Friday, December 31, 2010

Stepping Stones: Only One Resolution Needed

Transformational Thought

So many of us use New Year’s Eve and Day to make resolutions…to try and “fix” our shortcomings…to focus on our failures. So many resolutions are made…and within a few days or weeks, they are broken. To keep a resolution for a whole month is virtually unheard of in our society.

Remember, the world we live in is fallen and we are part of that brokenness. In this fallen world, all our default settings are tainted by sin. Trying to “fix” yourself, by yourself, is futile. It’s like trying to put all the pieces of a broken mirror back together to get a true reflection. Only one resolution is needed…to develop the Mind of Christ. Growing closer to God, yearning for Him, then glorifying Him with your internal and external functioning.

Developing the Mind of Christ can’t happen without the Holy Spirit. If you aren’t saved, often called born again, (meaning you haven’t received God’s gift of Jesus as your personal Savior to save you from the penalty for your sins), then click here to learn how to be saved to go to heaven for eternity. If you are saved, then learning how to access the power of the Holy Spirit is the way to achieve your resolution and grow the Mind of Christ – be a better person. WITHIN REACH: Disciplines for Real Life Change is our decision-making and growth workshop that covers confession, the armor of God, biblical truths, and a strategy to understand and apply the Holy Spirit’s work in the everyday decisions of life.

To make a resolution is to make a decision with intention and determination…a decision with firmness of mind and purpose. When the Spirit is in you, and you are obeying and following Him, you will be transformed and renewed. The Holy Spirit will give you incredible motivation to follow through with your resolution.

Today, make the only resolution that can truly make a difference in your life. Decide to move closer to God and access the Holy Spirit to transform your mind and life...now and for eternity. Tomorrow, we will look closer at transformation. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, on this New Year’s Eve, I make the only resolution that counts…to move closer to You by achieving the “Mind of Christ.” In New Year’s Eves of the past, I have defaulted to try and problem solve through resolutions, always trying to find out what was wrong…and then trying to “fix” things my way. I come to You, Father, and ask for Your grace and collaboration to set me free from all my hurtful, sinful ways. I will view each moment in this New Year and all the years to come as a fresh opportunity to draw ever closer to You. I pray in the name of the one you sent to transform me and give me new life, Jesus Christ; and all the children of the world said - AMEN!

Truth
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
Ephesians 4:22-24

Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
Psalm 51:10

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Stepping Stones: Go Ahead, Drop Into The Doctor’s Office

Transformational Thought

I woke up feeling very sick the other day…knew I needed to see a doctor. Instead of trying to make an appointment, I decided to just drop by my doctor’s office and try to have the receptionist “fit me in.” Big mistake. You would have thought I committed some federal offense. Regardless of my condition…no appointment, no visit.

Amazingly, you can “drop in” on someone far more important and much busier than your family doctor in the middle of flu season…and you can be 100% confident that He will push all other business aside and focus completely on you. His undivided attention will be yours. Just imagine the Creator of heaven and earth yearning to have a personal relationship with you.

You see, when I was a kid, I believed God loved me. But by the time I experienced more of the world, I believed God was very busy with the Middle East, extreme diseases like cancer, and devastating abuses around the globe. I still knew He loved me, but somewhere deep, I thought my life was too trivial or not extreme enough for Him to allow me to drop into His office. Learning I had 24/7 access was incredibly empowering and freeing for me.

Not only are you able to “drop in”, He has actually been knocking on the door of your heart…all the time. His Holy Spirit is talking to you in your spirit, and God the Father is talking to you in how He orchestrates and works on you through your circumstances. Because of His love for you, He wants to guide and protect you from life’s garbage and heartache. Unfortunately, we don’t listen to the doctor’s orders, and wonder why the disease still impacts and hurts us.

Today, drop in on Him…pray 3 extra times today. Have a conversation, not just a standard prayer you say out of habit. Talk to Him. Then really listen. It takes practice so give it some time. He rejoices every time you “drop in” for a visit. The more you drop in, the better you will hear Him knocking on the door of your heart. But it’s up to you. If you don’t listen to the Great Doctor’s treatment plan, the disease will destroy you. Remember, no matter how busy, THE DOCTOR always has time for you. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, that I can talk with You. I thank you for listening to my words, thoughts, and fears. I thank You, Father, for receiving even the longings in my heart, which at times I cannot put into words. Help me develop ears that hear and eyes that see the treatment plan You have prescribed for me. Give me the courage to turn from my treatment plan that leads to destruction and follow Yours, which brings peace and fulfillment. I pray in the name of the one who will always see me without an appointment, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Evening and morning and at noon I will pray, and cry aloud, and He shall hear my voice.
Psalm 55:17

A woman from Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, "Give me a drink." The Samaritan woman said to him, "How is it that you, a Jew, ask for a drink from me, a woman of Samaria?" (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.) Jesus answered her, "If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, 'Give me a drink,' you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water." The woman said to him, "Sir, you have nothing to draw water with, and the well is deep. Where do you get that living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob? He gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did his sons and his livestock." Jesus said to her, "Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life." The woman said to him, "Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water."
John 4:7-15

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Stepping Stones: Go For Third

Transformational Thought

Being a big sports fan as a kid, reading was not a favorite pastime. But when Gale Sayers, a famous football player, wrote I Am Third…I couldn’t wait to read it. But I was disappointed and surprised…it had hardly any football, but it was incredibly attention grabbing. Brian’s Song, the film made from the book, was the first movie that moved me to tears. Dr James Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family, often writes about the “I am Third” approach to life as well: God first, others second, myself third.

We live in a world where the “I Am Third” approach to life is in total misalignment with the flood of messages we hear on TV: “Have it your way”…“Because I’m worth it”…”You deserve a break today”…“I need it”…”Me first”…”My way or the highway”…”It’s all about you”. In fact, the “Me Generation” describes anyone born in the 70’s-90’s.

The messages are endless. We are bombarded from every direction, and especially from inside ourselves. Our flesh constantly cries out “ME FIRST!,” from the time we are babes crying for milk, to this morning when we whined in traffic. We want our agenda and needs met NOW! In today’s Scripture, Jesus clearly tells us what our first obligation is…to follow Him. And to do so we must deny ourselves.

Satan gets us to believe we will suffer when we follow Jesus. But I know from my past that my suffering was the worst when I followed me. Insecurity, anxiety, neediness, impulsivity, procrastination, irritability, shortsightedness, rejection…the list of sufferings was endless. When we follow Christ, the fruit of the Spirit is our reward, and all suffering fades away.

Today, take note of how many times you make yourself first instead third. Try to put into practice the concept of God first, others second, you third. You will find much more satisfaction living this way instead of pushing from your natural instincts, or what you see and hear on television. Your decision, so choose well.

Prayer
O Father, I hear You inviting me to follow You and live a life of self-denial. I want to make You the Lord of my life. I pray, Father, that You will fill me with Your Holy Spirit to help me live in obedience to You and in loving service to others. I pray in the name of the one who denied Himself for me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Then Jesus told his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father, and then he will repay each person according to what he has done. "
Matthew 16:24-27

And Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, "You lack one thing: go, sell all that you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me."
Mark 10:21

One's pride will bring him low, but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor.
Proverbs 29:23

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Stepping Stones: What Do You Anchor to in a Storm?

Transformational Thought

Have you ever noticed this natural human phenomenon? The more behind we are, the faster we tend to go. When we get lost, we start driving faster. When we don’t know what we are talking about, we begin to talk faster and louder. My mother taught little sayings to register her lessons in her children’s minds. One of her favorite sayings, “The faster I go…the behinder I get.”

During severe storms, sometimes the best action we can take is to drop anchor. An anchor wedges itself deep into the rocks and sand and protects the vessel and crew from being set dangerously adrift…and possibly crashing into the rocks. In our personal storms and most stressful moments, we need to be anchored securely…not in wishes and hopes…but securely in God’s promises.

Satan wants us to run quickly and blindly toward false, hollow deathtraps masquerading as truth and refuge from the frequent storms that come our way. God’s promises, character, instruction, and Word anchor us to Him and equip us to be steady in every storm. We can be victorious in any challenge Satan brings and God allows (yes, He does allow every trial) in life to grow the mind of Christ in us.

Our problem is the ‘My kingdom come, my will be done’ mentality that says we should anchor to ourselves or to the world’s system that immediately gives me what I want. We often think we have more power than we really do. We think we know all the answers. Or we see something pretty and shiny that we want, believing it is the answer. So, we chase Starbuck’s, the latest self-help fad, nutritional supplements, more money or even education. The only place to drop anchor in a storm is in Him.

