remember that God communicates his love to us not only through his words, but through his actions. We need to intentionally do the same…to Him and to other special people in our life.

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Prayer
Dear Father God, thanks You for loving me…unconditionally. Help me express love to my spouse and the special people around me through my body language and actions as well as my words. Help me with wisdom and self-control to love when situations are more stressful, not just in the good times. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One who communicated with the ultimate action, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.
1 John 3:18

Stepping Stone: Love and Grace vs. Guilt

Transformational Tip

Guilt is an emotion that we take on early in life, especially if we grow up surrounded by violent behavior and abuse. Even though we are powerless to stop the violence, we feel responsible for what is happening.

A man recently told me this story:
When he was 12 years old, he was caught stealing a chrome oil cap for one of his friend’s car. After picking him up at the police station, his father lined up all his brothers and sisters in the kitchen to witness the punishment. He asked the child what hand he used to steal the oil cap. His father took that hand and placed in directly into gas burner on the stove. He told me he hasn’t stolen anything since that day. He received 3rd degree burns. As a 55 year old man, he still carries that guilt around his neck like a large stone.

You see, guilt feels terrible…we all know that. But a bigger problem is how this ongoing guilt really distorts our view of ourselves and what we were made for, who God wants and is working for us to become. The worst problem is how this ongoing, gnawing guilt really distorts and limits our view of God…makes Him seem impotent to free us…constantly judgmental and angry at us for our transgressions…or demanding perfection and us to constantly work our way back into His “graces”.

We can take our guilt, real or imagined, to the cross. Jesus paid the price in full to set us free from condemnation. The things we did do wrong have consequences, but we can be set free from real or imagined guilt as we receive the wonderful grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Today, bring your pain and guilt to the cross. Really look at who the God of the Bible is and how His cup of forgiveness always runneth over for you. Let the love and grace of Jesus cleanse you and set you free. Click here to share your perspective on the guilt in your life.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for Your love and grace. I bring my failures and my guilt to You and ask forgiveness. I know that some of the guilt is imagined, but it still haunts me. Help me to leave it at the foot of the cross. Help me to clearly see You and me and respond accordingly, as You designed. Thanks for always giving me second chances. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to forgive my sins and erase my guilt, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say - AMEN!

The Truth
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9