Today, take comfort in knowing that you have a secure place to drop anchor when storms threaten. When you are faced with uncertainty, a storm, or discomfort…just STOP and THINK. What does God promise or say in these kinds of situations? We may not know what the future holds for us – but we can rest in the knowledge that we are the safest when anchored to God.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for being the God of all hope. You know the desires and secret fears of my heart…You know I am in the midst of a terrible storm. I thank You, Father, for all Your promises and Your steadfastness during my storms. Thank You for being my refuge, my rock, my anchor. Today I cast all my hopes and dreams onto You for safekeeping because I trust You. I pray in the name of the one You sent to be my anchor, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.
Hebrews 6:19

In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name.
Psalm 33:21

Monday, December 27, 2010

Stepping Stones: This is for me?

Transformational Thought

Each year on Christmas Eve Day, I have a tradition of delivering a small gift to the people who provide a service to me throughout the year. The postman, butcher, coffee-shop owner, etc. I’ve been doing it for years. The gifts are always received with such happiness and delight.

This year, as I was walking toward the coffee shop to deliver a bottle of wine, I stopped into a local oriental rug store to pick up a rug I had ordered the week before. The owner of the store greeted me when I walked in. He’s been in that same location for 25 years now. He’s a wheeler-dealer, an all-business kind of guy…he rarely smiles. He and I had a fairly intense negotiation session over the rug I purchased the previous week.

As I reached to shake his hand he noticed the gift-wrapped bottle of wine I was carrying (the coffee-shop owner’s gift, remember). Mistakenly assuming the gift was for him, he reached for it with his other hand and said, “This is for me?,” and then began thanking me profusely. His face lit up, almost in shock, and he started searching for something to give me in return. He also sells imported tea in his shop…so he grabbed a box containing a selection of exotic teas and gave it to me with pride and joy.

I was struck by how a simple act of (unintended) kindness brought such happiness to this man. For a few minutes that gift transformed this man’s life. We talked a bit more and then I left with my rug; the smile remained on his face the entire time. Based on his reaction it’s fair to say this man was in desperate need of some attention and kindness.

We all are beaten down by this world at times. It’s hard to notice how God wants to work through us to touch others and address their needs. Sometimes God is reaching out to us. But if our head is down in self-pity, frustration, or resignation we won’t see who God brought into our life and is speaking through.

Today, think of one or two people whose lives you might change even for a few minutes by delivering some unexpected kindness. There are so many people around us who live in quiet desperation. I doubt you will have to look far…maybe one of those people lives in your own h ome. Be a Lighthouse and shine God’s love on others. If you are struggling, look up and pay attention. God is reaching out to you, but to receive His grace and comfort you have to be looking for them. Look for the Lighthouse He puts in your life.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for leading me to this man who was in need of some kindness. I confess Lord that I am much too focused on myself…on my issues and needs. I pray that You fill me with Your Holy Spirit, and guide me to those in need of love and attention. Let them need see Your radiant light shining through me and onto them. I pray in the name of the one You sent to transform me though forgiveness and love, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these."
Mark 12:30-31

"You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people's feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden."
Matthew 5:13,14

Sunday, December 26, 2010

Stepping Stones: Called Alongside to Help

Transformational Thought

While the Christmas holidays are a time of joy and excitement for some, it’s also the most painful and lonely time of year for others. Missing a loved one, stressing about the lack of enough money for gifts, not getting the gifts we expect, being estranged from someone we love…so many factors have the potential to bring us down. These struggles are amplified just after Christmas, when Christmas expectations go unmet and the foreboding empty days of winter lie ahead. Many people really suffer.

This time of year is when encouraging others can an impact more powerful than you could ever imagine. The Greek translation of the word encouragement is “parakletos”, which means “called alongside to help.” Encouragement can be offering an uplifting word, but it can also be so much more than that, such as an opportunity to come alongside and help.

Showing someone they have value and dignity, and offering respect as you take action…doing something for them…this has an amazing influence on others’ thoughts and feelings. Show them they matter to you and to God by putting aside your needs in favor of theirs. The idea of being created in God’s image and having value, so much so that God sacrificed His Son for them, needs to be brought tangibly to them. You are the vehicle God will use to get them this life-saving, actually, life-transforming message.

Today, think of someone who needs you “alongside” them to help. Your spouse, parent, child, neighbor, work colleague, or friend. When you stand alongside and offer help, you become a powerful vessel through which God supplies courage, hope and happiness. You have the Holy Spirit in you and will directly bring Him to them. What better gift do you have to give than this? God will even bring people to you. So be alert and step up to the plate.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for sending Jesus to encourage me. I thank You for Your Holy Word that offers encouragement each time I open the Bible. I thank You for making it possible for me to encourage others. I pray, Lord, that You help me become an expert in this area. I pray in the name of the one You sent to encourage me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
But encourage one another daily, while it is called “Today,” lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.
Hebrews 3:13

The report of this came to the ears of the church in Jerusalem, and they sent Barnabas to Antioch. When he came and saw the grace of God, he was glad, and he exhorted them all to remain faithful to the Lord with steadfast purpose, for he was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and of faith. And a great many people were added to the Lord.
Acts 11:22-24

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Stepping Stones: Where Will You Put Christmas Tomorrow?

Transformational Thought

MERRY CHRISTMAS! Our hope and prayer from Lighthouse Network to you is for a year spent growing closer to God, maturing in your Christian walk (not just knowledge), and further developing the mind of Christ.

Today is a day of great celebration, remembering the greatest gift ever given to us. Many went to church yesterday or will go today. We will celebrate today with those we love, exchanging gifts as symbols of our love, laughing and hugging, and adding another chapter of Christmas memories. But to be honest with you, part of me gets angry about Christmas Day.

You see, we are truly blessed that Christmas is everyday, especially for us Christians. All 365 days a year, Christ’s and God’s grace is abundantly given to us in extraordinary portions. Every day is Christmas! Satan has put out a lie that no other days are special, that they are just ordinary at best, and often, are even terrible days. Unfortunately, we fall into the trap of believing those lies. So we celebrate Christmas just one day a year, I believe, allowing people to enjoy it for only one day. Then we carve it out of our life as we pack it back in the attic with the ornaments, lights, wreaths, wrapping paper, nativity set, tablecloth and placemats until December 25th comes around again.

Today, make a commitment to yourself and God not to put Christmas away in the attic of your heart…but to keep it in the kitchen of your heart… accessible daily with the rest of your staples for surviving and living. Each day will have new meaning. Your lenses will be more God-centered and the goal of the mind of Christ will be on your doorstep. Your decision, choose well.
MERRY CHRISTMAS

Prayer
Dear Father God, Christmas is beautiful and I am overwhelmed with Your love, gift, and death for me. Actually for me, a sinner like me. It is still so unbelievable that the King of Kings and Lord of Lords would actually die for me. I regret that I put Christmas away in the attic sometimes instead of living out of and in that joy daily. Help me see Your gift and presence daily, and to allow me to shine like a Lighthouse bringing Christmas to all those I contact, daily. I pray in the name of the star of Christmas, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
Lamentations 3:21-23

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
John 10:10

Consequently, he is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them.
Hebrews 7:25

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

The LORD bless you and keep you;
the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you;
the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.
Numbers 6:24-26

Friday, December 24, 2010

Stepping Stones: Proof: Jesus Will Hold Your Life Together!

Transformational Thought

One of our Stepping Stones readers sent this video link to me. It is so awesome…so powerful, it brought tears to my eyes. I know you will love it, especially during Christmas when stress, loss, illness, hurt, depression, addictions, rejection, or abandonment get magnified. I know many who will be experiencing their first Christmas without their spouse, parent, child, sibling, or best friend. Know that Jesus will keep you from falling apart, now and forever.

This clip is 8 min and once you see it, you will be inspired to pass it on to your struggling friends.
Click here now (it is safe). Here is the link also http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_e4zgJXPpI4

Today, stop and realize how Jesus and the cross, physically, psychologically, and spiritually hold you together. Also, pass it to someone who needs this reminder, proof of Jesus’ intimate involvement in their life. Tomorrow, be especially thankful for our spiritual laminin.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for sending Jesus to hold me together, everyday, forever. Some days, it feels like I will fall apart…but now You give me more evidence that You are always there, intimately in my life, pulling me together. I will wake up tomorrow in joyous celebration of Jesus’ birth. Thank You, Jesus, for dying to be my spiritual glue. I pray in the name of our spiritual laminin, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy, giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins. He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities--all things were created through him and for him. And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.
Colossians 1:11-17

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Stepping Stones: Shopping…For What?

Transformational Tip

Well, Christmas is just a couple days away. How are you doing with your shopping list? Shopping isn’t my thing, never was, never will be. Since I don’t like shopping, I procrastinate up to the last second. You guessed it…I’ve become an incredibly efficient Christmas Eve shopper. It really is a lot of fun as people are in better moods, excitement is in the air, less than 24 hours till the magic of Christmas, and a party atmosphere everywhere you go. Try it next year, or at least save some of your list for the Christmas Eve.

But you see, shopping is about finding something to fill a need for someone. To me, shopping is for not a just a want, but a need. As a psychiatrist, when I think about “shopping” for something to help fill someone’s need, the items can’t be found in any store. Value, purpose, connection, identity, security, consistency, meaning, competence, ability, and love aren’t for sale. Watching all the commercials or ads in the paper you would swear these precious needs are in every store and even on sale, but they’re not.

The most important gift, the foundation to all the gifts I listed above, is a relationship with our almighty Creator and Father, our God. These precious needs are what we all desire and need…what we are all yearning for. We wish they could be easily bought and given to us in a pretty package, but they came in a manger and they are FREE.

This is the true and amazing story of Christmas. God gave us the most loving and unbelievable gift of all time to meet all our needs completely. It cost Him and Jesus a lot…but it is truly free to us. Really, it is the grandest gift ever given. That is what we are blessed to celebrate on Christmas Day.

Today, think how you will receive God’s gift each day to affect the issues you struggle with…to address and meet all your real needs. God has given you what you need. Learn how to use it. WITHIN REACH can help you apply God’s gift to your areas of need. Also, consider how you can give this gift to your loved ones who need it. It’s more valuable than anything you can buy, make, or give from this world. Don’t be shy about sharing. You might cheat someone from receiving the greatest gift ever given.

Prayer
Dear Father God, You are so amazing and awesome. Thanks so much for loving me and caring about my well-being. Not only do You care for me, You even sacrificed Your only Son, sent Him to die for me…not because I did great things for You, but because I am a wretched sinner. I am so happy You are the perfect shopper and got me the perfect gift. I pray in the name of the one You sent to forgive me, save me, heal me - Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.
John 3:16,17

What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?
Romans 8:31,32

Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the LORD of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.
Malachi 3:10

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Stepping Stones: What is Your Instrument Panel?

Transformational Thought

During a recent transatlantic flight I had the experience of flying through a violent storm. It lasted about an hour. The pilot told us passengers the storm was so large that there was no way to go around it. We would need to continue to fly through it. He encouraged us to hang in there and assured us we were in no danger.

I had a chance to talk with the pilot after we landed. I asked him if he felt flying through the storm was dangerous. He said, “No, but as any pilot will tell you, the danger comes in giving in to the temptation to fly by your instincts instead of using the instrument panel.” He went on to explain how easy it is to become disoriented if you rely on instincts - thinking the plane is going up when it’s actually going down. Thankfully, the instrument panel is set to magnetic north and can be trusted every time, no matter how bad the conditions might be. He said that letting the instruments guide you…even when it feels wrong…ensures safety in the storm.

We all face storms that not just threaten, but actually confuse and disorient us. Experiencing an ominous call from the doctor’s office, the betrayal of a loved one or friend, a financial setback, an unexpected obstacle in your day, or a shattered dream is a time to be especially careful. When you are blinded by life’s disappointments, don’t trust your instincts. Flying by the seat of your pants during life’s storms can lead to despair, confusion, and vengeful responses that make matters worse…and this is exactly where Satan wants you to be. God wants to guide you, and His Word is packed with wisdom and insights for living. You have to trust in something to guide you. So, what is your instrument panel? Go to your Bible and trust God. Trust His promises and character. Let His instructions guide you through the storms of life.

In today’s storms, make the decision to use God as your instrument panel. If you are experiencing a conflict, examine what you are leaning on to guide and interpret the situation. Then compare it to the power and track record of God and His word. You definitely want to follow where His instrument panel guides you. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I seem to spend most of my life in storms…worse yet, I get disoriented easily. I turn now to You God, to help me know what is up and what is down. You are my instrument panel and my lighthouse…teach me how to develop antennae for Your signals, and how to follow Your tracking signal. I pray in the name of the ultimate instrument panel, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.
Psalm 32:8

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.
Psalm 119:105

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Stepping Stones: Put God on Speed Dial…The World on Hold

Transformational Thought

I remember some time ago actually making the decision to put God on hold until I took care of some other things. I knew I needed to “get right with God”…it seemed like such a big task that needed lots of time. But I wanted to do it right, not just rush through it, so I just couldn’t get to it right away I had too many items on my “To Do” list that I thought were more urgent.

Because of my incredible shortsightedness, I didn’t realize how much I needed Him in order to really understand how to accomplish those “to do’s” with joy and efficiency. Furthermore, I didn’t see that I risked further damage to myself and those around me as I ventured into life trying to do it alone. How much more vulnerable I was…how truly naked and defenseless I was.
Most of us live among people who glorify busyness…who have made time a tyrant that controls their life. Even those who know Jesus as their savior seem to continue to march to the tempo of the world, putting God on hold…putting Him in the background instead of the foreground of their lives.

The real distortion is our belief that we can conquer life on our own…that we are the king of our kingdom and don’t need to humble ourselves to any other authority. We believe we can generate all the power we need to overcome the struggles of this world. It’s easy to see how blatantly wrong these beliefs are. But when you break down some of your decisions you will be amazed to see how these beliefs insidiously creep in and determine your responses to what life brings your way.

Today, instead of making the choice (yes, it is always your decision and choice) to put God on hold, put the world on hold for just a few minutes. Spend some time with God. Have a conversation with Him. Bring Him your greatest concerns. Read a few pages of scripture. Pray prayers of simple thanksgiving. Dig into a couple of wrong decisions and be honest. See if some of the distortions above are part of your lenses.

You will be amazed at how this daily practice will change your life. It will allow you to develop the Mind of Christ and develop you in the greatest spiritual discipline: Decision-making.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I believe that you are calling me to follow you along a solitary path. I want to make time alone with You, Lord, my highest priority so I can get the directions for this journey, stepping stone by stepping stone…for I know it will be my deepest possible joy. Please give me eyes that see Your truth about what is really important in this world, and what is merely distraction from growing in YOU. I pray in the name of Your Son who put everything on hold to serve You, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me.
Song of Solomon 2:13

And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, "Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me." But the Lord answered her, "Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her."
Luke 10:39-42

Monday, December 20, 2010

Stepping Stones: Think Twice – Speak Once

Transformational Thought

My father was a talented carpenter and I’m thankful for the woodworking skills he passed down to me. One day he was helping me cut a beautiful 100 year old oak beam to make a mantel for my fireplace. I measured the wood and got ready to make the cut.

Just by watching me, he knew that I was about to cut the beam in the wrong place. He stopped me and said, “Once you cut the wood you can never take the cut back, so always make sure you’re cutting in the right spot.” I realized he was warning me that I was about to cut in the wrong place. I measured again and dad was right. The first measurement was wrong.

My Dad had a way of wrapping up short truthful statements with wisdom and advice…Dad had his own proverbs. When it came to making sure you cut the wood in the right place his proverb was, “measure twice-cut once.” I have found many applications for this particular proverb throughout my life.

Dad’s lesson applies to how we talk with each other…especially those we love. How many times have you said something hurtful that you wish you hadn’t said? How many times do you even think about what you say before you say it? Once something is said the words can never be taken back. Yes, we can apologize, but taking words back is like un-ringing a bell…you just can’t do it.

We all have trouble reacting before we think, especially when we feel hurt, sad, anxious, and rejected, or have other uncomfortable emotions we are trying to defend against or relieve. The ability to tolerate discomfort and identify a better way to respond or react to a situation is not naturally built into us. Nor is it how society teaches us to handle life. Yet these are the Biblical principles James and Solomon exhort us to practice and hone.

We all make comments we regret. We wish we could just rewind the tape…have a do-over. Today, develop the discipline of decision-making, where thinking is a vital component. Try to “think twice and speak once.” A few moments invested in thought will save many moments of guilt, shame, and hustling to remedy the damage. Also, try to identify the needs, fears, or emotions that push you to speak before you get a chance to think. This is actually a great spiritual exercise in heart examination.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I confess, Father, that I have been guilty of using wrong, harsh words with others. I have misused the gift You have given me of a quick mind. I pray, Lord, that You will fill me with your Holy Spirit…and that I give Your Spirit time to respond as I speak and write. Help me be quick to listen, disciplined to think, and slow to speak…and let me see Your message in everything. I pray in the name of the one You sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
Colossians 4:6

…be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
James 1:19

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Stepping Stones: Just Say No! – But Why?

Transformational Thought

Yesterday’s devotional discussed what happens when someone approaches us and wants something. They have a request…even a reasonable opportunity for us to be helpful. Instead of saying “yes” to avoid a conflict or the uneasiness of their disappointment, we sometimes need to say “no” for the right reason. One of the major obstacles we have to saying “no” rests in a major distortion embedded in our psyche. Drum roll. Saying yes = the loving response; saying no = the mean response.

Someone asks for something, humbly admits they need our help. Agreeing with them by saying “yes”…being like-minded…avoiding conflict are all considered to be the nice response. Answering in a way that allows the requester to leave feeling “good” is what most would stamp as the loving response. As a kid, we never picture the loving mom as the one saying “no”. We always picture the loving mom as affirming, positive, nurturing, with lots of “yeses” to requests for more attention, hugs, kisses, toys, food, or one more story.

NEWS FLASH: saying “yes” is not always a loving response. Example: Say your 12 y.o. convinces you he has great driving skills, is responsible, awesome with bumper cars and go-carts, and now wants the keys to the car to go hang out with his friends. Your loving response, regardless of how hurt, angry, sad, or belittled he feels, needs to be “NO.” Same if my 9 y.o. wants to stay up ‘til midnight on a school night. My incredibly loving response is “NO.”

We know kids make dysfunctional, shortsighted, and potentially harmful requests as they seek immediate gratification, unable to foresee long-term consequences. Realizing “no” is in their best interest and is the most loving response (even when they cry) is pretty easy for most parents. The problem comes when adults make requests. We assume adults know what is good for them, have thought it through, and make only healthy responsible requests. We think saying “no” to a healthy, functional adult request would be unloving, or withholding love.

BIGGER NEWS FLASH: Adults don’t always make functional requests. You must have awareness, discernment, and a view of the bigger picture to know whether it is a healthy or dysfunctional request. The cool part…after you put some thought into deciding if it is a healthy request, saying “no” to adults becomes as easy as saying “no” to the 12 y.o. requesting car keys.

So today, start developing the discipline of discerning healthy requests from others. Also, practice saying “no” to requests. Or at least say, “Maybe…let me think about it.” When someone says “no” to you, stop and think whether your request was healthy. Don’t assume you are the perfect one who makes healthy requests all the time. Most importantly, dig and find why you feel pressured to say “yes” or why you are afraid to say “no”.

Prayer
Dear Father God, thank You for being an example to me of answering my requests “yes” at the right time and answering my other requests “no” at the right time. I ask You to continue the work You started in me…to grow the mind of Christ in me, so I can see others’ requests through Your lenses. Give me the courage to say “no” when that is the most loving thing, and not to fear their sad or angry responses, or their hurt feelings or opinions. I pray in the name of the one You sent to teach me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
And a ruler asked him, "Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?"
When Jesus heard this, he said to him, "One thing you still lack. Sell all that you have and distribute to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me." But when he heard these things, he became very sad, for he was extremely rich.
Colossians 18:18,22,23

The devil said to him, "If you are the Son of God, command this stone to become bread." And Jesus answered him, "It is written, 'Man shall not live by bread alone.'"
Luke 4:3,4

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Stepping Stones: Turn the Other Cheek…or NOT?!

Transformational Thought

A couple weeks ago, I was asked to speak on very short notice to a Sunday School class at a neighboring church. Bubbling up in my lungs was the sound of my knee-jerk “yes.” But luckily, before it crossed my lips, I was able to edit it into “Thanks for asking, but I need to look at another date further into the future.”

In the past, it was difficult for me to say “no”. Saying “no” to a request from somebody else rarely makes that person feel good; more often they feel hurt or let down. Our natural tendency is to “go with the flow” or “don’t make waves.” So we become conflict avoiders…some of us a little, but some of us a lot. You see, one of the things that makes us really uncomfortable is when other people feel bad.

As Christians, this usually gets amplified because we are called to be “peacekeepers” or “peacemakers.” Forgiveness is a fundamental concept and action of our faith. Jesus teaches us to turn the other cheek, love our enemies, and give our clothes to a thief. Saying “no” seems like a very un-christian response to someone in need. However, Jesus also said “no” many times…to the Pharisees, to Satan, to the rich young ruler who wanted to follow him but wouldn’t give up his possessions, to the moneychangers in the temple, and to the thief on the cross.

As a psychiatrist and former church elder I have seen many burnt out Christians who seem to think that more is better…who actually believe it is un-Christian to say “no.” Their efforts become scattered and they always seem to be out of steam. But like that Energizer bunny, they just keep on doing.

Today, before you jump into (or continue) “doing” the Christian thing…by blindly saying “yes” and adding more to your plate…spend time with God. Pray that you receive both direction and empowerment consistent with His will. In order to know His will…you gotta spend time in His presence. He has a specific plan and purpose for you. You need to be more purposeful in seeking it with Him and from Him. This is not a job or a task, but rather a beautiful and peaceful privilege. Also, dig and decipher why you say “yes” when you know you should be saying “no”. Why are you afraid to say “no”? Learning this answer and correcting it will bring an amazing freedom to your interactions and life!

Prayer
Dear Father God, I know that You designed a path for my life. I pray, Father, that You reveal this pathway to me…and that You give me the strength and courage to follow it. Empower me, Father, and let me see that I am powered by You. Let me not focus my efforts on simply doing more, let me focus on doing what You want and need of me. Help me today, Lord, to do what is within my ability to further Your Kingdom. I pray in the name of the one You sent to forgive, refresh, and empower me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.
Psalm 16:11

And he said to them, "Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while." For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat.
Mark 6:31

Friday, December 17, 2010

Stepping Stones: Hold The Press!

Transformational Thought

The computer and the world wide web provide phenomenal opportunities. Connecting with long lost friends, childhood bosom buddies, old teammates, family on the other side of the country or ocean, people from church, and friends from mission trips is now incredibly fast, easy, and cheap. So many hearts have been warmed and so much relational, missional, and transformational good has resulted.

But like dynamite, computers and www can be used for tremendous good or… tremendous evil. As a psychiatrist, whether in the ER, in my outpatient office, or running a rehab program, I frequently see and hear how the internet (email, chat rooms, My Space, FaceBook, Classmates, etc) has contributed to hurtful communication, cyberbullying, and infidelity as well as devastating destruction of relationships and families.

Inappropriate communication with the opposite sex via the internet happens easily because of our fast pace. We have no time to calmly and deeply share with our partners on a daily basis. Internet communication also gives us unparalleled confidence to speak freely because there is no real contact with the other person. We can experiment, re-create ourselves, mislead, and avoid dealing with the hard parts of real relationships.

Before you know it, you are writing things you should never write…with a false sense of privacy as you incorrectly assume that what you write will stay a secret between you and the receiver. You have probably heard the advice that you should not type anything anywhere that you wouldn’t want published in your church bulletin…that you shouldn’t say anything to anyone of the opposite sex that you would not want your spouse to hear you say.

Unfortunately, even though internet affairs have exploded in number, other secret, old-fashioned inappropriate communication falls into the same danger zone. Real relationships are great, but they do take time and work. Taking shortcuts will not only cheat you out of the rewards of relationship, but will also lead to painful consequences.

Today, give some thought to your use of the internet and other perceived “secret” forms of communication. Being secretive or sly is a warning bell that these writings or actions should stop. If you have been writing things you should not, then step back and say, “hold the press.” This isn’t just about writing. Cruising the wrong sites on the internet is another danger.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I ask and pray that You fill me with Your Holy Spirit to strengthen me. Teach me, Father, to remain faithful and true to those I love. Let not the fear of being caught be the deterrent. Rather let it be the pain and suffering my indiscretions create for You, for my partner…and my own heart, and brain. Above all, let it be the fear of separation from You, and my spiritual harm that direct me to the right path. I pray in the name of the one You sent to dwell in my heart, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
I pray that out of his glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love.
Ephesians 3:16-17

Praise the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits-who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
Psalm 103:2,5

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Stepping Stones: Appointment’s That Motivate

Transformational Thought

For years I’ve taken a weekly music lesson and at times, it was the highlight of my week. It’s only 30 minutes, and my teacher is very talented, but he’s also kind of grumpy. But I still really enjoy that 30 minutes. I’m notorious for cancelling many different kinds of appointments because of my incessant overbooking, but I rarely cancel my music lesson.

Part of me not canceling my music lesson comes from my love of music, but also I show up because my teacher expects me to. He can tell within 3 minutes if I have kept my commitment to practice that preceding week. In a way, he holds me accountable for what I committed to do and am responsible for. But, the main reason I show up is because my teacher gives me the impression that I have the ability to play my instrument with greater skill than I believe I can. This is incredibly powerful and quite motivating.

What if you could have a daily appointment and go see someone who loves you…someone who accepts you just as you are, while seeing in you far more than you see in yourself? What if this ultimate teacher, coach, or parent could relieve your stress, forgive all your transgressions, and eliminate your guilt, your insecurity, and especially your world-weariness?

If such a place and person did exist, you can be confident that your greatest enemy would not want you going there, would try to talk you out of it, or hide it from you. Well, it exists and God is waiting…for you to come to Him. And your enemy is always trying to get in your way, by getting in your head and steering you away from the perfect teacher.

Today, accept and rejoice that the reality of place and the Person are waiting for you. Allow His love and acceptance as well as His expectation of who He is helping you to become to motivate you. Don’t let anything interfere with your appointments with Him as nothing will give you more that that appointment with Him. Identify one activity you can shorten to go someplace and to someone for all you desires. Find practical ways to begin wearing a path to Him. Make dates with Him and then keep those dates.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I know deep in my heart that spending time with You is the most important and rewarding investment of time I can make…yet, it is also the most difficult part of my daily behavior to master. I pray, Father, that You quiet the evil spirits who work so tirelessly to deceive me with intrusive thoughts and distraction. Help me submit to the Holy Spirit to master my flesh’s impulses and knee-jerk wants. I pray in the name of Your Son and my ultimate teacher, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
Philippians 4:8

O LORD, you have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.
Psalm 139:1-2

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Stepping Stones: Time Embezzles Purpose and Peace

Transformational Thought

I was visiting my father in the intensive care unit a few days before his death. He was hooked up to so many machines; some keeping him alive…others taking measurements. There was one machine that my dad watched most often. After asking him why, he told me that it was the machine that monitors his heartbeat. I asked innocently what would happen if his heart stopped. The answer I expected was “An electrical shock triggers my heart to start beating again,” or “Nurses and doctors come running.” Instead, my dad said, “There’s a little speaker on the back of the machine and it will say ‘good-bye, Paul.’”

While he was just trying to be funny, his comment shocked me. It jolted me into the reality that my dad’s life was almost over…and that before I knew it, a speaker on the back of some machine would be telling me it’s time to say “good-bye” to Dad.

In Psalm 90:12 Moses prayed, “Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” Thinking and knowing that our days are truly numbered should help us keep an eternal perspective, which in turn should help us make decisions and choices ranked by eternal values.

Unfortunately, I am often surprised by the minutiae of this world that I invest so much of my time on. I act as if the hours in a week are endless when I engage in some of these activities. Now, please hear me say, we all need some pursuits that are just in-the-moment, not necessarily of eternal impact, and that refresh and entertain us. But, really look at the proportion of these activities compared to the more important activities for building our relationship with God and each other.

Satan certainly throws many distractions our way and the world system gets us thinking these distractions are more life sustaining and fulfilling than the activities God wants us to pursue. Once in this trap, you might have to chew off a big part of yourself to save your soul. Our identity, purpose, peace, and joy get sucked out of us while we’re trapped.

Today, start keeping a journal or daytimer to document the activities of your day. Put a (+) next to activities that help you engage God or others in a positive way. Put a (–) if they keep you from engaging with God or others. Give some thought about time as an embezzler; coming in at night to steal days, weeks, and even years from you. Try to remember to use each day for your God as if it were your last…for all too soon it will be.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for this day and every day of life You give me. I know that each day is a gift from You. Help me, Lord, to live with eternity always in view. I know sometimes the activities you have in my schedule seem burdensome or tiring to me. But strengthen me to see them as you do and to take part in them. By following Your will, I will be lifted up, and enjoy peace and fulfillment that are indescribable in a devotional. I pray in the name of the one who gave His every minute for mankind and me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.
James 4:14

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Stepping Stones: What Controls Your Attitude?

Transformational Thought

I’d just moved into a new home. After I finally got most of my stuff unpacked and situated, I spent an afternoon breaking down and cutting up all the cardboard boxes, binding them into neat bundles and placing them on the curb for the next day’s trash removal.

A few days later, I returned home from a business trip to find a plastic baggy taped to my garage door. I could see there was a note in the bag and had a feeling that it was a “welcome to the neighborhood note.” Boy was I ever wrong. It was a note with a shipping label that had come off one of the boxes I broke down a few days prior.

The note read, “Please make sure your trash is packaged in a way that doesn’t allow it to blow into your neighbor’s yard. I already have enough garbage in my life, I don’t need yours.” Wow…welcome to the neighborhood indeed! It was clear that I had contributed to making this person’s bad day even worse. I think he or she must have had many bad days, or at least was going through a tough stretch.

I am learning that no matter what you do, you will never stop life’s bad turns. Traffic jams that cause you to miss that important appointment. Not getting that job or promotion. Someone being rude to you. Someone’s trash blowing into your yard. Remember, God is the one who allows all things to happen. We don’t know why, but He does, and He has a plan.

You can live happily each day despite life’s ups and downs, but it can only be done through daily dependence on Jesus Christ and trust in God’s sovereignty and plan. The Apostle Paul tells us that he learned the secret of being content in every situation; that he could do everything through Him that gives me strength.

Today, remember it’s not what happens to you that counts…but how you choose to react to each situation reflects your attitude, your heart, and is the fruit of your life. It just comes down to who’s in control of your attitude. When you feel uncomfortable today, stop and assess your reaction to the day’s events. What kind of lenses are you using, your me-centered ones, or your God-centered ones? Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I invite You to be in me and at work with me. Help me grow, Father, so that I may have the same attitude and mind as Jesus Christ. I know peace doesn’t come from the outside, but comes only from You inside me. Help me look inward for peace and not wait for my circumstances to be settled to be at peace. I do not want to be ruled by the circumstances around me…I want to be ruled and guided by Your Holy Spirit. I pray in the name of the Prince of Peace, Jesus; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
Philippians 2:5

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:12-13

Monday, December 13, 2010

Stepping Stones: He Wasn’t Where He Should Have Been

Transformational Thought

I was driving during the holidays to visit family. With a wife and 3 girls in the car we had to take a bathroom break, upsetting my “set a travel time record” mentality. We took a break at one of the mega rest stops off the turnpike. The place was pretty crowded with holiday travelers, and I ended up sitting at a table just next to a family of 4.

Now that my children are grown or growing up, I truly enjoy the voices of young children. I can still recall clearly my daughters’ childhood voices…it’s a great source of joy for me. One of children at the table next to me was a talker. About 10 years old, she was trying hard to get her father’s attention. “Daddy, when we get home can I…Daddy, what do you want for Christmas…Daddy, Daddy...” As I was listening, I realized I wasn’t hearing any response from the dad, so I looked over and saw that he was looking completely the other way, not hearing a word his daughter was saying. He wasn’t even there…wasn’t where he needed to be. Eventually the little girl stopped trying…but she kept looking up at him with hopeful expectation that he was going to respond. But he never did.

I, of course, have no way of knowing his circumstances or his thoughts. And I know that there were times as a young father that I was just as guilty of not engaging with my girls when they needed me. Oh, how I long for the opportunity to go back and do it differently. I certainly am not judging that father, but it brought to mind how easily the distractions of the day and of the world can take our focus off the attention needed by our children.

Isn’t this the same way we respond to God’s voice and prompting, focusing instead on more trivial and transient distractions? Thinking the guidance of these distractions is more important than God’s guidance? This is exactly where Satan wants you, and when signals warning about danger should start sounding in your heart.

Today and every day, try to really connect with your children or loved ones. After Jesus, these people in your life are the greatest gift God gives. They are also the most important mission field most of us are ever called to. The easiest way to start showing your love, respect, and honor for them is by giving them your full attention when they are talking to you. But more importantly, when God is talking to you, stop and listen!

Prayer
Dear Father God, I know that being faithful parents and guiding our children toward You is very important to You. Help me and all parents truly listen to our children and to make them feel secure and loved…and through us, get to know the security and love You are excited to give them. Give all parents the wisdom and strength for this most important task of parenting. I pray in the name of Your Son, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”
Mark 10:14

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Stepping Stones: “Do you think you will eat all that?”

Transformational Thought

I was recently on a business trip to Miami. Got in the night before my meeting and decided to have dinner at an outdoor café. It was late and I was the only customer there. I ordered what I thought was an appetizer and dinner, but when the food came, it was apparent that I had enough food for two full dinners. The waiter left and I began picking and choosing the best of the two plates.

Just then, a homeless man quickly came to my tableside and asked in a very polite manner; “Do you think you will eat all that?” The restaurant manager came to shoo the man away…but I told him that I had invited the man as my guest. The homeless man (dirty, a bit scary, and a little drunk) took off his hat, brushed back his hair and took the seat across from me with the pride and excitement of being invited to join a royal feast.

We had a great meal together. I actually had to talk him into coffee and dessert. During dinner, he confessed that alcoholism was the reason he was homeless and gave me an open invitation to ask any questions I’d like. He was a gentle, smart man. It was one of the most interesting conversations I have ever had.

When the meal came to an end, I asked Bill, “If I give you $20, can you promise me that you will use it for food?” After giving the offer some thought, he said that he could not make that commitment to me…and that he didn’t want to lie to me…and said he would most likely use it for whiskey. After a few minutes of silence he said; “I’ll make you a deal, I’ll use half for food and half for booze” and then stuck out his hand to shake on the deal.

As he got up to leave he asked, “Do you think God sent you to me?” His question almost blew my off my chair. Even now, I really don’t know who God sent to whom.

Today, instead of judging others and exalting yourself, try to help someone in some way. Remember, we are most like Christ when showing compassion and generosity to someone less fortunate. Before you think that you are the great helper for someone else, ask first, “Did God bring them into my life to help me or show me something I need to know or learn?”

Prayer
Dear Father God, I come to You with an open heart…I invite You into my life in an ever-increasing way. I pray, Father, that Your over-generous love will flow through me each day and touch those around me. I ask that You show me how to serve others, help others, and to give to others without expecting anything in return. I know, Lord, that there is no way I can out-give You, for You have already given me so much. I pray in the name of my teacher and Your Son, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'
Matthew 25:40

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Stepping Stones: Don’t Think You Need A Counselor?

Transformational Thought

The other day I got into an argument with my wife. As usual, it was a pretty trivial spark that started a much bigger fire. If someone had run that same situation by me in the morning, I would have easily described the ideal solution to manage the situation. My theoretical solution would have been beneficial to my wife and me, and honored God. But in the moment, I was governed by my insecurities, and blew it.

We all have so many unanswered questions about ourselves. Am I really a good person? Am I truly lovable? Why do I do the things I do? Why do I feel the way I feel? Why do I make the same mistakes as I used to? While we struggle to answer these questions for and by ourselves, it’s difficult to get to the core answers without a true counselor.

The combination of our arrogance and pride—I don’t need any therapy, thank you very much—and the fact that it’s become a profession with a stigma attached—mental illness, Freud, Prozac and all that—has kept most of us from realizing that we do need counseling. All of us. As Christians, thankfully, we have the best counselor living right inside us.

The Bible tells us Jesus sends us his Spirit as Counselor…that ought to make it clear. And apparently, we need quite a lot of counsel—the Spirit isn’t just stopping in to give us a tune-up; not even an annual checkup. He has come to stay and give us a complete makeover…from the inside out. Now we just need to figure out how to “hear” His counsel and quit sabotaging His efforts in our lives.

Today, confess your sins, then talk to God about a struggle in your life. Open His word…read the Christmas and Easter story…then listen for His counsel. If you have trouble following the counsel, or continue to sabotage His efforts, consider getting someone to help show you how to listen and follow His counsel. WITHIN REACH is a great resource we developed for this specific purpose: to help you hear God and follow His direction; to be a Godly decision-maker in all you do. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for sending to me the ultimate Counselor, Your Holy Spirit. Help me recognize the daily need for guiding advice and for the Spirit of truth…help me listen and heed Your advice. Help me gain wisdom and courage to follow Your guidance, and humility to set aside my agenda. Thy kingdom, not my kingdom come. I pray in the name of the one who asked You to send another Counselor, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever—the Spirit of truth”
John 14:16–17

For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account. Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession.
Hebrews 4:12-14

Because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the LORD, would have none of my counsel and despised all my reproof, therefore they shall eat the fruit of their way, and have their fill of their own devices. For the simple are killed by their turning away, and the complacency of fools destroys them; but whoever listens to me will dwell secure and will be at ease, without dread of disaster."
Proverbs 1:29-33

Friday, December 10, 2010

Stepping Stones: Don’t Leave At Intermission!

Transformational Thought

Some children take off sooner and faster than others. I come from a very large family…my siblings were all very different from each other. I particularly recall the trouble my eldest brother had getting off the ground. Poor grades…dropping out of school a number of times…a street fighter…always in some type of significant trouble. My parents tried as best they could to raise him to greater heights, but nothing seemed to work. If the race had ended then, he would have been judged a loser…a failure.

Are you a parent of a low-flying child? Let me pass on a word of encouragement. That brother made a shift in his early twenties and is now, by anyone’s standards, a high-flying success. Husband in a healthy marriage, father of a great family, master’s degree, and business owner. Most importantly, he is a man of deep faith who always finds time to let the Lord’s light shine onto those around him. At 61 years of age, he holds the admiration and praise of all his siblings.

Too often, we put premature finish lines on situations…judging them before all the data is in. God isn’t bound by time, is incredibly patient, is all-powerful, and has a flair for the dramatic, especially with timing. Don’t fall into Satan’s trap of judging yourself, others, circumstances, or especially God, prematurely. You will be disappointed and lose out on many “miracles” of life.

Today, if you feel like a failure, or are disappointed, anxious, sad, or fearful, examine whether you are imposing a premature finish line on a situation. This puts God in a box and closes the curtain on the play at intermission. Realize there is more of the show, game, path, or race left and seek God’s guidance for the next phase. If you follow Him, trust Him, and practice patience, He will reveal a glorious second act in the drama you were ready to leave prematurely. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I pray that all parents reading this devotional receive from You wisdom and patience as they raise their children. Help them to trust Your providence and grace, and to let go of their timelines for their children’s lives. Help us all use Your Son as an example as You patiently waited for His time to come. Father, help them listen to You and obey You in this great calling of being a parent. Then in all areas, help us grow in patience. Help us to see Your big picture, not to prematurely judge the small picture of our life and bail on You and Your plan for us. I pray in the name of the most patient One, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
“My time has not yet come."
John 2:4

Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.
Romans 12:12

Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.
Isaiah 40:30,31

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Stepping Stones: Born Again: Stunted or Growing?

Transformational Thought

If you really want to experience love and life…then you must face the truth about your standing before God. Scripture repeatedly tells us that we are born with a sinful nature. It is this sin problem that keeps us from life…life as intended for us by God. Whether as an individual…or as a couple…unresolved sin will block even our most focused efforts at living. This is because the undeniable outcomes of sin are losing the guidance and power of the Holy Spirit and then becoming enslaved to our very worst impulses.

But thankfully, we have a wonderful alternative. You can reach out today in faith to truly begin living. Reach out today to receive your free gift of new life. Here are the words Jesus used to communicate this good news; “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16)

If you have taken this step already, then you have victory over the sin nature that resides in all of us. It is a little complicated because there are 2 types of victory. The First Victory is the eternal victory over the separation from God, death, and eternal damnation. We will be with God forever. We call this being saved or Born Again. The Second Victory is the victory over the daily impulses, fleshly desires, and sinful ways of this earthly life. This is where Christians have trouble still sinning even though we are a new creation. We didn’t get a brain transplant when we were born again.

Satan, however, is not going down without a fight. He will deceive you into thinking you aren’t victorious over your sinful ways, and will try to tempt, trap, attack and even have you doubt your eternal security. You have the power and resources to be victorious in this life, but you have to trust and use these spiritual resources, the Armor of God.

Today, if you do not already know Jesus Christ in this intimate way, say the prayer below. For every human who invites Jesus into her or his heart…it is the moment when real life begins. If you have already accepted His death to pay the penalty for your sin, and committed your life to Christ, ask yourself what you’re being tricked into trusting instead of God and His promises. That is what keeps you from truly being victorious in this life on earth. WITHIN REACH will help you apply Jesus’ victory to your daily walk. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I admit that I am a sinner and that I need You. Please forgive my sins. There is no way I can live right or have any hope for eternal life on my own. I have been trying to do it all alone and I am tired. I believe that Jesus is Your only Son and that You sent Him to die in my place and set me free from sin. Let my life begin at this very moment. Thank You, Father, for accepting Jesus’ death to pay for my sins. I pray in the name of my personal savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God
Romans 3:23

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:1,2

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Stepping Stones: Love Him 100%…Then Exercise Free Will

Transformational Thought

My mother was a great teacher…a great spiritual leader for her children and all those around her. She would simplify complex concepts for us. When it came to the question of obedience to God vs. our independence and “free-will”, she made the message simple. She would always say “just love God with all you have…then do whatever you want. For if you truly love God, you will do nothing to hurt him.”

As I read today’s scripture I recall my mother’s teachings. Our Lord never insists on obedience. In fact, he stresses relationship. He pursues us across the multiverse, desiring fellowship and union with us even when we are disobedient. He even died for us to provide reconciliation, restoration and relationship, not to make us obedient.

If He wanted to motivate obedience, He would offer heaven only to the obedient, or threaten to send the disobedient to hell, or give you extreme consequences every time you disobey. God does none of these. Instead, He rewards us based on our relationship status, and where we are on the relationship growth curve with Him.

God very clearly stresses what we ought to do, but He never forces us to do it. We find, and He desires, that we will obey Him out of love for Him and the knowledge that what He instructs us to do is actually the best thing for us to do…period. Notice that when Jesus spoke about discipleship, He prefaced it with an "If," clearly telling us we have a choice. When we are in relationship with Him and really love Him, we will obey. If we are truly wise, we will follow His guidance…if we really want comfort, we will trust His direction.

Today, focus on growing your love for God. Focus less on the dos and don’ts and more on simply getting to know God and what he has done for you. You can’t help but love Him and then want to please Him, just as we are motivated to do for any one we love. When you have a choice, ask yourself, “Why am a choosing this option?” Hopefully, you answer, “Because I love God,” not “Because I need to do what is right.” For if you truly love Him, you will be less prone to do anything to hurt Him. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You, Father, for the freedom to choose. I thank You, Father, for the clarity of the messages from Your Son, Jesus. Help me, Father, to grow my love for You…and then let that love guide all my decisions and actions. I pray, Father, that You protect me from all evil influences that may impact my decisions. I pray in the name of my savior, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
"If you love me, you will obey what I command.”
John 14:15

"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.”
Luke 9:23

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Stepping Stones: Let Him Take That Huge Stone Off Your Back

Transformational Thought

Yesterday someone questioned me about the theology in a line from a past devotional, and my first reaction was that I must have made a mistake. Upon further review, I didn’t make a mistake and I processed his possible interpretations about what I wrote and how he read it.

Try as I may though, I find that my brokenness and past sin are sometimes like a huge stone that hangs around my neck. Carrying that stone brings guilt, shame and weakness, and at times, causes me to avoid certain opportunities and experiences. I know and believe I have been forgiven, but I struggle with laying down that stone and walking away from it. Do you have similar experiences?

Our yesterdays hold broken and irreversible experiences for us. It is true that we have lost opportunities that will never return, but God can transform this destructive guilt and anxiety into constructive thought and hope for a transformed and transforming future. We don’t have to hold onto distorted lenses from past wounds and mistakes. But we do have to look back and re-examine them through Godly lenses, letting God into our past so we can have clear lenses to see Him, ourselves, and daily experiences that He brings into our life.

Trusting God’s forgiveness is a big and difficult stretch…for most, myself included, really receiving God’s forgiveness takes time. For me, I had to work up to this huge step of trust by practicing, implementing, and applying trust in much smaller areas of life and in my relationship with God. Then I was able to absorb His forgiveness in the bigger areas of my life. You can, too.

Trusting Him when there is an illness…a flat tire…change of plans…someone else is in charge…a deadline is changed…a random bill comes into your life… protection for your children is needed…feeling unloved or valueless. Like any skill, starting small, practicing, and then stretching it can lead to powerful abilities. Trust is the same way. Trusting in His power of forgiveness is one of the richest skills you can develop. Let the past rest, but let it rest in the sweet embrace of Jesus Christ.

Today, leave the broken, irreversible past in His hands, and step out into the invincible future with Him. Start by trusting Him, His agenda, promises, character, and instruction in 3 situations today. You already do, but acknowledge and identify it is a skill, trusting in God so you can get better at it and use it in tougher times.

Prayer
Dear Mighty and Forgiving God, I can easily become paralyzed with shame, guilt, and fear over my past. I have hurt You…and I know I have hurt others. I am so thankful for Your promise of forgiveness – Thank You, Lord. I ask You, Father, to help me lay down the heavy stone of my past that I have been carrying. Let me remember and be accountable for my past brokenness and sin…but let it not keep me from moving toward You with freedom. I pray in the name of the one whom You sent to lift the burdens of my past, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
But you will not leave in haste or go in flight; for the LORD will go before you, the God of Israel will be your rear guard.
Isaiah 52:12

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9

I will cleanse them from all the guilt of their sin against me, and I will forgive all the guilt of their sin and rebellion against me.
Jeremiah 33:8

Monday, December 6, 2010

Stepping Stones: Christmas Shopping Ideas

Transformational Thought

Well, we are done with Halloween, finished digesting Thanksgiving, and did some frantic Black Friday chauffeuring for my girls. Christmas is right around the corner…so how are you doing with your shopping list? Shopping isn’t my thing, never was, never will be as I am a minimalist in my needs and comfort. Since I don’t like shopping, and hate all the stores, I have evolved into a Christmas Eve shopper…which really is a lot more fun. People are in better moods…excitement in the air…less than 24 hours ‘til Christmas…everything really festive wherever you go. Great sales. Try it this year.

But, you see, shopping, to me, is about finding something to fill a need for someone. To me, shopping is intended not just for a want, but for a need. As a psychiatrist, when I think about “shopping” for something to help someone’s need, the items people need aren’t found in any store. Value…purpose…connection…identity…security…consistency…meaning…competence… love…relationship with our almighty Creator and Father, our God. These precious needs are what we all desire and need…what we are all yearning for. We wish they could be easily bought and given to us.

This is the true and amazing story of Christmas. God gave us the most loving and unbelievable gift of all time to fully meet all our needs. It cost Him and Jesus a lot…but it is truly free to us. Really, it is the grandest gift ever given. This wondrous gift and love is what we are blessed to celebrate on Christmas Day.

Today, as Christmas and shopping start to weigh in on your priority list for the next several weeks, think how you will receive God’s gift, every day, to affect the issues you struggle with…to address and meet your needs. God has given you what you need. Learn how to use it. WITHIN REACH can help you apply God’s gift to your needs. Think about how you can give God’s gift to loved ones who need it. It will be the best present you can ever give them. Think of those you can send this Stepping Stones to and then forward it to them.

Prayer
Dear Father God, You are so amazing and awesome. Thanks so much for loving me and caring about my well-being. Not only do You care for me, You even sacrificed Your only Son, sent Him to die for me…not because I did great things for You, but because I am a wretched sinner. I am so happy You are the perfect shopper and got me the perfect gift. I pray in the name of the one You sent to forgive me, save me, and heal me, the perfect Christmas gift, Jesus Christ Himself; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.
John 3:16,17

What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?
Romans 8:31,32

Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the LORD of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.
Malachi 3:10

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Stepping Stones: Life Abundant: Pain Relief and Healing

Transformational Thought

I cut my finger the other day but didn’t give it the care it needed at the time. Just threw a bandage on it to stop the bleeding. A couple days later, infection set in and the injury got my attention. I went to buy an antibiotic ointment to aid the healing and found a leading brand ointment that had an interesting claim; “Healing and pain relief.” The cut was creating some discomfort for me, so I chose the product that offered more than just healing. I wanted pain relief as well.

Holy Scripture tells us that Christ’s mission was to come to forgive and to save…to provide for us with “eternity.” He came to deliver oh so much more than just our redemption. He brought us eternal freedom, fulfillment, peace and joy.

The prophet Isaiah tells us the Messiah will come to bind up and heal, to release and set free (while we are here on earth). Jesus himself referenced this passage as captured in Luke 4:17. Think about this: Christ came not only to forgive you, but to restore and release you. This is the central passage in the entire bible about Jesus. He fulfilled every prophesy, testifying to the truth and dying for us to bring ultimate healing and shalom to our lives and His relationship with us.

Today, take Jesus Christ at his word…as the healer of all the broken pieces within you who unites them into one whole and healed heart. Think what life would be like if you believed that promise. What stands in the way of believing His promise? What do you believe more strongly than His promise and incredible body of evidence? Why do you believe something else? It’s your decision regarding what you will believe: Jesus’ promises and teachings, or your own theory. Choose well, your life depends on it.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I pray and ask You to release me from all bondage and captivity, as You promised to do. Take all my broken pieces and give me an all-receiving heart…make me whole. I know, Father, that You will not do this at a distance, so I desire to be as close to You as I possibly can be…show me the way to You, my Lord, and Savior. I pray in the name of the one You sent to forgive me, save me, heal me, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon Me, because the LORD has anointed Me to preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound.
Isaiah 61:1

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
John 10:10

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Stepping Stones: Diagnosis: Worry, Cure: Perspective

Transformational Thought

A pretty interesting book was written about ten years ago titled The Knowing-Doing Gap. It highlighted an everyday phenomenon we see around us and in our own lives. The bottom line, in general, we all know what we should and should not do, but there is a huge gap between knowing and actually doing. We shouldn’t smoke…but we do. We shouldn’t overeat…but we do. We shouldn’t worry…but we do.

At Lighthouse Network, we call this our Intellectual Creed vs. our Behavioral Creed. Our Intellectual Creed is what we know we should do, or more exactly, what we know the Bible teaches us to do. Our Behavioral Creed is what we actually do in a given situation. Maturity, growth, and transformation are measured by how much our Behavioral Creed becomes more and more like our Intellectual Creed.

Our Intellectual Creed: we shouldn’t worry, no matter what the adversity because God is sovereign and in control of all things. Our Behavioral Creed: worrying about the opinions of others interferes with work, workouts, parenting, and relationships. For many, trying not to worry is like trying not to think about something; the more we try, the more anxious we become. So, we even begin to worry about worrying. Trying to fight this battle alone gets to be counterproductive.

Perspective…how we view ourselves, God, and the circumstances He allows in our lives…is the key to good decision-making. Will you have God’s perspective or your own? Big difference. Sometimes it is hard to have God’s perspective, but the more time you spend with Him, getting to know Him, the clearer His perspective becomes to you. Stop focusing on worry and put your energy into communicating with God. This strategy will help you achieve freedom from all sorts of negative behavior, including worrying. The idea is simple: replace hurtful, self-defeating tendencies with something wonderfully positive – communicating with your Creator and Savior.

Today, don’t just talk to God…listen to Him as well. He speaks to you through His Holy Word, His Holy Spirit, the circumstances He allows in your life, and through other believers. As you give yourself over more and more to communicating with Him, you will find your worry-time evaporates and the knowing-doing gap closes. Your Behavioral Creed will match your Intellectual Creed. WITHIN REACH will help you develop those Godly lenses and do what you know is right. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I come to You in prayer with a thankful and penitent heart. I confess that I struggle to find the time to communicate with You…yet I seem to always find the time to worry about so many things that are out of my control. I have battled this worry-beast for years and have made little progress. Help me, Father, to focus more on You and less on worrying. Help me both speak and listen to You. I pray in the name of the one whose Intellectual Creed was His Behavioral Creed, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
And which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? If you then are not able to do the least, why are you anxious for the rest?
Luke 12:25-26

Show me Your ways, O LORD; Teach me Your paths. Lead me in Your truth and teach me, For You are the God of my salvation; On You I wait all the day.
Psalm 25:4-5

Friday, December 3, 2010

Stepping Stones: What You Gonna Blame It On Today?

Transformational Thought

I’ve noticed there are so many unhappy people that cross my path every day. They all have a common trait...they are all quick to blame their unhappiness on things that are out of their control: the economy, the government, their circumstances, their boss, their family, their parents, their kids, their spouse, their job, alcohol, food, money, lack of time.

All these outside factors rob us of joy and happiness. But there is a list of objectives and desires that are within our control: a close relationship with God, a clear purpose in life, a commitment to help someone in greater need than ourselves, and maybe, if we really want to get serious and personal, a deeper commitment to our faith.

These are all honorable desires and are all things we as individuals can do something about…without outside human help. No stimulus package or government program will assist here, and tough economic times cannot steal these ideals. These life goals are achieved as we allow God’s Word to rule in our hearts and receive the Spirit’s strength to build up the inner man, resulting in true joy.

In our complicated world, it’s tempting to put the pursuit for what we desire into the hands of others—to expect an outside entity to fulfill our desires. It is true we sometimes need help from others and we cannot live in isolation. But it really is not outside sources that provide true happiness. That must come from within. Only you can decide. You control the switch…will you shine brightly or switch your light off?

Today, remember that blaming your unhappiness on things that are out of your control is an excuse, a very weak attempt to avoid responsibility. Change your lenses, change your life. Ask 2 people who are close to you to give you Godly advice about your area of struggle and consider following it seriously today. The direction is up to you, nobody else steers your ship. Which way will you steer your life? Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, even though I hate when others play the victim card and blame others for their predicament, I confess that I have been guilty of having that “victim mentality.” I have been so quick to blame circumstances beyond my control for my unhappiness. I pray, Father, that You help turn my mind to those things that I do have control over. Help me, Father, to remember that You are the one and only true source of sustainable happiness. I pray in the name of the one source who gave me the freedom to control my happiness, Your greatest gift, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man.
Ephesians 3:16


So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be alert and self-controlled
1 Thessalonians 5:6

Trust in the LORD, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the LORD shall inherit the land.
Psalm 37:3-9

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Stepping Stones: Are You Choking Yourself?

Transformational Thought

A friend recently asked me what I considered to be my most treasured memories. I was at a lost to answer his question on the spot, but the question haunted me over the following few days. Did I not have any treasured memories? That just couldn’t be.

So, I began flipping through the photo album of my mind and heart and a collection of treasured memories came rushing in. I recalled moments when I felt really special…times when I knew I was loved. I also recalled times of adventure and accomplishment…of adversity and challenge…excitement and anticipation…of connection and fulfillment. I then reflected on how long ago those memories were created. And all of a sudden I began yearning for that life…to have moments like those now and often.

The Bible tells us we are meant to live in a world like that—every day. Just as our lungs are made to breathe oxygen, our souls are designed to flourish in an atmosphere rich in love and meaning, security and significance, intimacy and exploration. But most of us don’t live in that world anymore. Far from it.

Though we try to resolve the dilemma by turning to materialism, illicit sex, drugs, food, sports, excessive business, buying, gossiping, caffeine, and many other quick and shallow fixes to fill this desire, it doesn’t work. We never really get what we need to truly flourish. It is the soul’s equivalent of holding our breath or getting choked by some obstruction in our throat. Eventually, we find ourselves gasping for air.

Today, know that your Lord and God is ready to breathe true life into you. Identify one of these quick but shallow fixes in your life. Turn away today from just one thing that is obstructing the windpipe of your soul and causing you to gasp for air…and turn toward Him who is the giver of the life you were meant to live. Your decision, choose well.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I confess, Father, that I have been holding my spiritual breath...sometimes even choking myself with self-imposed impediments to breathing in Your life. I am truly gasping for air. Help me, Lord, to turn away from all things that deprive me of oxygen…that separate me from You. I rejoice in You, Father, I find joy in You, the God of my salvation. I pray in the name of the one who died so I might be free to breathe and to flourish, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.
Genesis 2:7


All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness
2 Timothy 3:16

So I prophesied as he commanded me, and breath entered them; they came to life and stood up on their feet—a vast army.
Ezekiel 37:10

Though the fig tree may not blossom, Nor fruit be on the vines; Though the labor of the olive may fail, And the fields yield no food; Though the flock may be cut off from the fold, And there be no herd in the stalls— Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation. The LORD God is my strength; He will make my feet like deer’s feet, And He will make me walk on my high hills.
Habakkuk 3:17-19

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Stepping Stones: He Wants Us To Travel

Transformational Thought

One of the saddest things I see in real life or on TV is when a small kid just realizes they are lost. You see the joy and excitement on their face as they are exploring, and then the disorientation and disconnection from their parent, guide, guardian sets in. Some keep that distress in, with a hidden hope that their parent is right around the corner; others let loose with a fearful shriek that lets everyone around knows the child is lost. Being lost is a disorienting struggle.

But, you see, as a kid, even though we have a home and parents, we are born lost, spiritually lost…in a terrible place…the state of insecurity, inadequacy, and isolation. We long to be in a different place…a place of peace, love, joy, security, and intimacy. To arrive at our secure destination we need to go on a trip. In today’s scripture reading, God tells us that He goes before us. God’s imagery of “going before” clearly lets us know that He desires us to go on a journey...with Him as our guide and leader…He calls us by our name.

During our journey, unfortunately, we forget to let God guide us. So we make some poor choices regarding important trip elements. The map we use is random; we use the world’s strategy; our destination is me-centered or material focused; we demand to be our own guides. Instead, we need to use the Bible’s teachings as our map and strategy, allow God to be our guide, and choose the mind of Christ as our destination. Our journey is of our mind, heart, and Spirit. The pot of gold at the end of the journey – the fruit of the Spirit through a close relationship with God!

Christian life is a dangerous pilgrimage to the Promised Land…Satan is always lurking. So, we need the power and wisdom of the Holy Spirit…the power and comfort of prayer…and the protection and counter attack of the armor of God.

Today, imagine yourself standing at a crossroad with two paths before you; one is your current path, the other is the journey your Lord is inviting you to take. Through faith in His coming alongside and being the ultimate destination, take an intentional step on the next stepping stone of God’s path. Listen to His guidance and resist Satan’s deception. Your decision, choose well. If you don’t, the fruit of the flesh – anxiety, fear, loneliness, frustration, agitation – is what you will receive.

Prayer
Dear Father God, I thank You for Your gift of going before me. I like to have a map when I travel, to know exactly where I am going…how long it will take me to arrive. When I look at the road ahead that You call me to travel with You, all I see is a bend where the road disappears. Help me, Father, to keep my eyes on You, knowing that You are my map and guide. Help me to encourage others to follow You on this journey. I pray in the name of the One who died so I might be free to travel Your path, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children said - AMEN!

The Truth
I will go before you and make the crooked places straight; I will break in pieces the gates of bronze and cut the bars of iron. I will give you the treasures of darkness and hidden riches of secret places, that you may know that I, the LORD, Who call you by your name, I am the God of Israel.

Isaiah 45:2-3

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.
Psalms 119:105